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Head Shaving, Grooming & Care => Miscellaneous => Topic started by: socctty on February 23, 2007, 07:20:04 PM

Title: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: socctty on February 23, 2007, 07:20:04 PM
I'm sure none of the below has gone unsaid, but I thought I'd gather it here in one place since a lot of guys cite the subject of this thread as a reason not to go sly.

While I was just shaving my head in the shower, I was thinking about how I used to tell myself the same thing. But an idea hit me - most guys think that they can't pull it off because of the SLY mystique, as I call it. A sly guy is not only a bald guy, but a bald guy with confidence about being bald. No one really notices anyone without confidence, but a confident person attracts attention. And a SLY guy attracts even more. Hence, the sly mystique. Sly guys would look good with or without a bald head! The liberating act of going bald brings about the confidence that truly makes a man sly.

So, if you're sitting on the fence, jump to our side.

Besides, have you ever heard a woman say any of the following?
- "I sure love a man with a comb-over"
- "There's nothing sexier than a man with a receding hairline"
- "I love it when a man looks like a slob because he doesn't have time to style his hair"

I doubt you have! Plenty of women dig a smooth head. And those that don't are only waiting to meet a man with one. Ask any woman what she finds sexy in a man, and you'll hear "confidence" a hell of a lot more often than "the hair that the guy in the Rogaine commercial has." Or "a nice toupee" or even just a plain ol' "nice hair."

The day I decided that I would shave my head was the day I saw one of my superiors at a large conference. In my field, you have to be bold and confident. But he spoke meekly, didn't assert himself, and as he stood under a light in the room, his comb-over was fully on display for 200 people to see - to be unable to ignore. I don't mean to shame him. But it was obvious that he wasn't confident in himself and the comb-over was the neon lighting framing it all. Enough neon to make Vegas blush. He's always conveyed himself as a man angry with himself and his personal life, come to think of it. He's a man that could use a HeadBlade, even if he had the hair.

So, to summarize - you WILL look good with a shaved head, because you will be more confident in yourself! You will carry yourself like a man that has nothing to hide, and just to prove it, is willing to put it on display. So go shave it.

(sticky topic? :D)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Tyler on February 23, 2007, 08:05:59 PM
Great post Soccty!  You've got your sticky post!  And, I think it will make it to the blog as well.   O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: medicineman on February 23, 2007, 08:14:12 PM
Very well said socctty!  O0
 
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Cam on February 23, 2007, 08:22:26 PM
Hell yes! Kudos to you for that, I couldn't have said it better if I tried! Great post!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Paul on February 23, 2007, 08:28:09 PM
Way to go socctty.  One of the best I've read.  With oratory like that we should run you on the Sly ticket next election.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Professor Melon on February 26, 2007, 06:09:02 AM
 :D O0 BEAUTIFUL post, Socctty! Encomiums for that. You have more insight than half the psychology professors with whom I work. After the adjustment, anticipating that gleaming, sly-bald silhouette in the mirror is like a shot of adrenaline--hence the confidence. Stay sly and spirited, Professor Melon
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: EkEkEkEk on February 26, 2007, 08:35:31 AM
nice. that was the single most important post i have read on here. and tonight...it's going down!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Tyler on February 26, 2007, 09:54:35 AM
nice. that was the single most important post i have read on here. and tonight...it's going down!

 W0*
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: EkEkEkEk on February 26, 2007, 08:20:20 PM
mission accomplished!! how ridiculously liberating!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Tyler on February 26, 2007, 08:33:57 PM
mission accomplished!! how ridiculously liberating!

Way to go man!!  I look forward to the after pics.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: tomgallagher on March 11, 2007, 02:57:10 PM
Amen brudder. Well said.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Yeti on March 15, 2007, 08:36:33 PM
words of wisdom... well said friend.    O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Sgt. Pate on April 12, 2007, 05:36:27 PM
Super post!  Thanks!  O:O
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: karatedragon on May 02, 2007, 01:20:26 PM
amazing - love this site
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: TeChNo2 on May 02, 2007, 03:37:05 PM
well said !
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: froze on May 16, 2007, 03:35:38 PM
Had short hair most of my married life and just recently went bald!!!
Takes a little patience at first on shaving and getting a technique!

But bald is beautiful!!!!!! Good comments!!!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Rhymez on May 22, 2007, 04:45:14 PM
cool. there are some people that may not rock the sly look, have not met any, but I sure do. Girls love me bald. In the words of Fat Bastard, "Im Dead Sexy!"
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: froze on May 23, 2007, 07:53:29 AM
Well taken Smooth and Sexy!
Plus I get alot more looks from people and there not rude type looks!
Its  WOW type look!
What says you guys!! Do you get more looks than when you had hair!!! 8)
 8) 8) 8)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Tyler on May 23, 2007, 02:34:03 PM
Well taken Smooth and Sexy!
Plus I get alot more looks from people and there not rude type looks!
Its  WOW type look!
What says you guys!! Do you get more looks than when you had hair!!! 8)
 8) 8) 8)

I think I get a lot more looks since shaving.  It helps you stand out in a crowd.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: froze on May 23, 2007, 03:38:05 PM
And I love to stand out in a crowd!

 b@n* P@^
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: rex on July 12, 2007, 09:33:22 AM
Right on Scotty, a very good read. your confidence is better and you look great
we sly guys rule O0 O0 O0 O0 O0 O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: BALDANDRE on July 12, 2007, 09:38:15 AM
I think I get a lot more looks since shaving.  It helps you stand out in a crowd.

I've always thought that, it might not be true, but my perception is, it gives my look a better 'edge" than if I had hair O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: ice4life on July 23, 2007, 06:29:20 AM
I love bein bald because it says "LOOK AT ME!!!!!" lol, I like the attention, and For even more looks, you can get the baldguyz shirt, I love mine, and it makes the ladies wonder....
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: PBurke on July 23, 2007, 07:14:15 AM
I love bein bald because it says "LOOK AT ME!!!!!" lol, I like the attention, and For even more looks, you can get the baldguyz shirt, I love mine, and it makes the ladies wonder....


you can get an SBG shirt too ice. check out the gear link up at the top of the page. go to members only area to get your discount code.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: jcroce1994 on October 01, 2007, 11:39:40 AM
So Right!!!

Choosing to shave is DECISIVE.
Allowing yourself to slowly go bald is PASSIVE.

Taking action always shows more confidence than sitting around, waiting for things to happen.

Great Post! O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: joergHH on October 01, 2007, 03:04:21 PM
It is really a great post that is THE story.
Thanks!!

J.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Jdogs Better Half on October 02, 2007, 05:37:38 PM

Without a doubt confidence is key! The hair does not mean anything!!!!! The sly look is way hotter then some gross comb over or the helipad look!!!

None of my girlfriends sit around saying, check that guy out he has nice hair.....its just not how it is!!

Look at Ami James from Miami Ink.....the ladies love him and he is totally sly!!! He has confidence!!





So, if you're sitting on the fence, jump to our side.

Besides, have you ever heard a woman say any of the following?
- "I sure love a man with a comb-over"
- "There's nothing sexier than a man with a receding hairline"
- "I love it when a man looks like a slob because he doesn't have time to style his hair"

I doubt you have! Plenty of women dig a smooth head. And those that don't are only waiting to meet a man with one. Ask any woman what she finds sexy in a man, and you'll hear "confidence" a hell of a lot more often than "the hair that the guy in the Rogaine commercial has." Or "a nice toupee" or even just a plain ol' "nice hair."

Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Asher on November 11, 2007, 09:00:02 PM
good post, and agreed.  some people are naturally intimidated by a slick-headed guy.  i enjoy this, and sometimes play it dangerous, sometimes nice as apple pie.  eh, it amuses me.  but yeah, it doubles your confidence when you look someone in the eye and they glance at your head with a bit of confusion.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on November 15, 2007, 12:53:58 PM
Well taken Smooth and Sexy!
Plus I get alot more looks from people and there not rude type looks!
Its  WOW type look!
What says you guys!! Do you get more looks than when you had hair!!! 8)
 8) 8) 8)

This is one of the reasons I really appreciate and like this site as a Jr. Sly.  I have really noticed the looks, walking through a building lobby, on the street, restaurants, EVERY PLACE.  Being Sly you OWN the place, with the dying mop, no one noticed, and worse I was always worried about the bald spot in back the sparce fill in on the sides, and the hairline moving back--seemingly day by day.  Much Mo' Betta--OWNING DA JOINT!  Won't look good with a shaved head--Bull Sh_t, haven't seen a shaved head yet that was not "head and shoulders" above a patchy balding guy.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Timmay on January 30, 2008, 08:24:28 AM

Without a doubt confidence is key! The hair does not mean anything!!!!! The sly look is way hotter




So can we ask you JDogs better half......then why do you have Hair!???  HUH...??  Yeah lets see you shave your dome down....I DARE YA!...lol

Timmayyyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: rickybobby on April 03, 2008, 11:00:48 PM
great post !!!!! but u already know that....i'm trying to get a guy at work to at least buzz cut his "hair"...he's def. got the homer simpson 3 strands of hair combover going on....i've tried telling him he would look better shaved but he's a gof and doesnt listen to reason...he's  also lazy so thats why i think he doesnt go some what sly....
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Mikekoz13 on April 04, 2008, 05:10:18 AM
Even though I've been a member for several months, I just read this original post. This guy hit it square on the head. An incredible post!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: JMMARICH on April 09, 2008, 10:47:32 AM
This weekend, my wife and I are spending several days in Biloxi where we used to live and going to the annual crawfish boil. Now I haven't seen most of these good friends since we moved about a year ago. I was starting to stress on wearing a hat or what because I am sly now. This post helped me get my bearings and get back on track.

I felt a weight come off my shoulders and then I remembered...holy S*(()! The host is sly. I totally forgot his head was sly. Guess I really have something to talk to him about :)

Thanks again for all the support guys. Reading this board helps so much when you find yourself doubting.

--Josh
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Bald Jedi on May 03, 2008, 10:20:29 PM
Very well said!!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: hammerdrill376 on June 28, 2008, 06:03:17 AM
I took the SLY plunge last week. I was apprehensive about it but it was either that or the "half moon" look as my wife calls it.  (She cannot stand a guy with that look.)Well all I can say is the comments have been overwhelmingly postive and the majority of those comments have come from females. I am still getting used to the look of it but love the feel.

Now if the hair on my back would fall out just as easily........lol
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: barberette on June 28, 2008, 08:06:08 AM
Perfectly said!  A man with confidence is soooo attractive! That works for both sexes, someone who is comfortable in their own skin.
Title: Probably not the place , but need advice from experience
Post by: dave523 on June 28, 2008, 04:12:45 PM
Thx socctty,

Well spoken i think. However, this is a place where guys agree with you because they met similar fate. I, on the contrary, do not think it is not so easy to part with my hair that was given to me from bith.

When i was a bit young, 16 or so, i played soccer on a fairly high level. I still play, but on a have-a-beer-with-your-buddies-on-sundays-level :XX. 5 of my teammates from that time are still my closest friends. All of them have gone bald through the years. They have fallen one by one. A year ago the last of them had to pick up a shaver because of his progressive thinnig hair. I am the only one that has a considerable amounts of hair (on the head that is). I have played many jokes on them through the years because of their bald(ing)ness >:D.

Recently i started noticing my hair is getting thinner :(. Know for a fact that my buddies would love to see me experience the same fate. An actual qoute: "Your looking into your future".

Are there any treatments to stop my hair falling out? Heard of some stuff that helps for prostate enlargement that helps. You guys must have some experience in this field. I would never have a HT, but would take some medicine. If hairloss keeps on this track, people will start noticing in less than 6 months. Really don't wanna be a 'baldy', and certainly don't wanna get the joke on me by my buds.

Cheers, D
Title: Re: Probably not the place , but need advice from experience
Post by: IRDSM on June 28, 2008, 04:20:07 PM
Thx socctty,

Well spoken i think. However, this is a place where guys agree with you because they met similar fate. I, on the contrary, do not think it is not so easy to part with my hair that was given to me from bith.

When i was a bit young, 16 or so, i played soccer on a fairly high level. I still play, but on a have-a-beer-with-your-buddies-on-sundays-level :XX. 5 of my teammates from that time are still my closest friends. All of them have gone bald through the years. They have fallen one by one. A year ago the last of them had to pick up a shaver because of his progressive thinnig hair. I am the only one that has a considerable amounts of hair (on the head that is). I have played many jokes on them through the years because of their bald(ing)ness >:D.

Recently i started noticing my hair is getting thinner :(. Know for a fact that my buddies would love to see me experience the same fate. An actual qoute: "Your looking into your future".

Are there any treatments to stop my hair falling out? Heard of some stuff that helps for prostate enlargement that helps. You guys must have some experience in this field . I would never have a HT, but would take some medicine. If hairloss keeps on this track, people will start noticing in less than 6 months. Really don't wanna be a 'baldy', and certainly don't wanna get the joke on me by my buds.

Cheers, D

Shave it off. You may think "WHAT?" but I think that it would work to your advantage. If you do it before anyone notices your thinning hair you can play it off as a joke. Just come  in one day out of the blue with a shaved head. Then pretend that even though it was a joke that you like it and decided to keep it (though at this point you most likely won't have to pretend, trust me). You'll get some good natured ribbing from your mates, but every one will get over it except for the occasional crack. Just laugh along with them, don't be a sore about it and don't let it bug you.

Most people who use drug experience NO improvement whatsoever and waste tons of money on all this crap that does squat. Most of the guy here can atone for it: Running away from it only hurts your wallet and makes you feel worse.

Dan
Title: Re: Probably not the place , but need advice from experience
Post by: FR8TRAIN on June 28, 2008, 04:31:58 PM
Thx socctty,

.... do not think it is not so easy to part with my hair that was given to me from bith.


Brother, hair was given to us ALL from birth....shave it off!!!! O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: jhickman on June 28, 2008, 05:54:37 PM
Hey Dave, Welcome to the forums.

I've heard Propecia can have some nasty side effects and doesn't work on a lot of people.  Before you go that route, I might look into that or maybe some SBGs can fill you in.

As for going the shave route...
How do you look at your buddies that have shaved their heads now?  At first it must have been pretty foreign at the beginning, but over time you get to know them with that look.  Most of the time it looks great, on anybody.  It'll be the same for you when...err if you decide to go that route.   O0
Title: Re: Probably not the place , but need advice from experience
Post by: BALDANDRE on June 29, 2008, 05:16:32 PM
Thx socctty,

Well spoken i think. However, this is a place where guys agree with you because they met similar fate. I, on the contrary, do not think it is not so easy to part with my hair that was given to me from bith.


Weeeell, not exactly the case...there are a lot of us here that are truly bald by choice because we love it and actually think it looks GOOD!

You may not find help getting your hair back here...this place encourages a totally bald head bro...it's not called "thinning hair guys" or "Sly balding guys"..

it SLY BALD GUYS, zip, nada on the head...like IRSDM said shave your head smooth bro...before anyone knows your thinning...

you think hair gives you confidence...wait till you see what BALD can do for you! ;)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: dave523 on July 03, 2008, 03:18:46 PM
TX for your replies,

Pretty sensible replies and i can see why u guys feel comfortable with being bald. It looks great on all of you 8). I am not so sure that it will look ok/good on me. Furthermore, giving in on this MPB-situation feels like surrendering :-\. Especially because i was the first one to 'coment' on my balding friends. Was convinced about keeping my hair forever and now the jokes on me.  :*)) :x! :*)) :x!

shouldn't i give medicines at least a try? I might be hairy on top till i turn the lights off  O0

Ik that doesn't work, i can always try to participate in this radio programma. Coins means €300,- cash and heads means going bald:

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Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: BALDANDRE on July 03, 2008, 07:33:35 PM
TX for your replies,

Pretty sensible replies and i can see why u guys feel comfortable with being bald. It looks great on all of you 8). I am not so sure that it will look ok/good on me. Furthermore, giving in on this MPB-situation feels like surrendering :-\. Especially because i was the first one to 'coment' on my balding friends. Was convinced about keeping my hair forever and now the jokes on me.  :*)) :x! :*)) :x!

shouldn't i give medicines at least a try? I might be hairy on top till i turn the lights off  O0

Ik that doesn't work, i can always try to participate in this radio programma. Coins means €300,- cash and heads means going bald:

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Hmmm, I knew someone (my old boss and friend) that was a hip guy in a hip industry and he had a combover REAL bad....

