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Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: FormerlyBitterNBroken on July 23, 2009, 04:10:53 PM
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Hey folks, I'll try and keep this short, as Im a wordy person.
I just turned 19 this past weekend, and since roughly my freshman year of High School, I've been fighting rampant, aggressive MPB. I had messy long hair, and simply did not notice it until near the end of my sophomore year, when a school friend put it to me bluntly, you're going bald. I had no idea. One a$$hole in one of my classes even told me to hold my bangs up so he could laugh periodically, and I didnt even know :'(
For the last 2 years of High School I fought it as best I could- first trying to cover it up (futile) then cutting it short (1/8"), but it grows back fast and the MPB is still painfully obvious. I tried hats but they only made things worse.
Finally I'm out of High School and still fighting it. I want to embrace being bald, but I'm afraid I've got a gigantic, lumpy head. Now I know you guys have heard this alot, but I sincerely have a huge head. Hats are so tight they cut off my circulation ( I swear to you I've worn hats that nearly made me faint), headphones and sunglasses stretch to the breaking point, and to top it all off, I'm a skinny twig of a kid, so its all the more obvious. The best way to describe it would be to say that I have the body of a Tootsie Pop.
Can I get some straightforward opinions on what I should do with my pathetic hair? This is just so hard to take... all of my friends have gorgeous full heads of hair and I look like Im in my 40s... (I've actually had friends of my friends walk up to talk, but then walk away and leave because they thought I was their parent or uncle or something :'( )
Please, tell the truth but please dont be callous... my entire life I've been a pincushion for terrible, cruel remarks, and I've reached the point where if I dont take a razor to my head, it will be to my wrists. All I want to do is be a regular teenager.
All I ever wanted was to find love in this life...
Sly guys, please help me :'(
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Why not shave it and just see what it looks like?
I started shaving my head my freshmen year in college and nobody seemed to care (most comments were positive, so any people who didn't like it must have kept it to themselves).
I think you'll find that in the "grown up" world (aka, not high school) people care much less about this stuff or at least mind their own business way more. I remember in high school people could be so rude and catty, and in college that never happened (maybe rarely, but I can't remember any high school type drama amongst college people I knew).
You can't stop your hair loss or change your hairline. So, you can either take control of it or let it continue to control you. I promise you'll be way happier with the first option ; )
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BNB, you've come to the right place. We can help!
First off, you can still find love without hair, actually, if you follow our 30 day rule, you'll notice a huge change in tide afterward and even during.
What is the 30 day rule? Just shave your head for 30 days straight. Most guys have noticed a huge increase in self confidence which will lead to other great things.
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It's possible that your head won't appear as large as you fear. Sometimes shaving your head can make your head appear smaller before because you no longer have a layer of hair on your skull. This is where buzzcuts differ from a shaved head because those short hairs can make your head look larger. Also, in your first picture you are positioned so that your hairline is roughly at the edge of your head so it gives a good idea what you'd look like with a shaved head. If you were to shave your head and sit in that exact position and take a pic, it would look actually similar. I already think that first photo looks fine.
You're still on the young side, but it seems like the guys who get screwed in the scalp hair department get blessed in the facial hair department. In a few years you might be have one of those coveted thick beards where you can grow anything. I'd gladly give all my scalp hairs for a real beard! This will give you a chance to make lemons out of your lemonade, and it might also give you the chance to find a style that can reduce your dislike of the shape of your head. Like clothing, different styles can make something look slimmer, fatter, or whatever.
As for your skinniness, that might be a due to your age. It's almost a universal reality that the bodies of males get larger during early adulthood, and I don't mean fat. I don't know if its true, but sometimes I think a body will grow taller faster than it can fill out. You could always try working out to give yourself more body mass.
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Yes we can guide you in the right direction but it's all up to you to make it work. First off stop being depressed. Okay so maybe it's not that easy but what I am saying is you are who you are so learn how to live with that instead of wishing you were somebody else. You have to find the confidence in yourself first. So how do you do that?
Well like Tyler said try the 30 day rule. Shave it for 30 days and see what happens. Be honest with yourself and see if you like it or don't. You may find that it is a good look for you. If you do then you are just that much closer to gaining confidence in yourself. If you don't like the look then hey it's only hair and it will grow back so you got nothing to loose.
