Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: ynmaker on May 04, 2010, 09:52:50 AM
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Hello all. I'm a long time lurker to this site. I'm in my mid 40's and have had thinning hair for the last several years. My hair on top is very thin and fine and I've been getting shorter hair cuts over the years. Until last Saturday I've been keeping my hair about 1/2 - 3/4 inch long on top. (I gave up parting my hair several years ago.)
I knew I didn't want to go the comb-over or drugs route. Surgery and hair systems where also out of the question for me. All of the above are neither a remedy, or a solution.
I don't think I suffer from any lack of confidence. I was never one to spend too much time with my hair. I just didn't like the way my hair looked, and I know things where only going to progress...
Last Saturday I asked my barber to buzz it down short. He tried a #2 on the sides and a #3 on top. I thought it looked as silly, if not more silly, than usual. I went with a #1 all over.
As you all have said, the instant relief and satisfaction are very real. I didn't discuss this with anyone. I just did it. My wife is not too excited. She thinks it looks worse than before. Our ten year old son really dislikes it. But both are coming around. (I think.) I've have some snickers and complements both at church and work.
I know a #1 buzz isn't sly, but I really like it. I look at photos from the last several years and see quite a bit of scalp shining through. Last Christmas my 98 year old Grandmother mentioned my hair was thinner each time I visit. She told me "Going bald is nothing to be ashamed of."
Anyway, I don't know if I'll go further with this. I bought a Headblade and some HeadSlick a couple weeks ago, just in case. I just wanted to say, THANKS!!! All of you on this forum are an inspiration, particularly those who have, after years of other methods, embraced your fate and genetics, and started down the road of the rest of your lives. The rest of my days, or years, or whatever, will be spent being focused about things that are important, not things as silly and superficial as hair, or the lack of it.
I don't spent much time in front of a mirror, but now when I do look, I really like the guy looking back.
Thanks again.
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Welcome. At least you're prepared to do what it takes. At #1 the urge to finish the job can be pretty strong--so yielding is one way to find out if you like it. If you don't like it right now, you'll be back to a #1 in a week or so anyway. And, this is just one of my many personal things: sunscreen is important to avoid skin problems, and it's a lot easier and neater to apply to a smooth melon. So if you're not comfortable w/ a hat-smooth is the safest for your scalp.
Enjoy the freedom.
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Life is only so long. You are going to wonder why you waited so long .. its true!
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Hello and welcome ynmaker. I really like your attitude and confidence. Good for you. Please come often and join in on the conversations and information.
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I don't spent much time in front of a mirror, but now when I do look, I really like the guy looking back.
That's the key thing right there! Congratulations! O0
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Welcome!
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Welcome!
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People will come around to it. Don't worry about comments they are harmless. If you like the #1 stay with it a while. I stayed at a #1 for about 2 weeks then decided to try it without any guards. which is where I have stayed for a while now and do it every third day. The freedom of it all was the best part for me as well. I went from it being in the back of my mind all the time to being happy I don't have hair to have to worry over. If your family sees that it makes you happy it won't bother them after getting used to the new look. O0
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Welcome!
My son was also 10 the first time I shaved my head.......... he cried and ran out of the room when he saw me.
It sounds to me like your 98 year old Grandma is a lot smarter than some of the people you work with...........
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"I don't spent much time in front of a mirror, but now when I do look, I really like the guy looking back".
I agree with ozzie on this one, that's the feeling of freedom that comes with taking control.
If you like the guy looking back in the mirror now, wait 'til you shave it down smooth. You will love it. 8)
Welcome to the forum yn, enjoy the new you. O0
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Thanks for the encouragement guys. I'm not sure what the next step will be. I'm going to have to do something soon 'cause what's left is growing out and will look weird if I don't get some clippers and go #1 again. I may have to go with the urge and shave. I'm a little worried about bumps and a rash drawing attention to my dome. I don't have a problem with my face, and I shave daily with a Mach 3. I've used the Headslick on my face for over a week, and it agrees with my skin. The menthol is a bit intense on the face, at first. Anyway, thanks again all.
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Welcome Yn. Go for it !
