Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: Andy889 on November 11, 2009, 12:33:50 PM
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Hello,
This is my first post, I have been losing my hair for awhile now. I still have hair up there but it is getting thin. I like having hair and going bald makes me sad. However after reading a bunch of your posts it sounds like it wont be to bad.
I am sooo nervous about shaving my head as I am in a sales/customer service industry. I fear my fellow co-workers will look at me different, my boss may not approve of it, worst of all my older customers will not accept the look.
I am 24, the youngest guy at the dealership. The other 3 sales guys are all in their late 50's and early 60's "they all have hair". I really don't think I will fit in anymore. Since realizing that I will have to shave my head soon as I will not sport the "bald on top hair on the sides" look. I am now looking to get into more of a trade than being in sales. I feel I would fit in better there. Plus I am beginning to hate sales and my customers.
Thanks for listening guys,
Andy
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I am now looking to get into more of a trade than being in sales. I feel I would fit in better there. Plus I am beginning to hate sales and my customers.
Andy:
Many times the initial post says something that the writer may not have thought about when he started writing. IMO, you have outlined the issue well and you have to resolve your issues on your job commitment. Good news, car sales don't look like a strong growth field right now but the experience probably sharpened your bargaining and pricing skills--and that talent will serve you well in whatever field you find that holds your interest and where you have a much more positive social attitude. Solve that and you'll have no trouble grabbing a razor at some point and going sly, or even buzzing to see if that works too. But resolve your issues w/ your work and people first. The rest is only hair.
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Welcome to the forum, Andy. Go sly. You're going to surprise yourself. When you shave your head, you'll most likely get a genuine boost to your self-confidence. It's such a strong, affirmative statement. You may find that your whole outlook on what you are doing, career-wise, will change just as dramatically as your appearance. Nothing sells like self-confidence. People are just naturally drawn to self-confident guys. You might even start enjoying yourself at work. Go for it!
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Based on the title of your thread, I have diagnosed the cause of your hair loss and have the perfect solution....get out of car sales!! :*))
(sorry, that's just how I read your title).
In all seriousness, as the guys before me have said, you'll likely get a boost of confidence by going sly. If nothing else, you'll not be consumed with how people are looking at your MPB. Remember, give it 30 days.
Good luck.
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Welcome to the Forum Andy!
There are SLY guys in every work field there is these days.... it's accepted and even admired by many. Remember..... your head, your life.... it doesn't matter what those other guys think.
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Andy, shave that head down and get out there and sell some cars , man!
Look around, smooth and slick heads are everywhere these days, it's a major feeling of confidence, especially when you're losing it to mpb.
Give it a go, and let us know how you feel. O0
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Thanks guys for being so positive about the whole thing.
I think I am going to talk to my boss about it soon and just take the plunge, I am actively looking at getting out anyway. So if it doesn't fly no harm done.
I shaved my head pretty short once when I was in Thailand and the girls that have seen the picture said I looked good. I still had hair though I think it was a number 1 or 2...
I am kind of thin though, I think Sly suits someone with weight and muscle. Right now I am 5"10 160... I am really going to have to work on that lol.
My head is going to be so pale compared to my face lol...
Thanks again everyone,
Andy
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Thanks guys for being so positive about the whole thing.
I think I am going to talk to my boss about it soon and just take the plunge, I am actively looking at getting out anyway. So if it doesn't fly no harm done.
I shaved my head pretty short once when I was in Thailand and the girls that have seen the picture said I looked good. I still had hair though I think it was a number 1 or 2...
I am kind of thin though, I think Sly suits someone with weight and muscle. Right now I am 5"10 160... I am really going to have to work on that lol.
My head is going to be so pale compared to my face lol...
Thanks again everyone,
Andy
Dude.... a good quality razor, some nice shave cream, and chocolate cake every night for a few months will solve your problems! :*))
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Andy:
Change of jobs and hair transformation could be emotionally chaotic during same period. Go for a tight buzz cut during Thanksgiving Holiday and then total head shave during Christmas. When you shave your head for the Holidays, just tell everyone you wanted your head to resemble a shiny Christmas tree ornament and leave it at that ! Good luck on new job endevours ! Post pictures and welcome to this site !
