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Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: RuddyR on April 01, 2007, 06:49:50 PM
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Hi,
My names Ruddy and im a 22 year old college student. Id like to start off by saying that im pretty happy i found this forum. I wasnt really looking for one til about 20 min ago...mostly cause its a boring night, got tired of studying for my exams and all my roommates are home for the weekend, so i thought; "why not".
Heres my story. I think im balding! I started noticing a "thinning" look when i was a senior in high school. I didnt think much of it i guess. It was just a; "hmm, thats weird..oh well" kinda thing. But over the years, ive noticed that my hair has been thinning more and more, and the tell u guys the truth, its eating me up inside..pretty bad too. My family and friends know im losing my lush, theyre not stupid, but they never say anything about it. I feel like everytime i take off my baseball cap - which by the way i never leave the house without :-\ - i feel like everyones looking at my hair and thinking; "oh, Ruddy's balding," so i never take it off. When im on the bus, i always compare my hair to other guys' and try to accept the fact that "its okay". Sometimes i feel a little releived spotting a guy my age whos losing it too, makes me feel like im not the only one and maybe, just maybe, i could feel fine about it...but i never do. I just keep my hat on and pretend that its not happening to me...maybe it'll go away.
I buzzed my head once - lost a bet, long story - it felt pretty good, but i didnt look good. My heads got a weird shape and it made me feel even worst..soooo embarrassing. I always had long hair, ever since i can remember and the fact that i wont have any in a few years is killing me. Im so self-conscious about it. I dont talk about it with ANYONE. A couple of my buddies are in worst shape. Everyone knows theyre balding, but no one talks about it. They know im balding too, but again, not a word about it is said. I think its sort of an unspoken, hidden social club that we're all in. I look at his air, he looks at mine, we look at eachother for 2 seconds knowing we're thinking about the same thing and just move on. Im not really crying and complaining about all this. I know im balding, i know i'll be regularly shaving my head in a couple of years but i think im just dumbfounded that its happening. I also dont know how to deal with it..emotionally
I dont really know where im going with this, I kinda felt like opening up i guess...see what you experts would say. I lurked around before registering and thought; "hey, these guys are pretty cool". What do u guys think?
*brings in a smooth, cool case of beers for everyone*
CHEERS!
Ruddy!
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Ruddy - you've found the right place dude. There are a lot of guys here that have gone through the same thing you're going through. As one of them, I would have to recommend that you try shaving it for 30 days. This will help you feel liberated of your balding and make you feel in control of your hair. You will literally ask yourself, "why didn't I do this sooner?"
Glad you found us!
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What Tyler says is true dude. You'll wonder why you didn't do this sooner.
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Ruddy, WELCOME, bro!!
You'd be hard pressed to NOT find an answer to just about any bald- or balding-related question here.
Cheers!!
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thanks for the warm welcome fellaz!
but DUDE!
shave it off completely?! Id look totally different! I got long hair now! People are gonna be like; "man, what happened!" I dont think my self-esteem is ready for such a giant change. Further down the railroad for sure, but wow...haha sorry bro, not yet! Maybe in the summer (1 month away)
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Hi, Ruddy.
Hair loss can be a difficult thing to come to terms with. All any of us can do is try and look our best using what God gave us to work with. I think the first thing you need to do is accept the fact that a full head of hair is not something you're going to have to work with in the future. So you need to forget what you looked like when you had all your hair and concentrate on how to look your best with what you've got. That usually means buzzing your remaining hair very short or shaving it off completely.
Forget about your head shape. I think we all have a tendency to magnify our own flaws, which are not usually noticed by everyone else. Almost everyone who is about to shave his head is afraid that his head isn't the right shape for it. It's extremely rare that someone's head is so badly shaped that it doesn't look good shaved.
Almost everyone thinks, "Other people look great with shaved heads, but it won't look good on me". And it turns out to almost never be true. Most people worry about getting negative feedback, only to find that they get no reaction at all or they are bombarded with compliments.
