Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: Bolohead on May 12, 2011, 11:07:58 AM
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My wife and I just returned from our local Walmart, and I was disturbed by a comment from an employee there. She made the comment with my wife present, "You need to grow your hair back, you would look better". I just fired off a complaint, simply because what if my bald head was not by choice of me shaving, but through getting chemotherapy treatment for cancer or another medically related issue that I had no control over.
I suppose it would be differant if a personal friend had met me while shopping, but then I could just fire back on him/her about the way they look. But because my wife was present, I was nice and just laughed it off. But my wife then commented that, "See other people don't like it either" and more debate was in store while shopping.
It pisses me off that a store employee had the balls to try and belittle, or even make a comment about her dislike for my shaved head.
Maybe I'm over reacting, but I feel the comment was not needed, and if their employee's can not say something good about their customers, then keep their fricken mouths shut.
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You are not over-reacting, and wife or not, I'd have calmly said "Could you ask your manager to step this way, please?" And then explained it with the employee standing right there.
No one should have the nerve to fire off a personal comment like that, let along an employee to a customer.
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I wouldn't let a random Wal-mart employee's opinion bug you...you should have asked her what aisle you can find some HeadSlick on?
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I wouldn't let a random Wal-mart employee's opinion bug you...you should have asked her what aisle you can find some HeadSlick on?
:*)) I only wish they carried it, but I did have a can of Fusion that I was buying just for shaving my head with. I am waiting to hear back from Walmart though, and if I don't get an email back from them, I will see the store manager ASAP.
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I wonder how the WM employee would have reacted or felt if you replied "You should loose some weight, you would look better". I'm sure those would be fighting or crying words. (I only use the example of loose weight because most of us, me included, could stand to shed a few pounds.)
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Try this one....."I can always wear a hat, but you have to live with that face for the rest of your life" ;D....Besides, have you ever seen those "People of Walmart" emails? Pretty scary stuff!
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Face it, people shop at Wal-Mart because it's cheap, and with that type of comment it's obvious that poor taste costs no more. But, somehow I don't think that's the customer approach that made Sam Walton and his family rich.
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You should have told her taht her ass didn't look THAT fat under her sexy blue WalMArt shirt.
What a dumb ass............
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Still no comment back from WM concerning my complaint O:O makes one wonder.
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Every Wal-Mart has it's low class,no respect for the customer,chip on their shoulder employees.This is not to say that many of them are not good hearted people also.I am sure Wal-Mart also employs a few Sly Guys too!Bottom line,Don't let one negative store associate ruin your day.There will come a day when they will say the wrong thing to the wrong person and get their sorry behind fired or kicked! :x!
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Bummer. Not the a rude comment from a Wal*Mart should get under our skin, but it's still a bummer. If I was a store manager, I'd want to know about it so I could have a conversation with the employee about professional behavior. But I wouldn't waste a lot of time or emotional energy over it.
More interesting is your wife's dislike of your slyness. How are you working that out? Obviously you want to be pleasing and attractive to her, but you also want to like the way you look personally and feel good about yourself. (And, for what very little it's worth, I think sly looks good on ya.)
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For what walmart pays their employees it shows
what ignorance they get
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You are not over-reacting, and wife or not, I'd have calmly said "Could you ask your manager to step this way, please?" And then explained it with the employee standing right there.
No one should have the nerve to fire off a personal comment like that, let along an employee to a customer.
Perfect response! I think handling it this way would be more satisfying than getting down to the ignoramus' level and trading barbs. That seems to be a battle of wits with an unarmed woman.
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Should have told her that, her BLEACH blonde hair not look good on her and made her look like a cheap hooker. She is skinny as a rail, and looks like she's been using the meth to much. :*))
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The wonderful world of walmart, where everyone that works there speaks in poor broken english or is pure unadulterated whisky tango ( white trash )
It warms the heart.
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I'm so pleased that we don't have Walmart here in the UK!
I guess with the intelligence and charm she displayed, her Walmart job may well be a career high!
It never ceases to amaze me how dumb some people can be - not only to say what she said, but to even be so wrong in her thinking in the first place!
I think I speak for all of us here... you look cool sly :)
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I'm so pleased that we don't have Walmart here in the UK!
I guess with the intelligence and charm she displayed, her Walmart job may well be a career high!
It never ceases to amaze me how dumb some people can be - not only to say what she said, but to even be so wrong in her thinking in the first place!
I think I speak for all of us here... you look cool sly :)
You DO have Walmart in the UK. It goes by the name of ASDA! Here's the lowdown on ASDA on Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ASDA
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Still no comment back from WM concerning my complaint O:O makes one wonder.
Honestly, this isn't worth your time or energy. The employee was out of line, to be sure, but who cares what she thinks? I probably wouldn't have even bothered to file a complaint about it.
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She shouldn't have said what she said, but I wouldn't sweat the small stuff. No matter what you do people are gonna have different preferences. You could have brown hair, they like blonde, you have short hair they like long, or even you have hair they like bald. ;D I always figured if only 1 out of 3 people like bald and theres 6 billion people in this world, were doing pretty good with 2 billion people.
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Honestly, this isn't worth your time or energy. The employee was out of line, to be sure, but who cares what she thinks? I probably wouldn't have even bothered to file a complaint about it.
