Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => 30 Day Rule / Beginners Section => Topic started by: berto on August 09, 2010, 01:32:48 PM
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First I want to introduce myself... I'm Berto...
So, when I was 19 I was in a rollerblading accident that banged up my face and scalp, due to this I had to shave my head because in the ER they shaved part of it to clean the wounds... anyway... I went home, grabbed my dad's clippers (he's shaved his head for a while since he had the horse shoe hair) and cleaned it all up.
When I got back to school (was in college at the time) everyone LOVED the look. I must admit, I kind of liked the attention I was getting, girls were noticing me WAY more, talking to me more and so on... people did have a slight intimidation of me, or at least it seemed that way and they either respected me more, or were scared to defy me. Don't know why since I'm the nicest guy in the world... I am smiling 99% of the time.
Fast forward to after graduation, I got a job in an office and figured it was time to grow my hair back... so I did. Now fast forward 8 years, my hair has been thinning and it's simply not the same as it was... you can clearly see my thin hair on top. I talked to my wife about shaving it again and she was not against it, so I did one day... and holy smokes, the reactions were not what I had in college. People were not positive at all. Family mostly... I quickly went back to my "normal" length hair.... It does irritate me a bit that I want to shave it but my family (wife's family) is so negative about it.
I said this summer I would do it again, but have not grown the balls.
Anyway... I guess part of me knows what you all will say... just do it for you and be confident, they'll come around. My wife, who is the only person who's opinion really matters to me, likes hair or no hair.
Here are the problems...
Me being silly during my honeymoon showing my wife my butt... that bald spot... kills me... it's not as clear without the flash, but the fact that it is there...
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fv208%2FNYFindingo%2FIMG_1448.jpg&hash=f08b19f346dae3e073fae0ae4880082a438422a3)
or here look at the receding line...
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fv208%2FNYFindingo%2FIMG_1533.jpg&hash=98a43012d28758518ae60b647d08d08a3bc48696)
Am I being silly for fighting it, or does my hair have "hope"...
That's what I look like shaved in my avatar...
Done and done... 30 day countdown starts today...
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fv208%2FNYFindingo%2Fphoto-2.jpg&hash=0fadf9ac50b7349ebc53a61c29de8150a57d3917)
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Fact 1, you can't fight it, you're genetically programed to be bald and you're at about a Norwood III, see: http://journals.cambridge.org/fulltext_content/ERM/ERM4_22/S1462399402005112sup002.htm
Fact 2. It's your head, no one elses. They don't live w/ it 24/7 you do.
Fact 3. Your wife isn't against it
Fact 4. You will be bald, whether that's a small b bald w/ a horseshoe, or sly bald, neat and clean is up to you. You will lose your hair, hair by hair by hair, or you can get it front, shave it down and gain some self respect and improve your appearance.
That's what it is, now, it's up to you. Shave it, be free.
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IMO you look much better and younger sly than with the thinning hair.
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Welcome ot the Forum Berto! If you liked it shaved why would you change it???? HMMM.............
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Welcome, brother. Sly is the way I'd go!! ;D
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Welcome to the forum, berto. You rock the sly look. O0
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Welcome to the forum, berto. You rock the sly look. O0
I agree. It fits you well. Sly 4 Good! O0
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Welcome to SBG! Berto!
Difficult to look at... Your wife's eyes eases the pain. Tell 'er they're pretty.
You look so happy in your avatar and kinda glum in the other (coincidentally). Why don't you let the other be your "before" pic, shave that off and lets see a new sly avatar "after" pic!
As long as you like it, that's what counts, being that your wife is ok with it, is a definite plus. The family issue, well, they'd have to like it or lump it IMO.
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Updated the OP... 30 days began today...
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Welcome Berto, give it 30 dys and maybe the wife will come around. If not in a few years you will want to shave for sure.
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Welcome! You look great sly - in my opinion better than before you shaved. If your wife is supportive then you're the luckiest guy on the planet.
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Updated the OP... 30 days began today...
Get outta here! That's what I'm talkin' 'bout. No bull sh#! with this one boys!
You onthefencers take notes on this, this is how you don't waste your time
with 50 posts of excuses!
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Updated the OP... 30 days began today...
Get outta here! That's what I'm talking 'bout. No bullS#! with this one boys!
You onthefencers take notes on this, this is how you don't waste your time with
50 posts of excuses!
RIGHT ON!! O0 O0
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Welcome aboard Berto, the Sly look really suits you! O0
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Big improvement. O0 Ignore the naysayers and stick with what you know is right. Shaving has pretty much become the norm for 20 and 30-somethings with MPB. It's rare to see a younger guy sporting a horseshoe and the ones who do are the ones who stick out.
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You look great sly!!! No looking back, you have found your perfection!
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Niiiiice. Take the ball and run with it!! The in-laws will come around.....give em time. Welcome aboard!
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Looks great m8....
....and isnt it traditional to have i "in law trouble" anyway?
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Way to go, enjoy the free life--looks great. If your mother-in-law has a sense of humor, then dig up a copy of Ernie K-Doe's "Mother in Law." Classic New Orleans R&B.
Here is the link:
http://s0.ilike.com/play#Ernie+K-Doe:Mother+In+Law:40244:s42644105.11196994.20222160.0.2.12%2Cstd_f79d3e93cbf6431e91396cefa665fab2
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Welcome to the forum Berto. You've made the right decision, no doubt. Stick with it, it gets better every day.
Enjoy the site, and the fresh, smooth dome! O0
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Welcome, Berto!
Great look. Please don't hesitate to ask us for support when you need it. 8)
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I agree with the guys you look awesome and your wife is beautiful.
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Lookin good: you found the right place! O0
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Thanks guys... day 3 I guess is today. Some people have not even made a comment... others are shocked. Have only seen one person that acted "strange" but so far so good... 27 days and counting. My head is cold... haha.
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Hey Berto, congrats on making the commitment! You look great 8) (No comparison to the old look) O:O
Unless people are very forward and/or outspoken, they probably won't say much; especially if you're around adults. This is a combination of respect, fear, and having enough on their minds that they don't see others in great detail.
However, young people generally say what's on their mind, or whatever comes to mind - good, bad, or indifferent. :o Besides, you rock the look, and most guys aren't going to compliment another guy. So chill, have a cold one, and enjoy the new you!! 8)
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You sure look great SLY BALD - - -Keep going and welcome
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Welcome! Sly is the way to go.
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Hi Berto,
I'm new here and not yet sly, but honestly, you look younger and much better sly. It really suits you and you do look friendly especially with no hair, You are smiling in that Photo and you are not in the other one ;)
I suppose the two most important people invoved (yourself and your wife) are cool with it, I say go for it. It'll take some time to adjust for folk, but in no time it'll be fine..
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Way to go my Sly Bro. As per the "in - Laws" simply and respectfully tell them if they don't like it then they can just put up with it. all that matters is you and your wife's judgment on it after all you two are the only ones putting up with it day to day. You So do Rock the Look.
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Looks good. I'd say keep it.