Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: JP1975 on July 13, 2011, 04:05:13 AM
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hi,
i have been reading you forums and finaly joined.
my story is verry similar to what i have been reading. I started going bald at 18, joined hairclub at 23, and now im 36 and i have had it! it took me a few years of considering quiting before i got to the point were i would set a date.
HERES MY PLAN:
I just got a new unit this week. i want to keep it for the next five months till i go on vacation. after two months i have noticed the units start to get thin on top in the same places i am thin. at the same time i will let my hair grow out, so when i go on vaca i can ditch the unit shave my head and get a nice tan. I dont want to go from a full head of hair to realy thin with no tan. as i think i will get less reaction if i thin out first over the next few months.
please advise.
jp1975
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Welcome to the Forum, JP!
Why wait? Take a long weekend from work, on the first day ditch "the unit", shave, and then tan for a few days. Go back to work like nothing happened.
People will admire you for losing that "unit". Believe me.... they all know it's there and probably snicker about it.
In 5 months it will be Winter and tanning won't be so easy....... now's the time.
Peace-
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i think i will get less reaction if i thin out first over the next few months.
Welcome to SBG, you're finally where you need to be. As the Koz has said, just do it. Although this is huge to you and was for many of us what you'll find if you read the numerous posts on the subject is that in most all cases it just isn't that big to anyone else. Do it--why waste five more months of your life, even five days or five hours. It's time. You will like it, and you'll be free--yes FREE.
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JP, you have become a slave to "The Unit" and it is time for your Declaration of Independence.
I'm with Koz on this, nobody has been fooled by the rug and they probably have made you the brunt of some cruel jokes. Human nature works like that. We all like to feel superior in some way. The Hair Club has made their millions by convincing the public that it is preferable to walk around with a dead muskrat on our collective head than it is to just scrape off that damned scrub and get on with life. Putting it off, as we have all seen, just leads to more putting it off. Be like Nike and Just Do It. You'll feel better because the situation will be in YOUR control and your wallet will be fatter as well.
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Another vote cast...........JUST DO IT. It's no wheres near as big a deal as what we imagine it to be. Buzz the remnants down, get in a hot shower and scrap it all OFF TODAY. Waiting will not make it easier or simpler. If you're worried about a pale skull get yourself to WalMart and buy a tube of the high powered version of Jergen's Natural Glow, 2 applications of that and you'll get rid of the paleness.
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Been reading the forums for the last month. After seeing this topic I thought I would chime in. This is my first post. I am in a similar situation as JP1975.
I started going bald at 17 and by the time I was 19 my hair had really thinned out. I was about to away to school and was very self conscious about my hair loss. I joined HCM the month before I left. At first it was a huge confidence boost and it served its purpose. I meet my future wife at college and for the most part was happy with my appearance. I accepted the fact that I would have to be a member for life and it just something I would have to deal with...
Fast forward to the present. I am 39 with 2 children. Over the last couple months I have seriously considered buzzing off the "system" and starting over. I have spoken to my wife about it and she is fine with my decision. Since I don't have a vacation scheduled in the near future we thought the best way to do this would be to take a couple days off and do it at the beginning of a weekend. Thinking of doing the deed next month. That way I can go to the pool and get some sun...I am not too concerned with my family/friends reactions. I am more freaked out about how my co-workers will react. My kids have also never seen me without my system...What should I tell them? Should I give my co-workers a heads up?
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Just get it over with.
All this preparation is just turning something that is really a non-event (shaving the head) into an event. Just shave it. Who cares if the head is white. No need to build it up in to more then it really is.
Congrats on ditching the hair system.
I am trying to figure out a way to get my dad (currently 67 years old and had it since he was in his 30's) to get rid of his.
In regards to the kids reaction, I found that to be the funnest thing about shaving.
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I have (of course) heard of the hair club, but what do they do? DON'T WORRY, I'm not going to check into it, but just curious what they do, is it just toupee's?
I would be interested to see both you and the other HCM poster put pic's of you with your wig on. Then lets see the sly domes There will be no doubt you both are making GREAT moves. Congrats and just save it all off.
