Let us know what color she picks. :) Congratulations to you for standing your ground. Hell! If you asked her to grow a mustache, would she do it? Tell her that if she gets to pick your hair style that you get to pick hers and then have her shave HER head.
I suck at relationship counselling by the way.
Now I have Famous Dave's on the brain. BBQ! Yum!
J_B, I'm not married so I suppose my words don't carry much weight... However, I would like to point out that (to me) a loving relationship should serve to build each person up. To love someone means you are committed to improving their quality of life through your influence. Your haircut shouldn't be something from which your wife derives her sense of complacency regarding your relationship. If shaving your head allows you to feel better and thus be a better husband WHERE IT COUNTS, then she should support it wholeheartedly...
That makes me wonder if she knows she needs to lose weight, and is having problems because she isn't--so she can't talk about weight so she "displaces" her problems on your dome.
That situation must be a real pain in the butt JB.
That situation must be a real pain in the butt JB.
Tom, today has actually been quite pleasant around here.
Well it happened again tonight :Xo! right there at Famous Daves because her friend was along. She had called me up to see if I would meet them.....so I figured a small bite, not the big orders that I had been accustomed to. I walk in and her friend Terri looks up and say's like wow how shinny. Then my wife goes off, about how pissed she is, as I know now others are listening from other tables. She then says, "I'm never going to ask you about what to do with my hair then."
Now it gets good.... I look at her right there with others looking on from the Sports Bar. I said, You know what, you still don't get it, this aint about you, this is not even about what I think your hair should look like and frankly I don't care what you do with your hair. Color it blue, purple or green.. maybe even like the rainbow for all I care if it makes you feel good, then get it done. I shaved my goatee for you, and all you can do is still BITCH over my shaving my head. This is about me and how I feel, not you, not Terri, not anyone else.
I heard some applausing and amens in the background.... but at our table, you could have heard a pin drop.
Well it happened again tonight :Xo! right there at Famous Daves because her friend was along. She had called me up to see if I would meet them.....so I figured a small bite, not the big orders that I had been accustomed to. I walk in and her friend Terri looks up and say's like wow how shinny. Then my wife goes off, about how pissed she is, as I know now others are listening from other tables. She then says, "I'm never going to ask you about what to do with my hair then."
Now it gets good.... I look at her right there with others looking on from the Sports Bar. I said, You know what, you still don't get it, this aint about you, this is not even about what I think your hair should look like and frankly I don't care what you do with your hair. Color it blue, purple or green.. maybe even like the rainbow for all I care if it makes you feel good, then get it done. I shaved my goatee for you, and all you can do is still BITCH over my shaving my head. This is about me and how I feel, not you, not Terri, not anyone else.
I heard some applausing and amens in the background.... but at our table, you could have heard a pin drop.
Well it happened again tonight :Xo! right there at Famous Daves because her friend was along. She had called me up to see if I would meet them.....so I figured a small bite, not the big orders that I had been accustomed to. I walk in and her friend Terri looks up and say's like wow how shinny. Then my wife goes off, about how pissed she is, as I know now others are listening from other tables. She then says, "I'm never going to ask you about what to do with my hair then."
Now it gets good.... I look at her right there with others looking on from the Sports Bar. I said, You know what, you still don't get it, this aint about you, this is not even about what I think your hair should look like and frankly I don't care what you do with your hair. Color it blue, purple or green.. maybe even like the rainbow for all I care if it makes you feel good, then get it done. I shaved my goatee for you, and all you can do is still BITCH over my shaving my head. This is about me and how I feel, not you, not Terri, not anyone else.
I heard some applausing and amens in the background.... but at our table, you could have heard a pin drop.
HOLY SHEET I WISH I WAS A FLY ON THE WALL FOR THAT ONE.
WELL DONE, JB! O0 O0 O0 O0
I do believe that at least for now, has chosen to back off as my reaction to her comments drew a harsh response. It has been down right very pleasant around here since. Rusty I appreciate your opinion, but me thinks you are wrong over the "me shaving my goatee", I had actually been thinking about shaving that off anyway. With all the grey whiskers in the goatee it made me look years older than I sure feel, so I had been considering it. My choice of words to my wife for my reasoning of shaving it were wrong and probably made her feel like a win there on that issue.
I know she knows my SBG is here and will be staying with me, as she had been reading the "Bald Guy's" shaving gel tube, as it was down from the shelf and on the counter when I got home last night. No comments, no jabs - as I said, its been down right pleasant around here.
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well, you're halfway there, now you just gotta convince her you should keep SLY in the winter too!! O0
First thing I bought when I moved to Minnesota was a rabbit fur covered Elmer Fudd hat with flaps. #u#T3r (The rabbit wasn't using the fur anymore). That is the ONLY thing even when I had hair that kept my head warm when the temp hit negative 40 degrees not including the wind chill.
By the way, nobody should ever have to learn by experience that negative 40 is the point at which celcius and fahrenheit meet. That's just not right. I say bring on global warming. (*!@
Although I admire your taking a stand J_B, and I think that the SLY look suits you very well. I don't think that if I were in your shoes I would have continued down the SLY path, I think for the sake of a good and strong relationship I would have probably grown my hair back for my wife. After all we tell people who are thinking about taking the plunge and shave their head because (it's only hair) we can say the same thing about keeping what we have for that same reason (it's only hair). Because as we point out it's not our hair or the lack of that defines who we are.
Although I admire your taking a stand J_B, and I think that the SLY look suits you very well. I don't think that if I were in your shoes I would have continued down the SLY path, I think for the sake of a good and strong relationship I would have probably grown my hair back for my wife. After all we tell people who are thinking about taking the plunge and shave their head because (it's only hair) we can say the same thing about keeping what we have for that same reason (it's only hair). Because as we point out it's not our hair or the lack of that defines who we are.
I have to respectfully disagree with my Brother Tom. I believe that you have to be true to YOURSELF first in order to make everything else in your life better.
Happy husband = Happy wife and vice versa