It does take some time to get used to. Some people adjust more quickly than others. The first time I went to work with a shaved head, I was scared to death. I was OK around strangers, but it took a long time to feel comfortable around people I knew. And for a couple of years afterwards, every time I was about to meet someone I hadn't seen in a long time, who didn't know I'd shaved my head, the nervousness came back.
I thought about shaving my head for a couple of years before I finally got up the nerve to do it. I was getting obsessed with the idea but was too afraid to try it. Eventually I realized that I would know no peace until I gave it a try. When I did try it, I kind of liked it, but still wasn't sure that it was "me". But my choices were to either get used to having a shaved head or deal with a rapidly receding and unattractive hairline. I chose the former, and I am really glad that I did. You will be too. You'll know when you are ready. You won't regret it. Even if you don't like it, you can grow it back and at least you'll know that you gave it a shot.
Good luck!!
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Oh yeah, go ahead and do it dude. Man up. It's only hair.
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People are gonna be like; "man, what happened!"
That's what I thought, too but I actually got very little reaction of that sort. People either didn't react at all or they really liked it. I got more abuse from people when I grew my goatee than I got when I shaved my head.
It's scary facing the world the first time after shaving your head. But once you get through that first day, it's just an exhilarating feeling.
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Yeah man, shave it! Use clippers if you don't want to go to the skin, but either way, shave it.
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haha, oh man.
thanks Razor...i totally agree. But if i were to shave it off tonight per example, id feel really uncomfortable. I know i'll have to do it eventually. I think baby steps is the key idea here...talk to my buddies about the facts...joke around it a little maybe, get those awkward thoughts between me and my friends out of the way and then do it. I dont think theres gonna be that social shock of such a huge change.
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Yeah man, shave it! Use clippers if you don't want to go to the skin, but either way, shave it.
hahaha
ARGH! I DUNNO! Feels way too crazy. Its like driving a Kia and buying an M5 the next day. People are gonna be shocked! If im gonna decide to go for it, then its gonna happen this summer. I'll have a few friends around so they'll see it themselves and wont see a shaggy Ruddy on thursday and a bald one on friday.
People are gonna be like; "man, what happened!"
That's what I thought, too but I actually got very little reaction of that sort. People either didn't react at all or they really liked it. I got more abuse from people when I grew my goatee than I got when I shaved my head.
It's scary facing the world the first time after shaving your head. But once you get through that first day, it's just an exhilarating feeling.
Maybe its cause they secretly expected you and the rest of the fellas on here for that matter, to eventually shave it all off. If im gonna decide to go ahead and get it done, then i think im gonna need to get rid of that awkward "wanna talk about it?" feeling between the buddies and I.
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HHhhmmmmm....quoting yourself....that's a new one
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Taking it in baby steps can make a huge difference. Gradually go shorter, and when you get comfortable with one length, go a little shorter. Eventually by the time you get down to a #1 or less, it makes it a lot less scary to take the blade to your scalp, because you know you grow it out to your comfort level in a week or less.
I got down to using the clippers with no guard. Hadn't intended to go any further than that, but once I'd done it, I was so close, I just couldn't resist going completely smooth. I thought about it for a second or two and finally said, WTF and went for it. It's hard to describe what it's like to run your hand over your smooth bald head for the first time; it's simply an amazing feeling.
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thanks for the warm welcome fellaz!
but DUDE!
shave it off completely?! Id look totally different! I got long hair now! People are gonna be like; "man, what happened!" I dont think my self-esteem is ready for such a giant change. Further down the railroad for sure, but wow...haha sorry bro, not yet! Maybe in the summer (1 month away)
First, welcome Ruddy, you've definitely found the right place these guys offer a lot of support and great advice. If you check other threads you'll see we have several guys whose hair was long and they shaved. In fact, you could follow in their footsteps and donate your hair to a charity. That would help you to accept shaving it and give a good answer as to why you did.
