Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: taxman193 on August 28, 2011, 05:23:24 PM
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Hi everyone.
I have been researching various sites and I think this is the best site I have seen with this particular issue. I have read some of the postings and found them inspirational.
First, I am a professional who has been wearing a hair peice for over 20 years. Let me say that it does look good. I look much younger, I think, then I would without it and most people (outside of my family) do not know that I wear a piece. However, I am sick of it. Just sick of it. Sick of the upkeep, expense, glue and especially sick of limiting my activities such as swimming in the water below my head for a change.
I have been thinking about getting rid of it for a long time now. I just recently got a new one. By the way, I have it professionally "installed" and maintained every 4 weeks. I know many hair pieces do not look natural but I think the ones I have worn over the years do look natural, as natural as a wig can be I guess.
I want the kind of freedom all of you have. I want to wake up in the morning without having to glue the tape and spend 1/2 hour making sure it looks good. I want to be able to just be me and go swimming etc..
Like many of you, I have worries and anxiety about actually doing it. I have a vacation to Vegas coming up this Thursday and I have an appointment with my hairdresser on Wednesday. I am seriously thinking about just shaving it all off on Wednesday. This would give me some time to get use to it and maybe get a tan on the top of my head before that dreaded day of walking into work when I get back.
I guess I am looking for more inspiration and advice. My problem is, I just don't know how I would look without it. I have a great fear that I will suddenly age and that my head may not be symmetrical enough to pull it off. There is no turning back. I can't wear the piece without side hair so if I shave on Wednesday, that's it. I can't put it back on if I don't like it.
I keep looking around at all the bald men I see on the street and think to myself, some look really great and others .. not really. Which would I be?
I think everyone of you can understand. This may seem like a meaningless decision to most but to me, it is life changing and again, there would be no turning back. It just seems that if I am going to do it, now would be the time while I am on vacation to try to tan it and work out the kinks. Otherwise, I might as well wait until I retire in 8 years ( I am 48 now .. will be 55 when I retire from this job).
If I were to do it, should I grow hair on my face ?
From what I see it appears that most good looking bald guys look good because either they have a big bulky body to do along with the bald head or they have a goatee. I am not a fan of a goatee but wouldn't mind wearing a 2 day stubble on my face if it would complement and take away from people looking at my head.
Please .. I know there are other posts here and I am continuing to read them to get the courage I need to just do it but I would like some direct inspiration and advice from anyone who has worn a hair piece and suddenly made the drastic change to being bald.
I am married and my son just graduated from high school. I can deal with my son and my wife is supportive either way. It is more an issue with me. I still want to look good. I think with the piece I am very good looking and often have women approach me. Not that this should change but still .. that is my fear, that I will look much older. And of course, there is the fear of how my coworkers and employees will react.
Don't know what to do.
Let me also add:
After 20 plus years of wearing a piece, I do not have any hair on top. This is part of my concern. It would be very noticeable and a shock to most of my coworkers who never even knew I had thinning hair much less no hair on top. The bald looks seems to work better when you have shadow on top. I think that’s why I am thinking about doing it now before my vacation to Vegas on Wednesday so I can get a tan on top.
Do you think you have to have hair on your face if you are bald?
I really do want to shed the rug but concerned about how I will look. Will it age me to much? Will women stop talking to me?
Also, from what I have read it appears there is some maintenance involved with keeping your head bald including possibly shaving every day to avoid he “shadow” look, conditioning your head and keeping it colored. If so, how does this compare to the maintenance involved with a hair piece? If it’s the same, what is the point?
Has anyone who has worn a hair piece and went bald had second thoughts about it ( be honest) ? Does anyone regret it ? Once I shave the side of my hair, that’s it, can’t go back to wearing a piece which makes this decision so much harder.
Let me clear, I really do want to get rid of it and be free. I just don’t know if I should wait it out 8 more years until I retire from this job ( I am 48 now) or do it now. In many ways, I can’t stand the thought of wearing it for 8 more years and now seems like the right time for me before this vacation when I can tan and get use to it and just because I have had enough of wearing a piece. But it does look good….
Help !
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SERIOUSLY???? REALLY???? YOU COME TO A BALD GUY'S SITE TO ASK IF WE THINK YOU SHOULD DITCH THE RUG???
Ok then if you ARE serious, let me predict the future of this thread, EVERY one of the guy's here WILL tell you to with the rug, and why wait until Wednesday? Is there a full moon that night? GO FOR IT NOW!!!!!
You WILL feel SO much better, more confident, and over all love the sly look. Admit it, how often do you have a conversation with anyone and wonder "Does he/she know I'm wearing a rug?
It's not worth it. Just remove it (or have it removed) shave sly and LOVE IT!!!!!!!
(didn't mean to sound sarcastic or rude, but I LOL'd that you might expect someone to endorse the rug on this site. BTW, POST A PICTURE of you with the piece on, We always ask to see pic's of rug's, and NOBODY posts one but you say it looks good, prove it. :)
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I did come to this site because I read it for awhile and thought everyone had some great comments and thought I could get the courage I needed to actually go through with it.
Yes I am very serious.
Yes, you are right, I often have conversations, esepecially with new people and wonder if they notice my hair or what they are thinking. But I have to be honest and say, most people don't know. That's just the truth.
The reason I am waiting until Wednesday is because I have my usual hair appointment and I go on vacation on Thursday so I would not have to go to work and it would give me 7 days to get use to it and get tan on the top of my head before I have to walk into work with this drastic change.
I will post a picture let me find out how to do that.
If you think I am not serious or some kind of hair person spoke person .. no way. I hate the thing. Have for a long time. I want to get rid of it believe me.
Let me add some more information so you know my thought process.
First, I have read many of your postings and they are great and provide inspiration to me. After reading a couple in particular, I had myself convinced that I need to do this now and it would be great. That freedom that everyone talks about and I want so badly.
In my mind, there are pros and cons. There are obviously a lot of pros which you have all mentioned and I will repeat but first the cons:
Cons:
1) My wife has never seen me without hair. She has never seem me with a receding hair line. From the time I met her I had a full head of hair .. albeit fake hair.
Don’t get me wrong she is extremely supportive and wants me to do what is best for me. However, my wife is gorgeous and turns every man’s had. With hair, we make a good looking couple as many people have told us. She says that no matter what I have a good face and she finds bald men sexy. However, she has never known me without hair and it would be a drastic change. I realize that any women that only cares about a man because of his hair is superficial but there is a realty to it in that no matter what you have to be attracted to your spouse/girlfriend. I simply don’t know if I will still be attractive if I go bald.
2) The fear of reaction from colleagues. I know many of you have written about this and it is not my biggest fear since to be honest, they will get over it and they are not my primary concern in life. It will be a shock but I can get over whatever their reaction is.
3) Instant aging. For many bald men, they actually look younger I think then if they had hair but for most of us, going from a full head of hair to bald will age me. Not that I am that concerned about looking older, maybe it is time I look my age, but still, I will miss the young men and women treating me as if I am in their age range.
4) The unknowns. What if I have a terrible head shape? What if I end up with bumps as many of you commented on? What if that “shadow” of my u-horn shaped receding hair line never goes away? What if …. For me that whole 30 day challenge will never work because once the sides of my hair are shaved, that’s it, I can never go back to wearing a hair piece. What I mean by that is, I can’t just put it back on and go to work. Once I shave, I would never go back. I went through that 20 plus years ago and would never do it again. If I go to work once with a bald head, that’s it. So this is a decision that will affect me forever and there is no trial period. Unlike many of you who just had a increasingly receding hair line, I have a full head of fake hair and the contrast will be drastic to say the least.
Pros
1) Saving on the cost
2) No maintenance !!
3) No more gels, mouse, tape, adhesive etc..
4) I can finally be me !!
5) I can swim without worry that my fake hair goes dead on my head and looks obvious !! I can swim !!!
6) Save time in the morning
7) So many other pros
Obviously he pros outnumber the cons in terms of the number of items but it all comes down to how you weigh those items. Are the cons weighted to heavy to exceed the large list of pros?
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Okay, picture posted but be honest, if you think it looks good and I would not look good bald, please say so. On the other hand, if you think I would look fine bald then let me know since that's why I am hear.. to get the inspiration and courage I need to just get rid of the damn thing. Again, I think anyone who has worn a piece, at least a decent one, agees that going bald is a drastic change. Much harded then someone that shaves from a receeding hair line.
Trust if, If bald was accepted as it is now 20 years ago I would have never gone with a hair piece. I wish I didn't but I have been wearing it for 20 plus years so not that easy to just shed it.