I had my head shaved around him for years , he liked it and said he would eventually shave his and his wife was totally shaving his bald 'like mine" O0...

well 12 years later....he buzzed it maybe a #5 on top and almost got rid of the combover completely...almost, well EVERYONE said he looked much better and real good...

but when i talked with him he said he felt sick and that he was giving up once he went further...d@man that's how he felt with a #5!!!!

I really could feel he felt this way...and i forgot to mention in our dept of 18 folks....11 of them where buzzed bald dudes! i of course was the only slick bald dude...and of course in that case the coolest ^-^..

But my point to you is, I can see what you mean, but at the same time trust us...being buzzed bald or slick and sly bald is the opposite of "giving up"...

it's getting WAY more confidence that you're ever had!!!


Dude...trust us!

BTW if going straight to razored bald is too much...bro take it in stages...and no offense, but a buzzcut would be WAY more hip on you than your 80's hair...sorry, but true..

I mean your Brit brother David Beckham is buzzed bald and he comes across as a pretty hip guy!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Razor X on July 03, 2008, 07:56:42 PM
TX for your replies,

Pretty sensible replies and i can see why u guys feel comfortable with being bald. It looks great on all of you 8). I am not so sure that it will look ok/good on me. Furthermore, giving in on this MPB-situation feels like surrendering :-\. Especially because i was the first one to 'coment' on my balding friends. Was convinced about keeping my hair forever and now the jokes on me.  :*)) :x! :*)) :x!


With respect to the jokes, you've just got to take your licking -- you've got it coming to you.  Trust me, I've been there -- not so much about hair but other things.  You poke fun at someone about something and eventually it happens to you and they get the last laugh.  Just get it over with and it won't be that bad.

Being the last one in your circle of friends to lose your hair is much easier than being the first.  You're far more likely to be razzed when you're the only baldie in the group -- and even if you're not, you feel a lot less self-conscious when there are others in the same boat.

The medications are a waste of money.  They rarely work, and you'll have to use them for several months or perhaps even a couple of years to know whether they're working for you or not.  That's more time you spend worrying about your hair.  If you shave it or at least buzz it, it's over.  You can stop worrying about it and resume your life.  It's a huge relief, as anyone here will tell you.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on July 03, 2008, 08:12:33 PM
Medications for MPB aren't covered by health insurance as far as I have seen, they don't have a "great" record according to the information available on the internet, the COST a lot, and at least for this MPB guy minoxidil caused a rash that was treated by a skin doctor--on insurance thank the Good Lord. 
Shaving is just SO SIMPLE and so rewarding after dealing w/ the steady and unrelenting loss of hair--just grab on and go O:O, and then there isn't anything to worry about--except relatives and sig others like wives and children.  But even with that, free and sly is better.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: dave523 on July 04, 2008, 05:35:46 PM


BTW if going straight to razored bald is too much...bro take it in stages...and no offense, but a buzzcut would be WAY more hip on you than your 80's hair...sorry, but true..

I mean your Brit brother David Beckham is buzzed bald and he comes across as a pretty hip guy!
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Hehehe thx, that was 50 Euro's well spent on a haircut :(!


Tx guys for your replies. Actualy i've never seen a guy that doesn't get away with buzzed/sly or maybe i am just not aware (Btw i am not Britsh, i am 100% Dutch). Still not so sure about myself though. Sent in some pics to a site called headshave.baldlygo.com. You send them some pics of yourself and they give u a virtual shave. The pics and they were sent back to me an hour ago. Curious/nervous how it looks, but haven't opened pics yet .

Think it would be easier if i would have the option of hair. Seriously, wouln't you guys prefer the option to be able to grow hair to being forced to buzz (because of MPB)? Then again, in ten years from now i will probably think "what the hell was that all about  :D". As for now, not at a mental stage yet where i can accept that i might be one of the baldy's. RazorX, you are absolutely right in saying that i have got it coming, but you haven't been there. I have been a real dick making them ridiculous >:D and knowing them they will not 'ease' me into this fate >:D >:D. Maybe i should start looking for a wig  :-\

Cheers Dave


Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Razor X on July 04, 2008, 08:29:36 PM

 RazorX, you are absolutely right in saying that i have got it coming, but you haven't been there. I have been a real dick making them ridiculous >:D and knowing them they will not 'ease' me into this fate >:D >:D. Maybe i should start looking for a wig  :-\



You think they won't laugh at a wig?  ::)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: J Digory on July 04, 2008, 11:36:03 PM
Hey man, first I wanna say welcome to the site. Secondly, I really want to let you know that life isn't fair. Some people get handed the one thing in life you want most, while you struggle and never get it your whole life. For those of us who lose our hair naturally we most always go through a phase where we moan and complain that it isn't fair. But it's not. So deal with it. I'm not trying to be harsh, man. I started thinning a while back and I seemed to be the only one that could notice. I don't know if my friends tried to be really nice and play dumb, or if they were just blind. But I SAW my hair thin, and it drove me nuts. So yeah, it can take some of us a while to come to grips with hair loss. But you really only have two choices: deal with it, or don't. I tried some different drugs, and to be honest, THAT was giving up. The longer I tried to stop my hair loss, the longer I postponed dealing with my hair loss.

I'm not trying to say bald is the answer for YOU, but you have to do something. Drugs only work as long as you use them, and that's IF they work. It's like renting a big screen tv for a really long time so you can look impressive, since you can't afford to go out and buy one. You stop renting the tv, and it's gone. Eventually your hair WILL fall out if you are thinning now. No amount of drugs can stop it eternally. And as long as you don't deal with the emotions surrounding your hair loss, it won't make any difference when it happens. At 50 years old it's still going to hurt if you're not prepared for it.

The way I see it is this: I was born white, but if I really wanted to be black I could probably undertake some expensive surgeries to look black. But for what? I am still the same exact person God made me, but now I am trying to trick people into seeing me a different way.
Do what you want with your hair, man. Cut it short, comb it over, wear a wig. Just do what ever it is you do for your self, and not so that other people see you a certain way. As long as you are trying to manipulate other people's perception of you, you're going to be uncomfortable.

On a final note, it sounds like this can actually do you some good. By your own admittance you were pretty mean to your friends about something they couldn't control. It's one thing to poke fun with your friends, and it's another to really dig into them. If you just played with your friends, then you don't really have anything to worry about. If you can't take some jokes from your buddies, then hair is the least of your concerns. But if you really were mean to them it sounds like you may have some thinking to do. You wouldn't pick on a man in a wheelchair, so why pick on someone because of something they have no control over (loss of their hair)?

Please, keep us updated, Dave. I really am curious to see what you end up doing and how you come through this. I'm cheerin' for ya.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: dave523 on July 05, 2008, 04:29:47 PM

 RazorX, you are absolutely right in saying that i have got it coming, but you haven't been there. I have been a real dick making them ridiculous >:D and knowing them they will not 'ease' me into this fate >:D >:D. Maybe i should start looking for a wig  :-\



You think they won't laugh at a wig?  ::)

Wig, off course, was a joke. No wig or HT for me, i think that just leads to obsessive behaviour about the 'situation'. Knowing myself this would mean a lifetime-self-inflicted-hair-issue-imprisonement. My options are narrowed down to:
A) take medicine and consciously enjoy having hair;
B) accept being part men that go bald;
Think the second option is the best from a philosopical point of view. The one who can let go of things in life the easiest, probably is the happiest. But i am no philosopher and a pretty vain SoaB. Hope to find the answer by hanging/looking around this forum.

J Digory:  wasn't really mean to my buddies, but was very unaware (until some months ago) that losing hair could be such an issue.

Looked at the pics of baldygo.com. At first i wasn't really shocked at the pics they returned and actuall was relieved (i probably expected worse). After having multiple looks, i am not so sure i could sport that look. Don't think i am the type to be a bald dude.

Cheers, Dave!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: MagmaBabe on July 05, 2008, 06:48:53 PM
Hey Dave

you should go with option B.
The more negativity you put into a situation, the worse you are gonna feel about it.