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HHhhmmmmm....quoting yourself....that's a new one
oops, fixed it.
Taking it in baby steps can make a huge difference. Gradually go shorter, and when you get comfortable with one length, go a little shorter. Eventually by the time you get down to a #1 or less, it makes it a lot less scary to take the blade to your scalp, because you know you grow it out to your comfort level in a week or less.
I got down to using the clippers with no guard. Hadn't intended to go any further than that, but once I'd done it, I was so close, I just couldn't resist going completely smooth. I thought about it for a second or two and finally said, WTF and went for it. It's hard to describe what it's like to run your hand over your smooth bald head for the first time; it's simply an amazing feeling.
oh man, i know what you mean. That one time i buzzed my head i was like: "WOW", but youre right. Im gonna have to find my left nut somewhere 1st, put it on and just dive in. Might be a while tho, my rooms a mess ::) I'll even post a before/after picture for you guys O0
thanks for the warm welcome fellaz!
but DUDE!
shave it off completely?! Id look totally different! I got long hair now! People are gonna be like; "man, what happened!" I dont think my self-esteem is ready for such a giant change. Further down the railroad for sure, but wow...haha sorry bro, not yet! Maybe in the summer (1 month away)
First, welcome Ruddy, you've definitely found the right place these guys offer a lot of support and great advice. If you check other threads you'll see we have several guys whose hair was long and they shaved. In fact, you could follow in their footsteps and donate your hair to a charity. That would help you to accept shaving it and give a good answer as to why you did.
Ya im liking this place...glad i found it O0
That charity thing isnt a bad idea. What do i do? Just put all my hair in a bag and give it to them or should i go somewhere so they all do it for me?
But all in all, i think im being a little too immature about this. Might be a good thing? Maybe i wont be as afraid of "the blade" as i think i am now when the time comes.
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Welcome RuddyR. I'm probably just going to end up echoing what my other sly bros have said but I would shave it, or clip it if that makes you feel more comfortable for now, and give at least a month so the awkward period will pass. Because you will probably be a little shocked by it at first but it will pass given enough time. Good luck man. O0
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Welcome RuddyR. I'm probably just going to end up echoing what my other sly bros have said but I would shave it, or clip it if that makes you feel more comfortable for now, and give at least a month so the awkward period will pass. Because you will probably be a little shocked by it at first but it will pass given enough time. Good luck man. O0
thanks man :)
You'll be the first ones to know when it happens....
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Ruddy,
You'll never know till you try it! I wish I had done it years ago! O:O
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You can either raise money to shave it through St. Baldricks (http://www.stbaldricks.org (http://www.stbaldricks.org) or donate it to Wigs For Kids (http://wigsforkids.org/ (http://wigsforkids.org/)). If you're looking for an excuse to tell your friends why you shaved it, these are two great excuses. Also, it will get you sympathy points with the chicks! (You were all thinking it...LOL)
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I dont talk about it with ANYONE. A couple of my buddies are in worst shape. Everyone knows theyre balding, but no one talks about it. They know im balding too, but again, not a word about it is said. I think its sort of an unspoken, hidden social club that we're all in. I look at his hair, he looks at mine, we look at eachother for 2 seconds knowing we're thinking about the same thing and just move on.
welcome Ruddy....heres what ya do...gather up all your buddys that are balding in one place and TALK about it....just come right out and say it..."hey we're all going bald..what are we gonna do about it"...then ask them what they think about shaving their heads...if they say no..say "well i been thinking about it and i'm GONNA do it......anyone in on this?",explain to them that you dont want to take drugs or get transplants or try to hide it.... maybe a few will shave with ya ...also do the donate the hair thing...if someone asks you why you did it..you did it to donate for cancer research...win win situation...
i get anxiety also...it sucks..but let me tell you...its ALOT better now that i've shaved it off....i used to avoid any situation that i couldnt wear a hat ...and thats alot of things in life i've missed..stop it before it gets worst.
dont fall for the plugs and drugs and rugs....you dont want to look like this later in life...