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GIVE YOUR SCALP THE FREEDOM IT DESERVES!!!
DITCH THE RUG!!
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Your scalp will thank you in more ways then you could possibly imagine....
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Go for it. You clearly want to. I wouldn't worry about it aging you and I wouldn't worry about people suddenly noticing that you have no hair on top. Most people are not that observant -- which is the same reason most of them haven't noticed you're wearing a hairpiece. I don't think that every hairpiece is immediately obvious to the entire world -- the really bad ones are, but I'm sure that there's plenty of them that escape our notice every day. I have no doubt that you've managed to fool most of your colleagues, but -- and I mean this with all due respect and with no intention to cause you any offense -- that hairline is too low for a man your age and that alone is enough to cause suspicion. Most people probably aren't observant enough to notice, but there are some out there who are -- and you never know how many people aren't fooled. That's the problem with hairpieces -- the constant worry of wondering if anyone has noticed it isn't real. By going sly, you free yourself from all of that. You're clearly unhappy wearing it and that alone is reason enough to stop, regardless of what anybody else thinks.
You're getting ready to go on vacation. There's no better time to do it. You'll be amazed at how many people will greet the change with complete indifference. Nobody believes that will be the case until they actually experience it.
Good luck and keep us posted on how you make out.
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Thanks Razor X ! I have to say, I have read a few of your posts and you are very encouraging. I still don't if I can do it but your right, I absolutely want to and Wednesday, before the vacation seems like the right time. Your also right, I am sure some people do know and can tell that I wear a hair piece. I am not that naive about it just concerned on what I would like like with no hair.
Thanks
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You can do it. We all have the same concern -- even those of us who never wore a piece. I'd been thinning and receding for a good long time -- very gradually, but I really wasn't sure if it was as obvious to the rest of the world as it was to me. I was worried about shaving because there would probably be no going back because it would take forever to get decent coverage on top again given the state of my thinning hair.
Trust me, it was a huge non-event. Nobody cared except for my parents and they eventually came around. You could not have convinced me that it wouldn't be a big deal to the whole world. But I quickly found out that I'd been worrying for a very long time for no reason at all. From the first pass of the razor, you will experience a huge relief and a feeling of peace that you haven't felt in a very long time. Just take that leap of faith and do it. Sounds like your wife is on board. Nobody else's opinion should really matter.
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Well, of course I think you should go for it. But as for the "nobody knows" I'm not so sure. I had a dentist before Katrina, great dentist, but let me tell you when a dentist is working on your mouth and you open your eyes you get a really at home and personal look at the hair line--and all I could see was a wig! So, it might not be that big of a secret. Another time, getting of a plane, the guy in front of me stood up, and the seat had lifted the back of his "piece". He looked like a duck getting ready to dump a load.
Trust this, you know it isn't real. It's not your own hair and the Lord only knows whose head it grew on or what they did growing it--that would be a very uncomfortable thought for me at least!
Accept it, you're bald as are the greater number of us here at SBG. All of us are happy having accepted our genetics--and some of us don't look that bad, at least we don't have to sneak up on a glass of water for a drink. You've thought about it, scratch the itch. Enjoy the freedom and keep your cash at home!
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I really like the look of a bald guy with a beard. Seems naturally bald guys have thick beards. They look GREAT.
I have not shaved bald yet, but I can say that the extremely short hair is so easy to care for and keep looking good. Bald would be about the same.
Just look at Stanley Tucci. He looks Great bald. You will too.
I have a fellow at work. He has a full head of hair, but it is white. I think that he looks like an OLD man even though he is in his late 30s. On the other hand, I don't think that bald guys necessarily look that much older. Anyone can shave bald or be bald at nearly any age. White hair on the other hand is almost always associated with being old. It should not make you look older. Beside, you won't act older. You'll still be you.
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All great comments and I appreciate it. I will keep looking on this post for comments before my appointment on Wednesday. I have a feeling it will be a split decision at the time she pulls off my rug for service.
Too funny about the dentist. I know that's true because the cleaning lady always gives that surprise look when she cleans my teeth. How can she not know. And I have a dentist apt Wednesday before my hair apt.
So you all agree you need facial hair to make it work?
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I would not say that you NEED facial hair to make it work, but I think it certainly looks very sharp! Of course, I'm a bit partial. I've had my beard since 1980. Would not be without it.
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On a side note, I visited a synagogue this past weekend. The Rabbi complemented me on my beard! (He had one too).
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Also, take a look at the profile pictures of the guys who have responded. They all have some sort of facial hair! At least a mustache.
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1) you don't need facial hair to make it work
2) NONE OF US KNEW what our head shape was before we shaved it
3) take your wife on a nice vacation with the money you save from the system
4) you WILL look good with a shaved head in my opinion.
5) just go for it.
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So you all agree you need facial hair to make it work?
Not necessarily. Everyone is different. Have fun and experiment a little.
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Hello and welcome Taxman. I hope you can find happiness with your decision. Almost everyone on this forum has faced the same decision that you are contemplating. My suggest is to do what you think will make you happy. Yes the pros do outway the cons. The most important advantage that you have is the fact that you have a lovely wife that supports you. The rest of the World does NOT matter. The one advantage that you failed to mention is the fact of having the cool breezes blowing over your now slick scalp. I can't imagine how terribly hot you must be under the rug. This alone would have made me shave years ago.
I wish you luck in your decision.
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My story is like Razor X. Thining/receding top & once I did it, it wasnt't going to come back to the way it was so easy. I've been completely bald for a little over a week & love it. Love the look & the freedom. Everyone has complimented me except my mother.
I truly believe if you are posting here, you are ready & will be more unhappy with yourself if you continue with the rug. Go on and get on with your life. Your face and head shape look good. I do recommend facial hair to help draw attention away from your scalp. Then decide if you want to keep it or not.
It also helps to have a good sense of humor about yourself. If you admit it, & make some jokes on your own, people will accept you and quickly move on.
Good luck with your decision & we're here if you need us.
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Hi and welcome.
I don't have facial hair. My build would best be descibed as 'scrawny'! What will come across to others more than anything else is (a) your self confidence, and (b) being relaxed about your situation. Both those things are just around the corner for you! You'll keep kicking yourself if you don't do it over this break, so in addition to all the stuff you're currently agonising over, you will only be adding that to the list.
Don't work too hard at the tan -- use sunscreen. A sunburnt head draws a whole new kind of attention. It's painful plus you can't shave so there is stubble! Be sensible, the colo(u)r will even out.
The head-shape, ear-size, bump, scar, shadow ..... concerns seem like big issues when you take the plunge, but you soon realise they're not. You are you ... people will embrace that.
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I do have to say, with due respect, that your hair is much too thick and the hairline too low. It is very nice hair to be sure, very expensive no doubt, but I suspect most people are betting it is not real hair.
I have a friend who has the same type of piece as yourself and even a dark colored goatee to go with it. But there are days when he just cant get it right and some of the "units" he wears are worse than others. No doubt eveyone knows it is fake. But he is overweight and will not exercise so this is his way of hanging onto his youth into his 50's- oddly thick hair and only a few grey strands they weave into it to make a bit more real. Have you not seen guys, all generally younger, who shave or buzz their heads where you live ?
My advice is, with respect, spend the money you are spending on whitening your teeth to a youthful white, or get a trainer if you dont already workout and develop a toned body. That makes everyone look younger. AFter the shave no one will have the old you to refer back to so it will be easy to say you had thinning at the top getting pretty bad and you could no longer style it to cover it, so like most guys today you have opted for a shaved head. Keep it shaved smooth with a tan to minimize the shadow and no one will question you on it. You will love it.
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So you all agree you need facial hair to make it work?
You are making it harder for yourself. You keep pondering on how to not make a mistake and how to instantly reach your next perfect look.
I'll tell you what makes it work. Whether YOU enjoy the freedom after it and whether that shows up on your face as a confident "feelin' good" smile. That's all there is. Nothing else. After going bald, you'll have tons of time experimenting with no-beard or 1000 different kinds of beards.
Worried about how others will treat you, if you would still get attention from women? Go ask Bruce Willis if he was worrying about that. Oh, so he's a movie star and he didn't have to? Well exactly. He's not his hair. Neither are you. And that would be said because the truth is that you don't have hair. We can see that you like to be around people and get attention and you actually succeed in it. So for the next 2 days answer the question for yourself... Is your hair what makes you who you are or is your personality?
