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Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: Morthen on August 06, 2009, 04:37:44 AM
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I am 19 years old and I believe I am losing my hair
my whole life i have had my hair extremely short to my objection. About a few months to a year ago i began growing it out, its gotten a little past my neck but to my ultimate dismay, my hairline is receding. I am on thyroid medication and baldness doesnt run on the fathers side but it does on my mothers side. My dad has a full healthy head of hair in his mid 50's. But it looks like im being screwed in the area of a normal hairline
Anyhow heres a picture. I know a majority of you experienced hair loss at some point and decided to go completely shaved im wondering If at this point I could or just wait it out and see if it keeps getting worse because right now my long hair completely hides my hairline unless its wet. Just curious about what you think I should do.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/Atomic9/c78dcbb64fd1__1248825860000.jpg
Thankyou in advance, take care
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Welcome to the Forum Morthen!
Well there is no doubt your hair is very thin. At the very least I would buzz it down short..... you should also consider giving shaving a try. It's very acceptable now, you'll look great, feel great, and your confidence will soar.
Keep posting, keep your chin up, and don't be afraid to ask for more help no matter what you decide to do.
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welcome to the crowd! Try buzzing it down really short and get used to it. Then try shaving it. It can't hurt right? Take some time and read some of the threads on here. There is a lot of information on here and a great bunch of guys to help you!
And yes, baldness runs on the mother's side. Good luck!
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Welcome Morthen,
19 years old and unhappy, well try a clipper cut and a headshave.
Afther the shave you are 19 years old and happy
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Welcome Morthen. One way to lessen the impact of hair that is thinning is to do as the others have suggested and clip it down. If you are nervous about it, go in stages starting with a 3 and going down in steps. This should allow you to get used to it and see that you CAN shave it down and look good. Now is the time to do it. Really short and shaved is quite commonplace today.
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thanks for the encouragement guys. i'll keep you posted on my decision =)
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Welcome to the SBG Family Morthen,
I agree with the others, try clipping it first then try the Head shave. If you don't like it you can grow it back out. I think that you'll look just fine with a shaved head though.
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Look around you bro, like Paul said it is common place nowadays. Clip it down in stages and go for it. Do the 30 day trial period after you shave it down and then make your decision. Just remember, if you do not keep the shaved slick look, you can still be a member here.
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Thanks for posting and sharing link. You have come to the right place! I agree with others that you should buzz the hair down very tight. Then look in the mirror, rub the balding areas and train your mind saying "I am myself. I am whole. I am balding. I am confident". Keep doing this and soon you will want to razor is smooth and enjoy the new you. Best to you !
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Don't hide it. People don't like surprises like this. If you actually LIVE your life, at some point someone will see your hair wet or blown back by the wind, and they will notice...
I was reaching to get my receipt from the little return tube at the bank drivethru and gave my friend a birds-eye view of my crown. The next thing out of his mouth was, "Dude. You're going bald." I canceled a camping trip with him that weekend after making some lame albeit believable excuse, and wore a hat every day after that for a year. It was no kind of life.
If you already had short hair before, it should be no big adjustment to return to a close-cropped look. Your hairline COULD just be maturing, OR you could just be slowly balding. Either way, it would be better to cut it short now IMO. It would give people time to adjust to your features as accented by short hair. Going from long to bald (which is what I did) is bad... people will REALLY do a double-take.
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Although my first reaction is to say shave it, you mention that you're on thyroid medication. For that reason, I suggest you consult w/ your doctor about the level of medicaition that you have been taking to insure that it is appropriate for your condition and that it doesn't need to be adjusted. Thyroid problems can affect hair, and you may be one of the few that can regain hair if the meds aren't at the right level. It could be an important symptom for your doctor to consider.
If the meds are okay, and not the cause, then mpb may be your fate. Your choice is then simple, hang on to the hair understanding that it will recede and fall out day by day, hair by hair until you achieve mail pattern baldness. Alternatively, get ahead of the game, and shave it off as I and the guys support. MPB will continue its course, but you won't have to worry about it because by in large its progress will be invisible. Good luck.
