Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: Mrnemo on September 06, 2010, 10:08:44 PM
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Hey guys the subject says it all. Has anyone else had to deal with negative comments? I have been shaving it down with no guard for a couple of months. At first she said liked me betterwith hair but didn't make a big deal about it which is fine shes entitled to her opinion. The last two weeks though she's brought it up three or four times and has gotten insulting. I think next times she brings it up I'll tell her to lose 20 pounds then I'll grow it back.
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Time for a new GF.
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Time for a new GF.
Yeah, what he sez!
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Time for a new GF.
Yeah, what he sez!
Agreeing with these guys. I was constantly told by an ex a few months ago how bald is ugly and how I look SO much better with hair. Being only 18 I didn't want to tell her that it was because I was going bald, I just told her I liked the look. Its not exactly the perfect things to tell someone already struggling with issues from being bald. I'll tell you this since not being around her and being her positive people who either tell me I look good or don't act like being bald is a big issue, ive gotten to like being sly. Negative comments definetly stick with us longer than the positive ones... so whats the point of being with someone that doesnt like you for who you are?
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I'll tell her to lose 20 pounds then I'll grow it back.
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Does she ask your permission before she gets a new hairstyle at the salon?
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The last two weeks though she's brought it up three or four times and has gotten insulting. I think next times she brings it up I'll tell her to lose 20 pounds then I'll grow it back.
Sounds to me like it's already over and the two of you just can't figure out how to tell one another. She's being insulting, you're thinking of ways to insult her in return. Not good.
You don't have to have a knock down, drag out, drama filled fight to end a relationship.
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I agree with what has been said, just let her go, don't get all riled up about it and you be the big guy, leave without insulting her, it will make you feel better. There are plenty of other women out there that you can go with, and if you do get another gf, you will get her with a good attitude and not the feeling that you are with the her because you had to. Be proud of your bald look, you have the confidence, There are plenty of women who love the look. Good luck.
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Thanks guys I know it's time to break it off I was just wondering if anyone else has been through this. The weight remark was my attempt at a bad joke. Thus far I have taken the high road. Slyway or the highway
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My wife won't let me grow hair anymore. She more or less requires me to keep my head shaven bald. My wife will nag me to shave my head. I guess she really like how it looks on me, plus she always rubs my bald head.
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I can't handle nagging. She'd have to go! :x!
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rcg that is awesome. Mr ambassador I told her I like her longer she does look better then pics I have seen short. That being said if it is getting thin and looks like straw by all means cut it. If she did cut it I might say I like it better long but wouldn't keep putting her down about it. Her reasoning is since I am not completley bald(think Bruce willis in the 80's) I should keep it. In my opinion not a good look. Anyway whatever happened to supporting your partner. Thanks guys
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Tell her to lose 20 pounds.
Say adios!, keep your head shaved the way you like, and find a new girlfriend. ;)
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now unlike these guys i would suggest if you love her. then tell her up front that you will continue to do what you like until you no longer like it.
If you no longer love her then after you tell her the above add if you don't like the new me you dont have to. either she can move out or you will.
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Hey guys the subject says it all. Has anyone else had to deal with negative comments? I have been shaving it down with no guard for a couple of months. At first she said liked me betterwith hair but didn't make a big deal about it which is fine shes entitled to her opinion. The last two weeks though she's brought it up three or four times and has gotten insulting. I think next times she brings it up I'll tell her to lose 20 pounds then I'll grow it back.
Negativity is the worst thing you can have in any relationship. Either lay your foot down, or move onto another woman.
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If your girl is like most others...you will need to lay it all out for her. Explain to her that you dont just like the look, but the way it makes you feel. Growing your hair out will affect you self esteem in a negative way, which will result in negativity dealing with everything around you (and you love her too much to let that happen O:O ). Make sure she knows you do value her opinion, but on this issue, your own opinion is the one you have to go by. If she doesnt eat that up, i dunno what to tell ya! :-\
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The question is, does she love YOU or just your hair??