The reality is that as you actually enjoy your life and meeting people now and you enjoy that people like you... your only worry is.. will they notice that you are actually hiding something and then they will know that part of the confidence was built into the rug. That's what you are always afraid of. The rug does this to you. Trying to hide something makes you vulnerable because you can't hide it always and then the confident image turns into a mask.
You are ready to start living in the freedom. Freedom for your scalp and most importantly freedom for your personality not having to hide that you are actually ashamed of the reality and hiding it. If you would be a bad person, people would leave you after a short time, no matter how handsome and natural hair you would have. Those who find you likable don't find you likable because your hair. If they do... then you probably wanna ditch them and start hanging out with the real friends.
If you're worried of what some people who you know will think or will they mind from now on having to have the bald-and-proud you, just think about this:
Start being yourself without the burden of hiding. Start being free. Start wearing the dome. Those who mind, don't matter. Those who matter, don't mind.
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Pappa Don: So true that at times it does get very hot under this rug and just one more pro of ditching it for good.
Acme: I appreciate your comments. Especially since you are newly sly. Still a little different for you since you went from receding to bald vs my plight, full head of fake hair to bald. I don’t understand your mother. You look great and if anyone should be supportive, it should be your mother. I mentioned to my parents that I was thinking of just shaving my head and they were all for it. Comments like “ I would do it “ from my dad and “ about time.” While they are all for it, they are not the ones that actually have to deal with the change.
Banmuir: I know you are right about the confidence thing. Even my wife said she has always admired my confidence and that’s why she finds bald men sexy because it is perceived as a confident person. I think I have always been a confident person but my dilemma is whether or not that confidence would disappear with the change in look. I know how this sounds. It’s just freegin hair but for me, I have been wearing a rug for over 20 years and when I look in the mirror, it is me. That’s who I have been. I guy with hair .. of course not really my hair but still a that’s what I see. The biggest fear I think I have is how it will change me and the way people see me.
Chgobuzzbald: Your friends story is my story. In the beginning, the “units” I got were so bulky and had way to much hair that the hairline etc.. just didn’t match my age. I think it’s gotten a little better through the years but still your right, every time I get a new “unit” it looks a little different and there is anxiety with every new unit. Your also right in that I have seen many younger men now go bald and I think they look great if they have the right toned body. I whole hardly agree that with the money I save on this stupid rug I could put more into working out and diet. I do work out now and with the exception of maybe a growing beer belly, have managed to stay in shape. But I definitely think that makes a difference. Good advice !
Paragon: I must have read your post at least three times. That’s the kind of advice and encouragement I think I need.
It is now Monday and hard to believe that I only have two days to make a final decision. I really do want that freedom. I can’t tell you exactly why I have so much fear about taking the plunge. I think it has to do with my identity. As I said, after 20 plus years of wearing a hair piece, it has become my identity. Yet, it is unnatural and not really me so why do I continue to hide behind it?
I would love to just shed this thing and never worry about tape, glue, gel, mouse, and what the next unit will look like. Hell, after 20 plus years I have some concern about that that glue does to me. It can’t be healthy? I’m sure it seeps into your skin and blood. Who knows.
I agree that I can experiment a little and facial hair and I will. In fact, even though I am still undecided, my plan is to go to my appointment on Wednesday with a 2 day growth on my face so if I do have it shaved, I can immediately try that look.
I have read some of the past posts of people that went from a hair piece to bald and have truly been inspired. After reading it and the posts above, I think I have my mind made up that I am just going to do it on Wednesday. At least I thought I had my mind made up but then that doubt seeps in again and I am back to .. I am not sure if I can do it.
So, I will keep reading and focusing on the freedom aspect and hopefully will come to a decision today or tomorrow. My wife says that I need to make the decision now to just do it or never bring it up again until I retire in 8 years. I guess I am driving her crazy.
Anyway, thanks again for all the comments. I continue to search this site. I have been looking at the before and after pictures trying to get a vision in my mind on what I would look like.
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Going bald is a very personal choice but it is also a beautiful choice as it is totally and exclusively yours. Think about you, don't think about others and what these will say, it will take people who know you two days to get used to your new look.
I have been shaving my head for a little over a year now and I do not regret it at all, I like my look and even enjoy shaving. It's going to be much more natural than what you have been doing up to now.
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I think you realize you HAVE made up your mind. Your internal struggle is normal and I felt the same thing. Your wife is right. If you don't do it now, never bring it up again to her until you actually do it.
If you decide now is the time, you need to trust all the guys on this site and know it will work out better than you think. My advice is to not treat it like it is the elephant in the room that everyone is ignoring. Go in positive, have a little humor about yourself, and gain the freedom and confidence that this will bring you. Like the others said, people donn't like you for your hair. You have a week on vacation to get used to it before seeing everyone. That's a good amount of time. I gave myself three days which seemed like enough time for me.
Hopefully you will make whatever decision makes you happy in the long run. Remember, you aren't the first and you're not alone. And while this is only a website, it offers real support! I didn't join in until after I did the deed because I had to come to the decision myselft but the support I felt was fantastic and really helped me. Good luck and let us know what happens.
Glenn
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I have to agree with your wife. With the vacation, now's the time. The 30 day rule is't just a "can you get used to it" stuff. It takes 3-5 days for your skin to get used to being exposed, it takes takes ~2 weeks for it to start being more even in color with the rest of your head. The 30 day rule isn't just for getting you used to the look. It's about getting that unexposed, glued, taped, tortured skin free, getting it healthier than ever, that means after a week it'll look much better than after the first shave.
That rug may have become your identity because you had to put money, time and worries in it. It becomes an identity because you try to build an appearance based on it. After shaving, you'll find out that after a few days as others will get used to it, you realize it wasn't your identity. Nothing actually changes, girls change their hairstyles many times. And for guys, Bald IS a hairstyle. And there is a big difference in balding and Bald, you can tell by yourself looking at others. Start feeling the freedom, no more glue, no more heat, just a nice and clean head, feeling fresh all day. Get the hang of it, you'll enjoy it. Put on the same feelin' good smile like on your picture. That makes others see you enjoying it as you proudly wear the Dome. Then you'll discover that for others, your personality was your identity.
I had my first shave on July 31. That means it's actually my 30th day today. So i can tell you about it, not as just memories, but as something i'm actually living through.
Day1: looks kind of awkward in the mirror to me, it's very pale, very sensitive. but... feels sooo unimaginably good after the shave to step out and let the wind tingle it.
Day3: not sensitive anymore, feels amazing to wash it after a good shave, so smooooth and shiny :D (but still pale so a bit awkward)
Day7: now i'm so used to the look in the mirror that it's becoming the new me. Couldn't tan it because unfortunately got lots of pimples after once using baby oil (never again...) after shower.
Day14: Pimples gone, loving the feel, enjoying every single head rub :D It's where it became obvious: this is the new me :D I'm liking it :D
Day30: Should've done this years ago... Proudly wearing the Dome, or as some guys here would say: Sly til' I die O:O
I think the best would be to go for it before the vacation and one you're there, enjoy the swimming and no worries with it, every day, all day long. (Use sunscreen!!!!!!)
It's worth it even for the swimming. Go and try a Spa where they have Sauna as well. Bet you can't do that with the rug ;D Dive in, take a swim, take a Sauna, wipe the sweat off your head and Dive in again. And after that, nothin' beats a nice headrub from your gal' O:O
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Awww go ahead.
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Thanks again guys. The comments above really help. I think I am almost there. Man .. just that thought of being able to go on vacation and jump in the water without worrying about a wig is unbelievable to me. I have owned a boat for 8 years and never once been able to go in the water below my head.
The comments about your experiences really help.
Let me ask you a question. I have read the comments about pimples etc.. If I do go for it on Wednesday, what do you recommend? That is, I know the top of my head will be pale as hell and zero hair after 20 years of wearing this thing. If I shave completely, what should I use on my head to keep it from breaking out ? What kind of oil or conditioner? What kind of razor should I use? How often would I have to shave?
There is no doubt in my mind that if I do it, I definitely need a tan. When I get my service and she takes the rug off, it is way to white to blend in with the rest of my head and face. I thought I would probably be stuck wearing a baseball cap on the plane ride down to Vegas and will just try to gradually expose the head to some sun in the hope that it gets some color.
I hope I have the same feeling and courage in that chair on Wednesday as I do after reading your posts. Seems likes it just time to shed it. Enough. 7 days to worry about the walk into work. I know your right .. it will pass but still as the “boss” I don’t know what kind of reaction to expect although I don’t know that I really care that much. It’s my life, my decision. I can hear the backdoor comments in my head though .. “what happened” , “ I didn’t know he was bald” , “he was so good looking why would he do that “ “he just aged 20 years.” Oh well !!!
