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Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: qwert55 on April 01, 2011, 08:50:22 PM
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Really really depressed about life in general, and balding only adds to that. here a pic of my hairline from last year
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What can I do to help me look less like a dying cancer patient? REALLY f**king sucks balding this early in life! :'(
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You don't look like a dying cancer patient. The buzz cut suits you well and that is really all you can do. The rest is out of your hands. I know it's hard to accept, but allowing yourself to become depressed over something that you cannot change is not productive.
There are other guys in this group who are your age and dealing with MPB. I'm sure they can relate to what you're going through and help you through it. All I can say is, things do get better.
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Consider the possibility that you only feel bad about losing your hair because you've been told since birth that you should.
But think about it as objectively as you can: is it really causing any problems? Is it really anything to feel bad about? Is it really something that's actually important in life?
I started balding at your age as well -- and if you think things were different 30 years ago, they weren't. Except that there was no way to connect to a group like this one to help you give you perspective.
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The buzzcut looks better than shaved in some people, even if they only have sidehair left. You still got some hair on top so I'd say keep the buzz for now, it looks good.
For example Fred Durst looks good with some sidehair left:
http://cache.wists.com/thumbnails/0/cd/0cd3e2070408c954922fde58a18584d3-orig
I don't think I'll ever shave my head, I just like the #0 on clippers on sides better than clean shave. But that's just me.
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welcome and listen to the above comments. they're right.
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Your hair with the buzz cut looks really good.
I myself woudn't stress about it and bring me down. Just try to keep an upbeat positive attitude and focus on the things you can control that'll make you feel better.
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Can't improve on what's been written above.
Welcome, don't stress, and be happy.
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You sounds a lot like me when I first got here, so I know what you are going through. I remember the day my dad said "looks like your starting to recede." I was at my grandmas doing yard work with him. He is bald and has been since he was 20. Talk about a funny guy, I love my dad to death but that day I was a little upset with him. The idea of going bald at 18 years old was not for me. After months of being depressed and missing social events that I would have never missed if not for the insecurity of my hair, I found this site. Before that myself or anyone else had not thought of this idea. The great, supportive people here talked me through it and eventually I shaved it off. Now there are people out there that will give you sh*t, but that's just because they are extremely immature and probably have something they are insecure about. The people in your life that matter most will realize how much this means to you and will support you. The first 30 days are huge. When you are ready, whenever that may be, make sure you give it 30 days and go out and do everything you would do. Don't be scared of people's reaction because at the end of the day you are the only one that matters. Hit me up if you need advice or just want to talk.
Oh and if you are worried about the girls not liking it, I can give you about 30 reasons in the last 2 years of why that is no where near the case ;)
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Can anyone assess my hairline and tell me what norwood i am?
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It's hard to say because you don't seem to have any recession or slick bald spots yet, just thinning all over. You do seem to have lost quite a bit, though.
My suggestion is to buzz the sides down really tight - to at least a #1 or perhaps a zero, so that it's even or just a little shorter than the top. Having less hair on the sides will draw attention away from the top. Even though there will still be skin showing on top, your hair won't seem as thin because it's normal to see some scalp through hair that is cut really short.
Also, let the beard come in a little thicker, if possible. That will make everything seem more like a deliberate choice.
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I have a lot of recession... WTF are you looking at lol? Or maybe I am misinterpreting you?
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I don't see much, if any recession in that overhead shot. By that i mean I don't see the classic M shape or widow's peak with completely bald areas in the temporal regions like this guy has:
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Your hair seems to have thinned out fairly evenly across your scalp.
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Just my viewpoint but you have a great facial structure, great eyes etc. Hair is like an accessory for you. You do not need it to be hot and good looking. Take a clippers and buzz it down, at least on the sides. You must see many guys shaved or buzzed where you are ? I cant recall how many guys I saw out this weekend not too much older than you with heads buzzed down to stubble or shaved smooth. Plus about a third of them appeared to have not lost the ability to grow hair all over their heads and thick hair judging by the shadows. That tells you guys are seeking out being bald and welcome it, intentionally becoming bald and liking it just like another haircut. Become one of them and enjoy it.