You both will feel MUCH better.
Welcome to the site.
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Just get it over with.
The correct answer. And to repeat what I and so many others have said--your coworkers probably will be a mostly non-event, even though it is huge to you. They know about the system--believe me.
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Welcome to SBGs!!! 8)
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Welcome JP. You're headed in the right direction now. Quit the (fake) hair club, buzz it down and then shave it smooth, then prepare to get on with your life of freedom! 8)
Good luck and keep us posted.
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JP,
Having been down the same road as you, I have to agree with the rest of guys. They're giving you the same advice (some of the same guys too) that they gave me almost 4 years ago. I had an elaborate plan, like yours, and ended up just going for it. 2 weeks after joining SBG my head was shining like a cue ball.
Plan a long weekend sometime in the near future, ditch the rug, get a few rays and enjoy your freedom. You won't regret it ...
Andrew
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Like the others have said, forget the preparation and JUST DO IT! Your coworkers won't care, your friends won't care, basically nobody cares but you. Why delay your freedom for 5 months? It's already staring you in the eye.
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Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Think of it this way, this is just a haircut, nothing more. If you scrape the dome and you hate it you can go back to the rug. It isn't as though you donated a kidney to your best friend and then realize that he's having an affair with your wife. This is totally reversible.
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And think of the cashola you'll save!
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Welcome to the forum, JP! Great advice from the guys. O0
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Hey JP & KW:
I know where you are. I wore a "system" for 23 years from age 20 to 43. I was a slave to it. I know your fear. I was very scared and worried about what everyone would say. I was sure THEY would be shocked when I shaved it clean.
Turns out, I WAS THE ONE WHO WAS SHOCKED.
I was shocked to learn that I had not been fooling anyone with my "system".
I was shocked to learn that most everyone had wanted me to get rid of it for years.
I was shocked to learn that no one cared that I did not have hair.
I was shocked to learn that I felt bether about myself once I got rid of the "system."
I was shocked to learn that my self confidence shot straight through the roof.
I was shocked to learn that my hair, or the lack thereof, did not define me.
I was shocked to learn that I was happier without it.
I also had a huge plan of losing the system, getting a tan on vacation, etc. I discussed it with my wife. She was on board. I talked to my kids - age 10 & 14. I had a plan. I was ready. Then my 10 year old said "Dad, why don't you just go Friday to the barber, cut what's left and go to work on Monday." Sounded like a great idea and that is what I did. Even took him with me.
We still laugh about my elaborate plan to go SLY and how a 10 year old was smarter dear ol' dad and had a better plan.
I realize this is a long post but want you guys to know I understand where you are. These guys on here were WONDERFUL help to me. They gave me the same advice they are giving you.
TRUST ME - JUST DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I too would encourage you to just go ahead and do it - whenever you are ready! I waited until my vacation to shave. Like you, I wanted to have time to come to terms with the new me and to get some sun on the new, white dome. While I was careful to limit my exposure and to use sunscreen, I also made sure that my newly shorn dome was exposed without any protection for at least 45 minutes a day to the Florida sun. Still, I did not tan as much as I would have liked and you can still see the white outline of my old hairline. But guess what? Nobody cares! Shaving my head was liberating for me but it was a non-event for everyone else; my friends, family, and co-workers have said nothing except for positive comments. It's just a new hair-style for someone whose style choices were limited to wearing a horse-shoe (toilet-seat) fringe, a comb-over, a rug, or manning up and shaving it! Which happens to be a popular and hip hairstyle even for guys who have a full head of hair. Shave whenever you are ready, just realize that the only person who will need time to get used to it will be you! Good Luck!
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Don't mean to hijack the thread, but I have a question. I came from the thinning to combover part of the mpb population. I never seriously thought about going with a system--they seemed somehow fake to me. But I wonder if any of the guys who did go with the system have ever thought through how they reeled you into their plan? How did they go about convincing you that one day you walk into their store and walk out with a head of "hair?" How did they "re-sell" you if you expressed any doubts or concerns about using a "system?" They seem to have a powerful hold on some guys and I just wonder how they get away with it?
