Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => General Discussion => Topic started by: Timmay on May 01, 2009, 08:31:34 AM
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OK, I have thought about something to post here for those who are questioning if they should shave their noggins or not. I know this will probably take alot of you by surprise, thinking ...This came from Timmay?? Well folks, Im here to tell you, yes it did. I did not just sit down and write this, I have been working on how and what to say for a while.
There are many who fear loosing their hair, afraid of what the world will think of them if they shave it off. Im here to tell you that no matter what the world says, the only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself and what makes you happy. What follows here not only applies to ourselves but can be useful to those around us.
The number one thing is to ACCEPT. Accept others for who they are and for their choices they have made even if you have difficulty understanding their beliefs. We are all here to serve a purpose, it just may not be the same purpose that you and I are here to serve. Decide that you will be successful and happy what ever may come your way, and with what ever it is, you will find happiness in that. The roadblocks are only minor obstacles along the way. Use your abilites to the best of your knowledge. I have heard some guys say that they will feel incomplete without hair. Talent that is wasted has no value. Talent that is used will bring unexpected rewards. Do not feel as though you can not do something because of your hair loss.
Too many times we hear negative comments from people. Ignore that and focus instead on your goals and remember your accomplishments. When you do hear negative comments do the F( squared) Forgive and Forget. Grudges only weigh you down and leads you to unhappiness and grief. People alot of times say things without thinking. As Tyler mentioned...sometimes Timmays fingers work before connecting to the Brain. We all fall to that at times, but life is a journey, a journey to new worlds, new possiblities and to keep an open mind. Try to learn different things everyday and you will grow. If you have questions, please ask. You are here in this forum to learn and to have fun. If you dont ask, sometimes you may never know. No question is ever dumb or stupid.
Leave those childhood monsters behind. The fear of what people will say if you shave your head, with confidence that you build up inside yourself, their words can no longer hurt, harm or stand in your way. People will only throw these things if you show to them that you are weak. Notice people who are helpless, weak or suffering and assists them if you can. By going out of your comfort zone you will show them that you are strong, that you can take on the world no matter what is thrown your way. Share your talents, skills, knowledge and time with others. Everything you invest in others will return to you many times over.
Most of all, create a family of friends with who you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows and happiness with. Value the friends and family members who have supported and encouraged you, and be there for them as well. There may even be times when someone says something negative towards you but take a deep look inside that person and you will find the goodness in them, we are not all perfect. Just keep in mind that you have to work hard everyday to be the best person you can be , but never feel guilty if you fall short of your goals. It is allowed to screw up every now and then. It doesnt make you less of a person.
As the world is today there is alot of stress. With the economy the way it is, people are sitting on unstable ground. They do not know what is to come or how things are going to be when they wake up the next day. We all have to make adjustments within our own means. Keep things within a reasonable reach. I know this may be tough, but we need to relax. Refuse to let worry and stress rule our daily lives, and remember that things always have a way of working out in the end.
Most importantly..Play. Never forget to have fun along the way. Success means nothing without happiness. Enjoy your time here and make as many friends as possible. There is no limit on the amount of friends you can have. Yield to commitment. If you stay on track and remain dedicated, you will find success at the end of the road. We soemtimes fall off the path that life leads us down. Thats ok, explore all possiblities, most things are not permenant, you can change your mistakes. When the bad memories and sorrow rears its ugly head, just remember your happy place ( SBG's). Let nothing interfere with your goals. Instead , focus on your abilities , your dreams and a brighter tomorrow!
Give SBG's a chance to make a difference in your life. We are here to help you come to terms with the issues on top. Shaving your noggin may not be the answer for all of us, but we all are here for one purpose, Friendship and Guidance.
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Those are great words of wisdom Tim. Thanks for posting them. O0
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Fantastic Tim!!!!! That was some of the most encouraging words I have heard in a long time! I've been wanting to say something along those lines but couldn't get the words to do it!
You just did it!!!!
*Standing and applauding*
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Tim, that is one of THE best posts on this forum. Thank you!
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TIMMMMAAAAYYYYYY!!!! O0 O0
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Can I get an AAAAMEN up in here!!!!!!!