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I dont talk about it with ANYONE. A couple of my buddies are in worst shape. Everyone knows theyre balding, but no one talks about it. They know im balding too, but again, not a word about it is said. I think its sort of an unspoken, hidden social club that we're all in. I look at his hair, he looks at mine, we look at eachother for 2 seconds knowing we're thinking about the same thing and just move on.
welcome Ruddy....heres what ya do...gather up all your buddys that are balding in one place and TALK about it....just come right out and say it..."hey we're all going bald..what are we gonna do about it"...then ask them what they think about shaving their heads...if they say no..say "well i been thinking about it and i'm GONNA do it......anyone in on this?",explain to them that you dont want to take drugs or get transplants or try to hide it.... maybe a few will shave with ya ...also do the donate the hair thing...if someone asks you why you did it..you did it to donate for cancer research...win win situation...
i get anxiety also...it sucks..but let me tell you...its ALOT better now that i've shaved it off....i used to avoid any situation that i couldnt wear a hat ...and thats alot of things in life i've missed..stop it before it gets worst.
dont fall for the plugs and drugs and rugs....you dont want to look like this later in life...
i actually thought about that. Its not a bad idea. I was thinking of sort of starting to admit that im balding jokingly, so at least that way, i dont seem like that super embarrassed bald guy who wears a hat with a suit type and eventually they'll jump on the boat. Might make it easier to brush the awkwardness away. Seems to me that its only a matter of someone breaking the ice first.
Thanks guys!
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Once you shave, you'll feel much more confident and realize it wasn't as big a deal as you thought it was. Part of the fun is showing people your new look! I strutted all over town the weekend after I shaved. O:O
Give it a shot!
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Your not being immature about the situation. Losing your hair is a tough thing to go through. The younger you are the harder it is on you. I take drugs right now and let me tell you it is not worth it. Except the fact that I tell myself I did what could be done to save my hair. But that only goes so far. I too am on the fence of buzzing my head and I gaurantee I have less hair than you do but I am 29. I didn't do it yet but am tired of obsessing about combing my hair a certain way and I don't want to take drugs anymore. I am with you on the being scared part. I will do it when I am ready.
One thing to do it get your hair cut shorter and shorter. It makes the transition a bit easier. Good luck
One other thing is that I always crack jokes about losing my hair and I don't hide under a hat, ever.
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Hi,
My names Ruddy and im a 22 year old college student. Id like to start off by saying that im pretty happy i found this forum. I wasnt really looking for one til about 20 min ago...mostly cause its a boring night, got tired of studying for my exams and all my roommates are home for the weekend, so i thought; "why not".
Heres my story. I think im balding! I started noticing a "thinning" look when i was a senior in high school. I didnt think much of it i guess. It was just a; "hmm, thats weird..oh well" kinda thing. But over the years, ive noticed that my hair has been thinning more and more, and the tell u guys the truth, its eating me up inside..pretty bad too. My family and friends know im losing my lush, theyre not stupid, but they never say anything about it. I feel like everytime i take off my baseball cap - which by the way i never leave the house without :-\ - i feel like everyones looking at my hair and thinking; "oh, Ruddy's balding," so i never take it off. When im on the bus, i always compare my hair to other guys' and try to accept the fact that "its okay". Sometimes i feel a little releived spotting a guy my age whos losing it too, makes me feel like im not the only one and maybe, just maybe, i could feel fine about it...but i never do. I just keep my hat on and pretend that its not happening to me...maybe it'll go away.