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Thanks again guys. The comments above really help. I think I am almost there. Man .. just that thought of being able to go on vacation and jump in the water without worrying about a wig is unbelievable to me. I have owned a boat for 8 years and never once been able to go in the water below my head.
The comments about your experiences really help.
Let me ask you a question. I have read the comments about pimples etc.. If I do go for it on Wednesday, what do you recommend? That is, I know the top of my head will be pale as hell and zero hair after 20 years of wearing this thing. If I shave completely, what should I use on my head to keep it from breaking out ? What kind of oil or conditioner? What kind of razor should I use? How often would I have to shave?
There is no doubt in my mind that if I do it, I definitely need a tan. When I get my service and she takes the rug off, it is way to white to blend in with the rest of my head and face. I thought I would probably be stuck wearing a baseball cap on the plane ride down to Vegas and will just try to gradually expose the head to some sun in the hope that it gets some color.
I hope I have the same feeling and courage in that chair on Wednesday as I do after reading your posts. Seems likes it just time to shed it. Enough. 7 days to worry about the walk into work. I know your right .. it will pass but still as the “boss” I don’t know what kind of reaction to expect although I don’t know that I really care that much. It’s my life, my decision. I can hear the backdoor comments in my head though .. “what happened” , “ I didn’t know he was bald” , “he was so good looking why would he do that “ “he just aged 20 years.” Oh well !!!
For the pimples to break out, i recommend you don't use ANY oils. That's why mine happened... baby oil. The best thing is to shave it and apply after shave balm. If you use alcoholic liquid aftershave for your face, get some aftershave balm, that's absolutely necessary. The second thing you need is some face wash gel. It's better than soap or shower gel because it's designed to clean your face, and the skin on your scalp is like on your face... not like on your legs :)
I currently use this:
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Favonshop.co.uk%2Fshop%2Fassets%2Fimages%2Fprod%2Fprod_1015667.jpg&hash=b2fbf743f9353ebbffa5e2a25f6a9b6db2e4faa0)
Just to give you an idea... but any face wash will do, doesn't have to a for men version.
These 2 things are the main things you absolutely need, other stuff is like the beard... later on you can try out some moisturizing toners or stuff like that.
My personal routine:
Get in the shower, just a little shampoo / face wash (doesn't matter, just clean that head), i'll take the shower.
I lather up while still in the shower That way it's instantly done without having to more time after the shower and avoids getting the whole bathroom full of shaving cream and wet. So I lather up, shave, a little face wash and rinse again, apply after shave balm.
After you get the hang of it, it's just +5min in the shower if you do it every day while in the shower, that way you won't get it growing too much to have to shave for forever...
Be sure to shave after a shower, it softens the hair. The first few shaves i recommend shaving after the shower, not in the shower, in front of a big mirror. I used a second mirror in my hand so I can turn my back and the 2 mirrors can give me sight so I could shave the back. The first time is tricky, feels awkward to coordinate the razor at the back, but after the 5th shave you can do it without a mirror, just by feel. Be sure to take your time the first time and take it slow. You can use the same razor you shave your face with if you use at least a 3 blade razor. If not, get a 3-5 blade razor, it gets you the perfect shave and another thing... as you have 5 blades, the force is spread across the 5 blades and you won't cut yourself.
You should shave at least every other day. If your skin handles it very well you can shave every day. Shaving every day gets it tanned fast as you won't have the shadow... you won't get it tanned if with a shadow :)
It may sound complicated at first but it's not. The first few shaves, take your time, and always shave after shower, hair softened up. Apply after shave balm. Go and wash hour noggin' at least 2 times a day with face wash to keep it clean and fresh, enjoy the freshness as you wash 8)
There is only one thing to be careful with... the sun... use sunscreen!!! believe us, this is the most important thing for exposing that virgin head...
So go on and start the countdown until you feel the fresh and clean head and the freedom 8)
BTW as this is actually my 30th day and i've completed the challenge, i've udated the profile with the picture
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Proud to be in the club, Sly til' I die O:O
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Hey Taxman, you forgot to mention saving some serious $$$ as a Pro when you go sly.
Take the Mrs. out more often with the money saved.
Win, Win!
Go For it!
Schro
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Do not worry about work and the reaction you'll get. As nearly every one of us had found out, it goes just fine and you will be pleasantly surprised with the number of compliments.
When you first shave, you'll probably get bumps until your scalp adjusts to being shaved regularly and you get into a shaving routine. Don't let that stop you because once you get past that stage, you'll have a beautiful, smooth dome.
Don't rush the tan - a sunburn is painful and a peeling head is not the way you want to start the new look. Just take your time and the color will blend.
Read over the forum - we've given plenty of advice on shaving. We've all experimented to find what works best for us and the short answer is there is no single routine that works for all people.
Lastly, your posts sound like a sly guy dying to get out, so just do it. As we have all found, even those of us BBC, onnce you do it, you love it!
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Taxman,
You've gotten some excellent advice from the guys. So many of us have gone through the exact same process that you are, and I was among the most difficult to be convinced. My wife was bugging me to shave it off for 2 years, but after 2 weeks on this site, it was shaved clean.
Just go for it. You will not regret it.
Andrew
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Welcome Taxman: The following is a post that put up several weeks ago. I think it is pertinent to your situation.
I know where you are. I wore a "system" for 23 years from age 20 to 43. I was a slave to it. I know your fear. I was very scared and worried about what everyone would say. I was sure THEY would be shocked when I shaved it clean.
Turns out, I WAS THE ONE WHO WAS SHOCKED.
I was shocked to learn that I had not been fooling anyone with my "system".
I was shocked to learn that most everyone had wanted me to get rid of it for years.
I was shocked to learn that no one cared that I did not have hair.
I was shocked to learn that I felt better about myself once I got rid of the "system."
I was shocked to learn that my self confidence shot straight through the roof.
I was shocked to learn that my hair, or the lack thereof, did not define me.
I was shocked to learn that I was happier without it.
I also had a huge plan of losing the system, getting a tan on vacation, etc. I discussed it with my wife. She was on board. I talked to my kids - age 10 & 14. I had a plan. I was ready. Then my 10 year old said "Dad, why don't you just go Friday to the barber, cut what's left and go to work on Monday." Sounded like a great idea and that is what I did. Even took him with me.
We still laugh about my elaborate plan to go SLY and how a 10 year old was smarter dear ol' dad and had a better plan.
I realize this is a long post but want you guys to know I understand where you are. These guys on here were WONDERFUL help to me. They gave me the same advice they are giving you.
TRUST ME - JUST DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope these thoughts help you. Sounds like your wife is on board. She is a beautiful woman - outwardly as you have told us and inwardly because she sees your struggle and supports you. That is an amazing blessing. She is not gonna leave you because you don't have hair. She loves you because of you - not the high priced system on your head.
Lastly, there is no perfect shaped head. I think my head is perfect (it's really not) because I no longer have a rug to hide it. I also could not go swimming, ride with the sun roof open, get on a roller coaster, take my hat off at a ball game, wanted to sit with my back against the wall anytime I was in public, etc etc etc.
Trust me, I love swimming now, I love riding with the sun roof open, roller coasters still give me motion sickness :*)), I take my hat off at a ballgame and don't give a damn where I sit in public. Actually, I do care where I sit in public - I want to be right in the middle of the action so everyone can admire my big bald head and hear them say "I wish I looked as good as that bald guy over there having a great time!" O0 O0 O0
Sly is more than a look - it is a persona!!!!!!
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Thanks Sooner. Those comments are great and I think if I can convince myself that I would look as good as you without hair .. Im in. The wife does support me which is great. Its my own demons that hold me back but I think it's time. Of course she also says she doesn't want hair on my face yet I can't see doing it without hair on my face so I don't know. One more day to think about it.
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Taxman: I had the hair on my face when I removed the "system" so I just kept it. I have several friends who are clean shaven with no facial hair so don't get hung up on that . Sly works with OR without the facial hair.
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You have the face of a bald guy, you will love the freedom once you do it. I am a mostly BBC guy (shaved it once I noticed the thinning) and was also alittle worried about looks but once I did it I loved it. I was hesitant for the first few days but pretty soon my self confidence was great. I was lazy a few weeks back and went 5 days without shaving and got little man syndrome, I felt like such a sheep even with some stubble, blended in more and such. Facial hair is always fun to mess with. I grow my beard out for a month then shave it down to a goatee then shape it up some more then shave it smooth and grow it out all over again.