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im going to the doctor this upcomming monday to figure out what the deal is. If I have MPB i'll probably just do a low to no guard buzz. Thanks for the support guys i'll post on what happens.
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Welcome to the forum. There is a lot of good advice here, but the best advice is that you need to do what makes you happy. If you are happy, it will show through any hair style that you have. If shaved makes you happy, then shave it. Honestly, it made a huge improvement in my life. I am more confident than ever. I love my shaved head and people can see that I am much happier than when I was trying to hide a bald spot and receding hairline.
Good luck, bro. Post a pic of your shaved head, when the deed is done. O0
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hey morthern: welcome 2 the sly fraternity. glad that ya joined us. the sly brothers have given U some gr8 advice. whatever... your decision. we got your back. O0
WARHAWK O0
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got my doctors appointment today to see if Its my thyroid meds causing the problem. I am pretty nervous about it i'll have a follow up post on it if your interested. If MPB is what is causing my hairloss I will most likely be doing a low/no guard buzz
thanks guys
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According to my doctor my thyroid meds arent enough to cause hair loss and even if they did it wouldnt recede the hairline, my scalp is very healthy so thats not it either. She said its probably hereditary, wrote my a prescription for propecia(which im not going to do) However, I am still quite on the fence about cutting all my hair off. a bit nervous because ive been growing it for a long time.
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Morthen,
It's like I said earlier, you are obviously unhappy with the way you look now!! So if you know you don't want to try drugs/plugs or rugs (which we all recomend you stay away from) then why not try shaving it?? It realy is the "ONLY" permanent soloution!! Besides if you don't like it you can always regrow what you do have, but then you know already that you'll be unhappy with that, because you are now!!! Oh and know offence but I believe that everyone who was losing their hair and chose to shave it was growing it for a long time!!
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According to my doctor my thyroid meds arent enough to cause hair loss and even if they did it wouldnt recede the hairline, my scalp is very healthy so thats not it either. She said its probably hereditary, wrote my a prescription for propecia(which im not going to do) However, I am still quite on the fence about cutting all my hair off. a bit nervous because ive been growing it for a long time.
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Being nervous is a normal thing at your age. Why don't you Google up the Norwood/Hamilton scales of baldness. You can then make a determination of the relative degree of mpb that is going on. It may not be sufficient in your mind to do much about now--or you may look into short haircuts, and such. Remember it's about what makes you comfortable. At some point you will be bald, and the speed that you achieve that end is not under anyone's control, it just happens. As you get older more and more of your contemporaries will experience the same thing--and that may also make you feel more confident. Finally, now that you've considered the Sly solution you will probably become more aware of how many guys, younger guys in particular, when faced with this issue--it's not a disease or defect--chose the Sly Solution. It is about you, not your parents, not your current significant other, or anyone else, just you.
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Im just worried I wont look good with the shaved head look. and I didnt like the way it looked when it was short, maybe its just me because i was told it looks okay
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/Atomic9/0d725f39c451__1247793633000.jpg this is me as of now, without pulling my hair back and showing the receding line.
jesus I look like im from the medieval time with it all poofy, its a bit longer than that now, ive been growing it for so long it just seems like a big step to cut it all off now.I like the way it looks long, im just concerned if my hair continues to fall out it will just make the transition even more painful than if i just had it really short.
god balding this young blows
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Im just worried I wont look good with the shaved head look. and I didnt like the way it looked when it was short, maybe its just me because i was told it looks okay
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/Atomic9/0d725f39c451__1247793633000.jpg this is me as of now, without pulling my hair back and showing the receding line.
jesus I look like im from the medieval time with it all poofy, its a bit longer than that now, ive been growing it for so long it just seems like a big step to cut it all off now.I like the way it looks long, im just concerned if my hair continues to fall out it will just make the transition even more painful than if i just had it really short.
god balding this young blows
I can't see balding, but what I do see is something you might consider if you decide to try the sly life. Your hair appears to be long enough that if you decide to try you could become part of St Baldrick's. Google it, they would take your long hair and use it to help young children and others who have lost their hair due to many reasons. In doing so you help others--an ARK--Act of Random Kindness, and you would then be able to use that as the "excuse" with all your family, friends and acquaintances for the sly look--only the most cynical would say anything bad then. Just a thought. O:O
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Try going to this site http://www.baldlygo.com/ (http://www.baldlygo.com/), I think if you upload a current photo of yourself, they will make several pictures of you with different stages of going bald. Other people have found it helpfull to see what they may actually look like.