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Hey JP & KW:
I know where you are. I wore a "system" for 23 years from age 20 to 43. I was a slave to it. I know your fear. I was very scared and worried about what everyone would say. I was sure THEY would be shocked when I shaved it clean.
Turns out, I WAS THE ONE WHO WAS SHOCKED.
I was shocked to learn that I had not been fooling anyone with my "system".
I was shocked to learn that most everyone had wanted me to get rid of it for years.
I was shocked to learn that no one cared that I did not have hair.
I was shocked to learn that I felt bether about myself once I got rid of the "system."
I was shocked to learn that my self confidence shot straight through the roof.
I was shocked to learn that my hair, or the lack thereof, did not define me.
I was shocked to learn that I was happier without it.
I also had a huge plan of losing the system, getting a tan on vacation, etc. I discussed it with my wife. She was on board. I talked to my kids - age 10 & 14. I had a plan. I was ready. Then my 10 year old said "Dad, why don't you just go Friday to the barber, cut what's left and go to work on Monday." Sounded like a great idea and that is what I did. Even took him with me.
We still laugh about my elaborate plan to go SLY and how a 10 year old was smarter dear ol' dad and had a better plan.
I realize this is a long post but want you guys to know I understand where you are. These guys on here were WONDERFUL help to me. They gave me the same advice they are giving you.
TRUST ME - JUST DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OUTSTANDING post Steve! I hope Tyler will consider making this a sticky in a PROMINENT place on the Forum. This is without a doubt one of the best testimonies I've seen on why to go SLY and dump that "unit" or "system" or whatever it might be called.
Sooner Steve rocks!!!
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I am going through with the plan. I have already taken the couple days off work. I will be sly on August 9th. No backing out...you are right the days off are more for me to get used to it than any other reason.
Told my folks and they were very supportive. I think the kids will be fine. My friends and family will be a little shocked...but I know it is the right decision and I'll be ok. I told my wife to post a picture of my new look on her facebook page (I don't have one) so everyone can see the new look. The only negative for me is for showing up in the office with a bald head. I think I will level with my boss and my direct report but other than that I don't think I owe anyone an explanation. What do you tell people. For me I have no qualms with telling someone I wore a hairpiece for 20 years and was tired of it. This is my new hair cut...
When I was in high school I actually had long hair. Then I noticed it was going bald and it completely freaked me out...this was circa 89/90. I had no idea what to do and I panicked. I joined HCM and immediately felt more confident. Worst decision of my life...but you live and you learn.
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The only negative for me is for showing up in the office with a bald head. I think I will level with my boss and my direct report but other than that I don't think I owe anyone an explanation. What do you tell people. For me I have no qualms with telling someone I wore a hairpiece for 20 years and was tired of it. This is my new hair cut...
The office will be a non-event, only you care about this that much--sorry that's just it and you'll find that report over and over in the posts on SBG's. I'm sure I've seen some, but I can only think of one person who had any poor reaction, just one. For the one or two of your workmates that ask why you got rid of the rat--yes they all know that it was a hairy toilet seat cover--tell them why, just as you've said it here. This isn't leveling with the boss either--it's none of his business anyway, unless he was getting irked with the rug. You will get compliments, lots of them. And they don't stop coming, I still get them heading into my fifth year and I know the other guys get them too. You're going to be free, totally free of all the inhibitions that you've had and have had supported and encouraged by the Hair Club folks. The inhibitions were their "business plan" and you will have axed it. I've even seen where their income is down during the last several years--guys are wising up and shaving down. You're not the first you won't be the last, either. Just get ready to live again completely unfettered by all the cr_p you've carried all these years.
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Thanks for all your support...
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KW72........... Props to you for making what will be a life changing decision for you...... for the better.
Props to your wife and Family for providing support while you make this change. As said previously.... this will mostly be non-event... bigger in your own mind than in the minds of others.
If you have any questions or just need someone to talk to while you wait for the day to arrive, you can PM me personally.
Post us up and before shot if you like.......
By the way......... I LOVE the direction this thread has taken. Good advice and guys stepping up to the plate to better their own lives.
