Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: Cypher on February 17, 2010, 02:43:14 AM
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Hello guys..
Hmm.. Today is the worst day of my life. Well, im Michael 20 pinoy college "balding" student. Well. I think i have a level 2 or 3 vertex on norwood scale.. Im thinning on top.
A week ago, I had a Buzz cut. At first, its fine. my girlfriend and friends like it. Except my mom ofcourse. after a week. my (remaining) hair started to grow back making the bald spot in the crown so obvious, Last night, i took some pictures of my dome( see the first photo below). I got a bit angry on something. In fact, it really disturbed me. I really find it hard to accept this 'coz of my age. the fact that i'm the only 1 balding on our school makes me feel really down.
So today, i went to the barber shop to have another buzz cut. i'm thinking a 1 buzz cut since everyone told me it looks nice. I asked the barber if its that obvious. He told me that it is obvious when under the light so its better to give a 0 buzz cut a try. So.. Thats what i did.
I posted a couple of pics from my no.1 cut, when it started to grow back, to the 0 buzz cut i had earlier.
DO i look ridiculous with this look? does my skull shaped fine to you guys? considering the "kinda" huge bump on the left side of the my skull.
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Brother I think it looks good , and just so you know alot of freinds will give ya the crap and make jokes and Iam sure that if you looked really close at others more then you are loosing a little on top they are just covering it someway if I rember correctly back to 20 ( Iam not that old only 46 now ) but I was in the Army and alot of the guys fought it . but hey your Girl likes it your freinds Iam sure are getting past most of the harrasment and jokes I just shaved mine a few weeks ago and keep it shaved sly and shinning its the first hair cut I have had in almost six years and always wore it back in a braid still could see the bald spot but hey God don't cover up perfection and when he gives us hair when ya are young well ,,,thats just till we get all our bumps and scrapes that add style as my wife , who didnt think she would like it shaved tells me now Daily I need to shav it on the week ends if I let it go a day due to lazyness and trust ME I have a few scares a nice dent on the right side at the top ( that water lays in if I dont move just so ya know its noticable ) I bring it up as trying to water birds as a joke myself . why let the other guy get a chance but it shows one thing anyone who will shave there head and is able to make jokes about it themselfs has confedance and every one likes the confedent guy I also have a nice mole I need removed ,that will leave a scar but you know what , I earned it just like you will your bumps dents and scar's Iam only saying this much to let ya know. You are not alone and I for one think it looks good on Ya sorry for the typo's and miss spells its 5 am and I been up all night piddeling around
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Nothing wrong with your head shape Cypher. It looks good. It will look even better with the zero buzz. Go for it.
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Thankgs guys..
Actually.. I already had a 0 buzz. pls see the last 2 photos above. hmm and one more thing. I had this pimple-like things on my head.. its kinda anoyying.. hehe anyone have an idea on how to remove it?
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Dude, you look badass with the 0 buzz. Shave it all the way or keep at a 0. You rock the look, bro.
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I think it looks good too.
I've got a bump toward the front of my noggin but it doesn't cause me any trouble. I'm able to shave normally, I just go right over it.
Just do it
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Looks great!
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Dude, you look badass with the 0 buzz. Shave it all the way or keep at a 0. You rock the look, bro.
I'll second that!
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0 buzz looks really good to me!
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Couple of suggestions:
Buy a hair trimmer. Paying a barber for a 0 buzz cut is not that good of a move. You'll use it to trim other stuff as well, so it will be worth it.
The 0 looks cool, honestly. I would try shaving, take a couple of pics and show us. If you don't like it, no biggie. It will grow back to the 0 look in 48 hours. Try shaving this Friday and by Monday nobody will notice, trust me.
Forget about your mother. Mine is the same. They all are. They are square and old school. Just tell her she needs to embrace the look because it makes you more confident and less aware of your MPB. In a couple of weeks she'll act like nothing is wrong.
Good luck
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I was actually having a conversation with a fellow sly guy that I was talking to today when I went to a museum and we were discussing that its okay for guys to have scars slight dents or imperfections because we are not kept in a protective isolation but rather we have been around played sports got knocked around and I personally wear my imperfections as a badge of manhood. To use an analogy look at leaves on a tree I dare you to find a leaf that isn't perfect, every leave has slight discoloration is not perfectly symmetrical etc. if that is not a comfort for you to hear consider the fact that a lot of guys told me early on when I was a bit insecure, that we are our own worst critic we see our imperfections in photos or in the mirror and we magnify it a thousand fold. Other people are not noticing imperfections the way we view it.