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I don't have a problem with my face, and I shave daily with a Mach 3. I've used the Headslick on my face for over a week, and it agrees with my skin. The menthol is a bit intense on the face, at first. Anyway, thanks again all.
Yn, you may want to try your first headshave with the Mach III. I used it for my first shave and it was very easy on the dome. The HeadSlick will be a good choice also, and once you get used to the menthol feeling, over time it's not as strong. Good luck and keep us posted.
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DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! fR!d@y Listen to the Yankee and use your Mach3. The Headblade has the unique ability to find every bump that you never knew you had. You know you want to, all the cool kids are doing it 8)
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Are you guys saying use the Mach 3 for the 1st shave, then use the HB for later shaving?
I'm just a little chicken about cutting up my head the first time I shave.
That would sort of defeat the "I know what I'm doing" attitude I'm trying to project....LOL.
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Welcome to SBGs!!! 8) Practice makes perfect!!! O0
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Are you guys saying use the Mach 3 for the 1st shave, then use the HB for later shaving?
I'm just a little chicken about cutting up my head the first time I shave.
That would sort of defeat the "I know what I'm doing" attitude I'm trying to project....LOL.
Look in the head shave board, but GENERALLY, use a clipper w/o a guard, get it very short, shower, hot water & shampoo---idea is to get the hair soft to the blade. Now, while I'm not personally a HB user, I think even those who are avid regarding that equipment might suggest using the equipment you current use for your face bc of familiarty with the equipment--but use a new balde cartridge, some shaving gel, etc., and take your time--this is for your enjoyment, and there's no reason to rush.
Rinse, use an astringent and an shave balm and some sunscreen--this this going to be one of the most memorable experiences of your life, we promise. Go to it DUDE.
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Once the decision is made (the BIG step) to go sly, I think it's possible to over-obsess about the best way to go sly. I sometimes let the hair grow out a bit from time to time, but then take it back down. First, clippers without a guard. Then a long swim at the gym (softens things as much as they can ever be softened). Then a willingness to "sacrifice" a blade, in that it takes a fair bit of work to get the stubble gone, but gone it'll be, even with a disposable razor. Shave a bit, rinse razor; shave, rinse; shave, rinse...
It's not that hard to go sly. A little work, yeah, but it's not rocket science, either: buzz it down, soften it up, razor it off. I make no recommendations for the "right" razor. I have my preferences, not those of the majority here, it seems, but I end up gleaming just fine.
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The headblade is not a bad product, but you need to be accustom to the geography of your gourd. Otherwise you are more prone to knock off a mole/bump/ridge etc that you didn't know was there. The Headblade is synonymous with a close shave, but it is not forgiving. The Mach3 is a more forgiving tool that your more familiar with. Headblade is a stick shift that you drive backwards and Mach3 is an automatic that goes forward. Pretend you are learning to drive blind folded. Which would you want to start out on? 8)
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Because I was using an electric shaver at that time, I started with the HeadBlade right away and did not have a problem using it. No pressure!
In any case, make sure you have all the time you might need (I would do it in the evening for that matter), prepare well as it has been said here already, and don't be afraid of the possibility of a nick.
When you're done, the feeling is just awesome.
Go for it!
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Ok, I did it. I shaved over the weekend. I tried to take everyone's advise. Buzz, no guard, Apricot scrub, long hot shower, Mach 3, and witchhazel. I almost forgot, a fresh clean pillowcase! After the first 36 hours I shaved the second time and again daily since with HeadSlick and the HB. So far, no cuts!!! I have a few red bumps, but I'm trying Neurogena Razor Defense after the Witchhazel. I don't spend much time in the sun, I work indoors. I'm looking into which type of sunscreen to use with the above routine. I would like for the color of my head to even out. I'd also like to post a picture. I'm not too savvy with computers, but this one has a Webcam that takes photos. I may look into that soon. Thanks to all of you on this forum.... You help those of us longtime lurkers turned newbies more that you probably know.
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Glad to hear you're free, now remember 30 days. And don't sweat the wife or kids, this is for you and a better you is better for them.