Peace
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Hey JP & KW:
I know where you are. I wore a "system" for 23 years from age 20 to 43. I was a slave to it. I know your fear. I was very scared and worried about what everyone would say. I was sure THEY would be shocked when I shaved it clean.
Turns out, I WAS THE ONE WHO WAS SHOCKED.
I was shocked to learn that I had not been fooling anyone with my "system".
I was shocked to learn that most everyone had wanted me to get rid of it for years.
I was shocked to learn that no one cared that I did not have hair.
I was shocked to learn that I felt bether about myself once I got rid of the "system."
I was shocked to learn that my self confidence shot straight through the roof.
I was shocked to learn that my hair, or the lack thereof, did not define me.
I was shocked to learn that I was happier without it.
I also had a huge plan of losing the system, getting a tan on vacation, etc. I discussed it with my wife. She was on board. I talked to my kids - age 10 & 14. I had a plan. I was ready. Then my 10 year old said "Dad, why don't you just go Friday to the barber, cut what's left and go to work on Monday." Sounded like a great idea and that is what I did. Even took him with me.
We still laugh about my elaborate plan to go SLY and how a 10 year old was smarter dear ol' dad and had a better plan.
I realize this is a long post but want you guys to know I understand where you are. These guys on here were WONDERFUL help to me. They gave me the same advice they are giving you.
TRUST ME - JUST DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OUTSTANDING post Steve! I hope Tyler will consider making this a sticky in a PROMINENT place on the Forum. This is without a doubt one of the best testimonies I've seen on why to go SLY and dump that "unit" or "system" or whatever it might be called.
Sooner Steve rocks!!!
Thanks for the kind words Mike. I just wanted to help a fellow "system" wearer with the truth about going SLY just like so many people on this board, including you, helped me with my decision. It has truly been a wonderful decision for me and I just want to share the good news with another brother who is struggling with the decision to lose the rat!!!
SLY is the only way!!!!!!!
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Off, Off, Off, OFF!
I will say that hair loss never distressed me. I was the "gradual frontal recession" rather than the "abrupt horseshoe." When I was forty, I said, "Why not shave the head?" I had no one to object, even if that was twenty-six years ago when it was not all that common (outside of skinhead culture). No one shrieked, gasped, pointed, or snickered. The parents did give me "the look," I'll have to admit, but I was an adult for a long time, and all they could do was write me out of the will, which they forgot to do.
I can't say I'm entirely free of concern about how I appear to people; that I'm sly is no big deal, but that I'm really heavy is. Well, we all have our problems, yet Weight Watchers seems a more useful possibility than Hair Club. Weight loss is real, rugs are not.
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I am going through with the plan. I have already taken the couple days off work. I will be sly on August 9th. No backing out...
We are counting down the days in anticipation. Six days and counting.
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No backing out...cancelled my agreement with HCM. Have a round of golf planned with my Dad on August 10th. Will likely give 3-4 of my closest friends a heads up this weekend.
I was planning to tell my boss and my direct report this Tuesday (the last day of work before I am off the rest of the week).
Still a little anxious but am at peace with the decision. Last decision to make is if I want to get buzzed down by a barber or do it myself (I have the clippers) on the initial cutting...
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Have a round of golf planned with my Dad on August 10th.
DON'T FORGET SOME SUNSCREEN & A HAT!
Will likely give 3-4 of my closest friends a heads up this weekend.
I was planning to tell my boss and my direct report this Tuesday (the last day of work before I am off the rest of the week).
Who and why you provide a "head's up" about this is your own business as long as you remember the ONLY person's opinion that's worth anything at all is that of the 24/7 guy--you.
And remember as you've learned and heard here--you're going to really enjoy the freedom from the tyranny of HCM, worry, etc. You may well have a period where you question, "Who's the dude in the mirror?" But, come September 9--you will be totally on board and free after years of servitude to the piece and brain-washing by HCM that there is somehow something wrong with your God given dome. See you on the Sly Side!
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No backing out...cancelled my agreement with HCM.