As Rusty said the skinny body may be due to age. However, you can always exercise and eat right and develop a body that you are happy with. If you are not happy with your own body then others will pick up on that vibe.
So here is my advice to you. You are still young and still have a lot to look forward to in life. So put down the video games, turn of the TV and computer and start shaving your head. Once you got it shaved take care of it with some lotion and sunscreen. Next get you a couple bottles of water, leave the iPod and cell phone at home and go for a walk or a hike. Enjoy how the sun feels on your freshly shaven head and the compliments you get from others. Enjoy the sights and sound that are all around you as you are getting exercise that will build you a strong body. And who knows maybe while you are out hiking and enjoy life you will run into a pretty young girl who loves bald guys with Tootsie Pop bodies. You will only find love in this live after you find the love in yourself.
And remember this forum was created for us to help out our fellow man who may be experiencing the same thins we have or are. So we are here to help and lend a hand anytime we can.
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Hey BNB !
You have come to the right place for advice! Take your premature hairloss in stages with much shorter haircuts to build up your confidence. Ask the barber to buzz it #2 top, #1 sides/back so you and everyone can adjust. Give this a month and ask the barber to take it down more. Give this a month and then ask the barber to clippershave it and go home and razor it. Your self-confidence needs to be boosted. You said "All I ever wanted was to find love in this life..." Well, you must first love yourself and you will find love in life ! Good Luck as everyone here understands !
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Not many hats fit my watermelon of a head. Guess it must be all the brains the Good Lord gave me. ;D Anyhow I had a nice Bozo ring growing around this head making me feel even older than my advanced age so about a month ago I did the deed.
I feel younger, look younger but still have to beg the wife.........
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shave it to start; we will worry about the bumpy head later, if it is bumpy.
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The guys here are giving good advice.
I will just add a comment or two. Shaving your head or getting a supertight buzzcut is going to give you a tougher look. I suggest that you start working out with weights and intensify it if you already are. In pretty short order you will notice increased strength and a tougher body.
You are a young guy with the whole world ahead of you. I understand that you are "Bitterly Depressed," go the route the guys on the Board are suggesting and you will lose those feelings and discover a new joy in life.
Hang in there man....the best is yet to be.
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I agree with Allegrodonfuoco.
You've survived HS and all the dumb things kids say and do. Now you're in the real world where people treat each other with respect for the most part. I remember feeling the way you do when I was your age - trust me, there's light at the end of the tunnel. Life will be great and your hair loss will be a non-issue. In fact, since you're here, I'm predicting you'll be embracing it.
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Thank you for the positive replies guys... I guess it boils down to being bald with a big goofy head, or being balding with a big goofy head and confidence issues.
I'll have to get this crap taken off, I believe my friend has a 3mm setting for his razor, I'll try and get it down to that and then go from there.
I've also realized that a good workout regimen would be the best thing for me... I'd like to embrace a healthier, more physically fit lifestyle, but the simple problem is... I'm such a weak wimp I'm almost scared to go to the gym... I've got the number of a personal trainer I'm trying to work up the courage to call, but I'm worried I'm too weak for even gym equipment.
It sounds pathetic, but I cant even do a single pull-up (I'd love to, but its really hard to practice them... when you cant do them) and I'd be surprised if I could bench press the bar. I understand this is a catch-22 that I cant beat until I just suck it up and get to it, but its embarrassing and I'm worried I simply couldnt physically do even a basic trainer's regimen.
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Hey man
I know EXACTLY what you're going through (I'm 19 as well btw)...the aggressive MPG, the cruel remarks, the lack of confidence in yourself...it all just flat out sucks. Before my hair line started noticeably receeding (my sophmore year in HS) I was known for my long hair and people loved me for it, so of course I became utterly depressed when MPB began settling in. I went through the rest of high school trying to hide it by using my long hair to cover the parts the were fading (hats not allowed)...but people saw right through that.
Finally, a year after I graduated I became fed up with people always wanting to push my bangs back so they could laugh and total strangers asking me how old I was and ridiculing me for losing my hair so soon in life, so I began to debate shaving my head clear off, and luckily stumbled upon this site. After looking through a lot of the forum topics and seeing the happy and full lives these guys were living even without a hair...I took the next huge step and just shaved it clean off...no stubble at all.
