Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => 30 Day Rule / Beginners Section => Topic started by: j_nel_2003 on March 27, 2015, 05:52:46 PM
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Hi there, new to the forum
I barely have any hair up top left and I just can't work up the courage to shave it completely. I am a big man, 6'-5" tall and big, I have a big head. One thing that scares me a lot is is I can feel a dent on the back left side of my head. Have no clue what it's gonna look like. I guess I'm scared because once I do it, there are no other options, I just can't grow it back. I would like to post pics of myself and get your guyses opinions on how I may look. But I'm on my phone and it won't attach because it's to big of a pic. Any other way to do it. Or is there maybe pics of other people's dents here. Thanks, I'm 29 and I guess I'm just not ready for such a HUGE image change. Any advice would be great
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Welcome to the board, sir.
You are not alone. A lot of us worried about how we would look once the razor did it's job.
As you can see from my avatar, my skull narrows abruptly and makes my head look somewhat pointed. When I saw how my head was shaped, I almost decided just to leave the horseshoe on. Then, after about two months of indecision, I figured I would go ahead with it as I really wanted to go smooth. I was surprised to discover that no one seemed to notice or care about the shape. I had to point it out to my wife, who thought I was far too self conscious.
We tend to be our own worst critics. If you want to shave, then just do it. You probably will be surprised at how much you have worried over something to which no one else pays attention.
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No-ones head is perfect, though I get told my head is very well shaped, though I know I have more than several scars on my head collected from 4 years old, up until now, but I never get told they notice. So don't stress about imperfections with your size you'd be too intimidating to ridicule.
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I think you should just go ahead and do it. Definitely I was in your same shoes. But for my scalp psoriasis it has been the best thing I have ever done. Put some pictures on this message.
Roger
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I worried about shaving my head for quite a few years before I did it, eventually I did it as I am thinning so much I just thought it was inevitable anyway. I'm glad I did it, and I really love the look too, it's great for my confidence too.
Everyones head is a different shape due to birth, our differences are what makes us who we are, it would be a very dull world if we all looked the same.
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Here's a couple pics of me, as you can see, not much upstairs these days
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Well I can't see anything wrong with your head shape, looks fine to me.
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I agree. I don't see anything wrong either. Go for it, man.
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Welcome! Most men have fears when they are shaving for the first time. Maybe you could try a short haircut first and take steps toward going sly. Your headshape looks normal to me. Good luck!
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First of all welcome to the sly fraternity. It is natural to be scared or nervous with something new. However, I can almost guarantee that you would rock the chrome dome.
When that day does happen . . . you are going to say to yourself: "Why the heck did I not do this sooner!?! Good luck and keep us posted to your road to slyness.
WARHAWK O0
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Your head looks fine to me. Go ahead and try total hair removal. I think that you will look great with a shiny bald dome. Everyone's head has some irregularities. Try the look and see if it works for you.
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If you search this site for "I wish I'd don it sooner", you'll find many posts. Me, too. even being BBC.
Being bald is something special. Shave your head and be that something special. Do it with confidence. Take the 30 day rule. You'll be just fine.
If you need an 'excuse', do it to support someone who is dealing with cancer, then just stick with it because you like it.
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I shaved my head once when I was about 14 and I had what I felt like was a "dent" in the middle of the top of my head. At the time I felt it was bad enough that I didn't want to shave it again.
When I was about 30 it was evident that predicted by genetics I was going to be bald someday and I tried it again. the response was largely positive. So much so that it aleviated most of my fears and made me feel like when the inevitable happened someday I would be ready for it. I figured that my head looked "deformed" but I got lots of positive comments.
On Friday I got rid of it for good. I probably could have kept my hair for 2 more years before it no longer looked "presentable" in my eyes but I just decided it was time. So far the response has been positive and I'm happy I did it.
I would suggest to the OP that you give it a try and see how you feel about it and what you think of it. You might find that people like it a lot more then you think. And you might decide that it's better to embrace being bald then hanging on to hair that is about to be gone anyway.
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I really really appreciate all your comments, I just can't get through my head for some reason, I'm single, who's gonna want a 30 year bald big guy. It's just scary and I need to get over my own insecurities. Just not sure how to go about it. But all of your guyses comments truly help.
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I'm single, who's gonna want a 30 year bald big guy.
I know you didn't mean it that way, but this is highly insulting to all the other 30-something guys here (not to mention those who are even older) who, if you poke around, will see have awesome girlfriends, wives, partners or husbands.
Bald only makes you "undatable" if you make it that way. It's all in your attitude and what's in your head, not what's on your head (or not).
You can make your life what you want it to be, if only you can get out of your own way.