Best news I have heard all day. O0 O0 O0 O0
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Just made an hair appointment (probably my last one ever) to have the first shave down. T minus 5 days...
Then I have the next three days and the weekend to adapt to the new look...
Going golfing on Wednesday and going to see My Morning Jacket on Friday...
I am sure it will feel great.
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I am sure it will feel great.
It certainly will, and you will wish you had done it sooner! 8)
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I am requesting a before and after photo. Snap a shot how you look today, and then after you shave it.
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I'll send you a free SBG shirt if you do it tonight or tomorrow.
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I'd do it for a T-shirt O0
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I'll send you a free SBG shirt if you do it tonight or tomorrow.
WHOA!!!! I wanna free t-shirt! :( How about if I put on a wig and snap a photo and post it, LOL.
Take the offer!
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Thanks for the offer...but I am going to do it on Tuesday...
My wife and I told my seven year old daughter what I was going to do...she was a little freaked out at first. We explained that I would still be the same Dad as always...and then she seemed to be fine with it. She mentioned yesterday that it would be a good idea since it would be easier to spot ticks...that cracked me up.
My wife dropped her off at camp this AM and 3 fathers were there that were sly. My daughter told her, "WOW, it is popular, Daddy will be cool".
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I was curious if JP was going to go through with it too? I kind of hijacked his thread.
It took me about 3 months to go from "I think I want to do this" to the actual deed. This site has been invaluable to giving me the confidence to do it. There isn't a question I have had that has not been addressed somewhere in the various forums.
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I was curious if JP was going to go through with it too? I kind of hijacked his thread.
He's only signed on once--he could be back to lurking. But he said five months since he'd already bought a new rug! Don't understand the wait, but he's the 24/7 guy.
Looking forward to hearing your story on Wednesday after Clean Up Tuesday. You will enjoy this--that you can take to the bank.
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Steve - - -GREAT POST on why to quit hairclub - - -The Best
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You have a pretty sharp daughter! I was infected with Lyme disease 5 years ago and despite 2 year of aggressive antibiotic treatment, I've never fully recovered. I am currently being treated for "non-typical" fibromyalgia. I've become addicted to narcotic pain medications but I still work full-time. All on account of a nasty, little, disease-carrying, little vector called a tick.
I guess we can add this to the list of advantages to a shaved head! Sorry for hyjacking this post.
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I have been here lurking, still plan on doing it in November. It's been about a month since I first decided to quit hairclub. I know all you guys say why wait, just do it! and that no one cares about it as much as I do. I agree 100% with you and that's why I need time to come to terms with it. my plan may seem silly to some of you. But it is my way of easing into this. I have been to In twice since my first post. Both times have had my hair cut shorter and my rug thinned out to ease me into being bald. ( I use the brand name hairclub but I actually go to a independently owned hair place that is very customer friendly and embraces the fact that I am quitting in a few months) So bare with me I will not disappoint you and back out. By reading a lot of posts I have accepted the fact that most people know about my hair or assume somethings up. I have realized that my fake hair is a security blanket for me. I now understand why guys with bad comb overs keep them...
I have three visits left. I know i will be ready then.
Thank you all for your support . I check in ever couple of days to see what's new.
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Only you know when the time is right, so do it when you feel you are ready. My advice would be to do it sooner -- you can save yourself a couple of months of agonizing over it if you get it over with. Not trying to pressure you, but most of us, after finally doing the deed wish we'd done it sooner. Just some food for thought but ultimately you have to go for it when you think the time is right.
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Good luck...Over the weekend I told my closest friends about the decision and they were all very supportive. You will be fine and the key is you made the right decision. No one I have told so far has said "Why would you do such a thing?" they have all basically said "Good for you".
My wife has started to tell some of her family and they all said they had no idea I wore a "system" and that it was no big deal to get rid of it.
Tomorrow is the day for me...your day will be here before you know it.
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Congradul;ations KW and JP on your decision to go sly. I am sure that You both will like the new look. I look forward to seeing a picture of both of you after You go sly. You probably will wish that You had done it sooner. I did.
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Awesome post Steve.