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Im just worried I wont look good with the shaved head look. and I didnt like the way it looked when it was short, maybe its just me because i was told it looks okay
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/Atomic9/0d725f39c451__1247793633000.jpg this is me as of now, without pulling my hair back and showing the receding line.
jesus I look like im from the medieval time with it all poofy, its a bit longer than that now, ive been growing it for so long it just seems like a big step to cut it all off now.I like the way it looks long, im just concerned if my hair continues to fall out it will just make the transition even more painful than if i just had it really short.
god balding this young blows
I can't see balding, but what I do see is something you might consider if you decide to try the sly life. Your hair appears to be long enough that if you decide to try you could become part of St Baldrick's. Google it, they would take your long hair and use it to help young children and others who have lost their hair due to many reasons. In doing so you help others--an ARK--Act of Random Kindness, and you would then be able to use that as the "excuse" with all your family, friends and acquaintances for the sly look--only the most cynical would say anything bad then. Just a thought. O:O
yeah you cant see it because my hair is so long that it covers the receding hairline. especially in that picture, in the first picture i linked thats about a day before i took the 2nd picture just with my hair pulled back so you can see the hair line
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Im just worried I wont look good with the shaved head look. and I didnt like the way it looked when it was short, maybe its just me because i was told it looks okay
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/Atomic9/0d725f39c451__1247793633000.jpg this is me as of now, without pulling my hair back and showing the receding line.
jesus I look like im from the medieval time with it all poofy, its a bit longer than that now, ive been growing it for so long it just seems like a big step to cut it all off now.I like the way it looks long, im just concerned if my hair continues to fall out it will just make the transition even more painful than if i just had it really short.
god balding this young blows
I can't see balding, but what I do see is something you might consider if you decide to try the sly life. Your hair appears to be long enough that if you decide to try you could become part of St Baldrick's. Google it, they would take your long hair and use it to help young children and others who have lost their hair due to many reasons. In doing so you help others--an ARK--Act of Random Kindness, and you would then be able to use that as the "excuse" with all your family, friends and acquaintances for the sly look--only the most cynical would say anything bad then. Just a thought. O:O
yeah you cant see it because my hair is so long that it covers the receding hairline. especially in that picture, in the first picture i linked thats about a day before i took the 2nd picture just with my hair pulled back so you can see the hair line
So no "hole" in the back yet? If not, very early stages. But, the St. Baldrick donation would permit you to do it, do an ARK, and avoid adverse comments. If you like it, keep it, or find some point of growth that you are comfortable w/. This really isn't rocket science.
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yeah i suppose. Im the most indecisive person you will ever meet thats what turns it into rocket science D:
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oh and no "hole" in the back. its just receding in the front.
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Go here and see if that does not help you make the decision. :) Do it not only for a good cause, but because you want to. It is only hair and will grow back.
http://stbaldricks.org/
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I personally would do a buzz, and try it out for a few weeks, then bic it it and try it for 30 days, after 30 days youll feel good about yourself and will be bald for life like me, the propecia doesnt work, all it does is waste your money,
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yeah i looked at the baldricks website, but theres no events comming up in my area : (
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yeah i looked at the baldricks website, but theres no events comming up in my area : (
So, if the mountain won't come to Mohammad, Mohammad must go to the mountain! Contact them, explain that you desire to donate hair, and ask them how to proceed--it's all about getting motivated to help others, getting out of any obsession with yourself and becoming involved in the needs of others--the cornerstone and foundation of an ARK. Doing so will change your life, I promise.
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Dang! SaintC took the words right out of my mouth. :)
I saw that the one we had in St. Paul this past year had 24 shavees and over $90,000 donated. No reason you cannot convince others to join in with you. That is a lot of money for just 24 heads. And you might get yourself on the news, etc. Turn it into a community event. Give them a call at 888-899-BALD and see what it takes. Could be fun, get to meet great people, and it goes to a great cause. What is there to lose? And trust me. SaintC is right. It is far more rewarding afterwards than what it may appear right now. Giving is the gift that keeps on giving.
