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Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: dodger on December 04, 2009, 08:19:36 PM

Title: Nervous
Post by: dodger on December 04, 2009, 08:19:36 PM
I finally decided to take the Hair Club unit off and go natrual
I am 60 years old and I have been wearing hair for almost 40 years
I have told my family but I want to tell the people at work

This is a somewhat difficult time as I go back and forth in my head
worrying about how I will look and be received

So, I guess I am looking for encouragement

Any suggestions?
 
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: Tom McGarry. on December 04, 2009, 08:34:27 PM
First of all, congradulations on finnaly beeing free, and to not having to hide who you really are!!! Also in case I missed it welcome to the SBG Family there are a lot of great people here with lots of encouragement and advise.

Don't worry about others reactions, it only matters how you frrl about yourself!! If you are confident and comfortable with the way you look then nothing else matters.

Again congradulations!!  O0  P@^

P.S. Post up an intro so we can all give you aproper welcome, and tell us your story, I'll bet you are full of wisdom that will be benificial to others.
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: Craig on December 04, 2009, 08:47:12 PM
same here.  I use to wear a piece but I took mine off this week.  Hello my name is Craig from Kentucky.  Love the site
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: dodger on December 04, 2009, 08:53:25 PM
Started losing my hair at 19 and have worn hair for forty years
Didn't realize the freedom I was missing of diving into a pool, sitting in a sauna, enjoying  the rain and wind hit my head.

Love to workout and and still participate in sports but always afraid of the hairpiece moving or just the discomfort in the hot weather

I work in the Supply Chain field where there are many young people and so I felt I needed something to give me confidence and hair did that

At this point in my life (60), I realized that I need to stop and remove the hairpiece and shave the little I have remaining

My wife and family have been totally supportive. My plan is to remove the hairpiece in two weeks prior to the holiday family get together and then go to work...this is where the nerves go edgy....I have no clue how I will look with a shaved head and the reception at work.

I am planning to give them a heads-up the last week before the holidays
so I can reduce the uneasiness.

Well, that's my story....any encouragement is well received

Thanks for listening  
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: Sean25 on December 04, 2009, 09:03:08 PM
Congratulations... You are going to love it
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: Mikekoz13 on December 04, 2009, 09:37:26 PM
Welcome to the Forum Dodger! Congratulations on deciding to ditch that rug after all these years. All this time you felt more confident because of that fake hair. Believe me... others knew and wondered among themselves why you wore that thing.

We had a guy at work that wore one for years...... and everybody spoke about it behind his back. Shortly after I shaved my horseshoe a few years ago he ditched the rug..... much to everyone's surprise. Guess what..... nobody talks behind his back anymore.

Your plan to shave at the Family Holiday is a great plan. This will offer you and those closest to you to get accustomed to your new look. I;m betting that you will love the shaved look, be confident with it by the time you return to work, and have no problem facing your colleagues because of your new confidence.

Now go run around the block and dive into the pool!!!!!! Enjoy your new found life!!!
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: ozzie on December 04, 2009, 10:11:56 PM
That's fantastic news Dodger. Congratulations! You'll be really glad you became a SBG. O0

Oh ...don't forget to say "hi" in the "Introductions" section too.

Congrats to you also, Craig. And a big SBG welcome to you. Now scoot on over to Introductions and tell us more about yourself.
 


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Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on December 05, 2009, 07:08:41 AM
Welcome, enjoy the freedom.  You're probably going to find a lot of encouragement from the brothers who, like you, have come out from under the rug.  Enjoy.
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: pdxtodd on December 05, 2009, 07:11:55 AM
I was right there where you were a couple of days ago.  So tired of paying for hair.  So tired of the hassle.   I've though about going sly for a few months and thanks to everyone's encouragement on the site I took the plunge this week and am so dang happy that I did.   I worried about what I would look like,  the reactions of others,  what my wife would think,  what my kids would think.   People at work were "eh, got a hair cut, ok lets get back to working on this".   My wife was "ahhhhh you look like Bruce Willis, looks good!" -- and my kids were "ha ha ha daddy you lost your hair!".    For me its the ultimate freedom of taking control.    Don't look back.  

This site is incredible.  Without this site I wouldn't have been able to take the step to sly.  
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: tomgallagher on December 05, 2009, 09:12:19 AM
The SLY look really suits you dude.
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: Ming the Merciless on December 05, 2009, 11:12:18 AM
If?  If! 

Off!  Off!

Razor = Eraser...of?

As as has been said here before, "No plugs, rugs, or drugs."

That's the skinny...
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: Sgt. Pate on December 05, 2009, 01:26:57 PM
Like anything new, it takes a little time for you to get used to it.  You see yourself many times a day so, it's going to take others longer.  But get used to it they will.
The best thing to do is jump in and get it over with!  Don't go back!  It took me a couple months to stop thinking about it all the time.   O0
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: Tyler on December 05, 2009, 08:18:49 PM
Dodger and Craig, welcome to Sly Bald Guys and your new found freedom!!
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: marty22 on December 06, 2009, 12:36:53 PM
welcome and be glad u got rid of it.
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: TheSlyBear on December 06, 2009, 03:48:18 PM
A relevant comic (F Minus) from last week:

(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fdl.dropbox.com%2Fu%2F2524225%2Fphotos%2Fmisc%2Ffminus.bear.rug.gif&hash=bbe9c04b52b65067cfba26d758c7ed01c26008b5)

Just say no to rugs!
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: marshd1000 on December 06, 2009, 05:00:41 PM
Dodger,

You say you work in the supply chain field.  So I am thinking that is a pretty blue collar job.  I would think that you would fit right in if you shaved your head.  It is natural to be nervous.   My co-workers questioned me initially.  But one time when I grew hair back, it was apparent that the top and back were getting thin.  So that cemented my decision to make shaved my main look.  But in my case, my dad (now deceased) and my stepmother did not like the shaved look.  But in the long run, you need to do what makes you comfortable.  I am naturally a people pleaser.  But I did not like the thinning look on me.  In most cases, when people get used to seeing you with no hair, they will quit making it a subject of conversation.  So if you already have the blessings of your family, I would say that the major battle is over!  So shave it my friend!  Enjoy the freedom!
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: BrotherBanzai on December 06, 2009, 08:01:09 PM
Welcome aboard, dodger and  Craig, nice to see you here O0
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on December 07, 2009, 06:18:40 AM
One issue you bring up, age--60!  Some say it's the new 40!  I held on to a combover for at least 12-15 years longer than I should have--cleaned up at 62. 
Now, you're still young since you say you're interested in sports and activities.  W/o a picture it's hard to say, but almost everyone I've ever seen transform from thinning bald to sly looks younger--most of the more "mature" guys here, including myself, can attest to the fact people all say a guy looks younger--NICE. Rugs are rugs--everyone knows you wear it--it's a fact.  Getting rid of it will save you money & because of the economy we're probably going to have to work a little longer than we may have planned, you won't get your full SS benefits until 66 and the best return until you're 70.  So adopting a style that emphasized your physical condition, and Sly does that, is to your economic benefit.  $$$ talks, rugs don't.  Think about the economic benefits--then experience the freedom.  Shave it, sooner rather than later, you're missing the rush of Sly.
Title: Re: Nervous
Post by: benmcd on December 07, 2009, 06:41:55 AM
Hey Dodger,
I think you will only earn respect from your colleagues for ditching the rug and being real. I do understand the desire to conceal natures processes, but baldness is part of the healthy journey of life.  If I had a choice I would still opt for nature to take it's course and I'm happy to go along for the ride. Enjoy your decision.