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I hope you at least work at a > " F O R D " < dealership !..................WELCOME......... 8)
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Hey man,
It's always good to hit the gym, but I wouldn't worry about being too thin. I'm 5-10 and around 150, and the bald head looks fine on me. Give yourself a little while to adjust to the guy in the mirror, and you're gonna love it.
As for work, I wouldn't worry too much. I was in a pretty senior management position at a Fortune 100 company the first time I shaved my head, and after the first couple of days everybody got over it. I think that balding guys get a free pass on shaving, even in the most conservative companies.
And try Juergens Natural Glow for the white scalp - stuff works incredibly well for me, and I'm the palest guy I know.
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Welcome to SBG!
I'm in sales and have no issues selling anything and I'm a bald advocate.
Do NOT ask your boss for permission as he has no right to have that authority. Do it, feel confident, and make more sales. Your boss only wants you to make sales.
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First, let me repeat what Tyler said "dont ask your boss!" it isnt up to him/her to decide how you style your hair. Recently when I went car shopping I got a few guys that had MPB and you could tell they were self concious about it and they werent able to sell as well. Then I went to a carlot that had 4 guys, 2 with hair, one with MPB, and one bald. The two with hair seemed too cocky, the guy with MPB seemed like he wanted to crawl under a rock, and the bald guy had just enough self confidence but not too much. Also the clean shaved guy looked more professional to me, the slackers with shaggy hair looked like they'd rather be watching tv and the guy with MPB seemed shy and twitchy but the bald guy loved his job and helping customers.
If anything your boss will like it, clean shaved is more clean and tidy looking, no hair to be messed up.
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Andy,
I'm in the car business also. I write service for an Acura dealer. When I went SLY almost 4 years ago I thought the same thing. I wasn't losing my hair, but it was not a big deal to anyone except me. I worried most about what the owner would say.
No biggie!!! I even clients asking me about the razor I use and how I get the nice sheen, all that jazz.
Trust me, you'll be glad you did it
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hey andy: 1st of all welcome 2 the sly fraternity. glad that ya joined us. if u r losing your hair... the simple thing 2 do is 2 shave that dome smooooooth. trust me, it will give u an added confidence that only a sbg can understand. again... welcome 2 the sly fraternity and keep us posted 2 your road 2 slyness. O0
WARHAWK O0
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Think about it -- can you really imagine anyone walking into a car dealership and avoid dealing with a salesman because his head is shaved?
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I'm not going to be looking at his hair, or lack of, but rather at the prices he is giving me.
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I'm not going to be looking at his hair, or lack of, but rather at the prices he is giving me.
GOOD ONE...bill. he knocks it out the ball park. O0
WARHAWK O0
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In our society car salesmen have gotten a stereotypical bad rap. Unfortunately it seems that we assign the negative characteristics of 1 or 2 people that we meet in a particular line of work to everyone who does the same job. We do this with cops, lawyers, car salesmen, and others. Knowing in advance that you're in a line of work wherein your integrity gets questioned before you even introduce yourself to a customer has got to carry a lot of pressure.
The tipping point comes afterward.
If your customer sees that he can count on you to be honest with him/her as opposed to the 50 or 60 year old guy with the bouffant and all the bling he will feel safer in your presence. If, on the other hand, your customer sees that dealing with you is only to experience the stereotype that he was expecting from a salesman he will leave with that kind of chip on his shoulder and he will make sure that you share in it with him.
IMO, if you are sly people will be drawn to you initially because the lack of hair indicates that you have nothing to hide. And if you're not hiding yourself it indicates that you are more open and honest overall and not inclined to hide anything else, like the proverbial Car-Fax.
Of course, all this carries the weight of striving to do "the right thing" all the time and becoming conscious of the times when you are unsuccessful and making appropriate amends.
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Welcome Andy!!! Just cut it, enjoy the new feeling and confidence you will have....then continue to sell cars.