Of course, I went through even MORE ridicule immediately after doing it and had to deal with remarks like "Why are you making yourself look even dumber?" and "You should have just kept what little hair you had on your head." But the guys on this site gave me the confidence I needed (Thank guys O0) and I decided to keep it for 30 days...continuing to shave it clean off. After a while people began to come around about it and complimented on how well bald looked on me and some of them even wanting to shave their own heads...I hadn't felt so happy in a long time.
After looking at your pics, especially your first one, I believe you should definately shave it all off, your head did not look too big at all. As for the "bumps"...I have no idea...I always thought I would have a nasty bumpy head, but surprisingly I didn't. I mean, what will you lose (besides your hair)? You don't like how your receeding head looks now, so why not change it? I always though that one day if I ever had the money I would just pay for hair implants, but now that I've shaved it...I like this look even more, and I think you will too. As for the skinny body...I honestly suggest to start working out...a nice toned body goes well with a bald head and it will boost your confidence so much that you won't even care about your bald head anymore.
Sorry this was so long, but I thought you would benefit from hearing from a guy your own age. Any more help you need...all the guys on this site are more than willing to offer you a hand.
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Hey BitterNBroken,
Welcome to the right place!!
If you don't shave it off you will always wonder what if I gave it a try, how would it really look? To many guys here, the common theme is I wish I had done it sooner.
So think of that for yourself.
Once you shave your head for about a month, you will start embracing your sly look and you will be much happier with life! It will eliminate or significantly reduce the stress. So what do you have to LOSE?
I hope you stick around and post often.
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Yo BitterNBroken,
You've already gotten some great advice, but I want to emphasize that this site shall be your path to happiness. Lots of genuine support and advice from many guys that have been in exactly your situation.
I think you'd look real cool with a shaved head. You should consider it, but do it when you're ready. tap tap tap tap.... ready yet?
Andrew
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Sometimes it takes a while to come to the point of acceptance, but deep down you know what you need to do -- as all of us who have been in that situation have known, but may not wanted to acknowledge at first. Just remember that thinning, receding hair doesn't look good on anybody. Most guys look perfectly fine with shaved heads -- even the ones who think they won't before they try it. It's hard to go through this at such a young age, but look at it this way -- it's the perfect way to start the adult phase of your life.
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Try it for 30 days. If you don't like it, it will grow back.
Also, you have a great (if somewhat dark) sense of humor about things, so I'm sure you'll be able to handle people however they react.
I wouldn't worry about the bumps and stuff. You notice more about your own head than other people will. Just today, a trainer at the Y who has seen me at least in passing several times a week for the last year asked what happened to me. She was referring to a scar I've had since I was four which she only noticed today. The light must have caught it, but I told her my body fat percentage must be going down. :-) (You can kind of see the scar in my photo if you look for it.)
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Welcome aboard first off. I can't really add anything but to reaffirm what the others have said.
Try it, I bet you'll like it. As far as what other people say, so what! It's your hair and your life. All these guys are great and I consider them friends. Believe me, we will tell you the truth! Do the 30 day rule, you will NOT regret it.
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I've also realized that a good workout regimen would be the best thing for me... I'd like to embrace a healthier, more physically fit lifestyle, but the simple problem is... I'm such a weak wimp I'm almost scared to go to the gym... I've got the number of a personal trainer I'm trying to work up the courage to call, but I'm worried I'm too weak for even gym equipment.
HAHA!
And, no, I am not laughing at you. I am laughing at how that's such a common fear of the gym and how I had it at one time, and how it has been so completely offbase from my experience.
Yea, there are gyms based around body-building elitists who will look down upon you and sneer at anything less than a body with 250lbs of pure muscle, but those are rare and you'd probably not be interested in the equipment in such a facility anyway. The real thing that will make you the target of ridicule at a gym is if you break basic gym etiquette.
What's gym etiquette? Generally basic things like not hogging machines, wiping sweat from machines, not clanging weights around, and the biggie: failing to return equipment to its rightful place after using it. Search for "rules of the gym" on Google and you'll find simple lists of general rules.
The second biggest thing that will make you a target of ridicule is if you have do exercises that are easily seen and look absolutely ridiculous. That might seem intimidating in a "OMG! How will I know???" kind of way. Well, first off you should use proper form when doing an exercise. Generally if you're doing something that involves large, quick, showy movements you're probably doing it wrong. You can avoid this by sticking with machines at first and looking at the drawings on them, and by being all 21st century and using YouTube to study up on how an exercise is performed before trying it out.