My uncle (near 60) looks like he is closer to 40 with no facial hair. My brother who is in his later 30's looks 10 years younger when he is shaved. Sly is an age nutralizer, it makes young guys look alittle older and older guys look alot younger. You wont have a forehead to show any wrinkles, it will all just blend. Bald isnt just a hairstyle, its a life style
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I can't thank everyone enough. This is definately helping. I am heading to the drug store now to buy a razor and some face wash as suggsted and see if I can find some kind of self tanning lotion. I guess I am moving toward that direction and we will see what happens when I get to my appointment on Wednesday. Freedom sounds great right about now.
Some geat advice and encouragement. I think anyone goign through this needs this kind of support. Thanks for having this site. I am sure I will be using it on Wednesday morning before my hair appointment to get that motivation I need to just tell her shave it.
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I don’t understand your mother. You look great and if anyone should be supportive, it should be your mother. I mentioned to my parents that I was thinking of just shaving my head and they were all for it. Comments like “ I would do it “ from my dad and “ about time.” While they are all for it, they are not the ones that actually have to deal with the change.
Mothers are typically the most resistant when it comes to this sort of thing. So if yours is on board, that's a very good sign indeed!
I have read some of the past posts of people that went from a hair piece to bald and have truly been inspired. After reading it and the posts above, I think I have my mind made up that I am just going to do it on Wednesday. At least I thought I had my mind made up but then that doubt seeps in again and I am back to .. I am not sure if I can do it.
You can do it. And take it from someone who chickened out on the first few attempts -- if you don't do it, you'll hate yourself afterwards. It's not the things we do that we regret so much as the things we don't do.
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Well I just spent a $100 buying a head razor, face wash, sensitive shaving cream, a trimmer and a bronz lotion soooooo it seems like I am ready to do it. Before going to the drug store stoped by my parents and they keep telling me to just do it. My mother especially ..something like "if you don't do it your nuts."
I think I have it in my mind that I am going to do it on Wednesday. Work tomorrow and then off on Wednesday so as long as I don't chicken out i the chair when she takes off my rug for servicing .. this could be it. Both exxcited and scared at the same time. Just hope I can go through with it. I want to be rid of it and enjoy my vacation smimming !!
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If you've gone this far, don't chicken out. It's pretty common to have some anxiety about a change, but it seems like the change is what you're looking for. Take it from those of us who've done it, it's a great feeling and you'll wonder why you waited.
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Well I just spent a $100 buying a head razor, face wash, sensitive shaving cream, a trimmer and a bronz lotion soooooo it seems like I am ready to do it. Before going to the drug store stoped by my parents and they keep telling me to just do it. My mother especially ..something like "if you don't do it your nuts."
I can't believe I'm saying this, but listen to your mother!!
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Sounds like you're going to go for it...you won't regret it!
Forgive the dumb question here...is there anything preventing you from removing the unit yourself? Like right now today? Can you just unglue it or snip it off and take care of it yourself or does it require something special?
Either way, the confidence boost you're going to experience is pretty unreal once you've finished the process. Enjoy and take some photos along the way!
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I REALLY wish you could take a hidden camera and post it on YouTube. I remember telling my wife "think about all the money we will save" then spent a ton of money on razors, and the stuff like you did today. It's ok though, besides replacement blades, I haven't spent a dime since.
What razor did you get? what brands of other stuff? I hope you used the advice from others on what we use. Anyway you could video tape the removal?
I always wondered what the process of "the system" was, how much was it, how often do you have to go in? can you get it wet? all that stuff, someone should do a hidden camera sometime.
Good luck, can't wait to see your "after" photo on Wednesday.
DON'T LET THE INITIAL SHOCK change our mind 30 day rule- remember that...
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Razor X ... funny and so true. 48 years later maybe I will finally listen
Rob 6 ....nothing really preventing me from doing it now, today. I could rip it off. It is just glued on. It may hurt a little if I do it but no problem. What holds me back is I have to work tomorrow. If I wait until Wednesday then I have a week on vacation to get use to it before going to work. Besides, my hairdresser .. who is really a friend now after 20 plus years always said if I ever deceide to take it off that I better let her do it so assuming I do it on Wednesday, she will be the one to shave me.
Daven .. Yeah.. that would be funny. Maybe I could tape it on my phone but no way am I putting it on youtube !! You got it with the money... I was thinking that as I was buying all this stuff.. what am I saving ? Of course I realize most of it is a one time purchase and I probably over did it anyway. Although .. having to buy the face cleaner, razors etc.. comes pretty close to all the gells and other stuff I buy now for my rug. But no SERVICE chagres and no new hair pieces ever !!! The process... depends but most of the "units" are glued on in the back with special bonder and tape so it really does not come off. In the front you just use tape or tape with a mild glue. The front you have to kind of flip up every few days and re-glue. You need service every 4 weeks to get a hair cut and rebond the unit. At the service she pulls it completely off gives you a shampoo and haircut etc.. and rebonds it back on. The unit itself if about $600 and lasts up to a year if you take good care of it. Once it is bonded, you shower etc.. it does not come off until your next service. Service costs are about $45 every 4 weeks.
About the blades.. I should of have done more research but I bought the special "head blade" the one with the wheels and I bought some replacement blades for this. Did I get the right one ?
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Daven .. Yeah.. that would be funny. Maybe I could tape it on my phone but no way am I putting it on youtube !! You got it with the money... I was thinking that as I was buying all this stuff.. what am I saving ? Of course I realize most of it is a one time purchase and I probably over did it anyway. Although .. having to buy the face cleaner, razors etc.. comes pretty close to all the gells and other stuff I buy now for my rug. But no SERVICE chagres and no new hair pieces ever !!! The process... depends but most of the "units" are glued on in the back with special bonder and tape so it really does not come off. In the front you just use tape or tape with a mild glue. The front you have to kind of flip up every few days and re-glue. You need service every 4 weeks to get a hair cut and rebond the unit. At the service she pulls it completely off gives you a shampoo and haircut etc.. and rebonds it back on. The unit itself if about $600 and lasts up to a year if you take good care of it. Once it is bonded, you shower etc.. it does not come off until your next service. Service costs are about $45 every 4 weeks.
But the freedom that comes along with being sly .... priceless. ;)
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Congrats on buying all the products! When I first shaved a few years back I had to go and buy the clippers, headblade, headslick, headlube, headwash, exfoliator, and head wipes and it came to around $100 in total as well. I love the headblade for the most part but I also love my Gillette Fusion. I alternate between the blades but always use the headslick, it does the best job for me. When I use the shaving foams I always manage to get a knick and it never gets close enough.
One thing to remember is not to rush it when shaving, take your time. With the headblade put pressure on the wheels and let the blade do the work.
If it were me with the rug, Id nail it to the wall in the garage like my other 'trophies' (critter skins, road gators, etc.)
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The process... depends but most of the "units" are glued on in the back with special bonder and tape so it really does not come off. In the front you just use tape or tape with a mild glue. The front you have to kind of flip up every few days and re-glue. You need service every 4 weeks to get a hair cut and rebond the unit. At the service she pulls it completely off gives you a shampoo and haircut etc.. and rebonds it back on. The unit itself if about $600 and lasts up to a year if you take good care of it. Once it is bonded, you shower etc.. it does not come off until your next service. Service costs are about $45 every 4 weeks.
Way too much information, I think I'm going to be sick.
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Sorry your sick. I was just responding to Deven's question about the process and cost. It is what it is. Obviously at the time, 20 some years ago, seemed like the right thing to do when your young and single and bald was not as acceptable as it is now. I obviously want to be rid of it for good which is why I came to this site to begin with and find support and the help push along what I know I already want to do. Yes .. it is in some way s"sick" to think about what you go through with these systems. At the time they convinved me and I convinced myself that ... if I had lost an arm or leg I would gt a prosthetic device. If I lost a tooth I would get a crown etc.. so why not if you lose your hair .. well you get the idea. I think it served its purpose back when I was young but it is time I think to reveal my true self.
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Sorry your sick. Yes .. it is in some way s"sick" to think about what you go through with these systems. At the time they convinved me and I convinced myself that ... if I had lost an arm or leg I would gt a prosthetic device. If I lost a tooth I would get a crown etc.. so why not if you lose your hair .. well you get the idea. I think it served its purpose back when I was young but it is time I think to reveal my true self.