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Can anyone assess my hairline and tell me what norwood i am?
Diffuse NW3. I feel so sorry for you that you have to worry about this sh*t even before you hit your 20's! It isn't easy even if you're 10 yrs older, I can assure you that. At least you got a good headshape and nice facial features!
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Diffuse NW3. I feel so sorry for you that you have to worry about this sh*t even before you hit your 20's! It isn't easy even if you're 10 yrs older, I can assure you that. At least you got a good headshape and nice facial features!
There's no need to feel sorry for him. Early onset MPB is not something that anybody wants to experience, but it's hardly the end of the world. I'm sure that, like most people, qwert55 will come to terms with it and go on to live a happy and productive life.
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There's no need to feel sorry for him. Early onset MPB is not something that anybody wants to experience, but it's hardly the end of the world. I'm sure that, like most people, qwert55 will come to terms with it and go on to live a happy and productive life.
You're clearly underestimating the effect of early MPB on a "not-alpha-male" person. It can be devastating even later than when your 20 yrs old. Cure for MPB would make someone very f**king rich let me tell you that... baldies would be queuing to get that the day it would come out.
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You're clearly underestimating the effect of early MPB on a "not-alpha-male" person. It can be devastating even later than when your 20 yrs old. Cure for MPB would make someone very f**king rich let me tell you that... baldies would be queuing to get that the day it would come out.
But there isn't a "cure". It's something that we have to learn to live with. Crying in one's beer about something that can't be changed isn't productive. And I daresay that even if there was a "cure", people who feel their lives are ruined by MPB would quickly find something else to be unhappy about.
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You're clearly underestimating the effect of early MPB on a "not-alpha-male" person. It can be devastating even later than when your 20 yrs old. Cure for MPB would make someone very f**king rich let me tell you that... baldies would be queuing to get that the day it would come out.
But there isn't a "cure". It's something that we have to learn to live with. Crying in one's beer about something that can't be changed isn't productive. And I daresay that even if there was a "cure", people who feel their lives are ruined by MPB would quickly find something else to be unhappy about.
Couldn't agree more. Life is too short and precious to let a physical trait get you down.
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Well... fortunately for you you're a good looking dude with a good looking head. There's no reason not to shave it. It will hide the thinning and you can stop worrying about things.
Your hair is pretty much past gone already. And it's fine! Time to accept it, embrace it, and move on.
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I have experienced balding at the same age as you and am now 40!
I admit that I would have had an easier ride this far through life if I didn't go bald but I now understand that all of my problems with balding were created in my own head. When I walk down the street and see other bald guys that are sly or buzzed I think gee, that looks cool but it is hard to think that way about yourself. If you keep yourself well groomed in whatever style you choose and live with your head held high then you don't have a problem.
If they "cured" baldness tomorrow I wouldn't rush out and get a full head of hair. There are other things I would improve about myself well ahead of hair.
The more you let it get to you, the more you'll regret letting it get to you later in life when you realise hair really isn't that important and you have wasted time and energy worrying instead of getting into life.
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I started losing mine at age 24..Got a rug put on at 25...It took me 10 years to take the stinkin thing off...Its been almost two years since I buzzed down..I prefer the buzz cut with no guard but, that's just me....YOU WILL BE FINE....
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Actually, you look more military regulation than cancer patient.
Nuthin' wrong with that.
Take a deep breath. Deal with the reality. Decide if you wanna continue to buzz it or start to wet shave it.
Take control of the situation.
Doesn't matter what Norwood you're at, doesn't matter what other people think. It's a matter of getting comfortable in your own skin.
Not the easiest thing to do at ANY age, but if you start now...it will get different.
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norwood 6
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Dude- you are a GREAT looking guy. You can leave your hair buzzed how it is now- it looks fine. When you start to lose more, then become sly! You have a great face for it, and it would definitley look good on you. Its only hair- you are lucky you have such a great looking face! Bald will suit you man!
