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Discussions About Being Bald => 30 Day Rule / Beginners Section => Topic started by: ecofriendly on October 21, 2010, 08:45:19 AM

Title: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: ecofriendly on October 21, 2010, 08:45:19 AM
Hey everyone,

I just shaved my head for the first time and I am feeling extremely self conscious. I am not sure if I made a mistake doing this and really cannot image facing the world right now with my bald head. I posted on this forum earlier this month about how I am starting a new job on the 25th and that the hiring manager was sly, but I really don't know if he will care very much for my head. I know my hair wasn't great before, but I could hide it half way decently with topix. Please let me know what you guys think and whether you think I should just work on growing it back.. Thanks for the input..

Sorry about the photo quality, all I had was my webcam available.

http://picasaweb.google.com/lh/photo/VaNEIPyGRYioQe04FKYhD6tMxufbsFpQBjNQb6VRrTk?feat=directlink

http://picasaweb.google.com/lh/photo/XtZ6kFpTqU7PINDr4x3DRKtMxufbsFpQBjNQb6VRrTk?feat=directlink

http://picasaweb.google.com/lh/photo/F571AAq3a9IwlSjbNcARo6tMxufbsFpQBjNQb6VRrTk?feat=directlink
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: marty22 on October 21, 2010, 08:52:42 AM
great change,,,,,,welcome!
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Sly Red on October 21, 2010, 09:59:45 AM
1000% improvement.  Keep it Sly.  You'll get used to it.  Shave everyday for 30 days.

Red
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: ozzie on October 21, 2010, 10:39:53 AM
Wow! I have to echo what SimplyRed said. You look SO much better, mate. Well done!  O0
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Arnie on October 21, 2010, 11:55:24 AM
Looks great Bro...you rock the SLY look!!! O0 8)
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: The Noggin on October 21, 2010, 01:07:43 PM
You're looking good sly, but you have to get used to your new look, that's what the 30 days are for. For many, it doesn't even take that long. Keep it sly - it's worth it. 8)
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: MikeBrke on October 21, 2010, 02:50:02 PM
It looks good and completely normal on you.  Be thankful you look great with a sly dome!
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: matt79alpine on October 21, 2010, 03:29:49 PM
Looks alot better! and welcome  O0
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: wpruitt on October 21, 2010, 04:38:30 PM
A definite improvement !
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Magoo on October 21, 2010, 05:45:39 PM
It looks so much better than the before pic. It takes a while for you and others to get use to the new look. Give it the 30 days before you decide what you like, I think sly will win out. O0
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: reb123161 on October 21, 2010, 06:11:15 PM
I am prejudice, but....SLY is the way for you--in my opinion.  My opinion, as my X wife says, is stupid....My X wife, in my opinion, is STUPID.  Dude, you really look much better SLY.  Life is s-h-o-r-t.....do what you want and BE HAPPY!  SLY!!
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Redgrave101 on October 21, 2010, 06:22:53 PM
to be blunt, its one hell of an improvement! you suit it well and you will realise this for yourself soon im sure..

Best of luck with the interview!!!
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: gebodragon on October 21, 2010, 07:11:22 PM
It looks really good on you!  As someone who is fairly new to being sly, I can tell you that it took me probably two to three weeks of the first month to get totally used to the new look. 

It's a significant change, but trust me, you are more uncomfortable about it than anyone else in your life probably is.

Keep it up for a month and you'll grow to love it unequivocally.
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: balddaniel on October 21, 2010, 07:14:15 PM
I agree with the guys it looks awesome.  You should have taken the plunge long agao.
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: timetobeme on October 21, 2010, 08:09:17 PM
No comparison...enjoy the sly life
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: chgobuzzbald on October 21, 2010, 11:11:59 PM
How nice that you will have a sly boss at the new job. He should support you for sure. You look great this way. How does it feel to you to have a smooth head ?
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: ecofriendly on October 22, 2010, 08:30:40 AM
Thank you to everyone that responded I really appreciate your positive responses... I really don't know what it is, but I'm just kind of insecure and your comments really help..  I think in the last day I have started to accept my new haircut a little more, but I am yet to go out without tossing the hat on.. However, I think that is more out of habit because I did that before shaving.. I really think that I might go out and try walking around a bit today to get the feel for it..  Once again thank you for the comments..

Also, I am going out with this girl I met a few weeks ago this weekend. I have gone out with her 2 times before, but I have never made any comments or indications to her that I was going to shave my head. I really like her so when we have talked on the phone I have been reluctant to mention it. I think my hesitation is some sort of defense mechanism but I am just nervous that sudden change might offend her. I know that this is kind of a specific situation, but anyone that has experience with this or advice it is def. welcomed.

Once again thanks to everyone who responded...