I guess I understand, I would have had a problem going from thinning hair to a "full head" but that's just me. I have what I believe is a reasonable suspicion that the rug vendors take advantage of the worries guys have as they mature and begin the mpb process--after all according to some reports 30% have some thinning at 30, 40% at forty and so forth. But mpb is a natural genetic predisposition in most instances--we have uncles, brothers, fathers who have the trait and that is a natural progression. Needing a prosthetic device isn't "natural" and the devices serve a real functional purpose--wigs don't. It would be interesting to be the "fly on the wall" as I believe the wig marketers train their staffs to "feed" the insecurity of the customer to hook them in and keep them coming back. But the thought of all that gluing, ungluing, money, etc. does rather turn my stomach. I think you're going to be much happier when you accept and become your natural self.
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Taxman, I think the "inner relief" you're going to get is going to be monumental.
Good luck, but then again....you won't need it. 8)
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Ok, so I love helping a rookie through the first steps. $45 every month? $600 a year? yeah, you will be saving a boa toad of money, It's like when I quit smoking, I started keeping track and wow, how much I wasted really shocked me.
I STRONGLY advice you to take your time in the first shave. My first shave took me almost an hour, Now I am under 7 minutes. I also watched YouTube video's as well to check different styles. I have major OCD so when I shave, I finish and then realize I feel a little sandpaper, so I have to re-shave. A friend of mine laughs at me, he says "what I miss today, I'll get tomorrow". I hate OCD sometimes. LOL.
Looking forward to the report (AND PIC) Wednesday. AS for the head blade? I yeah, those are great, I can't use it because my hand dexterity, but most guy's here love them. Headblade even has a "how to" video on their website, watch it all.
What do you plan on telling everyone when you go back to work? Will you just say you decided to shave it all off, or will you admit you had a rug? Every person is different.
I applaud you for your decision, I KNOW you will love it. Welcome to freedom.
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Welcome to SBGs!!! O0
Looks like you got it covered to get "uncovered"!!! O0
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That's a good question. Not sure yet what I will day to my coworkers. I will no doubt be the talk of the office for sometime. I think I will just say I wanted a change and leave it at that. It will be a real shock to so many people.
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Sounds like you have the support of your wife and mother, and that's all that really matters. Believe it or not but people might talk for a few days or maybe a week, but it's not going to change anyone's opinion about you. Plus who cares what any of them think, life is far too short to be worried about something like hair. It seems like you're the only one that needs convincing. It's tough to get to this point but once you're there you will not regret it.
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I'm excited for you taxman. Since i just recently did it, it's fresh in my mind how great it felt. I wish I could do it again. Make sure you enjoy the moment.
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Why not just cancel your appointment Wed. and do it yourself ? I cant image the System Company employees are going to agree to lose a customer and shave your whole head for you ? SHe will do all she can to stop you wouldnt you say ?
Perhaps the reason you are even going there is in hopes they do all they can to stop you from losing their "system" which takes the decision out of your hands ?
I just dont see a reason for you to go there knowing they surely will not want to lose a paying longtime client ?? You run the risk of leaving with a new unit and more despair.
Stop at Target or Walgreens or Walmart and pick up a 20.00 Wahl clipper, use it with out those plastic guards first. Maybe have your wife in on the fun...did you ever consider this could be quite fun for the 2 of you ? Others have reported good times, good times....
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Why not just cancel your appointment Wed. and do it yourself ? I cant image the System Company employees are going to agree to lose a customer and shave your whole head for you ? SHe will do all she can to stop you wouldnt you say ?
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Razor X ... funny and so true. 48 years later maybe I will finally listen
Rob 6 ....nothing really preventing me from doing it now, today. I could rip it off. It is just glued on. It may hurt a little if I do it but no problem. What holds me back is I have to work tomorrow. If I wait until Wednesday then I have a week on vacation to get use to it before going to work. Besides, my hairdresser .. who is really a friend now after 20 plus years always said if I ever deceide to take it off that I better let her do it so assuming I do it on Wednesday, she will be the one to shave me.
Daven .. Yeah.. that would be funny. Maybe I could tape it on my phone but no way am I putting it on youtube !! You got it with the money... I was thinking that as I was buying all this stuff.. what am I saving ? Of course I realize most of it is a one time purchase and I probably over did it anyway. Although .. having to buy the face cleaner, razors etc.. comes pretty close to all the gells and other stuff I buy now for my rug. But no SERVICE chagres and no new hair pieces ever !!! The process... depends but most of the "units" are glued on in the back with special bonder and tape so it really does not come off. In the front you just use tape or tape with a mild glue. The front you have to kind of flip up every few days and re-glue. You need service every 4 weeks to get a hair cut and rebond the unit. At the service she pulls it completely off gives you a shampoo and haircut etc.. and rebonds it back on. The unit itself if about $600 and lasts up to a year if you take good care of it. Once it is bonded, you shower etc.. it does not come off until your next service. Service costs are about $45 every 4 weeks.
About the blades.. I should of have done more research but I bought the special "head blade" the one with the wheels and I bought some replacement blades for this. Did I get the right one ?
Well that's expensive... So consider this: until now, you've spent lots of money on rugs and gluing them to your head, torturing your skin with glue and making it unhealthy. Now the face wash, shave balm etc. makes your skin fresh, clean and healthy. Now that's money well spent there!!!
Considering that an expense is like considering the shower gel and the towels an expense... It's just what you need to keep clean and fresh. They last long. You'll see in a few months :)
Go for it. We're waiting for an after picture on Wednesday 8)
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Don"t worry about being talked about at the office. Yes, there will be some comments and questions at first, but most people are very busy both at work and in their personal lives and they'll quickly move on. You'll see that in a couple days, your coworkers won't notice or comment - you, in your new sly form, will look completely normal to them.
So, get on with it and start enjoying the freedom of being sly!
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Thanks again guys for all the comments and support. I think it’s true what others have said on this site, without some support for this decision, it would make it much more difficult to proceed.
After reading the last few comments last night I had it set in my mind all day today that I am going to do it tomorrow.
Chgobuzzbald: Your right. I could just do it now or tomorrow without going to the appointment and I have thought about it but I have been with my particular hairdresser for over 20 years and we are really friends. She will not try to convince me to stay with the system. We have had conversations before and we always agreed that when the day comes, she would like to be the one to cut it off. I am not sure that she will take the time to actually shave me so my plan is to have her cut it down as low as she can ( less mess at my house) and then slip on hat go home and finish the job with my new Headblade.
As I said before, my wife has never seen me without hair so I think I want to do this alone or with the hairdresser who seems my bald head every four weeks before displaying my new look to the wife.
Paragon: Absolutely true. I realize that the expense associated with the upkeep of my system now is wasted money and unhealthy to say the least. Just one more reason I am ready. As I said, I worry about what the glue does anyway. The expense associated with healthy cleaning products to keep my new sly head clean and fresh will be well worth it.
I am still here. Still convinced that I am going to do it tomorrow so I unless I suddenly get spooked at the last minute, it appears it will happen tomorrow. I even hinted to some of my employees that I was thinking of going bald and I kept a two day beard on my face at work today.
In my case, I don’t just have one workplace to worry about. In addition to my day job, I also am an adjunct professor at a local college and I actually have a class starting on the Thursday following my return from Vegas. They will be new students so no big deal there but it will be a shock to some of my colleagues there and then I have to go through it all over again when I return to my day job. Hope The head looks good. Who knows what it will look like after years of tape, glue and no sunshine. First time shave could be rough.
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Be careful with the HeadBlade. It has no conscience.
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You might want to try shaving with a stick razor first until you get used to it.The Headblade has a learning curve.Our stories are similar and you will love being sly when the rug comes off.
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First time shave could be rough.
Take it slow, and if you're going to use the Headblade no pressure and extra slow. You are going to be the guy with the surprise, it's not going to be your friends, not your wife, it's going to be you because once you've cleaned it up, once your scalp is clean and smooth the feeling of freedom is going to overwhelm you and will continue to do so for some days. Your co-workers, students, friends, they're not going to react at anywhere near the level you're anticipating--this is a big deal for you, a really important and big deal, but for them--it's just a hair cut. Don't be disappointed, there will be lots of compliments and a criticism or two and possibly a laugh presumably aimed at you but if it comes from a balding friend, be understanding and support him. Most importantly, you're free--now get on with living.
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Be careful with the HeadBlade. It has no conscience.
Exactly what I was about to say. It's not the easiest tool to get the hang of. You might want to start with a more conventional razor and work your way up to the HB.
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Thanks, great advice. I will hold off on the Head Blade I purchased and go with a regular 3 blade razor ?? Right ?