Good luck KW. I will be thinking of You and know that you will be pleased with your decision.
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What happened? did you quit? Fill us in. Hope you were able to quit and post a new pic of your perfect new dome.
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The bald eagle has landed...got buzzed down on Tuesday evening...
Been off work since. Went golfing, been to the pool, running errands, hanging with the kids, etc.
Feels great. Been buzzing down with a wet/dry razor. My kids love the look. Everyone has been very positive. Will get a picture up in the next couple days
Go back to work Monday. Thanks for all the support...have to run...
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Great to hear you did it and that you've gotten a good reaction. Don't worry about going back to work Monday. You'll probably be a little nervous, but it go just fine. Within a short time, everyone will adjust to your new look. My assistant told me the other day that she can't really picture me with hair anymore (after about 10 weeks)!
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I went from hair to no hair over a weekend. Just got tired of feeling self concious about my thinning on top.
At first I cut it way down really short with clippers but within a half hour I just cut it all off. I then used my electric razor but since then I have bought the head blade and use it every couple of days when I shave my face.
I couldn't be happier.
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Nice one! Being SLY is awesome :)
I was terrified going in to work the first time, but it was one of the best experiences ever! (Someone on here helped a lot, saying that it's interesting how people react... so I took that and became interested in peoples reactions, as opposed to clinging to every word they said!)
But what made it so good is that I've never had so many compliments in my life! :))) .... mind you, I've never had a "cool" hair style before! (Bald, goatee and shades = cool!)
Hmm... I'm waffling a little...
In a nut shell... You'll love the response at work!
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So it has been almost a week...
My friends/family all like the look. I have heard that I wear it well. I have even gotten a few comments like, "I didn't know if it would look OK but it looks good". That makes me feel great. Not one person has said, "You look terrible, what made you do that?".
It feels amazing and more importantly I feel like I am being the real me. That is liberating. It is so easy to maintain. Best decision I could have made. I wish I would have done it sooner, but I also know that the time wasn't right until I actually did the deed. Can't second guess the past...
Today is the first day back in the office. Like I said I only gave my boss and my direct report the heads up. I have run into a couple people and they just asked if this was my new look. They said I looked younger and that they liked it. Will feel more comfortable once more people have seen the new look...
THANK YOU ALL...
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This is where we tell you "We told you so!" ;D
Now how about a picture of the new young looking you? :/O
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Way to go KW!
Welcome to the rest of YOUR life......
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Welcome to freedom from the tyranny of hair!
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KW, it sounds like all went well and you're loving it. Like saint said; "we told ya' so".
Enjoy your new found freedom!
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Great news KW. I am glad that You did it. I knew that You would like it.
Enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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KW - glad you're enjoying the new look! Hope everything went well on your first days back at work with the sly look.
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Third day back at work. Gotten a number of compliments...which is nice. Keep being told I look younger (I am 39) and it is good look. My wife posted a couple pictures on her Facebook page last week and all the responses were positive. The only negative response was when I dropped my son off at daycare and his teacher (in her early 20s) said "Why would you do that?". My son (4) answered her "because he wanted to". That cracked me up. His little friends all liked my bald head.
Most people don't ask "Why did you do that?". If someone does then I tell them that my hair was thinning and going grey (which is true) and they move on...
I am not ashamed to be bald, it feels great. I am more embarrassed that I wore a "system", but you live and you learn.
Each day I am less self conscious. My wife has said she has gotten used to the new me and she likes it.
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I will get a picture posted in the near future...
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Gotten a number of compliments...which is nice. Keep being told I look younger (I am 39) and it is good look.
And it's even nicer because I and a lot of the guys here will support this, the compliments just keep coming--really. O0
And the added benefit for your son in the event that the genetics bring mpb to him, he has a great example now about how to deal with it--the way his Dad did! Good going.
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I am not ashamed to be bald, it feels great. I am more embarrassed that I wore a "system", but you live and you learn.
Each day I am less self conscious. My wife has said she has gotten used to the new me and she likes it.
KW: that was the hardest part for me was being embarrassed that I had worn a system for so long. I know how happy and relieved you are. I officially welcome you to the "the former system wearers club!". It is GREAT!