Figured I should put a picture up of me smiling..

http://picasaweb.google.com/lh/photo/5UknSJfFf-Z0jldXv1m-d6tMxufbsFpQBjNQb6VRrTk?feat=directlink
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Sgt. Pate on October 22, 2010, 05:52:09 PM
Bro, you look way better and totally rock the Sly look!   O0
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: zetaeffe on October 22, 2010, 06:47:23 PM
No need to worry, you look GREAT shaved!!  O0
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Razor X on October 22, 2010, 07:41:24 PM
Thank you to everyone that responded I really appreciate your positive responses... I really don't know what it is, but I'm just kind of insecure and your comments really help..  I think in the last day I have started to accept my new haircut a little more, but I am yet to go out without tossing the hat on..

Nobody should go around with a hairline like the one you had -- which was pretty close to what I had when I started shaving.  It's a no-brainer.  You look great in the after pics.  It's normal to feel a bit self-conscious in the beginning.  Force yourself to go out without a hat -- do it amongst strangers at first, in a shopping mall or something.  It's a little easier around people who know you no other way.  That will boost your confidence a bit and then you can try going hatless around people you know.  Don't keep hiding under a hat or you'll never get past the insecurities.  Besides, a great looking dome like yours deserves to be shown off proudly.
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: marty22 on October 22, 2010, 08:21:39 PM
I agree with Razor above.
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Magoo on October 23, 2010, 01:24:21 PM
When I first shaved I also was reluctant to go without a hat.You just have to bite the bullet and go out with out any. Now I don't like to even wear a hat ,except for cold or very hot sun.
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Jemig on October 23, 2010, 04:24:01 PM
It does look good (much better then on the 'before'  pic.

I wouldn't worry to much about the interview. People who don't know you (or not that well), probably won't even notice.
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Noodles on October 24, 2010, 09:36:00 PM
Majority Rules!!

I agree totally!!

I think it looks great! 100% IMPROVEMENT !!

Watch Tyler's 30 Day Rule Video!!

DON'T second guess your decision to go SLY!!

You owe it to yourself to let your new look "grow" on you!!

In 30 days, you'll wonder why you waited so long to go SLY.

- Cap'n Noodles -
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on October 25, 2010, 06:52:29 AM
Looks great.  Frankly you did need a hat before to cover that up before, but no need to do so now--you look 100% better.
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Jack21 on October 25, 2010, 10:55:20 AM
Bro, I'm in the same boat. I'm a noob. First day at work with the shaved head. I'm getting through day one. It isn't fun but the sky hasn't fallen on my head either. You look substantially better with your head shaved.

Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: ecofriendly on October 26, 2010, 04:15:49 AM
Thanks everyone for the comments.. I am still having a little bit of trouble keeping the confidence up, but coming here and reading your posts makes it a little easier. Sometimes I wonder if everyone is just being nice. I went on a couple other hairloss sites and everything they say about white people shaving their heads are kind of grim so it is sometimes difficult to believe everything I read but I am going to keep shaving for 30 days and see how I feel. I really want to deal with this situation like a man and not let this hair loss affect me. You guys are a huge help and I thank everyone who has responded...

Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Sgt. Pate on October 26, 2010, 10:06:20 PM
Sometimes I wonder if everyone is just being nice.


Nice?  This bunch?   :*))
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: junglephone on October 27, 2010, 05:17:42 AM
No question, SLY looks WAY better on you. Now start owning this thing! Don't try to second-guess what others think. BIG waste of energy. Instead, use some creative visualization and 'see' yourself as a confident guy who feels better, looks better, and will succeed at what concerns him most. Rock the SLY bro. It's working!
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Jason66 on October 28, 2010, 08:51:15 AM
This is probably too late... but 1st, you look 10 times better shaved. 2nd, I knw it's not the same but... MANY times I had been in those situation where I met a girl having a hat on and things escalated into more. Scared Sh%%. A lot of times already at no turning back stage. I always made a joke of it, took the had off and asked her to scratch my smaller bald head (hey ,, I said it was a joke).. took off hat and put her hand on top of my head. Or told them it was time to shave my head, and asked then to do it for me... Again, these issues only came up when I actually met them wearing a hat and ended up going fast. Mostly bars/clubs. BUT all the hair issues were IN my head, not ON my head. None ever care.... Besides that, for you, it's an improvement, So I think she'll like you better now.... The smile is a little weird...  :D.. KIDDING...  Good luck bro... You look fine..! ( PS, I'm married now so don't have those issues any longer JUST others.. :px)
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: ecofriendly on October 29, 2010, 03:57:01 AM
Hey all, thank you so much for the comments.. Today is going to be the first day that I am on my floor with my new coworkers so I am a little nervous about how they will respond to me.. I am excited and hoping for the best. I will let you know how it goes. Take care..

Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on October 29, 2010, 06:57:09 AM
Then these people will never know you except as a sly guy, relax.  You may have sly co-workers too.  Enjoy.
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: Papa Don on October 29, 2010, 11:34:17 AM
Eco, you deffently have it going on.  BIG inprovement
Title: Re: Just took the dive, now in need of encouragement
Post by: erutan on October 29, 2010, 02:09:14 PM
It looks awesome, bro.  MUCH better!