Preach it brother Tim! O0
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Very good, Timm
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Nice Job Tim...that was Awesome Bro
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Timm thats awesome dude!! Really well written! O0
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Dam Timmy....well said, very nice job brother O0 O0 O0 O0 O0
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Well spoken Timmay! True words of wisdom.
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Very well said Tim, I'm impressed! O0
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hey timmy: that was an excellent post. well said, bro. O0
WARHAWK O0
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hey timmy: that was an excellent post. well said, bro. O0
WARHAWK O0
Ditto what Warhawk said. Very uplifting and inspiring!! O0
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Tim-
One of the best posts I've ever seen on SBG.
It's a privilege to call you my Friend.
Tyler should consider posting that up, in a place obvious to newcomers, as sort of a manifesto.
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Tyler has my permission if he feels inclined to do so.
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Tim-
One of the best posts I've ever seen on SBG.
It's a privilege to call you my Friend.
Tyler should consider posting that up, in a place obvious to newcomers, as sort of a manifesto.
I did make it a sticky post, meaning it will always be at the top of this section.
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Tim-
One of the best posts I've ever seen on SBG.
It's a privilege to call you my Friend.
Tyler should consider posting that up, in a place obvious to newcomers, as sort of a manifesto.
I did make it a sticky post, meaning it will always be at the top of this section.
This is why you are our fearless leader!!!!!!!!!!
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great post O0 8) O0
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Hey good stuff....
See the thing is that one has to realize that those who care will always care no matter what and those that are frivolous and base their concern on outward appearance were never worth in the first place.... good riddance to all them useless people and welcome to all them people who wouldn't give two hoots about your hair or whatever....
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Fantastic post Timm. I wish we could all live by your words of wisdom. Three cheers for Timm!
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O0Timm you are the MAN!!! Good words from a good guy. See ya in a month!
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I can really relate with that. Fantastically written! Thanks for the encouragement!
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great post and the way I deal with it is to have confidence and I call myself the sexy bald bastid and nobody sends the cruel bald jokes my way any more and it I still get that "hey I am blinded by your dome" comment to which I love
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Timmj !
Who is your copywriter? That is awesome ! I dabble in FM low power radio and you just blew me "bald" with such creative writing ! Keep posting and I will keep reading! ----Stan
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You know at times I have to come back and read this. Im having a tough time right now with getting involved in here. Not sure what it is, maybe boredom I dunno. Was hoping that reading it several times would help... but..oh well. Hope everyone is doing well.
Timmay
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WOW. that should be a required read before one get's into the members only section. O0
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Thanks for the encouragement! I need to learn to accept that I'm balding and there's really nothing practical I can do about it. Like you said, screw what everyone else thinks about my future bald head! But unfortunately, that is easier said than done, since I am a very insecure person who cares a lot about what other people think about me, even with hair.
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Great statement made.
mikekoz. I like your new picture.
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Great words of wisdom O0. Very profound and yet very practical. Well said Man O0 O0 O0
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That was a very good post and read. 8) 8) 8) 8)
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Bravo sir!
O0
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Tim! O0
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Excellent post Tim, I was just about to start work and then read it, now I am feeling great and on track to have a great day, thanks heaps :)
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Well said, bro! O:O
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Timmay,
Well said. It is a great philosphy of life which is something I continue to strive to follow. It is a life long process to achieve. Our life here is short. We need to make the most of it.
Thanks for your great post.
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thanks for these words... very much appreaciated
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Hey thanks Tim for your words of wisdom. I am very fortunate that every one of my friends and family has done nothing but compliment my shaved head they all say I should have done it ages ago just because I wear it so well, not that I do it for them but I do enjoy the compliments. My biggest fear when I shave my head was just not knowing how I was going to look and honestly was afraid that people would just rag me about being bald those fears were quickly snuffed out, but your words and Tony robins have a lot in common I have learned to be happy in any circumstance and to own all the good things and all of the bad things in my life And never to beat myself up or dwell on the past or worry about the future I live in the moment and I enjoy life. Bald and happy, Ty