Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: baldmandan on April 24, 2011, 03:52:03 PM
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I was just told that I look a bit like a "skinhead," too "severe" with a sly dome. Those are 2 things I really don't wanna be associated with! If a trusted friend told me that, what must others be thinking?
Dan
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Don't worry about what others think. Your head, your life. A good positive attitude will go a long way.
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Youre fine....it will pass.
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Smile more, and don't dress like a skinhead.
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People will get accostumed
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I wouldn't worry about there opinions...and that's all they are, if you take it literally than that's on you.
Move on and care about what people think about you when it matters, an issue like someones head isn't imperative in the grand scheme of things.
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If someone thinks you look like a skinhead because your head is shaved, I think that says far more about them than it does about you. They have either not noticed the increase in shaved heads over the past 10-15 years or they have noticed them and think all of those people are Nazis. :/O The opinions of people who are stupid enough to think that really shouldn't matter to anyone.
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I've heard that a few times. Doesn't bother me at all though. Don't let it get to you brother
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If someone thinks you look like a skinhead because your head is shaved, I think that says far more about them than it does about you. They have either not noticed the increase in shaved heads over the past 10-15 years or they have noticed them and think all of those people are Nazis. :/O The opinions of people who are stupid enough to think that really shouldn't matter to anyone.
Ditto! Well said, Razor, as usual. I have found that the personality that I project says more about me than shaving my head. If I act like a "skin" then I'll probably be treated like one. Don't forget that Gandhi was sly, also.
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I have to agree with everyone. How you carry yourself, and personality are what really shine through. Don't let the ignorance of others get you down. Easier said than done, but that is just something you have to work on. At the end of the day, what really matters is that YOU can look in the mirror and be happy with what you see. If you can do that, then the opinions of others should not matter so much.
Btw, I don't see how you look like a skin head. Does your friend think that everyone going through chemotherapy, or guys who have just naturally lost their hair look like skin heads as well? Unfortunately ignorance is abundant, please try not to let it bother you. The sly look suits you.
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If you're worried that you look like a skinhead or some other negative stereotype, then it may show on your face and give you that "severe" appearance (as a man thinks in his heart, so he becomes). If you're pleased with your appearance, then it'll show and people won't care/notice. It may take time to get totally comfortable with it and I think that's normal - however much time it takes is however much time it takes.
If you live in a place like Palmdale, CA or Fontana, CA where there have been issues with skinheads and white-supremacists (like probably dozens of other cities in the USA and even around the world), it could take time for people to realize you're not one of them however if you be you, then they'll know instinctively that you're one of the good guys. To be honest, this is where my parents struggle with my appearance - they grew up in Fontana, CA, formerly home to some KKK-nuts and some aryan nation weirdos so of course my appearance struck a negative chord; I grew up in the 80s and I couldn't stand those idiots, so I even struggled with my own appearance for a bit (oh no... someone will think I'm one of those people!). But once you know that your appearance doesn't define you - your behavior and your work ethic and your personal interests do - I think one can accept it more easily. So what defines you? For me, it's my faith, my family, my work and interests. Basically I'm a Christian, husband, father, businessman, skater, tennis player who just so happens to be bald (and shaved).
It's less of a burden when you think of yourself as who you are and not what others say you look like.
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Ya know, I live in Idaho and I've had the same reaction once or twice and I just shake my head and tell them, "When I start wearing a bomber jacket and Doc Marten's then you might have to worry."
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I live in NW Montana, and most of the time people see me in Islander T-Shirts or Aloha Style shirts. But I have never been accused of the Neo Nazi or Skinhead association thing.
Sometimes even your trusted friends will try and screw with your head, and if you let what they say bother you, suck it up and live by your standards and likes, and not theirs.
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I've gotten the," I THOUGHT YOU WERE 30!," comment, even though I'm 25. I use to get comments like that in high-school too. People thought I was 25 when infact I was 16...
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I was just told that I look a bit like a "skinhead," too "severe" with a sly dome. Those are 2 things I really don't wanna be associated with! If a trusted friend told me that, what must others be thinking?
Dan
Would someone who doesn't take the time to get to know you before passing judgement matter? I think your friends will judge you on your character after they have time to acclimate and know that you are comfortable with the look.
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I agree with all that has been said in the reply's.
(TOTALLY JOKING) you could find a black person as your new best friend and walk around with only them)
Yeah, that was bad, but <kinda> ha ha.
I have had two people say that to me in the 5 days' I've been sly. I remember what my grandma taught me years ago when they do.... maybe take her advice.
"The day you don't give a SH@# what others think of you is the day you become an adult".- Grandma Berg.
(her favorite word was SH@# so I don't consider it a swear word) :)
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Hey Baldmandan. Sounds like to me those folks who said that are jealous. O:O
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I remember lots of negative comments when I first shaved my head. Especially from those closest to me. But, as time went on, the look has grown on everybody I know. My sister was making fun of when I had "hair" recently. Even my mom (the one who hated it the worst at first) now thinks I look better bald. Because I do. ;D And people ALWAYS think I look younger than I am and that's getting to be a real plus.
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I got a few negative comments - more like "why would you want to shave your head?" But those were limited to the first few days. Now I'm far more likely to get compliments, including ones that say I look younger and more authoritative.
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I've gotten the," I THOUGHT YOU WERE 30!," comment, even though I'm 25. I use to get comments like that in high-school too. People thought I was 25 when infact I was 16...
On the other hand, they'll be saying you look 30 when you're 40, probably 45. When I was 13 I looked 30. I looked 30 when I was 45. Enjoy the consistency and remember not every one thinks that being 25 is a virtue. At thirty you're considered stabler, settled, more trustworthy. It may be slightly upsetting to you but take the benefits which far out weigh the one minor negative.
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Bro look up what the real skin heads are, nothing to be ashamed off. They were a working class. I too have been asked that question, I'm Mexican so going by the lame skin heads would be impossible since I have the wrong skin color. So their next question is usually if I am in a gang. My typical response puff my chest out and tell them Run mofo! ain't it amazing how ignorant people are?
We should have a tshirt made not a skinhead just super sly