It's as expected, and your right it's not worth no worries. But I thought it worthy to report this to my fellow SBG Brethren here, to let you know anyway.
Arty Chris, thanks for the comp there buddy O0
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lost my hair doing chemotherapy 7 years ago.
i took loosing my hair as a part of it.
it has never grown back right so i went sly.
wore a bandana for a few years until my eyebrows grew back.......
it good to be alive
bruce
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Hi Bruce,
Cancer survivor here as well. It's funny how going through that makes you realize how trivial hair is. Not that I had a full head of hair before chemo, but it was the catalyst for going sly. I like it better than the mess I had before, anyway. ;)
Welcome to SBG! O0
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I think most of us have had similar experiences . I would reply with a stern look saying . " I don't recall asking for your opinion". :x!
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I think most of us have had similar experiences . I would reply with a stern look saying . " I don't recall asking for your opinion". :x!
I was going to say, "Who the f**k asked you?" but your suggestion works, too. ;)
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Just goes to show, stupid is as stupid does. :/O
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1/3 of the people like me.
1/3 of the people dislike me.
1/3 of the people couldn't care one way or the other.
It's that last group that pisses me off the most.
My response? "And here I was just thinking how rude it would be to mention that you need liposuction and a boob job, go figure."
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Just thought I would give you all an update, on my complaint to Walmart.....
The employee that made the comment to me, has been fired and is no longer employed by Walmart.
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Glad to hear it. No one should be subjected to rudeness because of how he / she looks.
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YEAH!!!! job loss is what that employee deserved.
I have SO many things to say and will try to keep it short. I've owned my own company for years and my employee's all have had the "political correctness" and "behavior" classes to respect everyone on race/religion/disability etc. Being disabled myself, It is a HUGE p.p of mine to have anyone say something SO rude to me or anyone I know.
I think I would have done all of the following (and previously suggested).
First, said "Lets go have a discussion with your manager"then when we got to the manager I would have raised HELL!. I would not have filed a complaint, I would have demanded the employee be either fired or suspended that day- that moment. Yeah, it's not a big deal, but that person does not know if I am bbc or with illness or anything. They have NO RIGHT getting away with it. Sorry, but this is my soapbox.
As you might imagine, I get rude comments all the time because I'm in my chair. Sometimes, its kids looking and their mothers saying "Don't stare honey, it's rude". I then say to the parent Why not ask your child to ask why I use a chair, I can educate them".
Like I said, I could go on and on. Part of me really would want to say some of the smart a$$ comments you have all said, but anger sometimes gets the better of me...
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Wow. They got fired. Lost their livelihood. Possibly their family's only means of income.
And this makes you feel better...how?
I'm sorry, but after reading this thread again I'm kind of ashamed that I had anything to do with it in the first place. Makes me feel mean and petty.
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I for one don't feel sorry for them. Any business (doesn't matter that it's "just" Walmart) has to make sure that their employees treat customers with respect. If the employee chose not to, they chose to not have a job. If I were to make fun of one of our clients (a little different circumstances being in the Mental Health field) I would be fired on the spot.
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Hang on guy's, don't forget one thing.... A friend of mine is one of 30 assistant managers of a Walmart. I told him of this story and he said that Walmart has a very liberal policy regarding terminations. That would NEVER be cause for dismissal. the employee likely had a lengthy disciplinary file and this was the last straw. So don't feel bad for being the cause for his dismissal, "he had it coming" according to my friend.
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I get comments all the time from people I work with about how they liked me better with hair. I can take it as criticism and get all defensive about it, going so far as to take it to HR if I choose to, or I can take it in the spirit it was given. Some of it's just friendly ribbing. Some of it's because they honestly believe I'd look better with the hair that I do have.
I learned about a decade ago that what other people think of me is none of my damn business, it's theirs. If I've got a problem with what other people think of me...that's exactly what it is. MY problem. I do have to pay attention to what my employers think, but I give them that power in return for a paycheck. Other people, none of my damn business.
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In this economy I would hate to be the cause of someone losing their job.
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I work for a company that takes a very dim veiw of harrassment however slight, ribbing or not keep you mouth shut. I'm not thin skinned, but this caused argument between my wife and myself concerning the head shaving. My wife would rather see hair, and this caused her to flex her opinion right there in Walmart. So I flexed back, the employee should have kept her pie hole shut.
Walmart chooses to flex its liberal termination policy, as I know I used to work for them and saw employee's axed for the stupidist things on the first time offense. One employee was out on a 90 day medical, and was terminated when she did not return on her 90th day. She returned on the day after which was day 91 and was told that she had been terminated, but if she wanted her job back that she held for over 12 yrs, she could be re-hired at the now starting wage for her job which was far less than what she had been making.
I don't feel sorry for the employee loosing her job over her comment, as harrassment being it ribbing or serious is a problem no matter by employee to employee, or employee to customer.
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I agree with a few the posts bro, don't sweat it. Kneeing me I would have told her to leave her crack pipe at home after reading your description of her.
Remember to not sweat the small stuff and it's all small stuff. You look great man and cannot really change that, much like narrow minded people cannot change their outlook. Peace.