I buzzed my head once - lost a bet, long story - it felt pretty good, but i didnt look good. My heads got a weird shape and it made me feel even worst..soooo embarrassing. I always had long hair, ever since i can remember and the fact that i wont have any in a few years is killing me. Im so self-conscious about it. I dont talk about it with ANYONE. A couple of my buddies are in worst shape. Everyone knows theyre balding, but no one talks about it. They know im balding too, but again, not a word about it is said. I think its sort of an unspoken, hidden social club that we're all in. I look at his air, he looks at mine, we look at eachother for 2 seconds knowing we're thinking about the same thing and just move on. Im not really crying and complaining about all this. I know im balding, i know i'll be regularly shaving my head in a couple of years but i think im just dumbfounded that its happening. I also dont know how to deal with it..emotionally
I dont really know where im going with this, I kinda felt like opening up i guess...see what you experts would say. I lurked around before registering and thought; "hey, these guys are pretty cool". What do u guys think?
*brings in a smooth, cool case of beers for everyone*
CHEERS!
Ruddy!
WOW Wish I could wave a magic wand and make you feel better. I started loosing my hair at your age and being a 70's guy... it drove me crazy. Long hair in my teens. Loosing my hair in my early 20's, I thought I was not attractive and much more. In my early 30's I chose to get hair transplants. Long story. Then I wore hair... More long story... I was told I was attractive with the fake hair but, still not the same... Shaved it just before Christmas of 2006. Now I just don't give a damn what they say. This is me. Bottom line: I still have a problem dealing with this....
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WOW Wish I could wave a magic wand and make you feel better. I started loosing my hair at your age and being a 70's guy... it drove me crazy. Long hair in my teens. Loosing my hair in my early 20's, I thought I was not attractive and much more. In my early 30's I chose to get hair transplants. Long story. Then I wore hair... More long story... I was told I was attractive with the fake hair but, still not the same... Shaved it just before Christmas of 2006. Now I just don't give a damn what they say. This is me. Bottom line: I still have a problem dealing with this....
I think most of us have appearance-related insecurities. And in my experience, if it's not your hair, it's something else. I started obsessing over mine in my early 20s when I first noticed it was beginning to thin and recede. I checked it on a daily basis to see if it was getting worse or not. It progressed so slowly, and for a long time it was not really obvious to others, but I dreaded the day when it did become obvious.
Eventually, I shaved my head and that was the end of my hair worries. I was happy for a while, but then the novelty wore off and I started to obsess over my weak chin, which seemed more noticeable now that I didn't have hair on my head for people to focus on. So I grew a goatee to cover up the weak chin. Then I started to obsess over my weight. I joined a gym , built up some muscle and lost some fat. I am finally starting to feel better about that but I'm still fighting that battle. If and when I ever win that war, I'm sure I will find something else that I don't like about myself.
Bottom line: none of us is perfect and we're often our own harshest critics. When was the last time you saw a bald guy and thought, "Oh my God, that guy is REALLY bald." You just don't because you see bald guys every day and don't think anything of it. And other people don't think anything one way or the other about your bald head. Just do the best you can with what God gave you to work with. That's all any of us can do in the end.
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Ruddy man heres what ya do don't joke and play and BS with your buddies about going bald. Walk up to them on Monday and tel them Dude guess what I am shaving my head. Then leave it at that if they ask you why tell them summer is coming and I want a new look.
The feeling you get the first time you put that balde to your head is awsome. It is so damn liberating I can't describe it. Thats what I did I told my friends and co workers I am doing it tonight. I am sure some thought I was just BSing but the next day I walked into work shaved down to the scalp. I also walked in like I owned the place.
You know what happened I got a few it looks real goods and I got a head rub by a woman I work with that tld me she hated shaved heads. LOL she rubbed my head for the better part of a minute. Now when she sees me the first thing she does is comes over to see if I shaved that day.
If you put your I am the badest most good loking guy and I own any room I walk into atitude on I guarantee that you will love your new look.
No more barbers no more OMG can they tell no more combing your hair a particular way even if you don't like it that way.
For me it was the barber whenever I watched him cut the top of my head it was down right depressing.