Tell you what. You get one set up and see how many of your bro's on here will sponsor you. I know I will. :)
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Your genes give you a head of hair when you are young--we all got one. Some of us find our genes are wiling to bedeck us with active follicles for only a short time; others find that come middle age, they decide to clock out; others go to the grave with all they were given. That's the way it is.
So, balding at nineteen. I can only say, "There are worse fates." I know, I know--you look around and see all those manes amongst your cohort and feel betrayed. There is NOTHING to be done about what your head is going to do. Potions, lotions, prayer, implants, rugs (No, No!)...forget about it!
What is WRONG with being bald? It's as masculine as anything one can point to.
Embrace it! Ming is BBC. He likes the look. Think about that. Ming has to take his hair off, and does it without a qualm.
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Your genes give you a head of hair when you are young--we all got one. Some of us find our genes are wiling to bedeck us with active follicles for only a short time; others find that come middle age, they decide to clock out; others go to the grave with all they were given. That's the way it is.
So, balding at nineteen. I can only say, "There are worse fates." I know, I know--you look around and see all those manes amongst your cohort and feel betrayed. There is NOTHING to be done about what your head is going to do. Potions, lotions, prayer, implants, rugs (No, No!)...forget about it!
What is WRONG with being bald? It's as masculine as anything one can point to.
Embrace it! Ming is BBC. He likes the look. Think about that. Ming has to take his hair off, and does it without a qualm.
very well put Ming..
also I wanted to add. based on my experiences. that you aren't going to miss out on things becuase you a bald/balding... you miss out on things becuase you are thinking /worrying about it... just let go, and accept it. and then live your life. you'll be a much happier person.
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I think today or tomorrow i may just take the plunge and buzz it short. If it doesnt look good i'll shave it. i'll post a pic if i actually go through with it
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Before I shaved my head, I was a hermit. Afraid to go in public because I knew that people would be staring at me. Now that I shave it, I have gotten my social life back. I don't mind anymore if they stare. They all seem to like it and I become the center of attention. Enough for me.
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ive decided to man up and stop letting my hair control my life. I am pretty set on shaving my head today. just gonna wait till my brother gets up so he can buzz it for me
pics will be headed your way
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ive decided to man up and stop letting my hair control my life
If you're like most guys here, you won't believe how liberating that will feel, and you will wonder why the hell you didn't do it sooner.
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ive decided to man up and stop letting my hair control my life. I am pretty set on shaving my head today. just gonna wait till my brother gets up so he can buzz it for me
pics will be headed your way
Good decision. Taking the plunge can be a bit scary but it's worth it for the peace of mind and confidence that come afterwards.
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buzzed it with a 3 guard. looks good so far, i wanted to do no guard then shave but my brother refused to do it for me, him and my dad insisted my balding isnt that bad but i think its blatantly obvious how much its thinning on the top
i'll post pics shortly
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http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/Atomic9/e0e24278cbc7__1250446909000.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/Atomic9/9cc6965b9ed2__1250446936000.jpg
i think it looks pretty good so far. Im just happy i can wear my hats again without all that long hair getting in the way =)
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Looks good! That is about where I was at 19. Then the crown started going and trying to meet up with the forks in the front. :o My traditional buzz cut that I carried over from the military was a 1 on the lower sides and back tapered to a 2 with a 4 on top. Now it is so much easier. :D
What you might consider is letting them get used to this and then taking it all the way. It will grow back at about a quarter inch per month, so it is nothing permanent. Just long enough to try it out and see if you like it. You have enough that you have a few years to play around with it.