The third biggest thing not to do is to condemn every other male in the gym to years of therapy by being creepy. You can do this by standing in the changing room directly in front of the main mirror, completely naked except for a layer of shaving cream, and then shave your entire body. Yes, this happened in my gym and, fortunately, I didn't see it. Thankfully the owner booted the guy after doing that. It's doubtful you'd do something as bizarre as that but who the heck knows? :D
Like it is when it comes to head shaving, other people are far more interested in themselves than what you are doing. As long as you aren't actively interfering with another's workout you could curl magic markers and few would care. The gym I attend has the obese, skinny, and elderly, and why not? That's the point of a gym. What's more laughable? A fat respectful guy at a gym who is trying to better themselves or some fat doofus with perfectly functioning legs who rides around in a cart at the Walmart because he's lazy and settles for second best?
Check out Planet Fitness. It has cheap ~$10 monthly rates and they are very, almost anally, protective in having an open friendly environment.
It sounds pathetic, but I cant even do a single pull-up (I'd love to, but its really hard to practice them... when you cant do them) and I'd be surprised if I could bench press the bar. I understand this is a catch-22 that I cant beat until I just suck it up and get to it, but its embarrassing and I'm worried I simply couldnt physically do even a basic trainer's regimen.
HAHA!
I think I can barely do one myself! So freaking what? How do you think those other guys got so strong anyhoo? They probably joined a gym and started out weak! Hell, I was fat and weak when I joined mine 7 years ago and felt odd at first but not only did the other people not point and laugh they were very supportive of me!
What do you consider a "basic trainer's regimen" anyway? Did you know that trainers have basic programs for people with all sorts of physical impairments like paralysis and damage caused by strokes? If you can get your body into a gym then you can use that gym to strengthen your body. PERIOD!
THE FACT THAT YOU ARE SO WEAK IS WHAT SHOULD MAKE YOUR SITUATION SO EXCITING!
As a former fatty I can tell you that the journey to becoming thin was more fun that being thin. You are in the same situation! Anything you do (short of using bad form and hurting yourself) can ONLY make your body stronger. It would be hard for you NOT to make any gains. You may be concentrating on your fears and insecurities right now, but trust me, you have the potential to begin a really exciting journey and who knows where it will lead? You might take up some sports with friends, run in 5Ks, or even get into a weightlifting competition. DON'T LAUGH! Had you known me when I was fresh out of highschool I would have laughed in your face had you said I do something like that. I hated sports and was never on a team. I couldn't even run the required mile at school. Hell, 5 years ago a quarter mile run might as well have been a transcontinental run because I couldn't do either! Today? I've ran as far as 12 miles without stopping!
OK, I'm tired, rambling, and going to sleep!
GET TO THE GYM! :P
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Wow... thank you all for the positive feedback... this place gets the internet's most friendly community award, no lie.
I think I'll do myself the favor and give that trainer a call... as Rusty said, if you can get there you can train there.
And thank you for sharing your past Elessar, I know that before I started looking on the internet I felt like I was the only kid on the planet like this... I thought balding was a process for your 30s and 40s, not 16 and 17. Even after I started hunting all over the internet, I felt like a genetic anomaly, some kind of DNA pariah. Your story really paralleled my life in alot of ways.
Now I'm starting to realize that MPB is far more common than society would admit (I can see the signs of it in guys now, I mentally bet myself how long it will take them to lose it, its my own morbid little pastime ) and the media outlets push an unrealistic image on us all. Yay capitalism :P
Anywho, its glad to know Im not alone. Thanks again for all your support. :)
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I felt exactly like you did about working out and though I've tried gyms many times, they weren't for me.
Have you considered any other types of fitness? I practice pilates (I also teach it part time) and I do yoga occasionally and both of these are great for non-workout people (like me). You can really make big changes in the way your body looks and feels without "pumping iron" or any other kind of traditional gym activity. Also, pilates and yoga primarily use your own body weight for resistance so any weakness that might prevent you from doing some gym exercises shouldn't be an issue. Pilates is traditionally practiced by women, but it was created by a man with a man's body in mind, so it is a perfectly appropriate workout for a guy (the dance community was the first group to embrace pilates, and consequently much of modern pilates practice is heavily influenced by dance philosophy/aesthetics, although it's creator originally envisioned it as a rigorous workout designed to provide an overall fitness regime to boxers and other athletes - in addition to regulars guys and gals too -- of course, that's the topic of another post entirely... I just always feel like I need to defend pilates as a great workout for men!)