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hey OP, im in the same exact boat as you. i remember you from a different forum.
just turned 19,diffuse thinning,and i have tried alot of crap to cure it. beta sitosterol,caffeine,alot of stuff. some worked but its too annoying to apply everyday.
anyway,right now i cut my hair really short on the sides and leave the top a bit longer. i did buzz it once but believe it or not i think i would prefer totally bald to a buzz.
I'm not gay but your a good looking guy,work on your confidence and be an alpha in your social group and you will go far.
try bulking up since you look to a have an ectomorphic body type, If you want any help just PM me to talk bout anything.
this balding thing makes like a weird bond between the people who have it.
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I thought Qwerty looks good with a buzz cut, didn't you?
Really suits you man, you look 'manly'- from a non gay point of view. Girls will lap that up!
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There's no need to feel sorry for him. Early onset MPB is not something that anybody wants to experience, but it's hardly the end of the world. I'm sure that, like most people, qwert55 will come to terms with it and go on to live a happy and productive life.
You're clearly underestimating the effect of early MPB on a "not-alpha-male" person. It can be devastating even later than when your 20 yrs old. Cure for MPB would make someone very f**king rich let me tell you that... baldies would be queuing to get that the day it would come out.
exactly good point
it really does mess with ur confidence and just is a big deal when ur a teenager and u lose most of ur hair or bad thinning
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There's no need to feel sorry for him. Early onset MPB is not something that anybody wants to experience, but it's hardly the end of the world. I'm sure that, like most people, qwert55 will come to terms with it and go on to live a happy and productive life.
You're clearly underestimating the effect of early MPB on a "not-alpha-male" person. It can be devastating even later than when your 20 yrs old. Cure for MPB would make someone very f**king rich let me tell you that... baldies would be queuing to get that the day it would come out.
exactly good point
it really does mess with ur confidence and just is a big deal when ur a teenager and u lose most of ur hair or bad thinning
Ya I'm not gonna lie it does mess with your confidence and is a big deal, im 19 right now. But if you step back and look at it its not healthy to fixate on something like this that really has no value in the grand scheme of life. An I fully agree with razor that if bald people got full hair that'd just be self conscious about something else, hell before I went bald I always wished I had darker skin seeing as I'm really white, I actually used to fixate on it and be envious of people born with darker skin. How ridiculous is that! As soon as you step back and see the greater picture and realize theres more to life to focus on than silly hair you will be much better off.
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whats the craic kid, im now 21 and have been seriously thinning from the age of 16, didnt have much left on top so i shaved it totally. its great now, seriously confident now and going to the gym helps with that. so just relax and just be you but with no hair, it will work out in the long run. hope it helps.
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Sly is Badass!
Shave it and hit the gym... Girls love it!
(as someone said before) I think that if you didnt have MPB you would probably be obsessed with something else..
Besides that, you are a really good looking guy! Be gratefull for what you have and you will soon realize you are rocking with your new look!
Cheers my friend
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I know exactly how you feel man. I started losing my hair when I was around 16, I am 19 now. I tried all sorts of things. Creams, pills, home remedies. None of it worked. Then I had insecurities about my head shape. Although I have gotten over my balding, I still have moments in which I think "****, I'm too young to be losing my hair". But then I think of the many people out there, that are missing an arm, a leg, or one of their senses. That's when I realize how fortunate I am. That the only thing I've lost is my hair. It may sound cheesy or stupid, but it's true man. Just hang in there bro, as Mr. Razor X said things will get better.
You don't look like a cancer patient man. As many of the guys suggested, hitting the gym will make you feel more confident. Good luck
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Square your shoulders and shave the hair. You only have to please yourself and it WILL make you feel better. Do it and don't look back. Who give a care what your friends think...they will make a few comments and then it is a nonevent. Do it now. You will feel soooooo much better when you do.