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Looks good! That is about where I was at 19. Then the crown started going and trying to meet up with the forks in the front. :o My traditional buzz cut that I carried over from the military was a 1 on the lower sides and back tapered to a 2 with a 4 on top. Now it is so much easier. :D
What you might consider is letting them get used to this and then taking it all the way. It will grow back at about a quarter inch per month, so it is nothing permanent. Just long enough to try it out and see if you like it. You have enough that you have a few years to play around with it.
thanks man =)
I actually wanted to completely shave it but my parents and brother insisted it looks fine this way. If my hair loss gets any worse im definitely gonna shave it though, love the way it feels not having all that hair on me
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I always liked the velcro feel. It was just a bitch getting t-shirts off. They would stick on the back of my head. :)
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haha, for now i think i will just keep it short, if my hair loss gets much worse I got a mach3 waiting to take care of that. Thanks for all the support guys :)
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Hey Morthern,
I'm glad to hear that you are starting to take controll of your life instead of letting your hair controll you!! Just thought that I'd put in a link to another young SLY members thread that is simmaler to yours, just in case you haven't read it already. Read the whole thread and you'll see how this member felt at the beginning and how he's feeling now about choosing to go sly. http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=10541.msg182607;topicseen#msg182607 (http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=10541.msg182607;topicseen#msg182607)
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Hey Morthern,
I'm glad to hear that you are starting to take controll of your life instead of letting your hair controll you!! Just thought that I'd put in a link to another young SLY members thread that is simmaler to yours, just in case you haven't read it already. Read the whole thread and you'll see how this member felt at the beginning and how he's feeling now about choosing to go sly. http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=10541.msg182607;topicseen#msg182607 (http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=10541.msg182607;topicseen#msg182607)
Yeah I saw that, Im not really nervous about it anymore, I actually wanted to shave my head but I had no support from my family. I think im going to have to ease them into that.
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yeah i suppose. Im the most indecisive person you will ever meet thats what turns it into rocket science D:
You sure have come a long way in 6 days, congrats O0--one day I suspect the itch to see it completely smooth O:O will over take you.
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I do kinda want to shave it just to give it a go but I have no support from my family over it =(
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Sure it's nice to have the support of those around you, but do they ask your permission in choosing their hair styles?
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I do kinda want to shave it just to give it a go but I have no support from my family over it =(
When I buzzed that short, I just couldn't resist the urge to shave it. I was nervous as hell, but curiosity got the better of me. I wasn't going to do it but I only held out for about 15 minutes before I succumbed.
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yeah its just difficult to do something without the support of your loved ones.
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Sure it's nice to have the support of those around you, but do they ask your permission in choosing their hair styles?
As a newbie, I have to ask you wiser gents...is being bald a "hair style"? Hairless style?
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MY family would not have given me the permission. So I did it without their permission.
On August 24 I will be celebrating both my birthday and my one year sly anniversary.
I shaved it last year and my family no longer cares. They are used to it. O0
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That was my same experience with facial hair. While in the Air Force, I grew the cop stache because I could. I was hounded for 6 months after I got out to shave it. Even threatened that they would wax it in my sleep. When I did shave it off, the immediate response was "Ew! Grow it back!" I have had it or the goatee ever since but for the few odd times I just get in a frenzy to remove all facial hair. One look in the mirror and I start growing it right back.
Now all I have to do is look at a picture with the MBP and I get the urge to shave my head whether it needs it or not.
Day 23 and counting.
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As a newbie, I have to ask you wiser gents...is being bald a "hair style"? Hairless style?
Not necessarily "wiser" here, but I guess it would be considered a "lack of hair style"
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Morthen, you sound like a good guy, but if theres one truth out there, its that you have to help yourself before you can help others. Its nice to have others approve what you do, but in the end you have to look out for number one: yourself. You are feeling a little better about yourself, right? You want to shave, right? Do it. You are legally able to go die for your country, get married and sign a contract.
But you cant shave your head?
If I may be so bold, I say to do it anyway. Youll never know just how confident you could be if you dont try a shave. You may love it, you may not. But at least you know one way or the other.
I apologize if ive overstepped my boundaries, but it really bothers me when loved ones arent supportive of our self-improvement.
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I agree with Peripheral here, you're nineteen years old. Shave it once to try it, take the families reaction, then go from there. It may make you stronger.
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I dont necessarily need permission, I'm just really close with my family is all and even though it shouldnt other peoples opinions severely influence my decisions. I REALLY want to just go for it but I am still kinda nervous about it.