In all honesty.. to ask for help regarding treatments to help your hair stop falling out..
is just plain daft  in my eyes. This is SlyBaldGuys, not the Rogaine for men club. I don't wish
to offend you in any way, obviously you're finding it hard to come to terms with your hair
loss, but the guys here can help you with that.  What we can't do is wave a magic wand and
make your hair magically grow back. It's something you are going to have to come to terms with.

If you listen to some of the testimonies from the fellas on here.. they've been through the same
thing as what you have. As of right now, you are not the only one, nor will you be the only one
to feel this way. But please..poke around a little more on the forum and do a little more reading up
regarding other members losing their hair. I think it might help.  :)

Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: BALDANDRE on July 06, 2008, 11:26:22 PM
Hey Dave

you should go with option B.
The more negativity you put into a situation, the worse you are gonna feel about it.

In all honesty.. to ask for help regarding treatments to help your hair stop falling out..
is just plain daft  in my eyes. This is SlyBaldGuys, not the Rogaine for men club. I don't wish
to offend you in any way, obviously you're finding it hard to come to terms with your hair
loss, but the guys here can help you with that.  What we can't do is wave a magic wand and
make your hair magically grow back. It's something you are going to have to come to terms with.

If you listen to some of the testimonies from the fellas on here.. they've been through the same
thing as what you have. As of right now, you are not the only one, nor will you be the only one
to feel this way. But please..poke around a little more on the forum and do a little more reading up
regarding other members losing their hair. I think it might help.  :)



Oh, not only is she pretty, she is oh, so wise! :@`
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: time2shine on July 08, 2008, 01:00:37 PM
... I tried some different drugs, and to be honest, THAT was giving up. The longer I tried to stop my hair loss, the longer I postponed dealing with my hair loss.

Very true quote, J.
I feel like going through hairloss for me has been a test of becoming a true man.  I'm not saying that only bald men, are real men, but I am saying that it forces you to stare your struggle straight in the eye, and say, "I will not let you win"; and you either deal with it now or later.  Some say that using drugs or doing transplants is way of battling your hairloss and not giving in.  Like J Digory said, it's an inevitable fact that you will lose your hair, those "solutions" are nothing more than a psychological patch.  
Each day I am getting closer to the man I want/need to be, and I'm excited to enjoy each day, not just as a bald man, but as an original, honest, and respected person.  And as it's been covered many times in this forum: Hair does not define that.  period.

Dave, I appreciate your post and thoughts.  We are on the opposite side of the spectrums when it comes to our group of friends.  I represent the guy in your group that was first to lose his hair.  I know exactly how that guy feels, and I find myself resenting you for that reason.  On the other hand, I have been in your situation where I have joked around with people on things they cannot control; it is only until I experience it first hand, that I realize what they went through.
You will have concerns about your friends joking about your hairloss, but they have had ALL of the ups and downs that go with it.  Find solace in the fact that you have another bond that will only bring you closer as friends.
now shave it off.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: dave523 on July 10, 2008, 02:30:04 PM
Hey Dave


Howdy,

What a pleasant surprise! You do not seem like a "bald" and especially "dude" at all! If i wasn't a Dutch guy on the other side of the ocean, i would feel forced to ask for your phone number  :@`.

As for your comments, you are absolutely right (well partly). The reason I am poking around this site is to find some reason. Maybe i should post my baldygo.com pics somewhere (before & after) and ask for some objective opinions.

Cheers,

Dave

Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: J Digory on July 10, 2008, 02:37:57 PM
Do it. Seriously, do it. Do it. (tries for his best impression of Stiller in the not-so-good remake of Starsky and Hutch)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Tyler on July 10, 2008, 02:41:10 PM
Hey Dave


If i wasn't a Dutch guy on the other side of the ocean, i would feel forced to ask for your phone number  :@`.


LOL!  She's probably much closer than you think she is...
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: dave523 on July 10, 2008, 03:33:30 PM
... I tried some different drugs, and to be honest, THAT was giving up. The longer I tried to stop my hair loss, the longer I postponed dealing with my hair loss.

Very true quote, J.
and you either deal with it now or later.  Some say that using drugs or doing transplants is way of battling your hairloss and not giving in.  Like J Digory said, it's an inevitable fact that you will lose your hair, those "solutions" are nothing more than a psychological patch.  
Each day I am getting closer to the man I want/need to be, and I'm excited to enjoy each day, not just as a bald man, but as an original, honest, and respected person.  And as it's been covered many times in this forum: Hair does not define that.  period.

Dave, I appreciate your post and thoughts.  We are on the opposite side of the spectrums when it comes to our group of friends.  I represent the guy in your group that was first to lose his hair.  I know exactly how that guy feels, and I find myself resenting you for that reason.  On the other hand, I have been in your situation where I have joked around with people on things they cannot control; it is only until I experience it first hand, that I realize what they went through.
You will have concerns about your friends joking about your hairloss, but they have had ALL of the ups and downs that go with it.  Find solace in the fact that you have another bond that will only bring you closer as friends.
now shave it off.

Hi time2shine,

Thanks for your reply, Strong post.

If hair doesn't define a man, what is wrong with try and keep it?

You say it is inevitable that i will lose my hair eventually. I still find that thought pretty scary and can hardly beleive it. If i am really honest it feels humiliating to be an MPB- member. I know it is only hair and i have never seen a bald guy that doesn't look good with a buzzed/shaved look. I just cannot see myself 'on the opposite side of the spectrum' as you describe it. I know for a fact that my buddies would die to meet me 'over on their side'. You probably enjoyed to see members of your group go there at the time, no?
 
Yesterday i went to my regular hair dresser. He was the first external person to notice and was very firm about it. He said: "Yep, ur thinning. No worries, that's what happens to us guys"! Damn, now i have it official (no worries, that's what happens to us...............well not him!!!!). He suggested a route: first keep the length i have now and go wild, next time he will cut it short and, depending on the progress of my mpb, buzz it one or two sessions afterwards. sh*t man! does that mean i will be bald in 4 months even if i do not follow this hairdressers route????

Cheers D.

P.s. feels like abusing this site for my 'gremlins', but sure does feel good to shed inner thought!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: J Digory on July 11, 2008, 12:57:11 AM
You're not abusing anything, Dave. Go ahead and take your time. Write in caps if you want. I don't think you'll hurt anyone's feelings, since a good number of the blokes here have or are going through the very same thing.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: MagmaBabe on July 11, 2008, 03:16:15 AM
Hey Dave


Howdy,

What a pleasant surprise! You do not seem like a "bald" and especially "dude" at all! If i wasn't a Dutch guy on the other side of the ocean, i would feel forced to ask for your phone number  :@`.

As for your comments, you are absolutely right (well partly). The reason I am poking around this site is to find some reason. Maybe i should post my baldygo.com pics somewhere (before & after) and ask for some objective opinions.

Cheers,

Dave



I've been called many things in my lifetime, but never a pleasant surprise, so thanks for that  ;)


You should post up your pics that you got from baldygo, it'll be interesting to see them.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: time2shine on July 12, 2008, 12:44:32 PM
... I tried some different drugs, and to be honest, THAT was giving up. The longer I tried to stop my hair loss, the longer I postponed dealing with my hair loss.

Very true quote, J.
and you either deal with it now or later.  Some say that using drugs or doing transplants is way of battling your hairloss and not giving in.  Like J Digory said, it's an inevitable fact that you will lose your hair, those "solutions" are nothing more than a psychological patch.  
Each day I am getting closer to the man I want/need to be, and I'm excited to enjoy each day, not just as a bald man, but as an original, honest, and respected person.  And as it's been covered many times in this forum: Hair does not define that.  period.

Dave, I appreciate your post and thoughts.  We are on the opposite side of the spectrums when it comes to our group of friends.  I represent the guy in your group that was first to lose his hair.  I know exactly how that guy feels, and I find myself resenting you for that reason.  On the other hand, I have been in your situation where I have joked around with people on things they cannot control; it is only until I experience it first hand, that I realize what they went through.
You will have concerns about your friends joking about your hairloss, but they have had ALL of the ups and downs that go with it.  Find solace in the fact that you have another bond that will only bring you closer as friends.
now shave it off.

Hi time2shine,

Thanks for your reply, Strong post.

If hair doesn't define a man, what is wrong with try and keep it?

