Sly Bald Guys Forum
New Member Section => Introductions => Topic started by: FightFan on January 19, 2010, 06:02:23 PM
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Sup guys,
Well I'm 24 from UK and have been receding since I was about 20 very slowly i might add but this past year its just seem to speed up. No one really noticed or mentioned anything until last year. Now it seems complete strangers feel the need to comment (how kind of them). My family are pretty brutal about it and are always giving me some grief about it, especially my older sister and younger brother.
I really hate the winter with the rain and wind, after 5 minutes outside my hair looks ridiculous and i get some weird stares too, I've stopped swimming which I loved and prety much going out if I know the weathers going to be bad. I always told myself if I start going bald( all my uncles on both parents sides are bald and my father started to lose his hair in his late 30's , so I suspected it might happen) i'm going to shave it off at the first signs. But when that happened I convinced myself it wasn't too bad. But if i have to start arranging individual hairs in a certain way to cover it up then its coming straight off (I got to that stage about a year ago). But I promised myself i would shave if I ever get a bald spot at the back..... well I noticed that about 3 months ago.
At the present minute i'm getting through about a can of hair spray a week and spending ages 'fixing' my hair in the mornings. I just dont have the courage to shave my head. I had my head shaved when I was 18 and it looked truly terrible.
My girlfriend and mother are totally against me shaving my head. Thats why I have signed up here all you guys looked so cool with a shaved head and theres no negativity here so im thinking f**k it so tomorrow I will get it done and its all from reading how liberated you guys have felt after doing it.
Sorry for the life story and thanks for reading, wish me luck.
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Read through the threads about To Be Bald. Plenty of young guys have faced this and are doing quite well, excellent in fact.
Girl friend, what kind of relationship is it that she wants you to have balding hair, does she fear that a sharp looking sly head will keep her on her toes to keep you? If so, you'd better think that relationship through, it will melt faster than your hairline.
Mothers--she still thinks about combing her "little" boy's hair on the way out to school. You're 24, not 4. Does she ask you about her hair style? This is about you, and you have to make this decision. At least try it out for 30 days--and see what new "birds" I think you guys in the UK used to call them will look to land in your tree >:D.
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I was in the same situation and can only say I wish I shaved my head sooner. I have found new joys I never would have done because it would show my thinning hair. I now scuba dive, swim, walk in the rain and wind and generally live a better live. I have gotten more attention from women also. I hit the gym and buy nicer clothes and it makes a difference. Good luck and just shave it off.
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Hey Flightfan!
We "were" in a similar situation. I am 24 as well! I was scared to go sly and shave my head because I thought it would like someone who has leucemia or HIV...But guess what, I DID IT and it suits me well. You know, some people like it (most in my case), some do not, some will better like the way you looked before but still think you look good. There will be many reactions out there. Is it just hair man, I mean it is not THAT A DIFFERENCE, especially if you are already receding on top.
Post us a picture and show us how you look. Remember, what is important is CONFIDENCE AND HOW YOU THINK YOU LOOK. It is normal for your mother to worry like that. As for your girlfriend, if she really loves you she will accept it, if not, than #### ####!!!!
I mean, just get a "clean cut" you do not need to shave it all with a blade...Rase it at #1...It has to be clean, because honnestly, now for me it looks ridiculous a man with some "wholes" on his head. You will like it! Let us know !
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Welcome to the forum, FightFan. And congratulations on realizing that the time has indeed come! O0
Put that razor to work and don't forget to post a pic, mate!
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Once you shave your head, the negative comments about thinning/receding hair tend to stop. You may initially get some comments about your new look, but not as many as you might think. Shaving your head sends the signal that you've taken control of the issue and aren't going to let it rule your life and that tends to shut up the smart alecks.
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Welcome FightFan
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Welcome to SBG!
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Welcome FightFan .... You've gotten some good advice from the bros. Most of us here were very nervous about taking the leap. But, you'll likely find that once it's done, you'll get a few comments here and there, but they'll get used to it very quickly. Also, you'll probably get lots of positive feedback ...
Your mother and gf will just have to deal with it, if that's the decision you've made.
Give it a 30-day trial ... You won't regret it.
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My girlfriend and mother are totally against me shaving my head. Thats why I have signed up here all you guys looked so cool with a shaved head and theres no negativity here so im thinking f**k it so tomorrow I will get it done and its all from reading how liberated you guys have felt after doing it.
Sorry for the life story and thanks for reading, wish me luck.
It's good that you are not letting the disease to please your girl and mother keep you from shaving your head. Make sure you shave and keep it shaved for 30 days straight. This will give you and your family time to adjust to your look.
Welcome to SBG!
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Welcome to the Forum FF!