If she loves YOU she'll love you whatever hairstyle you've got.
If she doesnt like the hairstyle, then she doesnt like YOU. It's a personal insult to you and that's the bottom line, hard as it is to accept... That's what I've always thought.
So kick her into touch and find someone who loves you for YOU and not your hair. 8)
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I guess I am lucky here. My wife just told me, after rubbing my head, "I love to a bald man's head." That's the girl you need to look for.
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My wife is very supportive. It sure helps when your significant other is on your side.
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I don't think the problem here is your haircut. I think the problem is that your girl is apparently oblivious or indifferent to what's going on with you (dealing with encroaching baldness), insensitive to your feelings, and controlling. And those issues aren't going to be restricted to your hair.
I'd consider the behavior a big fat engraved invitation to run for the hills myself.
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Sounds like it's time for her to "walk the plank".
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Today it's your hair.....what will she be on your back about tomorrow??....
I guess it really depends upon your feelings for this woman and if you think this is a relationship worth saving. (https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi90.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fk255%2Flacabrona82%2FGIF002.gif&hash=c6b493a5cce71118171a518084e760cbde7e6c73)
If it's worth saving, maybe a compromise needs to be reached - one that you both can live with, like....
She quits nagging you about shaving your head and you'll let her live!! (LOL)
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Try some honesty with her. Women find vulnerability attractive and admitting to her that shaving your head is your solution to the self esteem issue that is thinning hair SHOULD make her feel:
1) Closer to you. Since you are confiding your private fears about hair loss to her and no one else.
2) Sympathetic toward your situation. How would she feel if SHE had an unstoppable/unchangable/uncontrollable condition that altered her look? Wouldn't she expect you to love and support her no matter what?
3) Embarrassed for being so shallow. If she came home with a bad haircut, you'd be expected to be supportive. It's a two way street.
If, on the other hand, you are open and honest and she STILL has a problem with your choice of haircut, then she simply is not the girl for you. You are young and have lots of time and women in front of you. You deserve better than such shallow, superficial, judgmental treatment.
We all do.
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If she can insult you into growing your hair back, she can control your every move that she desires of you. Like the others have said, its time for a new GF or just be single. Another woman will come along that loves your dome, and you for who you are, not who they want to change you to be for them.
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What Rob said. If having hair is a make or break issue for her, then you should move on. Not worth it.
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I have to agree with pretty much everything above! (These guys are all very wise!)
Is a hairstyle more important than a person? If it is to her, then what does that say about her?
Anyway, she should value someone with a cool sly look! :)
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The last two weeks though she's brought it up three or four times and has gotten insulting. I think next times she brings it up I'll tell her to lose 20 pounds then I'll grow it back.
Sounds to me like it's already over and the two of you just can't figure out how to tell one another. She's being insulting, you're thinking of ways to insult her in return. Not good.
You don't have to have a knock down, drag out, drama filled fight to end a relationship.
Exactly. All you have to do is sit down with her in a public place (restaurant) and explain that "hey, I don't make you happy.....you don't make me happy, maybe it's time we went our separate ways". Don't forget to throw in a "you're beautiful, don't ever change" right before you excuse yourself to go to the men's room. At this point head out the back door and stick her with the bill.
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Question :/O. this thread has been dormant for more than 6 months. The original poster hasn't been back--why in heaven's name open up a dead issue?
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Question :/O. this thread has been dormant for more than 6 months. The original poster hasn't been back--why in heaven's name open up a dead issue?
Because the infinite wisdom of Sly knows no expiration date. ;)
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Not only that, this topic could show up in a Google search for someone searching for help on the same topic. I don't think there's any harm in adding insight to posts that are older. Once posted to the Internet, information never dies!
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Sort of like a package of Twinkies.
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YEAH ! git wit de program .