You say it is inevitable that i will lose my hair eventually. I still find that thought pretty scary and can hardly beleive it. If i am really honest it feels humiliating to be an MPB- member. I know it is only hair and i have never seen a bald guy that doesn't look good with a buzzed/shaved look. I just cannot see myself 'on the opposite side of the spectrum' as you describe it. I know for a fact that my buddies would die to meet me 'over on their side'. You probably enjoyed to see members of your group go there at the time, no?
 
Yesterday i went to my regular hair dresser. He was the first external person to notice and was very firm about it. He said: "Yep, ur thinning. No worries, that's what happens to us guys"! Damn, now i have it official (no worries, that's what happens to us...............well not him!!!!). He suggested a route: first keep the length i have now and go wild, next time he will cut it short and, depending on the progress of my mpb, buzz it one or two sessions afterwards. sh*t man! does that mean i will be bald in 4 months even if i do not follow this hairdressers route????

Cheers D.

P.s. feels like abusing this site for my 'gremlins', but sure does feel good to shed inner thought!

I actually just typed a huge, too thought-out of a reply regarding hair defining a person, but erased it, coming to a different conclusion.  Do what makes you happy, Dave.  That's the bottom line.  Some of us shaved our heads, because it makes us happier.  If keeping your hair, or restyling it makes you happy, then do so.
I think the ultimate point is that we are all here for support.  As you said, it's a scary thing, but it can be a lot less scary when you have a resource like Sly Bald Guys.  I think the main attempt for my previous post was to emphasize that there is life after baldness.  I sure as hell didn't think so as a vain teenager.  So for me it's comforting to be in a place were many guys have gone through the same experience and have become better people because of it.

Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: MagmaBabe on July 12, 2008, 12:47:53 PM
great post T2T  :)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Sgt. Pate on July 12, 2008, 02:54:35 PM
Dave,

I'm a "bottom line" kind of guy and I prefer to confront a situation immediately and deal with it on my terms.  Honestly, the best way to handle your situation is to just do it!  Shave your noggin' get it tan and enjoy the freedom of being in control of what you look like.  O0

Here's a shocker... most people are so consumed with what you think about them that they don't give a rodents sphincter about you!  So who cares what they think?  :*))

Don't let your hair own you bro... take your life back!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: hammerdrill376 on July 12, 2008, 05:58:41 PM
Well said Sgt. Pate O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: dave523 on August 15, 2008, 05:47:24 PM
Hey Dave


Howdy,

What a pleasant surprise! You do not seem like a "bald" and especially "dude" at all! If i wasn't a Dutch guy on the other side of the ocean, i would feel forced to ask for your phone number  :@`.

As for your comments, you are absolutely right (well partly). The reason I am poking around this site is to find some reason. Maybe i should post my baldygo.com pics somewhere (before & after) and ask for some objective opinions.

Cheers,

Dave



I've been called many things in my lifetime, but never a pleasant surprise, so thanks for that  ;)


You should post up your pics that you got from baldygo, it'll be interesting to see them.


Wel was really reluctant, and i am taking baby steps. but here is the result from baldygo.com. Pics were taken after a long night of clubbing so i look like sh*t (even more so than normal):
Before:
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi240.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fff258%2Frwf34%2FBob.jpg&hash=07d3833fbb9b63f47a709e8b6ed7006630b5f3b3)
After:
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi240.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fff258%2Frwf34%2F22.jpg&hash=c2b3592911e9f1c7e82afde7130ee4165259d3a1)
(Photo's were taken a year ago. My hair is longer now.)

Btw recently i had a night of playing poker with my buddies (the ones i used to joke about their mpb). After some beers i told them that i thought my hair was thinning and might be going bald. They gave me a hard time  :*)) ("carma", "justice", "finally ur one of us"  O0 etc), but i think i had that coming.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Paul on August 15, 2008, 07:17:44 PM
Why would YOU NOT WANT TO GO SLY, bro?   You can really rock the look!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Brkeatr on August 15, 2008, 07:42:40 PM
Just do it.....you'll be glad you did..... ;D
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: wpruitt on August 15, 2008, 07:44:20 PM
Go for it Dave
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: GASlick on August 15, 2008, 09:31:24 PM
Look awesome Dave.  Go for it.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Tyler on August 15, 2008, 10:32:39 PM
The photo looks good.  I'm betting it will look better in real life!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: BALDANDRE on August 15, 2008, 10:41:17 PM
First off you would look great bald...

secondly, I think you'd look way better than the photoshop job...

I think your head is small than that!

I say get loaded one night and have your bald buddies you harrassed get YOU back and skin you bald like them..

it would be  a cool way for you to get to the sly side and for them to get YOU back! ;)

I say go for it bro!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: OzPete on August 15, 2008, 10:43:19 PM
Go for it!  O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: MagmaBabe on August 16, 2008, 03:27:33 AM
Hey Dave


Howdy,

What a pleasant surprise! You do not seem like a "bald" and especially "dude" at all! If i wasn't a Dutch guy on the other side of the ocean, i would feel forced to ask for your phone number  :@`.

As for your comments, you are absolutely right (well partly). The reason I am poking around this site is to find some reason. Maybe i should post my baldygo.com pics somewhere (before & after) and ask for some objective opinions.

Cheers,

Dave



I've been called many things in my lifetime, but never a pleasant surprise, so thanks for that  ;)


You should post up your pics that you got from baldygo, it'll be interesting to see them.


Wel was really reluctant, and i am taking baby steps. but here is the result from baldygo.com. Pics were taken after a long night of clubbing so i look like sh*t (even more so than normal):
Before:
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi240.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fff258%2Frwf34%2FBob.jpg&hash=07d3833fbb9b63f47a709e8b6ed7006630b5f3b3)
After:
(https://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi240.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fff258%2Frwf34%2F22.jpg&hash=c2b3592911e9f1c7e82afde7130ee4165259d3a1)
(Photo's were taken a year ago. My hair is longer now.)

Btw recently i had a night of playing poker with my buddies (the ones i used to joke about their mpb). After some beers i told them that i thought my hair was thinning and might be going bald. They gave me a hard time  :*)) ("carma", "justice", "finally ur one of us"  O0 etc), but i think i had that coming.


Hi Dave  :)

I'm sure you realise that your baldygo picture is just to give you a general idea of what you'd look like.
I'm with Andre on this.. your head would look smaller in real life and of course, you'd have a much
more even skin tone (once you got a little sun to your head) IMHO, if you were to ditch the thinning hair
it would draw a lot more attention to your beautiful baby blues - and that's a good thing!
If I've said it already, I'll say it again, your eyes are amazing!  :@`

Baby steps are definitely the right way to go about things.. I think in your case that if you  gradually
take your hair down little by little it'll seem less 'dramatic' and not such a shock to the system.
Plucking up the courage to actually take the plunge I think is the hardest thing for you. For some
it's easy,  for others it's not. There are plenty of guys on here that have had that same problem.

From a womans perspective.. men with long(ish) hair that are rapidly thinning do not look good!
And us women can notice it!

Oh -  as far as your mates are concerned... haha, you certainly did have it coming!  ;D
I'm sure they're secretly pleased that you're gonna be in their 'club' though  ;)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: HeadbladerBob on November 27, 2008, 08:04:58 AM
you look great with that sly look now wear it with pride

 @c3
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: john05 on December 10, 2008, 06:55:58 AM
socctty, well said i'm off to shave thanks mate for the final push.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Michael on January 23, 2009, 10:50:55 AM
You won't know until you have tried, and given it some time.  Keep it sly for a month and then decide.  The boost in self is well worth it! 
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Dome of Steele on February 21, 2009, 07:07:09 PM
When I was growing up, my brother and sister had me convinced that I had a large abnormally shaped head.  It stuck and I thought this for years. 
But after shaving my dome, I have gotten many compliments on my head shape.  I was told I have the Michael Jordan headshape, which I take as a huge compliment. 
So if you think you've got a really weird head shape it's probably "in your head." 
Sorry for the bad pun.   
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Ghost1988 on February 21, 2009, 07:55:26 PM
i actually have a nice shaped head "or so ive been told" the problem is everything around the head haha  :*))
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: clipped on February 21, 2009, 08:20:11 PM
I agree...the original post for this thread was one of the best I've read here....there have also been many, many good encouraging posts here about the confidence boost to be gained from accepting baldness.  My "fence" is the clippershave - having the commitment to keep that really tight buzz.  This post does provide me the encouragement to stay committed to the tight clipper shave ( as opposed to a longer buzz) as I progress toward the inevitable.   
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: HeadbladerBob on February 24, 2009, 10:02:06 AM
this was a great post

 >:D
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: BuzzKC on February 27, 2009, 11:12:24 AM
This is a great thread.  I have to tell the guys sitting on the fence with a short buzz... nobody will notice the difference if you go sly.  If you want to do it just go for it.
Title: Made a bet with a friend (or with myself?)
Post by: dave523 on March 19, 2009, 06:37:53 PM
Hi Guys,

I have been off this forum for a while and instead of taking your advise a did the opposite. I took propecia and still do. I've been using it for some times and i do not see any reaults as of yet, but i hope it will bring some results. Maybe i am too impatient and should wait for some more months, but maybe i am fighting an uphill battle. Fed up with this fate.