You can also do both yoga and pilates from videos at home, so it can be pretty inexpensive. Just get a few great videos and you can do them for months and make good progess without getting bored.
Just thought I'd chime in as a person who pursues fitness through "non-traditional" methods.
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Im another "I started losing my hair at 17" and im 23 now. I dont really have anything new to add, because there has been nothing but great advice from everyone before me. But Im telling you that the 30 day rule is no joke, and you will notice a HUGE difference. Its like it will make you want to work out more, and it will make you more confident. Hang in there buddy, and go for the shave! O0
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Yea, I second what my bros here are saying.
I also think that your "big head" is all in your head., I would have described your head as on the small side of average. also you don't look like your forty , I would have guessd 20 0r 21. THIRDLY, if you don't wanna be skinny then hit the weightroom and maybe get a protein suppliment, or eat until your seams bust.
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You've gotten some great advice here. You need to shave that head, build some confidence, and enjoy life.
As for bulking up, there are plenty of ways to put on some weight and muscle. I gained 40 pounds (mostly muscle) from HS graduation until the end of my Freshman year of college. I was also a skinny kid, but I bulked up and I am a pretty big guy today. Beer certainly helped the bulking process, but I also worked out a lot and built a lot of muscle.
I vote that you shave that dome and start building up some confidence.
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Well, I went ahead and shaved it down to 3mm... much (much) happier with it now, but still want to finish the job.
I was wondering if anyone had any good advice on what tools I will need... so far Im thinking I'll need a good head razor, cream if it isnt an electric, perhaps some sort of sun tanning lotion? Anyone know a good place to purchase these sorts of items? I can order off the internet if necessary, but I'd prefer to pick it up in person. Easier that way.
Fortunately I dont think lumpiness will be as much a problem... I only feel one sort of "dent", and honestly, I think its a really small deal. If someone isnt interested in me over something as vain as dent in the back of my dome, they're too vain for my tastes anyway. Otherwise, Im loving the sleek feel. I think I can get used to being bald O0
Thanks for all your help :)
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Way to go bro - I'm still suffering from the "going bald before 20 depression" and trust me I know how you feel... I've been balding since maybe 17.. im 20 now and my hairline is shocking and also receeding.. problem is i have long hair and try to hide it but im running out of hair!! I havn't yet gathered my balls up off the floor and shaved my head - but I don't think im far away.
Elessar, thank you for posting - you helped me as well as BnB.
BitterNBroken - do you have any pictures with the buzz? I'm interested in seeing your before (ones you've already posted) middle (buzzed) and after (shaved dome) pictures!
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Disregard all that superficial crap that you endured in HS, today is a new day so move on. Quit beating yourself up and always look at the positive atributes you have. I say take the plunge, you got a good shaped head. BTW welcome to the brotherhood O0
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Well, I went ahead and shaved it down to 3mm... much (much) happier with it now, but still want to finish the job.
I was wondering if anyone had any good advice on what tools I will need... so far Im thinking I'll need a good head razor, cream if it isnt an electric, perhaps some sort of sun tanning lotion? Anyone know a good place to purchase these sorts of items? I can order off the internet if necessary, but I'd prefer to pick it up in person. Easier that way.
I may be a bit biased for the look, but bias aside I think that you're really going to be happy with a shaved head. Since you already like the 3mm look, you'll like the 0mm look even more because you'll you're going to have a much cleaner look (especially once your scalp tans to the shade of your face).
Did you use your own clippers for the 3mm? I definitely recommend buzzing to the scalp to the skin before using a razor otherwise it's going to jam up many, many times shaving off hair that long.
As for tools, I recommend any good razor and a few blades. Everyone seems to have a favorite and since you're a Sly Virgin right now there's no way to tell what you'll like best. The Mac 3 might be a good first try, but use what you've got unless it's the universally-hated disposable! You might need a couple blades if they get too jammed up with hair. You probably don't want to try a Headblade just yet because it takes a little practice getting used to it, and some guys never really like it. Also, your skin may feel raw and tender from the shave and that's normal. It takes a few weeks for the skin to toughen up to the abuse of a daily shave.