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I dont necessarily need permission, I'm just really close with my family is all and even though it shouldnt other peoples opinions severely influence my decisions. I REALLY want to just go for it but I am still kinda nervous about it.
Hopefully we're all really close w/ our families. That's a good thing. What you want to do isn't a bad thing, it's just what you want for yourself. Does your family impose their choice of friends--provided we're not talking hanging w/ a criminal element--on you--of course not. They love you for who you are and they should rejoice in your legitimate choices. Try it, you're obviously itching to do it. As has been pointed out, when a lot of us faced the mirror on that day when we couldn't wait any longer, it was exciting and we were all a little nervous because of the anticipated results. You're going to get a rush of freedom, and granted some of your family may react negatively at first. Just point out that you're going to be bald someday anyway, you're just getting ahead of it a bit O0. You will like it, we can all promise you that. If it gets too rough, then grow it out a little, then after a couple of months, do it again--they will get the idea that it's your choice and it's going to be your future. Just don't beat yourself up about this, it's supposed to and will relieve you of the anxiety of the slow trip to bald.
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Fortunately, it will grow back in short order. After getting my head shaved to a 1 in basic training, it was about a 4 after 7 weeks.
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i mentioned the idea to my brother then he just proceeded to heckle me about how stupid i would look bald...god damnit i hate my brother -_-
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i mentioned the idea to my brother then he just proceeded to heckle me about how stupid i would look bald...god damnit i hate my brother -_-
This is why you don't discuss it with other people before you do it. You'll always find somebody who wants to talk you out of it.
Look at it this way: is it your goal to look good for your brother? Where will that get you in the end? :-\
If you read through the threads here, you'll find that one recurring theme is that people experience increased confidence after shaving their heads. Part of that comes from standing up to the opposition and doing what you, not they, want. There's no reason why, at age 19, you should feel obligated to keep your appearance a certain way, if it makes you unhappy, just to accomodate the tastes of someone else. Life's too short for that.
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i mentioned the idea to my brother then he just proceeded to heckle me about how stupid i would look bald...god damnit i hate my brother -_-
This is why you don't discuss it with other people before you do it. You'll always find somebody who wants to talk you out of it.
Look at it this way: is it your goal to look good for your brother? Where will that get you in the end? :-\
If you read through the threads here, you'll find that one recurring theme is that people experience increased confidence after shaving their heads. Part of that comes from standing up to the opposition and doing what you, not they, want. There's no reason why, at age 19, you should feel obligated to keep your appearance a certain way, if it makes you unhappy, just to accomodate the tastes of someone else. Life's too short for that.
What he said, & remember 24/7/365 you deal w/ it not your brother.
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i mentioned the idea to my brother then he just proceeded to heckle me about how stupid i would look bald...god damnit i hate my brother -_-
Sigh. I'm sorry but what does your brother know about the feeling you get when you have a shaved head? :/O If you should have asked anyone that question it would be a guy with a shaved head, not some guy who has no clue whatsoever. Sorry I don't mean to insult your brother, but he just doesn't know about the feeling because he hasn't shaved his head. So it's like asking a mechanic a quesiton on cavities. The poor mechanic only knows about cars. What would he know about teeth?
You are in a situation where you should only listen to people who think your happiness matters the most.
As Razorx said, you don't discuss it with others. Most importantly you do NOT discuss it with your loved ones. They are ignorant about this subject just like a mathematician like me would be ignorant about history.
So, just go ahead and let them talk all they want. After all, they are your family. It's not like they will boycott you or anything, will they?
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i mentioned the idea to my brother then he just proceeded to heckle me about how stupid i would look bald...god damnit i hate my brother -_-
Sigh. I'm sorry but what does your brother know about the feeling you get when you have a shaved head? :/O If you should have asked anyone that question it would be a guy with a shaved head, not some guy who has no clue whatsoever. Sorry I don't mean to insult your brother, but he just doesn't know about the feeling because he hasn't shaved his head. So it's like asking a mechanic a quesiton on cavities. The poor mechanic only knows about cars. What would he know about teeth?
You are in a situation where you should only listen to people who think your happiness matters the most.