One of my bald buddies noticed and told me i should shave and i made a bet with him. If 30 different members of this forum vote: "Bald" within two weeks from now, i will shave it all off and stop taking propecia for at least 10 months. But if less than 15 vote "Bald" i get to keep my hair and can take propecia as much if i want and He cannot shave his head for two months (which will look  :*)) ).

Let us have ur votes plz.

Cheers Dave (and Tom)
Title: Re: Made a bet with a friend (or with myself?)
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on March 19, 2009, 06:41:28 PM
Hi Guys,

I have been off this forum for a while and instead of taking your advise a did the opposite. I took propecia and still do. I've been using it for some times and i do not see any reaults as of yet, but i hope it will bring some results. Maybe i am too impatient and should wait for some more months, but maybe i am fighting an uphill battle. Fed up with this fate.

One of my bald buddies noticed and told me i should shave and i made a bet with him. If 30 different members of this forum vote: "Bald" within two weeks from now, i will shave it all off and stop taking propecia for at least 10 months. But if less than 15 vote "Bald" i get to keep my hair and can take propecia as much if i want and He cannot shave his head for two months (which will look  :*)) ).

Let us have ur votes plz.

Cheers Dave (and Tom)

! vote for saving you money and possibly your health by getting off the drugs.  Do you want three eyed children?  You're playing with some important tools guy, unless you don't care?
Title: Re: Made a bet with a friend (or with myself?)
Post by: SBG Math Guy on March 19, 2009, 07:01:08 PM
Hi Guys,

I have been off this forum for a while and instead of taking your advise a did the opposite. I took propecia and still do. I've been using it for some times and i do not see any reaults as of yet, but i hope it will bring some results. Maybe i am too impatient and should wait for some more months, but maybe i am fighting an uphill battle. Fed up with this fate.

One of my bald buddies noticed and told me i should shave and i made a bet with him. If 30 different members of this forum vote: "Bald" within two weeks from now, i will shave it all off and stop taking propecia for at least 10 months. But if less than 15 vote "Bald" i get to keep my hair and can take propecia as much if i want and He cannot shave his head for two months (which will look  :*)) ).

Let us have ur votes plz.

Cheers Dave (and Tom)

If you did the opposite of what you were adviced, who says you will not do the same thing again?  History repeats itself.
For you to like a shaved head it's important to be around people who look highly upon one.   If you visit some hairloss talk forum the guys there are depressed, and it seems like life ends when you lose hair.   But the problem is that's not true at all.  Look at the people on this web-site slybaldguys.com.  Most people here are very happy, most of them are married to beautiful women or are going out with beautiful women, and are enjoying all the blessings they have.

Now I will criticize propecia a bit mainly because this site is not about finding ways to grow back hair.   Propecia can work for a few years, in most cases it probably stops working after 5 years.   What you probably don't know is propecia has some side effects that are likely to be irreversible  Some men take it and then never get a decent erection ever again.  It screws up your sexual life.   Yeah the company will tell you that happens only in 2% of cases.  But you can do your homework by typing in google "propecia side effects" and then you tell me if it's only a small percentage.

I vote BALD.  You should give yourself 30 day trial.  You owe it to yourself.   Man, I am so proud that I shaved my head.  I will never worry about hair thinning ever again.   I'm enjoying life more than ever. 

Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Sean25 on March 19, 2009, 07:27:54 PM
Open up a brand new thread for this one..
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: SLYinKC on March 20, 2009, 01:42:23 PM
Dp
Open up a brand new thread for this one..

Do what Sean said.  But my vote is to shave it!!
Title: Re: Made a bet with a friend (or with myself?)
Post by: Razor X on March 20, 2009, 02:37:19 PM
Hi Guys,

I have been off this forum for a while and instead of taking your advise a did the opposite. I took propecia and still do. I've been using it for some times and i do not see any reaults as of yet, but i hope it will bring some results. Maybe i am too impatient and should wait for some more months, but maybe i am fighting an uphill battle. Fed up with this fate.

One of my bald buddies noticed and told me i should shave and i made a bet with him. If 30 different members of this forum vote: "Bald" within two weeks from now, i will shave it all off and stop taking propecia for at least 10 months. But if less than 15 vote "Bald" i get to keep my hair and can take propecia as much if i want and He cannot shave his head for two months (which will look  :*)) ).

Let us have ur votes plz.

Cheers Dave (and Tom)


I don't understand this post.  You ignored the advice you were previously given -- went in the opposite direction, in fact, and now you're undecided as to whether you should continue following a regimen that has proven unsuccessful?  So you've chosen an arbitrary number -- 30 -- as the benchmark for shaving your head?   And if you get less than 15 pro-shaving responses, you'll continue taking an expensive, ineffective drug with nasty side effects?   What happens if you get between 15 and 30 pro-bald responses?   ???

We've already given you our opinions; I don't see any reason why we should take the time to do it again, especially when you've demonstrated an unwillingness to follow our advice in the past.  Just figure out what you want to do and do it.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Rob on March 20, 2009, 06:49:52 PM
Yeah: what he said. O0

If you didnt want to do it back then, why should you do it now just because we voted? :/O
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: xnewyawka on March 21, 2009, 10:07:42 AM
I agree with Raz and Rob.
 
This is a BS post dave. Stop playing games, shave the head and give it the thirty day trial, none of this thirty vote crap!    >:(

Act like a man and take control of the situation, make your own choices! 
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: dave523 on March 21, 2009, 08:41:26 PM
hi there,

I actually like to keep my hair and probably deciding to shave it all off will never happen if i have something to say about it. Find it hard to make a final decision and postponing decisions is what i do best. You guys probably right in saying that i should take control of myself, but i think fate is easier for me. Big step for me to accept this bet, but i will accept the consequences. 
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: DuffRyder17 on March 21, 2009, 08:54:58 PM
Attention all sly bald guy members read this post and vote your opinion!!!!!


I vote give shaving a fair shot.
Title: Re: Made a bet with a friend (or with myself?)
Post by: dave523 on March 21, 2009, 10:26:08 PM
Hi Guys,


! vote for saving you money and possibly your health by getting off the drugs.  Do you want three eyed children?  You're playing with some important tools guy, unless you don't care?

Off course i care. Is it really dangerous to use propecia? I heard there was a small chance of temporary lack of libido and apart from that no long term danger. In the libido department, no propecia will pull me back. No problems there  :P
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: TheSlyBear on March 22, 2009, 12:15:05 AM
Brave words. Did you know that permanent, yes permanent, ED is a possibility? And man boobs? And depression?
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: MikeM on March 22, 2009, 06:48:38 AM
Do you want three eyed children?

Isn't propecia the one that if a pregnant woman comes in contact with the drug at the wrong stage of pregnancy the genitalia of the fetus don't develop correctly?

Do you want to father a son with a messed-up peen with the knowledge that medicine you're taking is the cause?
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Rob on March 22, 2009, 11:09:55 AM
hi there,

I actually like to keep my hair and probably deciding to shave it all off will never happen if i have something to say about it.

Then why are you asking the opinions of a bunch of guys you don't even know and didnt listen to before???  Is its some kind of bizarre sexual fantasy??? :/O
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: dave523 on March 23, 2009, 05:49:25 PM
hi there,

I actually like to keep my hair and probably deciding to shave it all off will never happen if i have something to say about it.