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You are absolutely right TheSlyBear, I def didnt mean to insult anyone. And I do apologize for that. One the other hand you are also right about me getting out of my own way. I def need to work on that. Thanks a bunch. Again with your guyses help I think I can work up the courage.
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Hey sir. I would like to help you out to get the push to shave your head. Would you mind letting me help you out? I helped another member out here on Friday. What do you say? I'm looking forward to hearing back from ya!
-Derris
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I'm sure you're a lot more than a thirty year old big bald guy. Try not to define yourself that way. Once you do it, the fear and worry will subside. The sooner the better, I say. Good luck and hang around for support!
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Bald is common these days, even among those that still have hair. I think you will see a boost in your confidence and that will be more attractive to the ladies than a guy with a thick modern hairstyle.
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Thanks again guys, I'm def closer to doing it now thanks to all you guys than I was before. Again thanks. I knew this day was coming but I honestly didn't think it would of been this hard.
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nobody is going to notice sir. i am 29 myself and it plays with your mind that people will notice these things. i have two or three small red dots on my head (capilaries, cherry spots, whatever you want to call them, and a small scar/dent on the topish back left. nobody notices them unless i point them out. just do it, i actually enjoy it, mostly because i dont have to worry if anyone notices my thinning hair, now there is none. problem solved
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I really really appreciate all your comments, I just can't get through my head for some reason, I'm single, who's gonna want a 30 year bald big guy. It's just scary and I need to get over my own insecurities. Just not sure how to go about it. But all of your guyses comments truly help.
Well in about 2 months I turn 30, I'm single, (divorced in fact) I'm balding significantly, much more-so than yourself. I'm a fair bit shorter than you as 177cm (5'10), and have several other things that I would count toward me staying single, actually balding doesn't really factor into it for me
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Right ok... Think of it as just a haircut... No biggy!!! And, yeah, your hair is quite thin, so it'll be a massive improvement!
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No one really notices minor imperfections in my head. I have an 1"+ long scar on the lower left back, just below the fringe line, from when I fell down the stairs as an 8 year old (5 stitches). I have a "crease" (that I rather like) on the middle top of my skull at 11:00. in fact no one notices the difference between when I clipper or razor shave. And I have a neighbor/friend who is big, tall and bald (with a wife and 3 kids) who exudes confidence. He's hard to miss in a crowd....is it because he is confident or big, tall & bald...hard to tell. It's all about having the confidence to try, to own it, to make being bald just another (minor) part of who you are. Funny thing is, for a lot of balding people, shaving their heads tends to improve their self confidence. Funny how that works!
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Man up and do it, it will be the best thing you do!
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I would get the clippers on first (no guard) see what you think.
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I have never seen what I would call a bad head shape. Sure, some guys have more of a classically good head shape than others, but that's true with any aspect of our appearance, not just our head. In my opinion, you do your best with what you have and don't worry about what people think. I respect a guy who has a less than perfect head shape but owns his baldness, shaves or goes really short, and goes on with life. I would love to have that great shape, without scars or other imperfections. I'm not blessed with that, but that's okay. There are more important things than hair. I would do what BBCMark says. Get out the clippers (no guard) and see what you think. That's what I did, then it wasn't a big deal to switch to the razor.
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thanks guys!! I clip my sides with a 1 guard right now, then leave the top long, so I kinda know how my sides are gonna look, its just the top back that has all those imperfections. I tend to make a big deal over things that aren't. That's what is happening here. A few of my friends said I should just do it, which helps, plus I have a couple of friends that already do it. But there heads look good!! Like everybody has said, its an adjustment period that a guy needs. Like how I have gotten used to my thin hair. Was freaking out like crazy when I noticed it, now don't care as much. I do want to buzz it down, but fear its to late for a buzz, because of how thin it is, but I suppose then it would be time for the razor.
Hey clipped, you would by chance have a pic of that crease you spoke of, because that's kind of what it feels like on my head at the top right.
Thanks again
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I'm 29 and 5'11...
I've had women come behind me at bars and start rubbing my head.
Some women will be turned off, but I got lots of compliments, and some women love bald men and most don't care at all.
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Back when I went through boot camp, I got to see so many head shapes and "imperfections." Lots of guys with dents, scars, moles, birthmarks, etc.
The thing is, we've all got imperfections of all types, but we all work with them and we all fit in within tolerances of what it means to be human.
If you look at that paragon of masculine good bald looks, Patrick Stewart, you'll notice that he actually has kind of a pointy head. Still good-lookin'.
Plus, it's true that we're all our own worst critics. It also doesn't help that it's so jarring to others to suddenly see you bald. It's an adjustment, and it might take a little while before they come around.