Saintc, great words of encouragment. I am ready and can't wait for the freedom. I will handle the comments fine. The 7 day vacation to get adjusted will be the key. Hopefully, I can get some color on the top because it is to big of a contrast with the rest of my face right now. I am excited about the prospect and to be honest, not sure I would have done it without finding this site and reading the stories. I am tempted to just do it myself tonight since I am done with work but I think I will wait until tomorrow, let her clip me down and take my time at home finishing the task. Should be interesting to say the least.
Again, can't thank everyone enough for their comments. I am ready !
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The 7 day vacation to get adjusted will be the key. I am ready !
Well, good news, within a few minutes of being clean and free- you will be adjusted, we promise. There will be a few, "Who's the new dude in the mirror?" moments but those will morph into, "Damn, that looks good!" Promise. Yes, it won't take 7 days, only a few minutes of day #1--you're going to really be surprised. And don't forget--sunscreen! Get non-greasy without alcohol if possible.
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I am tempted to just do it myself tonight. I am ready !
It's always an option, and there is a definate plus in having taken the entire process under your own control and command--it's one of my most pleasant memories--absolutely.
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As far as shaving, you can use a regular razor like a Gillette Mach 3. My advice is to go only with the grain until you get the hang of shaving and your scalp adjusts to being shaved. Then go against the grain as well to get the smoothest shave.
I started with the HeadBlade and got a few nicks and cuts. I switched to a Gillette Fusion (5 blades) about a month ago and am sold on the smoothness it gives.
After you shave, rinse off all the remaining cream and then do a cold (yes cold) rinse to close up the pores. Then use an astringent to heal the shaved head. It'll sting a little but that's okay.
Saintc is right - once you've done it, you'll be amazed at how good you look! Good luck!!!
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I'm looking forward to the 'after' picture!
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and there is a definate plus in having taken the entire process under your own control and command--it's one of my most pleasant memories--absolutely.
I agree. I wouldn't want anyone to have the anticipation, control, power, excitement and exhilaration of changing myself into the new me.
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and there is a definate plus in having taken the entire process under your own control and command--it's one of my most pleasant memories--absolutely.
I agree. I wouldn't want anyone to have the anticipation, control, power, excitement and exhilaration of changing myself into the new me.
It sure is a great memory! Went to the bathroom, locked up for an hour, buzzed it off (even tried the chessboard pattern for fun, lol). The first shave was really allllll about the control, it was quite strange to handle the razor in the back with mirrors, trying to not get razor burns or nicks.
I agree with first going only with the grain. After a few shaves you can easily handle first across the grain and then against the grain passes too.
As for the vacation and after: shave, shave, shave, you won't get the colors to blend in with a shadow ::)
And do take us seriously when we say use sunscreen, especially on a vacation when you'll be exposing that sun-virgin skin a lot. Remember, getting a serious sunburn on the new sensitive skin means no shaving for a few days and that means... a horseshoe... and the skin coming off in pieces the next week won't be pretty.
So take our word, use that sunscreen multiple times a day on the vacation.
There's nothing like enjoying that new freedom on a vacation ^-^ Have a great time!
We're waiting for the after picture O:O
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Hey Taxman, watch the "How To" video.
http://www.headblade.com/
Two golden rules for the Headblade:
1) Don't apply additional pressure. The blade is set at the optimum angle to give you the best shave.
2) Always make certain that the back of the headblade (the wheels if you're using the "Sport" edition) is in contact with your scalp. If you "do a wheelie", the blade will dig in and you'll get a cut.
Although the headblade is great, you may find that you'll need to use a "regular" razor to do some touch up on the sides of your head.
Good Luck and Enjoy!
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Totally agree with Shro. And make long slow strokes. I would recommend to first shave only with the grain, if you and your scalp become used to it try going against the grain.
Don't forget the sunscreen as some are suggesting, it is absolutely vital.
Don't be afraid of shaving your head, even if it is the first time. I don't even remember my first time, did it with a conventional razor and than immediately switched to the Headblade. I guess not remembering is a sign that it was harmless and smooth
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Keep the advice coming. Very helpful. I have plenty of sunscreen and plan on using it. The last thing I want is a scared head.
Woke up this morning and thought ..today is the day. Almost chickened out when I pulled up the rug to apply new tape this morning. Keep wondering if I have the right head for this. Seems like one long forehead to me. Just hoping that once I get some color it will blend in and once the sides are completely shaved down, it will look better then what I imagine.
I am going to do it. In fact, if I had a clipper I think I would do it now. No one is home and it would give me plenty of time but I think I will stick to the plan. Dentist appointment at 1:30 and hair appointment at 4:30. Will see. That little voice in my head keeps saying go to the store now and buy a clipper..just do it.
I think I will keep a log like Acme and let you know my thoughts and reaction to the initial sly shave and each day after for the first 7 days.
Sounds like I will stay away from the Headblade for now. I am going to the store to get a regular Mach 3 blade. I think I have everything else I need although I think I will also try the Jergens Natural Glow as sime suggested.
Should be in interesting day. Excited ... I think.
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That little voice in my head keeps saying go to the store now and buy a clipper..just do it.
Should be in interesting day. Excited ... I think.
Wal-Mart has them, less than$15--quick trip to Wal-Mart, buzz it off, hot shower & shampoo, lather blade= FREE. Just a thought! 8)
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Throughout this thread, I'm reminded of the Jackass scene where a guy with some clippers pulls a sneak attack hair cut on his buddies.
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I am going to do it. In fact, if I had a clipper I think I would do it now. No one is home and it would give me plenty of time but I think I will stick to the plan. Dentist appointment at 1:30 and hair appointment at 4:30. Will see. That little voice in my head keeps saying go to the store now and buy a clipper..just do it.
That little voice is telling you that you are in control and are empowered to make it happen immediately! Just think, if you take care of it yourself (very big move that boosts your confidence), early today instead of waiting until 4:30, you'll have a whole other day of being sly under your belt, making it 8 days before you go back to work/school.
Listen to the little voice! It's your head, your timeline and you're in control!
It'd be interesting to see what the "system" looks like when it's not attached. Do you get to keep it?
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If you haven't left for Walmart, I suggest the Schick Hydro 5 over the Mach, it doesn't have wires on the blades and doesn't clog up as much, of it's too late, that's ok as the Mach is also a good blade.
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Get that "rat" off your head - - - You are a good looking guy and you will be better looking SLY BALD - -
Give it a chance - -you can always go back - - - - - -None of us have ever gone back
Read some of the commentary of guys who had the "LITTLE MINK" on top for years - -go to Sooner Steve and read about him giving up his little "RAT"
Good luck and go for it
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I think I will keep a log like Acme and let you know my thoughts and reaction to the initial sly shave and each day after for the first 7 days.
I hope you liked it. I did that to both help other people relate with their own anxiety and to laugh at myself. After the 7th day, anxiety was gone and now when I see people that still haven't seen me yet, I feel perfectly comfortable. Funny it doesn't seem like it's a big deal until it's actually you.
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Good luck today. You're going to really like the change. Follow the 30 day rule and you'll find the routine that works to give you the smooth dome that you want. It'll also give you and others the time to adjust to the new look.
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Acme is right - in a few days, the anxiety of seeing people is gone and sly feels completely normal. You won't even think about looking "different" because your mind will quickly adjust to the sly look. I've noted in other threads that within about three weeks, I had a hard time remembering what it was like to have hair. I had a hard time even remembering what I looked like with hair.
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Since we don't know where this person lives, he is doing the removal in the next few hours (it's 11:40 AZ time) and I am sending up prayers it goes well and we get to see an excellent after photo soon. We are thinking of you wile you take this step we know will greatly improve your life!
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On my way now to the hairdressers. Early apt. Can't believe how excited I am. Purchased a fusion razer to finish the job when I get home. She didn't seem to excited when I told her today was the day and I wanted her to shave it. Too bad!!!
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Good luck. We're all rooting for you. If your friend does a good job with the shave, go back to her occassionally to have your head shaved.
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Thanks in the parking lot!!! Not sure if she will shave it all down. Not sure I want her to since het razer won't be that great. Just looking for her to clip it as far as she can and then I will shave at home. Holy sh*t...here we go...
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OMG!!!!!!! Sitting in the hairdresdors chair. It looks awesome !!!!! She did great. So different. Can't believe it need to go home and finish the job
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DUDE.............POST SOME PICS!
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Good job! We were all telling you you'd love it. Let's see pics of the new you. Congrats on taking the step...and welcome to the club!!!
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Can't believe it need to go home and finish the job
Enjoy--and if you so choose, this was your last day at the "hairdresser" or barber, ever! Here on out, you're going to like your new barber a lot--you. It only gets better. 8/31/11--an easy anniversary to remember!