I have to tell you I think with a zero you look amazing, I encourage you to go one step further and shave it. I think you have a very nice shaped dome and I think you are a better man for going Sly.
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Thanks a lot guys. hmm i'll consider shaving. but first, i have to buy some stuff.. well i cant shave my whole head using just the small shaver that my mom used to shave her legs.. i dunno. but its kinda hard to me..
You guys were right.. We are our own worst critic.. Maybe i'm just a bit insecure 'coz my mom's comment was a bit harsh when i had the #1 buzz cut.. imagine what she was like when she saw me with 0 buzz cut. hehe
i dont have a class 'till tomorrow so people haven't seen me like this. I just dont know if i can handle too much negative comments..
I think. i'll just stay with the 0 buzz for a week. So people around me can adjust. hehe after that. I'll defintiely try shaving. well.. there's no harm in trying.
Again, thanks a lot guys. This community never cease to impress me.
Now im confident hehe I just need to learn how to handle negative comments.. well.. im a bit short-tempered so.. I'll definitely need to change that.
Good day.
-Michael
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Michael,
How did it go at class? Did you get compliments? Just remember that a big change can be shocking and people don't know how to react. So, don't give up.
Brad
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Nothing wrong with your head shape Cypher. It looks good. It will look even better with the zero buzz. Go for it.
Agree 100%
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hmmm.. well college students can be a jerk sometimes..
My friends, keep asking me this::
"hows the chemoteraphy?"
lol.. i honestly don't know how to react on that one. so i just smile hehe
Fortunately, my girl said it looks fine though we havent met personally, she just saw me on webcam.
honestly, at first im kinda scared. But now, haha i dont care. Well, i like this look better compared to my previous long hair with a "hole" on top. So..now.. I dont give a crap about what people thinks. hehe
I'll just be me. hair is the only thing i lost in the first place. i still got my face and attitude so there's no reason to lose confidence.
Thanks to you guys!
hmm one thing though, i find a lot of guys staring at me like they wanted to buy a fight or something.. hehe This look might get me into trouble lol..
anyway.. i think my mom finally embraced the look. at last! hehe
I think i'll just keep it at 0 for the moment. but if things get worst. well.. I'll definitely shave it.
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You'll shave it down when you are ready little bro. Ignore the negative, embrace the positive and drive on!
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As previously said. You look good @ zero, so why not go all the way ? Give it a shot Bro ! I think you'll be satisfied.
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I'll secound what TGB says there buddy , and as far as the kids around ya ,,just look at it as ignorance for joking about cancer . Once they sit with someone on Chemo that they love they will understand just keep on SMILEING and ask them if they ever had the guts to do somthing risky as you have and took the bull by the horns
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Go all ther way - -it looks great
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Hey Cypher,
The Pics look good man. Go with the 0 length. Look, the thing is you are a pretty handsome dude and for a lot of men, losing hair is what happens to us. We are men, and we ought to own who we are and carry it well.
As a confidence booster it also helps to workout a little. Through a little muscle on. Get strong cardiovascular fitness . You'll be shining from the inside out. The sooner we face people with our (very manly) predisposition the more comfortable we will feel in our own skin.
Good luck mate.
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Thanks a lot guyz..
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You rock the SLY look...glad it is working out for you!!! O0
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hmmm i can't say things are working as expected..
hehe this is to good to be true..
my girl just dumped me.. i hope it's not because of how i look now.
anyway. its fine. maybe she's not the one.. oh crap.. well the point is.. i wont be this positive if it wasnt for you guys! so thanks a lot! hehe cheers!
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Michael,
I know that it isn't easy but you need to go with what makes you happy
You look fine in these photos
Like in any change, there is an adjustment period and you need to be patient and strong to deal with the external pressures
So..take a deep breath and take one day at a time...you will be surprised
how quickly you will adapt
Remember, whatever you do, be happy with your choice
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dude, you don't look like your balding at all