Quite simply..... it's not your Mom's or your girlfriend's head. If they love you it won't matter to them.... you will still be you.... but a happier you.
Read the stories on this Forum about new found confidence at the hands of a simple razor. Look at the faces of the confident men that come to this site. Then grab your razor and take the first stroke to a new happiness.
Peace
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don't live your life for others: live it for YOU. If you want to be SLY you can be: but you gotta do it for yourself and not for anyone else. 8)
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Welcome to SBG's, you've come to the right place for encouragement.
Right off the bat I'm going to echo Rob on this one. You will be shaving your head for you, and only you. If it's what you want, and how you plan on taking control over your mpb, then you just have to go ahead and do it.
Don't you want to be free from worrying about what you can and can't do because of your hair?
Get it done and over with and get out there and have fun, live life free.
And like the other guys' have said, don't worry about what anyone else will say or think. They will come to realize that this is the new you.
Good luck and post up a pic when you can. O0
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I went through the same exact thing FF. The endless styling and sculpting, hating the wind and rain, always wondering how my hair looked.
I also talked to a few sly guys when I was younger and told myself I'd do it too if the time came.
Finally when the anxiety got out of hand, I used a great excuse to buzz my head. A backpacking trip through Europe. That way if anyone asked I could just say it was just less to hassle with.
Your life will be better post sly, I promise. Instead of endlessly sculpting your hair and obsessing over it all day, you get up, you shave, and you don't mess with your head the rest of the day, except maybe to give it a nice rubbing.
I was 25 when I did it, so we're in the same area of age, so just do it mate! (notice my attempt to use British wording)
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Welcome.
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Do it!
Oh yeah, welcome to the forum too.
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Welcome and congrats on your decision FightFan!
Good luck for your first shave! O0
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Welcome and go for it - - -We all did - -months and years later - - -we are all here to help - -All I have to do is hear that hair spray stuff that you do - - - - -It is so easy to be bald and everyone - -eventually - -likes it - - It is SEXY - BEAUTIFUL- CLEAN and EASY
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First, welcome to the forum. These guys helped me get over the hump and we'll do the same for you.
Honestly, not having support from family and friends does make it tougher. However, you need to take the advice of the guys here. It is your head and your life. Once they see that you are happier, they will support your decision.
Read through the stories on this site. You'll see the same thing over and over and over again. We all went through stuff like this and we're all happier now. Shaving your head is an important step towards self confidence. You WILL be a better and more confident man, once you take this balding issue into your own hands and embrace your new look. Most of us wish that we had done the deed sooner. I certainly do.
Shave that thinning hair off and enjoy your new look and your new confidence. Own it! Give it 30 days and don't give in to anyone telling you to grow it back. If you hate it after 30 days, I will eat my words.
Good luck! Keep us updated.
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Can't add much more to what's been said to you already. I was/am a "slow shedder," and although a barber, many years back said, "You'll never be bald," baldness is a matter of opinion. I've formerly posted a view of what hair I've got at the age of sixty-five (no longer to be seen in my current picture, and the general opinion of old me vs. SLY was, "Yuck!' Oh, well). I first went SLY at forty (exactly! The day I turned) and have done it "on and off" (hmm!) since then. At the moment (see picture), a buzz, but the razor and the lather are calling me.
In my view, shaving it off at any age, whether due to MPB, or as a matter of BBC--why not? To hell with Samson I say. Even with a fullheadofhair, shaving it off is just another way of being what you want to be. Oh, you don't want to be bald? Suck it up. Take it off! Move on.
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Welcome here, FF!
Bros gave you the best advices. Do the deed and enjoy your life. Best wishes O0
J
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FF, do what a man has to do! Get rid of the stringie stuff on your head. Be happy, confident and hang the naysayers!
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Welcome to SBGs!!! 8)
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My girlfriend and mother are totally against me shaving my head. Thats why I have signed up here all you guys looked so cool with a shaved head and theres no negativity here so im thinking f**k it so tomorrow I will get it done and its all from reading how liberated you guys have felt after doing it.
Sorry for the life story and thanks for reading, wish me luck.
It's good that you are not letting the DISEASE TO PLEASE your girl and mother keep you from shaving your head. Make sure you shave and keep it shaved for 30 days straight. This will give you and your family time to adjust to your look.
Welcome to SBG!
DISEASE TO PLEASE! O0 That phrase is truly magnificent. Those three words say sooooo much! Kudos to you, Tyler.
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As another guy who started losing his hair young I know it sucks man. Maybe just start shaving it with a 1 and working your way to the razor if thats easier? And like daren said hit the gym and grab some new clothes it helps a lot. Good luck!