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Please post the pics asap, can't wait to see your new look
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See. An entire website of guys can't be wrong! Enjoy it!!!!!
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All I can say is WOW !!!
My hairdresser (Patti) and I had so much fun ripping the rug off and shaving. She moved the chair around so I could not see until it was done. She was great. She used some lotion to open up the pours and as always, did a great job. I will miss her but we will always be friends.
So the first look in the mirror and I could not stop laughing. We both laughed. Not because it looked bad. In fact it looks GREAT !! It was just such a change. Such a difference, I can’t explain it.
We laughed for what seemed like an hour. I was loving it. I was concerned about the shape of my head etc.. but I have to say, I have a great head for this !!!
I sat in the parking lot after just looking in the car rearview mirror laughing with joy. I am loving this. Freedom !! I can actually swim now and it really does look fantastic !!!
After stopping for a cold one I went to see the parents. They were thrilled ! I then went home and was contemplating whether or not to shave it completely down.. decided I would go for it. I shaved my head completely. Didn’t really know what the hell I was doing and it will take some practice to get it right but all I know is it felt absolutely unbelievable !!!
I kept looking in the mirror after trying to figure out who that was staring back at me. Definitely need some color. I tried using some self tanning lotion but it did not seem to do much. That’s okay, still looks good ( in my eyes) and I have 7 days in 105 degree sun to get it tanned.
The wife has still not seen it yet but I don’t think she will be disappointed. My son came over because he wanted to see it. He said it looks great !!!
Not a fan of the grey shadow on the sides but I know this will pass as I learn more about how to take care of it.
I know each and every one of you said over and over again that it would be the best decision in my life, that you would not regret it, that it would set you free. Each and every one of you were absolutely RIGHT !!! I feel so free ! I feel great !! Can’t wait to go on vacation ! And as you have all said, I have no idea why I waited so long to do this. Should of done this years ago.
Of course I haven’t faced my coworkers yet but to be honest, not worried a bit about it. I think it looks great and that’s all that matters.
One note, on the way of out of my service, there was a guy sitting in the waiting room. Patti and came out laughing. I had a hat on but after I left Patti called me and said she asked the guy how old he thought I was and he said 40. Not bad for a 48 year old guy !!!
I don’t know what to say.. I love it !! love it !!! So happy I did it !!!
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It does look great. You might be stressed the first time you see people at work but it quickly passes. In one week, this will be your new normal. Like I said before, I'm excited for you.
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Congratulations man!
I'm so happy you did it! Now go out on that vacation and show off that Dome ^-^
Welcome to the club 8)
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Not bad! Welcome to the Sly life! If you're lucky your wife wont be able to keep her hands off of it. Just keep in mind the sunscreen, even in winter it is possible to get sun burn
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Your son was right. It does look GREAT. Thanks for posting the picture and going through with the shave! Ah, freedom!
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I think the wife is still in shock but she says she likes it.
I was feeling such a high before when it was first done but now I think I am coming down a little. Don't get me wrong, still love it. No regrets AT ALL ! but maybe just not use to the new me yet. Wierd feeling.
I see a couple red spots in the back. Can't tell if that is from the shave or from the self tanning lotion I used. I think it was from the lotion which should wash off.
What a feeling.. erased all my hair appointments from my calendar. Packing now for vacation and I don't need the usual 2 sq meters of space for hair products !! Love it !!! What was I thinking all these years !
Wonder what my students will think ? Wonder what my coleagues will think ? Your right .. who CARES I am happy !!!
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I have about 3 red spots too since day one that have not gone away. When I see the electrologist next month, she'll probably make them go away. Sometimes a hair gets caught under the skin and causes it. She's made lots of spots disappear on my neck over the years.
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Have fun on vacation. Don't rush the tanning of your head because a burn will hurt like hell and then you'll have a flaking, peeling scalp! When you first shave you may get spots (I did). They may just be some irritation or possibly hairs. That's why it's important to use an astringent. After you shave for a while, your scalp will toughen up and the red spots will be few and far between.
Glad you took our counsel and went sly. You won't regret it!
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Looks great. Congratulations. O0
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but maybe just not use to the new me yet. Wierd feeling.
Could be a little of the "Who's the dude in the mirror?" syndrome--it passes.
Oh, and did you tell us what happened to the dead rat? >:D
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but maybe just not use to the new me yet. Wierd feeling.
Could be a little of the "Who's the dude in the mirror?" syndrome--it passes.
I agree. It does take a little getting used to and it' not unusual to have a bit of mixed emotions after the initial euphoria wears off.
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Can't thank everyone enough for the advice, counsel and support. I have plenty of sun screen and will use it. I do want color but I learned from you guys to take it slow.
The dead rat..... left it where it belonged .. at the shop in the garbage as I was smiling on the way out the door !!!
Update you when I get back !!!
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It looks fantastic!!! You will be getting lots of compliments. You definitely made the right decision.
Andrew
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You really do look good sly. Go easy on your wife - she said she liked it, so take her at her word. Just like you, she's adjusting to your new look. The most important thing is that you like it. From your first post, we could all sense there was a sly guy dying to get out. Well, he's out now - so go with it and enjoy your new freedom.
One last thing - shaving your head can be addicting. You'll experiment to find a routine that works for you and then really look forward to it because afterward, the look and feel of a freshly shaved dome are great!
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I also want to add my congratulations! You truly look like you were destined to be sly. It will be normal for awhile to feel odd while looking in the mirror. But after awhile, you will find that being sly is second nature. Anyway for those of us with MPB, going sly is the much better way. While I have never had a system, I can only imagine having the freedom of not having to pay for the system and it's maintainence!
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All I can say dude is that you look fan-freaking-tastic! You're right -- your head looks perfect.
Welcome to the freedom from the tyranny of hair!
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Congratulations!! O0
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It suits you very well. Congrats for making the step and welcome to the club. Enjoy your vacation and don't forget to take your Headblade and Sunscreen with you.........
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Ok, maybe it's because it's 2:45am, but This post might seem jumbled.
First, DAMN!!!!! I'm a guy. I'm a straight guy, but you look INCREDIBLE!!!!! What a change, and not just in looks, look back at your last picture, you were smiling but I could SEE in your eyes you were like "oh crap, a camera, can you tell?" now you are ear to ear grinning with TRUE happiness. FANTASTIC!!!!!!!!!
Second, I agree with others, I'm sure your wife feels the same way, just has to adjust. when I shaved mine for the first time, my wife just would look at me and say "you're crazy" over and over, now she insists when I shave she gets to feel it and kiss it, (and points out where I miss to fix it). I love what Howie Mandel said his wife wasn't home when he shaved it, she came home, walked around the corner and said "you are SO damned sexy". We all wish for that reaction but anything but "you look horrible" is acceptable.
I can feel your joy all the way in AZ. time to go to the 30 day rule in New guy's section and start a thread.
DONT shave very day, I would suggest every other day for a while, let your skin heal. It takes about 20 days for it not to feel so "naked". I wish you would have brought the rat home and stapled it to the wall, but oh well. AS far as your hair dressers sadness, you would be sad if you were losing money too, but at least your have your friendship. Didn't you just want to take off your hat in the lobby and say "SHAVE DONT RUG!!!" as you left the place?
See, I'm rambling. YOU are HAPPY!!! for the first time in YEARS.
August 31, 2011 was YOUR INDEPENDENCE DAY Celebrate it every year. Mine is June 18, 2011.
Now to decide on facial hair, or maybe some earrings. :)
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Dude, I forgot to say that you are so fortunate that you had family members that WANTED you to shave it off! Unfortunately, my dad and stepmother never liked it on me. My dad, now gone, told me it looked like hell. Even though his hair was thinning a lot. My stepmom cried and had tried to get me to grow it back several times. Since then, I have gotten very thin. When I had surgery and grew my hair back, my stepmom finally understood why I shaved my head. But again, not only do YOU look FANTASTIC, you already have support! Wear your baldness with your head lifted high! O0
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Congratulations, what a great transformation! You look fantastic O0
You're story (like many of the guys here on the site) is very inspiring so thanks for posting and I look forward to reading your progress with your new 'free' appearance.
Have a great vacation!
Cyberdyne
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You look GREAT - -you have a great looking DOME - -Have fun and enjoy the freedom of being SLY BALD
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Inspirational - well done man!
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way to go must :@` O0 sly 4life .looking P!++ P@^, enjoy the #**p
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Job well done looks great !! Hope you enjoyed your vacation and your new FREEDOM!! P@^