Small dents are normal. It's a skull, not a bowling ball! :D
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Oh and about the gym - join one - any one but preferably with a lot of machines to start you off. Then get 2 or 3 lessons with a personal trainer and tell them you want to bulk up and they should show u the machines but I suppose you want to work on the chest arms shoulders and abs. Then COMMIT - go to the gym for 1 to 2 hours 5 times a week. Get some protein powder as well and after every work out mix up a big glass of high protein milk with some good high protein powder. You will bulk up fast dude.
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Dont worry about the gym part, the big older guys are usually the most helpfull.
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Dont worry about the gym part, the big older guys are usually the most helpfull.
very true
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I think we may have lost this one, guys. :(
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Well, I went ahead and shaved it down to 3mm... much (much) happier with it now, but still want to finish the job.
I was wondering if anyone had any good advice on what tools I will need... so far Im thinking I'll need a good head razor, cream if it isnt an electric, perhaps some sort of sun tanning lotion? Anyone know a good place to purchase these sorts of items? I can order off the internet if necessary, but I'd prefer to pick it up in person. Easier that way.
Fortunately I dont think lumpiness will be as much a problem... I only feel one sort of "dent", and honestly, I think its a really small deal. If someone isnt interested in me over something as vain as dent in the back of my dome, they're too vain for my tastes anyway. Otherwise, Im loving the sleek feel. I think I can get used to being bald O0
Thanks for all your help :)
RazorX, I don't understand your comment :/O, albeit he hasn't returned for a week or so. I don't think this is one that is lost--this one is a possiblity.
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Well, I went ahead and shaved it down to 3mm... much (much) happier with it now, but still want to finish the job.
I was wondering if anyone had any good advice on what tools I will need... so far Im thinking I'll need a good head razor, cream if it isnt an electric, perhaps some sort of sun tanning lotion? Anyone know a good place to purchase these sorts of items? I can order off the internet if necessary, but I'd prefer to pick it up in person. Easier that way.
Fortunately I dont think lumpiness will be as much a problem... I only feel one sort of "dent", and honestly, I think its a really small deal. If someone isnt interested in me over something as vain as dent in the back of my dome, they're too vain for my tastes anyway. Otherwise, Im loving the sleek feel. I think I can get used to being bald O0
Thanks for all your help :)
RazorX, I don't understand your comment :/O, albeit he hasn't returned for a week or so. I don't think this is one that is lost--this one is a possiblity.
Oops ... my bad. :-[ I must have missed that post. I just remembered his initial post and then he sort of disappeared.
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he may come back
Well, I went ahead and shaved it down to 3mm... much (much) happier with it now, but still want to finish the job.
I was wondering if anyone had any good advice on what tools I will need... so far Im thinking I'll need a good head razor, cream if it isnt an electric, perhaps some sort of sun tanning lotion? Anyone know a good place to purchase these sorts of items? I can order off the internet if necessary, but I'd prefer to pick it up in person. Easier that way.
Fortunately I dont think lumpiness will be as much a problem... I only feel one sort of "dent", and honestly, I think its a really small deal. If someone isnt interested in me over something as vain as dent in the back of my dome, they're too vain for my tastes anyway. Otherwise, Im loving the sleek feel. I think I can get used to being bald O0
Thanks for all your help :)
RazorX, I don't understand your comment :/O, albeit he hasn't returned for a week or so. I don't think this is one that is lost--this one is a possiblity.
Oops ... my bad. :-[ I must have missed that post. I just remembered his initial post and then he sort of disappeared.
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Nope, I'm still around! =)
Sorry for not dropping by sooner, but to be honest I've been having such a great time being bald I haven't had the chance to come here and update for you all
Been shaving it to the scalp with a Mach 3 for a few weeks now... and I'm EXTREMELY happy with it. Sleek, smooth, clean, professional, sexy all come to mind when describing the look. Its alot easier to take care of, and I can finally spend an entire day without wondering what my hair looks like. This is the single most freeing thing I've felt in my entire life. Through the end of high school I could spend entire days just fretting over my hair. No longer. Now I can finally smile and mean it and really connect with people without spending the entire time praying their eyes wouldn't wander above my eyebrows.