Now I don't give a damn what any one thinks.
Good luck with your decision man trust me if you give it a shot you will be like hells yea.
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Its like driving a Kia and buying an M5 the next day. People are gonna be shocked!
Shocked maybe but just think of the respect & looks you would get !!
I know what i would do.
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Welcome to the gang Ruddy!
You're lucky in one sense ... you can wear a cap. I have a small funny shaped head and can't find a baseball cap that will actually fit. That always annoyed me.
Ya know what though? It's all about attitude. Now I just couldn't give a sh1t about my little funny shaped head or what people think of it. I know my parents dislike the shaved look but I don't care because I like it. It feels good and it has given me more confidence.
My personal feeling is that you will always feel troubled by this issue unless you actually take steps to challenge it head on, 'cuse the pun. And the only way to do that is to shave in my opinion (maybe not totally but i'd be going down to a 2 or less on the trimmer). Cut it down and show people you're not bothered by losing your hair. People will probably respect that and you should get a confidence boost.
"I dont think my self-esteem is ready for such a giant change"
I think your self esteem will get a boost! Taking the bull by the horns on such issues is always great for the self confidence!
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thanks everybody. Looks like its a lot easier to encourage shaving your head once youve actually done it. I bet you guys debated with yourselves and wondered whether or not shaving it would be the best idea. I know that once i do it i'll feel alright with it but right now, its a matter of actually doing it. Its like i said earlier, i'll wait til schools done and then i'll feel a little better in shaving it off. I'll send you guys before and after pics aswell, of course :x!
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thanks everybody. Looks like its a lot easier to encourage shaving your head once youve actually done it. I bet you guys debated with yourselves and wondered whether or not shaving it would be the best idea. I know that once i do it i'll feel alright with it but right now, its a matter of actually doing it. Its like i said earlier, i'll wait til schools done and then i'll feel a little better in shaving it off. I'll send you guys before and after pics aswell, of course :x!
Well Ruddy, it's hard to tell people to shave your head if you don't have the stones to do it yourself.
That being said, I feel awesome now that I've done it, and never plan on being anything but SLY the rest of my life. I never really debated (should I?, will I look good?). I just resigned myself to the fact that a "Horseshoe of Hair" was in my future and was OK with it. I already was married to an incredible lady, and my life was pretty damn good. So, no real indecision once I made the commitment to a sly lifestyle.
I think DTop's idea of telling people you're going to do it is a good one. It holds you accountable. Plus, the look is bold and the feeling of self-confidence is pretty damn awesome. You don't have to worry about going bald...DUDE, YOU'RE ALREADY THERE. No horseshoes, no attempts to hide it, you'll wear it PROUDLY.
Step up to the plate.
Schro
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If you don't do it for any reason but this one Ruddy......Most women think its hot!!!! I would rather see a slick dome than a balding one!!! I'd rather touch a slick dome than a balding one!!!! Also, just think of all the random head rubs your gonna get.....yummy!!! 8)
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:@`MMMMMMMMMMMM.......Headrubs......daddy liiiiiiiiiiiiiike :@`
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If you don't do it for any reason but this one Ruddy......Most women think its hot!!!! I would rather see a slick dome than a balding one!!! I'd rather touch a slick dome than a balding one!!!! Also, just think of all the random head rubs your gonna get.....yummy!!! 8)
I think there can be no finer endorsement than this one.
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If you don't do it for any reason but this one Ruddy......Most women think its hot!!!! I would rather see a slick dome than a balding one!!! I'd rather touch a slick dome than a balding one!!!! Also, just think of all the random head rubs your gonna get.....yummy!!! 8)
If that isn't reason enough...What is??? >:D
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Is it just me or can you hear everyone here chanting "Ruddy, Ruddy, Ruddy, Ruddy.................... :@`
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keep your hair. make it easier on the women to choose another sly guy. j/k shave it off and compete. or just enjoy the compliments. i sure do. it is wonderful for the ego/confidence.