Now, one more thing, you've received the help, it's now your chance to join in and help others, guys in your situation that you can relate to--it's kind of a way to keep the road to freedom open for the guys still walking around w/ dead mops on their heads.
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Thanks for the words Saint. Funny you mention the wife and kids. My wife isn't too happy with the look. Our 10 year old son doesn't want a "hairless Dad". To combat this I've started a new game based on the recent VW TV commercials. Instead of the "Bug Slug", punching someone when you have spotted a VW car, my son and I have started punching each other when we see a Bald Guy. "Blue Shirt...punch!" (I'm a light puncher, so don't alert the authorities.) My wife found this annoying when we did it with cars... I doubt if she will find this any less annoying. That alone may keep the game going awhile!
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hey ynmaker: welcome 2 the sly fraternity. glad that ya joined the club. we hope that U become an active member of the best forum on the internet. keep us posted on all the reactions of your new look. also, do U like your new look? O0
WARHAWK O0
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Thanks warhawk. I like the look. This was not a spur of the moment thing. I have been thinking about it for a couple of years. The only issue I have is I really don't like to draw attention to myself in a group. I'm not overly shy, but I'm not an extrovert. You will draw attention with a bald head. So far, it's been a non issue for most people. When folks ask why I did it, I tell the truth. My hair has been thinning and I'm pretty sure what may future with hair would look like. I try to be diplomatic and not put down others choices, (dealing with MPB), but I say a hat or comb-over isn't my style.
My wife isn't too keen on it, but she is getting used to it. Our son quit commenting on it after only a couple of days. My co-workers have not said much of anything one way or the other, but I'm pretty sure I'm a topic of conversation when I'm not around... That's fine.
At church most folks are older. The reactions are a bit mixed. A few have offered to help me with investment advice on all the $$ I'm saving on shampoo. Others have said "A lot of young guys are doing it". That's fine. I didn't do it because of anyone else. I did have one lady tell me she like it and that I needed a gold earring. I thought she was kidding, but she wasn't. Anyway, some at the church are in suspense. I showed up with a #1 buzz on May 2nd and 9th. Last Sunday, May 16th, I showed up shaved. Who knows what will happen this week!
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A Tattoo, a motorcycle, and meth habit :P Just kidding Man you need pictures or I'm calling BS. www.photobucket.com ;D
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Way to go YN! Welcome to the group and the sly life. Wives will come around and sounds like your son is like my kids - they don't say anything about it anymore. And remember, they've been mocking us baldies for thousands of years:
2 Kings 2:23 And he went up from thence unto Bethel: and as he was going up by the way, there came forth little children out of the city, and mocked him, and said unto him, Go up, thou bald head; go up, thou bald head.
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At church most folks are older. The reactions are a bit mixed. A few have offered to help me with investment advice on all the $$ I'm saving on shampoo. Others have said "A lot of young guys are doing it". That's fine. I didn't do it because of anyone else. I did have one lady tell me she like it and that I needed a gold earring. I thought she was kidding, but she wasn't. Anyway, some at the church are in suspense. I showed up with a #1 buzz on May 2nd and 9th. Last Sunday, May 16th, I showed up shaved. Who knows what will happen this week!
Actually, IMO, the comments drop off pretty quickly, except the compliments. One of the oddest I got was on leaving church early on and the priest told me at the door that his wife had been after him to do something about the combover--but he said at his age he wasn't sure he could do it--he's just past 70, and is one of the assistant priests who helps out at the Cathedral. He hasn't so far, but then my head has long ceased to be a topic of conversation anywhere except for compliments--and I'm very used to getting them now. That is one of the amazing parts of sly, you get compliments on your appearance--rather than silence regarding the combover and dying mop.
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OK, here is the pic. I'm only 10 days into the shaved zone. So far only one cut. I'm getting a routine down, and I'm getting used to the change. Thanks for all the support.
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Looks good.
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Yeah! 8)
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Great picture--you & Sly were made for each other.
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Lookin good, bro O0
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OK now I believe you ;D Man your a natural O0
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Born to be sly. Great look for you!
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Very good look. Awesome. Shouldn't take long from your wife to get used to it.
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Looks good