On an impulse, I went to a club a couple weeks ago and never had more fun in my life. I had gorgeous guys hitting on me for the majority of the night, and quite a few took a particular liking to smooth dome... rubbing and licking included =D
The most negative comment I've recieved have just been strangers asking a quizzical "Why would you shave your head?!", mostly a sort of strange curiosity then any repulsion. I simply explain to them that my hair was thinning and ragged and I was tired of dealing with it so off it went. (Note especially that all of these individuals hadn't met me before I shaved.... I dont think they'd be asking that same question if they had seen it before =P )
I've gotten more comfortable with shaving now, although its alot harder to achieve the same level of smooth in the back than on top. If I try too hard I just give myself razor burn. I've cut myself twice, neither particularly bad. The first time I was shaving by my ear and was like "durr, my ear curves here so I'll do the same with the razor" and made like a question-mark motion with the razor and did a number right above my ear... not bad, but like all head wounds it bled alot. Healed within 2-3 days though.
Second time was a bit worse... I've got a mole in dead center toward the back, juuuust over the bump where I can't see it. Its raised a good bit over the rest of the skin there and I nicked it nice and good, and boy did that little sucker bleed. Bleed, bleed, bleed. Its finally healed now, but I know I'll do this again sometime in the future.
Anyone got any good suggestions when it comes to mole removal?
Also, I took you guys up on your fitness advice, and I gave that trainer a call. I'm now going to his gym 3 times a week now, and I'm also overhauling my entire diet. I feel much healthier now (no more greasy, yucky fast food) and I'm noticing subtle differences in musculature now. I've paid for 3 months of training with this chum so I can get a good feel for exercises, nutrition, form, and using equipment correctly, and then I'll just get a generic gym membership and keep myself in shape.
I can't thank you all enough for your help... I feel more confident, healthy, and happy then at any other point in my life. Best of all I've actually got incredibly attractive people showing interest in ME for once. Such a refreshing change of pace =)
I'd post up some photos, but frankly the lighting in my room just sucks and they make for a poor appearance - I'll try and get my friends to take some better ones later and I'll put them up for you all to peruse.
Thanks again, and if anyone knows a good method for removing moles, give me a shout =P
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see your dermatologist; it's that simple.
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Are they able to do it same-day appointment? Or is it more of a complicated procedure? Are they able to do more than one at a time? I've got a few further back on the dome that I'd like removed for this same reason.
Also, how expensive is the procedure? This recession is killing my bank account ><
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Depends......call for an appointment. Im sure that the removing of moles, if not covered by insurance, and assuming a simple lifting or nitrous-oxide procedure, is like $75 a pop.
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1.) Mole removal typically require two appointments. The second appointment (surgery) is typically scheduled for early morning and will take about 15-20 minutes per mole depending on the method of removal, number of moles, their proximity to one another, etc. So, yes. You can have more than one removed in a single session.
2.) Mole removal can cost anywhere from $100-150 on average per mole, but this can vary significantly depending on size and the type of procedure and how greedy your dermatologist is. Insurance will usually cover about 90% of the cost of the procedure. They will opt to send at least one mole in for a biopsy to make sure it isn't cancerous (this is typically not the case and usually done just to cover their ass)
I recently had a few moles removed from my head via the punch method. These were anywhere from 4-6 mm in diameter (size of a pencil eraser). They cut it out, cauterized it, and stitched it up. I had 1" stitches hanging from my head for about two weeks and had to return to the dermatologist to have them removed. After that, it took about 1-2 months for the wound to completely heal over, leaving only the tiniest of flat, brownish, linear scars. I am pale, so you can still see them a little, although I was assured they would fade even more within a year's time. If you can tan AT ALL, these will be virtually invisible.
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As for shaving around the mole, I have a sly friend who uses a headblade on his entire head except for around the mole. For that he uses an electric razor. That area is not as smooth as the rest, but it certainly keeps the blood loss down.
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Glad to hear that things are looking up.