Then why are you asking the opinions of a bunch of guys you don't even know and didnt listen to before???  Is its some kind of bizarre sexual fantasy??? :/O

Huh WHAT!?!?! WTF is this kind of reaction, luny  :D? I just prefer to have a full head of hair to not having the choice.......

The way i did not take the advise months ago, is that i chickened out. i have a choice to do that also.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: xnewyawka on March 24, 2009, 05:35:48 PM
This site is called Sly "Bald" Guys, key word in there being bald!!

Why do you think we would encourage you to do otherwise??

Enough of your should I or shouldn't I crap, enough with the drugs as well!     >:(

Take control, make a decision to do it or not. From your avatar pic it looks like you've got plenty of hair, so quit playing games.

Stand up, be a man and give the shave a try if you're so curious. Why would you even think of risking drugs when you know the side effects resulting from them?     :/O

Either way, quit you're whining and make a choice!



Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Rob on March 27, 2009, 08:20:10 AM
hi there,

I actually like to keep my hair and probably deciding to shave it all off will never happen if i have something to say about it.

Then why are you asking the opinions of a bunch of guys you don't even know and didnt listen to before???  Is its some kind of bizarre sexual fantasy??? :/O

Huh WHAT!?!?! WTF is this kind of reaction, luny  :D? I just prefer to have a full head of hair to not having the choice.......

The way i did not take the advise months ago, is that i chickened out. i have a choice to do that also.


I just don't see why you would want a bunch of bald guys to get together and vote over whether you should shave or not. 

I know guys who WOULD find that kind of thing a turn on...

Just do it and get it done or grow it.  End of story.

And if you HAVE done it now, post a pic to prove it and we can all move on!! >:(
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Rev Sly on April 10, 2009, 04:53:02 AM
Preach on my brothers. Not a whole lot more to say than, Amen.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: dgleadbetter on June 12, 2009, 11:00:46 AM
I echo the thought. I've also been told shaving my head makes me look 15 years younger.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: MadMatty on June 24, 2009, 09:33:46 PM
fantastic post, btw does anyone think head shaving will affect job interviews? I couldn't find that topic anywhere, so here seems like the best place to ask.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Razor X on June 24, 2009, 09:52:05 PM
fantastic post, btw does anyone think head shaving will affect job interviews? I couldn't find that topic anywhere, so here seems like the best place to ask.

Whenever you interview for a job, you're subjecting yourself to the prejudices of the interviewer and if they don't like how you look, it can be a difficult obstacle to overcome.  There's no telling what someone's likes or dislikes are going to be, although there are some basic grooming and hygiene standards that must be followed.

So, yes, a shaved head can be detrimental if the interviewer doesn't like shaved heads.  So can a combover, a buzzcut or any other kind of hairstyle.  So can facial hair, being too tall, too short, too thin, too fat, etc., etc.

Shaved heads are mainstream enough today that it shouldn't be a major problem for most professions.  In the end, you'll be more confident and perform better in the interview if you're comfortable with your appearance.  And who really wants to work for someone who hates shaved heads anyway?    ;)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Paul on June 25, 2009, 04:13:01 AM
fantastic post, btw does anyone think head shaving will affect job interviews? I couldn't find that topic anywhere, so here seems like the best place to ask.

Check out what some of the brothers said in this post, Matty



http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=6116.0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Undercover on January 15, 2010, 02:44:26 PM
Wow, this thread is almost 2 years old and still going strong, now why could that be I wonder...

Could it be...

Because it's 100% TRUE?

A few years ago when my sister was getting married, she asked me two things: To be in the wedding party, and to grow some hair for the wedding.

I did both. Which one do you think I regret to this day?

When I looked at the pictures afterwards I was APPALLED at how HORRIBLE I looked with hair! You know, really thin on top, thicker on the sides, it was horrible! And there were a LOT of attractive, single women at the reception but I thought I looked like a total chump so my confidence was not at its usual stellar spot, & women kept LOOKING AT MY DAMN HEAD!

I don't bear any resentment towards my sis, I mean after all it WAS her wedding, but when I show people those pictures and they look at me now, which look do you think they like better, hmm?

I think I might be the first man in history that wants to go back and Photoshop hair OUT of pictures!

I've been told by some bald-loving women the exact thing that socctty said, that men who shave their heads just seem to automatically exude an air of confidence that the gelling, moussing, constantly primping dare I say it- DOUCHEBAGS just simply don't have. I'm sure Professor Melon will agree, having a Histrionic Personality Disorder does not make one confident, it just makes you a jerk.

But I digress.

I've also been told by a number of women that when they're in the presence of a man that shaves his head, they just feel... SAFE.
One girl explained it like this: "It's like you have this big, bald teddy bear around that's lots of fun to be with, but under all that cuddliness there's strength. There's this tough-guy edge to it that isn't just sexy, its comforting & reassuring, like you have your own guardian angel and nobody can hurt you..."

Are we talking ego boost or WHAT?  O:O

Yep, this is a thread that ain't going anywhere any time soon.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Razor X on January 15, 2010, 07:54:03 PM


A few years ago when my sister was getting married, she asked me two things: To be in the wedding party, and to grow some hair for the wedding.

I did both. Which one do you think I regret to this day?

When I looked at the pictures afterwards I was APPALLED at how HORRIBLE I looked with hair! You know, really thin on top, thicker on the sides, it was horrible! And there were a LOT of attractive, single women at the reception but I thought I looked like a total chump so my confidence was not at its usual stellar spot, & women kept LOOKING AT MY DAMN HEAD!


About four years ago I attended a wedding of some family friends, most of whom I hadn't seen since I started shaving. I was only a guest and nobody asked me to grow my hair back, but I felt self-conscious and let it grow out for 5 or 6 days.   I was beyond being able to grow back much on top at that point.  When I got to the wedding, I got at least a half-dozen "you're getting thin on top" type comments from the 50 and 60-something crowd, which probably wouldn't have happened if I'd shown up with a fully shaved dome.   To make matters worse, there were a couple of other guys with shaved heads, and I felt like a total dork for not being one of them.

Since that time, I've never appeared in public with stubble on my dome.  I've occasionally skipped a shave on a Saturday and I've gone almost a week a few times when I've been really sick and unable to get out of bed, but I just won't leave the house until the dome is smooth.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: surfboardnyc on January 16, 2010, 08:42:54 AM
Thanks for that razor x ... I am attending an old friend's wedding in May where I will run into a lot of guys who haven't seen me since college.  I was tempted growing it back a little but your post convinced me not to.  I never thought about the fact that there will most likely be other guys with shaved heads which would make me look like a complete dork.  Also, it comes down to the fact that there is nothing worse than not being yourself...
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: D.A.L.U.I. on January 16, 2010, 09:44:23 AM
When my oldest daughter was getting married a little over a year ago, she asked for "hair."  I was working a Hurricane Ike client in Houston, so for 6 days I didn't shave.  When I came home for the weekend, the wedding was about a month away, it really looked bad, if showed the two little "islands" in front and the strip between the ears, but it also showed clearly after 6 days that the top was thin, and that the islands weren't even equal in size, grief.  I asked her if it was what she wanted, and told her I wasn't happy with it at all.  She said, "Shave it."  In a few minutes I was smooth again.  Wife, hysterical, but everyone else was okay with it.  Then two of my son-in-law's groomsment were sly, and the husband of one of my daughter's friends, whose marriage my daughter had been in, had gone sly too.  There were about six sly's total at the reception.  No more than one day has ever passed since w/o a smooth clean shave for the day.
From what you guys are saying, I really stepped over a snake. 
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Razor X on January 16, 2010, 09:44:49 AM


Also, it comes down to the fact that there is nothing worse than not being yourself...

Exactly.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Undercover on January 16, 2010, 04:15:44 PM
Man, I thought my last post was going to be cathartic, but after reading Razor X, SurfboardNYC & SaintC's posts now I feel even WORSE.

Oh well, can't go back and change the past. But that will NEVER happen to me again, I'm sly for life and I don't care who doesn't like it!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: RyanJP on February 19, 2010, 09:20:44 PM
Man, I thought my last post was going to be cathartic, but after reading Razor X, SurfboardNYC & SaintC's posts now I feel even WORSE.