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The self-consciousness fades with time. You've also got good support because your wife likes the look. My wife has been great about my sly look and that helped the self-consciousness go away pretty quickly.
You'll also find that people at work will adjust very quickly. My assistant commented the other day that she has a hard time picturing me with hair. We've been working together for years and I've only been sly for three months!
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Congratulations KW .... Great decision.
Andrew
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Great news KW. Glad to hear it. Looking forward to seeing a picture.
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Hi,
Its been a little over a month since i started the thread. I am still set for my November system removal and head shave. When i set the date i was still a little nervous but ever day that passes i get more and more excited to do the deed. i cant wait to be free!!!.
I have told some family members of my plans and they are all supportive. Work still scares me ( I work in a factory, my coworkers are a bit less than polite) I wore a baseball hat to work for the first time ever today. i wanted to test the waters to see how my coworkers would act. You would think me wearing a hat was the only thing happening in these peoples lives. I received good and bad responses from most people i interact with. Based on their reaction just wearing a hat I know they are going to break my Balls when i show up sly. But it was a good expierence none the less.
Going in with a shaved head is not my concern. Its the taking off the system and owning up to the lye that i have been living that scares me.
if anyone has new going back to work without hair system and sly stories would love to hear them.
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It has been a little over 2 weeks since I got rid of the system...
I work in a building with roughly 1000 employees. I am a Director of Labor Relations so part of my job is meeting with employees/management on a regular basis. I have worked at my company for nearly 10 years and had a system the entire time. I gave 4 people a heads up and told them the real story. They were were all supportive and told me they had no idea I wore a system. I took 3 days off after the system was removed and shaved it down. Been back to work for almost 2 full weeks...
I have gotten several positive comments and 9/10 people never ask me about it. They just say something like "nice new haircut", "you look younger", "I like the new look", etc. Only had 2 people ask, "Why did you do that?". They were more concerned that I might have cancer. I told them that my hair was thinning and going grey and that I decided to shave my head (which is the truth). After that there were no more follow ups and back to the usual conversation topics.
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At the end of the day if you are comfortable with yourself others will be comfortable around you. If you act like it is no big deal, they won't make a big deal about your haircut. This sounds so simple but it is the truth. I wish I realized this 20 years ago instead of 2 months ago, but I figured it out. It is easy to maintain, looks fine, saves money and gives you peace of mind that you are not carrying around a secret. There is no downside...
Every day is easier than the previous one. My friends and family have been great and most of them like my new look. I was more nervous about work but after the first couple days it is no big deal.
It is the right decision. Good luck.
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I have been bald for a week now. Never had a system. Most people didn't think I had a big problem with thining/receding because of the way I tried to comb my hair. I could see how bad it was really getting and it was causing internal conflict so I went for the gusto and shaved it off.
Going back to work was stressful for me too but I had over 90% really good reactions and everyone was telling me it is a great look. Makes me think I must have been ugly with hair. If you read my post [1st 7 days - As told from within my head for your entertainment], you will realize you were not alone in feeling self conscious and realize how great you feel. I hope our stories can help more people.
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Im currently a hc memeber on the executive program. When I mentioned quitting they told me I couldn't even though when I began they told me I could if I wasn't happy. They also stated I could upgrade or downgrade anytime. Well, it appears as though that was a lie too because when I tried to downgrade to their cheapest program they told ne I couldn't because it'd screw up their ordering process. I told them I didn't wanna wear their hair anymore so id just pay for the program and they insisted that since I was on such a high program that I couldn't downgrade to anything lower than a platinum program. Is there any loophole or way around this? I mean I called the 800 number and they are clueless about the contracts. They just said they thought it was bs that they wouldn't work with me and they gave me a number to rich narcisi who's supposed to be head of sales and services in the northern region. I've tried for weeks and all I get is a msg saying he's unavailable. Is there anything I can do? Id rather be happy and bald than broke and miserable with a full head of hair.
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As I said in your other post, just stop paying. If you didn't sign a contract, there's not a damned thing they can do about it.