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I have a ton more respect for people that shave their heads at your age,
keep it clean
Nope, I'm still around! =)
Sorry for not dropping by sooner, but to be honest I've been having such a great time being bald I haven't had the chance to come here and update for you all
Been shaving it to the scalp with a Mach 3 for a few weeks now... and I'm EXTREMELY happy with it. Sleek, smooth, clean, professional, sexy all come to mind when describing the look. Its alot easier to take care of, and I can finally spend an entire day without wondering what my hair looks like. This is the single most freeing thing I've felt in my entire life. Through the end of high school I could spend entire days just fretting over my hair. No longer. Now I can finally smile and mean it and really connect with people without spending the entire time praying their eyes wouldn't wander above my eyebrows.
On an impulse, I went to a club a couple weeks ago and never had more fun in my life. I had gorgeous guys hitting on me for the majority of the night, and quite a few took a particular liking to smooth dome... rubbing and licking included =D
The most negative comment I've recieved have just been strangers asking a quizzical "Why would you shave your head?!", mostly a sort of strange curiosity then any repulsion. I simply explain to them that my hair was thinning and ragged and I was tired of dealing with it so off it went. (Note especially that all of these individuals hadn't met me before I shaved.... I dont think they'd be asking that same question if they had seen it before =P )
I've gotten more comfortable with shaving now, although its alot harder to achieve the same level of smooth in the back than on top. If I try too hard I just give myself razor burn. I've cut myself twice, neither particularly bad. The first time I was shaving by my ear and was like "durr, my ear curves here so I'll do the same with the razor" and made like a question-mark motion with the razor and did a number right above my ear... not bad, but like all head wounds it bled alot. Healed within 2-3 days though.
Second time was a bit worse... I've got a mole in dead center toward the back, juuuust over the bump where I can't see it. Its raised a good bit over the rest of the skin there and I nicked it nice and good, and boy did that little sucker bleed. Bleed, bleed, bleed. Its finally healed now, but I know I'll do this again sometime in the future.
Anyone got any good suggestions when it comes to mole removal?
Also, I took you guys up on your fitness advice, and I gave that trainer a call. I'm now going to his gym 3 times a week now, and I'm also overhauling my entire diet. I feel much healthier now (no more greasy, yucky fast food) and I'm noticing subtle differences in musculature now. I've paid for 3 months of training with this chum so I can get a good feel for exercises, nutrition, form, and using equipment correctly, and then I'll just get a generic gym membership and keep myself in shape.
I can't thank you all enough for your help... I feel more confident, healthy, and happy then at any other point in my life. Best of all I've actually got incredibly attractive people showing interest in ME for once. Such a refreshing change of pace =)
I'd post up some photos, but frankly the lighting in my room just sucks and they make for a poor appearance - I'll try and get my friends to take some better ones later and I'll put them up for you all to peruse.
Thanks again, and if anyone knows a good method for removing moles, give me a shout =P
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The only other charge, if you don't have insurance, might be a biopsy by a pathologist if any of these have any characteristics that might indicate a skin cancer. Usually insurance picks up 100% of that charge.
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I just had a huge mole removed from my head and had the stitches taken out last week. they excised a large amount of skin down to the fatty tissue to make sure that they got it all. Its not too much of a hassle. The dermatologist gave me shots of anesthetic around the mole and some saleen (sp?) around the mole to raise the skin a little. It took her about 30 minutes to do the whole thing and the scar has healed up quite nicely. Shaving around it was quite a pain, but I had my wife to help me.
Glad to hear that your life has turned around for the better! Its amazing what the power of a razorblade can accomplish for you!
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P@^ (**! p#@t That is great news!!!! Glad to hear that you did the deed and as a result you probably look and definatly sound much more confident!!!! I guess now that means you'll have to change your screen name huh? As you may have noticed we are like a family here on SBG and I know alot of us were worried about you, so it is a relief to hear you are doing well.
Keep us posted!!
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hey congrats! Could you post a picture of yourself now? I am 22 and this would be of great help to me and probably a lot of other younger guys out there to know that you can look good bald around 20.
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lets see some pics man. might be that little extra push I need to take the plunge.
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Ask and ye shall receive.... once I get around to it =P
Smile
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Stoned Smile
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Smile w/o teeth
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Me bein silly
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Its actually kind of longish right now, I havent shaved in about 2-4 days... gettin lazy, probably gonna get to it in a few minutes here.
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Looks Great! I'm glad it has set you free. You look so much happier now and the look defiantly suits you. Congrats!!!!!
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Looks Awesome !
The moles add character !
Just watch out visiting bars ! :P
---Stasiu