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keep your hair. make it easier on the women to choose another sly guy. j/k shave it off and compete. or just enjoy the compliments. i sure do. it is wonderful for the ego/confidence.
Even when the compliments are from some scary old ladies, right Paulie?
hahahahahahaha
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Hi Ruddy,
I am sure this has probably been said, but as I am at work i only have time to reply rather than to read the whole thread.
i know where you are coming from, I am 28, and on top there is nothing. I wouldnt say that necessarily i like it, i wouldnt say that necessarily i have come to terms with it (although this site helps so hang around). What I would say for absolute certain is that i look better completely shaved than slightly balding, I think that is universal with very few exceptions.
I guess everyone has hang ups about the way they look and in the case of bald guys probably the way their heads are. I have a slightly bumpy head for instance, and am a little neurotic about the way the shadow looks on the side of my head. I reconcile this though with the fact that when i had hair it was horribly wavy! Six of one and half a dozen of the other i suppose.
When you shave it people will comment, some will laugh, many wont give a damn and some will comment in a really positive way, that wont last though, I can guarantee that any neurosis you feel will outlast the period of time that people think anything at all.
I am not sure if any of this helps, just a bit of a lunchtime rambling, but good luck.
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Is it just me or can you hear everyone here chanting "Ruddy, Ruddy, Ruddy, Ruddy.................... :@`
oh man, since from the past 2 pages!
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Is it just me or can you hear everyone here chanting "Ruddy, Ruddy, Ruddy, Ruddy.................... :@`
In fact if you come over here and listen to the Kaiser Chiefs latest single and well......sort of adapt it a bit you have your own personal anthem. Now if we get HotCajun to do us a rendition, everyone brings a beer and we have ourselves a party!! :D :D
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B@%d fR!d@y B@^
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ive got two words for you rudy. "shave it" comming from someone who lives in manila where theres not that much bald people it aint so bad :D i had the same problem as you, was losing my hair in college didnt know what to do heck i hated it. it was consuming me night and day so i figured what he hell ill shave the damn thing off and i never looked back. plus its kinda my sig now and like what hotcajun said chicks dig it. heck i think im the first person here to buy headblade. and remember having hair or no hair will make no difference if your ugly ;D but since your here in sly bald guys, im pretty sure your as good looking as all of us O:O
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ive got two words for you rudy. "shave it" comming from someone who lives in manila where theres not that much bald people it aint so bad :D i had the same problem as you, was losing my hair in college didnt know what to do heck i hated it. it was consuming me night and day so i figured what he hell ill shave the damn thing off and i never looked back. plus its kinda my sig now and like what hotcajun said chicks dig it. heck i think im the first person here to buy headblade. and remember having hair or no hair will make no difference if your ugly ;D but since your here in sly bald guys, im pretty sure your as good looking as all of us O:O
Right on Ram!!! and go to Intro's and Intro yourself...hahaha...unless I missed it!?!
BTW fellas post some pics would ya? ::) :)
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yea ram..give us a intro post....you a sly pinoy?
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Hey Ruddy
As someone who went through hard times over the past 9 months, almost everything you mention either happened to me or I had very similar experiences. I had a couple of emotional 'distresses' over my hairline, the likes of which I had never gone through before, and haven't had ever since I started buzzing, and now that I'm truly shaved, all I can see is positives for the future (if only my newly shaved scalp would hurry up and tan ;D)
You've accepted the fact that you'll be shaving your head eventually anyways. I'm not going to BS you and say that shaving it off will magically make your problems go away, but I can say, from what I went through, that the best solution to this problem is not to dwell on it (or try to regrow it), and the best way not to dwell on it is to get rid of the source - which is your hair.