As Razorx said, you don't discuss it with others. Most importantly you do NOT discuss it with your loved ones. They are ignorant about this subject just like a mathematician like me would be ignorant about history.
So, just go ahead and let them talk all they want. After all, they are your family. It's not like they will boycott you or anything, will they?
I suppose not, its not uncommon for my brother to give me a hard time over something, hes a good guy but he unintentionally insults everytime i do something new with my look.
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When you get right down to it, shaving your head is just another haircut. If you don't like it, it will grow back -- and quicker than you think. But I think you owe to yourself to give it a try. Shave it and commit to keeping it shaved for 30 days, no matter what. You're entitled to do this one thing for yourself for a short period of time, aren't you? Then when the 30 days are up, see how you feel about it and decide whether you want to continue or grow the fuzz back. Even if you don't like it, at least you'll know. Otherwise, you'll always be wondering. If I were a balding 19-year-old in today's environment, when it's perfectly acceptable to shave one's head, I wouldn't hesitate to do it.
I just looked back at the photo you posted at the beginning of this thread. You're way too young to go around with a hairline like that. I know it's scary, but if you take that leap of faith, I'm sure you won't regret it.
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yeah i suppose. Im the most indecisive person you will ever meet thats what turns it into rocket science D:
You sure have come a long way in 6 days, congrats O0--one day I suspect the itch to see it completely smooth O:O will over take you.
Okay, you've dodged every challenge we've provided, and if you are okay w/ living under the domination of other people, fine if that works for you. But, the itch isn't going to go away, you're going to consider and think about it everytime you look in the mirror--especially after a shower when you see and understand where you are and will be going--you're going bald. So, get in front now or later, and unless your family can give you a turnaround quick, w/in five years you're going to be almost if not totally bald. Who's driving the train, you or someone else????
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OK, let's try the "tough love" approach...
Dude, you're 19 freaking years old! Man up, grow a pair, and do what you want for once!
Sure, there might be consequences. But that's what grown-ups do -- deal with the consequences of their actions. It'll be good training for your future,
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Sure, there might be consequences. But that's what grown-ups do -- deal with the consequences of their actions. It'll be good training for your future,
There might be consequences, but in all likelihood they won't be nearly as severe as you think they will be. Most people are amazed at what a non-event the whole thing turns out to be.
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only consequences there will be is possible negative comments. I guess theres no way of knowing until i do it. I keep telling myself tonight ill do it but i always pussy out in the end. ><
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only consequences there will be is possible negative comments. I guess theres no way of knowing until i do it. I keep telling myself tonight ill do it but i always pussy out in the end. ><
The thing is, you're always going to get negative comments, or at least negative attitude, from somebody about something. Some people might not like the way you look with a shaved head. Others might not like the way you look now. This is why you can't live your life trying to please others.
You're 19 years old; you're an adult and can make your own decisions. You're not yet deeply established in a career that you feel might prevent you from making such a change (even that usually ends up being a straw man argument), and you don't have a wife that's going to make your life miserable for shaving your head. The world is your oyster; you will never be freer than you are right now to do something like this.
As you noted in the subject heading, you are quite unhappy. You're not going to be any happier until something changes. Make the change; if you're unhappy now, will it really be any worse if you shave your head?
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I keep telling myself tonight ill do it but i always pussy out in the end. ><
You can eliminate all of that by visiting your local traditional men's barbershop and asking the barber to shave your head. I'm sure he'll be happy to do it for you and won't judge you or question your decision. All you have to do is sit there! Game over.
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at the point i am at based on my pictures. is there any hope left to have hair. or do you think its just gonna get progessively worse
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dude. Shave your head down to a 1 and call it a day. You will find that guys like to bust balls no matter what you do.
Guys will bust balls in these scenarios for you:
If your shaved bald
If your hair is falling out(like now)
If you buzzed down to a one level
If you have a full head of hair (they will good on the style)
Get it ? Guys like your brother love to bust chops...its what makes some people feel good about themselves. So do what YOU want to do.
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As a newbie, I have to ask you wiser gents...is being bald a "hair style"? Hairless style?
I'm not a wiser gent, but I view being bald as to hairstyles as anarchy is to forms of government.
D, None of the Above =P