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Fight Fan
Sounds like you are going through alot with the hair you have left and still
you are not happy
That's the key...
I am many years older and for that period I went through a miserable time of lotions, transplants and hairpieces.
Finally, I realized that I needed to be true to myself
With the support of the SLY Family, I shaved the dome a month ago and I have not yet stopped smiling.
So, if you are asking us, JUST DO IT..
Keep in touch
steve
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hey fightfan: welcome 2 the sly fraternity. just shave that dome smoooooooth & i guarantee that U will not have any regrets. matter of fact, U will be thanking us 4 encouraging U to "do the deed", "take the plunge", or in simpler terms..."shave your head". keep us posted 2 your road 2 slyness. O0
WARHAWK O0
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Thanks for the support guys, well I had enough of having it long and combing it forward being really fine and trying to please everyone. I went barbers last week told him to buzz it, he suggested a 5 on top and 4 back and sides. Had that done, woke up a few days later and buzzed it myself to 3 all over, already considering buzzing it to a 2 or 1 later. Looks like i'll be sly by end of the week lol. Its been so windy and raining all week and all my usual worries are gone. NO MORE HAIRSPRAY O0
Told the girlfriend I buzzed it, her exact words were 'eww I dont date bald men' My reply well I guess we're over then, since im a bald man. Shes been begging to come back but I said I couldn't date someone so close minded. So onto pastures new.
Also first day back at college since the buzz and no one mentioned anything until a guy came in late and said as loud as possible 'damn you look like a nazi' >:(
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. Had that done, woke up a few days later and buzzed it myself to 3 all over, already considering buzzing it to a 2 or 1 later. Looks like i'll be sly by end of the week lol. Its been so windy and raining all week and all my usual worries are gone. NO MORE HAIRSPRAY O0
a guy came in late and said as loud as possible 'damn you look like a nazi' >:(
Well, you're following exactly what happened to me, once it was buzzed, it was a steady and rapid move to #1, then no guard, then sly--never looked back, never regreted--and you won't either. Don't resist the urge, and if, after 30 days, you really don't want to do it fast, let it grow out and go bald, hair, by hair by hair--a blade is the only alternative that makes sense other than the slow balding that nature provides.
By the way, you're really going to like it, that's a promise from SBG.
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Dude,
Sounds as if you have the courage. My family was also against me going sly. I told them I would try it and if they just hated it I would grow it back. You see, I had a full head of hair. Funny thing is, I envied men who were losing their hair cause they had a great reason to go sly. I just love the look and didn't want to deal with the hair anymore.
I also went #3 for a day then #1 for a week and then pulled out my Mach III and went after it. I have to tell you if you like the buzzed look at all, you will LOVE, and I mean really LOVE the sly look. It is a total transformation. You will not be able to stop looking in mrrors and/or any reflective surface you can find. Man, I am excited for you.
Oh, back to my family. It has been 2 weeks (4 days sly) and my son has told me it has grown on him. He said my wife told him that as well. She is just to stubborn to admit she was wrong about liking it. My daughter has warmed up to it as well. The people that love you will want to see you happy and confident.
Go for it, you won't regret it
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It has been a quick progression in less then a week I've gone from long comb forward gelled and hair sprayed and miserable to a 5 then 4 then 3 just this minute I shaved it to a #1. The slyness is calling me lol. But I have noticed I have 3 big moles on my head and a big scar I forgot about, that happened when I was a kid. so still unsure.
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It has been a quick progression in less then a week I've gone from long comb forward gelled and hair sprayed and miserable to a 5 then 4 then 3 just this minute I shaved it to a #1. The slyness is calling me lol. But I have noticed I have 3 big moles on my head and a big scar I forgot about, that happened when I was a kid. so still unsure.
As a guy who has encountered skin problems in the form of basal cell carcinoma I would give advice to anyone who encounters a mole to have it checked by a dermatologist ASAP. If it's nothing but a mole you can get it removed and get on with your life. If it's more than that you have the advantage of having a doc look at it and do something about it before it becomes something more.
As far as the scars go that's a different story. I consider scars to be illustrations in the book that is the story of my life. Were I to not have any one of the several that I have would mean that an entire chapter of my book would not have occurred. I would not be the man that I am. This is not to say better or worse than but merely different. My scars are a part of who I am. And when I think back on the incidents that gave me the scars, painful as they may have been, I would vote to keep the experiences and the scars they brought. The experience, in each case, made me stronger than I would have been otherwise. The scars are the proof.
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As a guy who has encountered skin problems in the form of basal cell carcinoma I would give advice to anyone who encounters a mole to have it checked by a dermatologist ASAP. If it's nothing but a mole you can get it removed and get on with your life. If it's more than that you have the advantage of having a doc look at it and do something about it before it becomes something more.