Again, I can only speak from what I've experienced, and what I've experienced is that, at the very least, I should have buzzed my hair down 9 months ago when it all started going downhill for me, rather than get caught up in the spiral of Rogaine and Propecia. Because the minute I buzzed it, everything that bothered me about my hair disappeared. I realized that I wasted the latter half of last summer and most of my current junior year of college kicking myself over this. And then my bro convinced me to do what he did - shave it off. And I can't believe I waited so long. It's a common feeling, and chances are you'd feel the same way.
And my head isn't perfectly shaped either - it's slightly oversized for my 5'6'' frame. But it's my head, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I say, you should buzz or shave your head, get some stylin' and sly clothes, and go meet your fellow balding friends. Once they see how freakin' awesome you look, they might be convinced to do the same. And you guys can go hit up the nearest bar and show them what a couple of sly bald guys can do 8)
Don't let hairloss be the crutch that slows you down. Let it be the thing that speeds up your transformation into the coolest guy around. When I started college, I wanted that cliche transformation into the "new me", but it never happened... until now. I wish I didn't wait so long to do it.
Give it a try, go sly! You just might be surprised.
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Hey Rudy, I am a new member myself and making the transition this week. My post is Opinions Plzzzz in To be or not to be...Bald if you would like to check my post and progress. I will also be happy to send you my first pic, since I'm at pic 2 now. I just turned 40 but also have hid under a hat for many years. I started losing my hair slowly at about age 24. The bigest realization came to me when I was standing in line at Walmart for the customer service desk and looked up at the black and white TV of the security camera. I saw a balding guy standing there holding his kids hand and said to myself, boy that guy has a big bald spot on his head..glad its not me. At that moment the kid turned to the man and looked up at him... it was my kid!!! I wish this site existed 12 years ago, I would be a Sly-Pro by now. Anyway, I hope my post can help you out in some way, I will be updating it with my Sly look next week. Just remember there is only 1 you, accept what you have but control/decide what to do with it.
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Ruddy,
I can't add much new to what's already been said, but here goes. It does take a lot of guts because of all the uncertainty -- the shape of your head; what is everyone going to say; is it really me. I would recommend buzzing shorter and shorter... it just adds to the excitement of the BIG day and also gets you prepared to know how you're going to look. I would start now, so by the time summer rolls around, all you'll have on your head is some good sunscreen. Once you do 'THE DEED' and get over the initial shock, you will feel like an enormous weight has been lifted, and you will rid yourself of all this angst you're putting yourself through. Today is the perfect time to be bald as it has become so mainstream. Another great thing is that as you meet new people, they will never know the not-so-confident old you, but only the cool, slick, new you. You'll also never have another bad hair day. ;)
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Ruddy,
I can't add much new to what's already been said, but here goes. It does take a lot of guts because of all the uncertainty -- the shape of your head; what is everyone going to say; is it really me. I would recommend buzzing shorter and shorter... it just adds to the excitement of the BIG day and also gets you prepared to know how you're going to look. I would start now, so by the time summer rolls around, all you'll have on your head is some good sunscreen. Once you do 'THE DEED' and get over the initial shock, you will feel like an enormous weight has been lifted, and you will rid yourself of all this angst you're putting yourself through. Today is the perfect time to be bald as it has become so mainstream. Another great thing is that as you meet new people, they will never know the not-so-confident old you, but only the cool, slick, new you. You'll also never have another bad hair day. ;)
ya ive been thinking of doing that exactly since last week. I'll most likely start like how you said i should and just break everything in.
thanks fellas! O0
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Ruddy, hasn't even been a week since my first head shave. Can't say I'm in the exact same situation but I recommend giving it a shot. I mean, hair is hair.
About the shape of your head, you've been looking at it with hair on it for so long that you just weren't used to it being buzzed. I'm sure its all good. Once it's all off then you don't got to see balding as bad thing, but it just meaning your blades you shave your head with will last longer.
Good luck with whatever you do, but don't spend too much time worrying about your hair. With or without you'll be the same person. Do Eeeeeet!