Budda has given you some good advice--I've had eight skin cancers, 3 of them squamous cell. And, next Thursday they're removing a bunch of pre-cancerous lesions--point, w/ a shaved head these are easier to find a treat early. Mostly their 99.9% curable--so get rid of them, have a nice dome and lose the tension. Scars, well most people, guys in particular have them, many on their chins--little boys lead with their chins, don't they? It's just proof you've had a life, and weren't a "china doll."
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Thanks, I actually have a lot of moles so stay out of the sun, use sunscreen etc but I had most of them checked by my doctor last year and quite a few turned out to be warts that are brown and look like moles he said they were all fine just to watch for any changes. But I do keep a very close eye on them.
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I just did it and everyone got use to it - -it is what I wanted - - - -everyone likes it now - - and it is a great look - -SLY - - -- - - - -you can always let it grow back - -
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So I finally did it at first i thought i was a bit :/O crazy to do it but how you think it looks I just took a quick pic not best quality but on a high at the minute. I managed not to cut up my head used a mach 3 wasnt the smoothest ride but with time i'll get better
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi211.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fbb301%2Ftat21_bucket%2F05032010047.jpg&hash=cae11cad7247ec637489d1a7dea9c87c8e01fd7e)
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Looks good, I bet it feels great for you. You moved fairly quickly--Note to Lurkers and Fencers--When you've got the itch, give it, it feels so damn good.
FFan--remember 30 days!
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It looks great! Congrats!
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Really nice! Keep it sly 8)
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It looks great, FF.
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Thanks for the support, you guys are great. My head isn't as smooth as I would like so may give it another pass over with the razor but my head is feeling really hot at the minute. Doing it has made my eyebrows look really bushy so gonna have to tend to them. Already had 1 compliment off a mate who said it suits me O0 and 1 comment from my mother how i'm going through a faze lol ;D
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Looks good. My head felt really hot when I first shaved as well, especially the back. It still sometimes gets hot but I haven' been shaving too long.
If the irritation persists I recommend you make some home made tend skin. It really helps calm my skin irritations, redness and bumps. The recipe is available on this site (asprin, witch hazel and iso alcohol), its cheap.
Enjoy the freedom...
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LOOKEN GOOD...fight fan! Welcome to SBG. If your into the UFC ... your not alone.
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It looks awesome FF. Welcome to freedom and the ability to focus on the more important things in life than worrying about how your hair looks. Believe me you're going to have issues -- mainly issues over scheduling dates with the girls who absolutely love sly heads. And for your former girlfriend -- good on ya mate for putting her in her place! Trust me -- you're going to have access to more women now than when you had bad hair. Just this week I had two close female friends come up to me and tell me that they hope that I never go back to hair and a hairpiece. And these were two beautiful single gals.
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Sorry to post a little late. Looks like it's been quite an ordeal but glad you finally took the plunge. The looks suits you completely man. You shouldn't worry at all. And you've already seen what a great group of guys the site offers.
So, be it late, Welcome!! Enjoy the site!!
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Yeah it has been quite an ordeal, but I've been shaving for a week now and WOW it has changed my life. The anxiety of losing my hair, checking what the weather is going to be, spending hours 'fixing' my hair to hide my balding, not being able to swim or having to dry my hair really quick after a shower so no one will see how thin it is or having to get my hair ready in the morning before anyone sees me- All GONE.
It seems weird that shaving your head bald would eliminate the worry of balding, but I think it was the anticipation of rude comments rather then the comments themselves you dread. I've taken control, I'm bald so now I'm not worrying about going bald. Since shaving my head bald I'm surprised how much going bald really affected me and my life.
I was so depressed when I would look in the mirror and see the receding hair line and thinning, how old I looked and how unfair it was that I was only 24 and going bald. I lurked here for a about 4/5 months and envied all these bald guys who just accepted it and how they were and thought how lucky you all were because it suited you all.
There was a comment I read that if you normally buzz your hair just shave it sly and if you don't like it what have you got to lose it will grow back within a week, this gave me the confidence to give it a try.
So if there are any lurkers debating whether to try it or not. Just give it ago, if you don't like it just grow it back, but you never no it might just change your life for the better, its amazing what taking a razor to you head can do for your confidence, self esteem and for your ego O0.
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Glad you have seen the light. It is odd how getting rid of the hair lifts such a burden. It's like checking another thing off of your 'To Do' list; now you can move on to the next thing... living your life.
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welcome!
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I'm really late here, but Welcome anyway O0 looks like you're enjoyin the SLY life, so stick around and post often! 8)
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Thanks for the encouragement, Ive made it to 30 days O0
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