Oh well, can't go back and change the past. But that will NEVER happen to me again, I'm sly for life and I don't care who doesn't like it!

Right on  O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: PopeyeRay on February 20, 2010, 07:09:25 PM
Most excellent Bro!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: stemikger on March 13, 2010, 07:09:21 AM
Awesome post!!!  It's amazing how confidence plays such huge role in life.  Very inspiring for such a young guy like yourself.  The world treats you different when you feel good about yourself. 

Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: WhiskeyHotel on June 16, 2010, 10:20:42 AM
Undercover...your wedding story reminds me of what I'm going through right now. I've had a shaved head for three plus years now. Yet this weekend, my cousin is getting married, and my mother asked me to grow some hair back for it. I'm not going to do it, because like you, I would look terrible if I grew my hair out. And I mean, I feel like I look extremely sharp with a clean shaved head and a nice black suit.

Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: balddaniel on June 29, 2010, 04:42:55 PM
Hi Undercover you a very good looking bald guy.  That said I am planning a visit to see my Mom in July and she has never seen me sly.  I keep thinking I should grow some hair, but because of this website I shall not grow my.  This is what I like the most and it is my head and I shall do what I like  :)  Thanks for the boost Undercover.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: DeviantMagick on July 05, 2010, 11:37:38 AM
I completely agree.
I've never had a lot of confidence and I've been the 'quiet and shy' type.

But when I've got a good shave going.  I know I look good and it definitely boosts my confidence.

Part of my lack of self-esteem was from the receding hair line at a young age and always being picked on.

Now "I choose to be bald" and I have only felt better since that choice.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Rob on July 05, 2010, 11:56:40 AM
This is all so true.

For years, growing up, and even into my twenties and early thirties, I was never happy with my hair, even though it was pretty full on top.  I always wanted something else: tried dying it, cutting it short, etc, but nothing seemed right somehow.  Then I got to know a few SLY guys, just to talk to in passing, and it was like a revelation: I knew how I wanted to look.  But even so, at first, I thought these guys were 'better than me' because they dared to be different.  I didnt think I had the balls to follow their example, but eventually i took the plunge: because it was an 'itch' I had to scratch!! 8)

All those years, I wasnt really being true to myself, I guess.  I was always quite shy, and aware that I had 'too much' hair, or I was receding, or it was 'too short' even.  The irony was that all the while I was sporting 'mainstream' hairstyles, I felt self-concious and shy, yet as soon as I got my head shaved like a beacon saying 'look at me' my shyness disappeared! :/O

Being SLY, I have never once felt it wasnt 'right'.  Seeing other guys with the same smooth domes as me, I just feel so glad I took the plunge, because I honestly have never felt more 'at home in my skin' than I do now. :)

Maybe age has a lot to do with it too, but for the first time since I was about 15, as soon as I went SLY I no longer felt inadequate about how I looked, but equal!!  8) 8)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: balddaniel on July 05, 2010, 01:39:54 PM
Joseph,

You are a lucky guy you really rock the sly look and you are a very handsome man  :)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: J.J. on July 05, 2010, 04:39:25 PM
Now "I choose to be bald" and I have only felt better since that choice.

Great choice.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: BlackJamesRackham on July 05, 2010, 05:04:32 PM
i have never seen someone with a shaved head that looks bad. it's a natural look. and im not just blowing smoke here. but i definitely HAVE seen people who look TERRIBLE with comb-overs and haircuts clearly intended to cover up bald spots.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: DeviantMagick on July 07, 2010, 11:10:14 PM
@J.J. and balddaniel.  Thank you!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: marty22 on July 08, 2010, 05:34:48 AM
great pic! Now play a couple of Mozart songs for us.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: BaldWriterBob on August 27, 2010, 02:47:19 PM
I guess what all this is saying is "Come on over to the bright, shiney side, Luke."

Great post. Can't argue with your reasoning. Thanks!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Chromeo on April 18, 2011, 02:56:46 PM
What a great post!  Like others have said, couldn't have said it better myself..........  O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Thebaldnation on September 27, 2011, 08:57:46 PM
Hey brother love your post, remember being bald is always a step above perfect here at the bald nations best
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: baldjoeg on December 15, 2011, 01:41:08 PM
Socctty,

What an awesome post!  Going sly myself sure has helped my self confidence alot
Thanks for sharing this.

 :)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: baldjoeg on December 15, 2011, 01:43:48 PM
Ekekekek,

Congrations on going sly! I am looking forward to seeing a picture.

 :)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: LAGLE on January 18, 2012, 01:30:10 PM
I just keep digging up old posts, you guys are going to kill me, but this is very well said, confidence is key!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: mrzed on January 18, 2012, 01:48:33 PM
Nice to see a new guy on the 'block' dig through the discussion board and pick out the good stuff.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: LAGLE on January 18, 2012, 02:01:32 PM
Nice to see a new guy on the 'block' dig through the discussion board and pick out the good stuff.


I try my best haha! when can we expect a noggin picture saturday?
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: baldjoeg on January 20, 2012, 08:17:00 PM
Well said socotty! THanks for your post.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: baldjoeg on May 11, 2012, 05:39:59 AM
Very well said Soccty.

 O0 O0 O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: waine on May 30, 2012, 03:14:24 AM
I enjoyed this thread.  As a newbie to this site, I am obviously rummaging through many of the old and new posts.  A super post @Soccty.

Nobody really likes a fence sitter in any walk of life.  If you are in two minds about going sly (love that expression, I don’t know why) then there is only one thing to do, be a man, make a decision.  Either you decide to do it or you don’t.  You will notice Dave’s indecision did not wash well with most folks on this thread.   What is the worst thing that can happen?  You can get mocked, that’s it.  I don’t mind being mocked about a personal decision I have made.  It’s all part of the pain of life and decision making.  Being mocked about bodily features gives me an opportunity to mock back, I kind of get a kick out of it.  If I NEVER asked a person for an opinion about my bodily features and someone makes a negative remark, I quickly find a feature of theirs to retaliate.  Usually a remark about their fat arse does the trick very effectively and shuts them up on the spot, no matter who they are!  If they are thin, there are many features to criticise as no one is perfect.

My point: don’t be a fence sitter, make a decision and stick with it.  Going sly does not have to be a life changing decision, it is only temporary, if you want to go back.

What happened to Dave?  I wonder if he had the balls to eventually put the blade to his thinning hair.  I hope so!

Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Mr Jules on May 30, 2012, 04:48:26 AM
Well said, Waine.

People judge you by what you do, not what you say.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Andrei on July 01, 2012, 09:43:55 AM
I remember the days when i used to go to the barber for a haircut.
Nobody could guaranty that my haircut will look good (not even the tip): perhaps the barber has a bad day or I cannot explain him good enough what I want or simply the haircut I want is not for me, but until I do the deed, I could not tell for sure if it suits me or not.
Same goes with a shaved head, once cannot know if it suits him/her.

And if it comes down to take a decision, wouldn't you prefer to be your decision instead of your friends/co-workers/... You will be living with it.
Plus, hair grows back.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: waine on July 01, 2012, 10:56:24 AM
I remember the days when i used to go to the barber for a haircut.
Nobody could guaranty that my haircut will look good (not even the tip): perhaps the barber has a bad day or I cannot explain him good enough what I want or simply the haircut I want is not for me, but until I do the deed, I could not tell for sure if it suits me or not.
Same goes with a shaved head, once cannot know if it suits him/her.

And if it comes down to take a decision, wouldn't you prefer to be your decision instead of your friends/co-workers/... You will be living with it.
Plus, hair grows back.

You are hitting the nail on the head...
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: palmerproject on July 02, 2012, 12:40:13 PM
I remember the days when i used to go to the barber for a haircut.
Nobody could guaranty that my haircut will look good (not even the tip): perhaps the barber has a bad day or I cannot explain him good enough what I want or simply the haircut I want is not for me, but until I do the deed, I could not tell for sure if it suits me or not.
i bet alot of people are surpirsed by how well the look fits them. i know i definantly never exspected i would like enough to decide to keep it.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: waine on July 03, 2012, 05:44:13 AM
This may sound a little crazy, but one of the attractions to sly (there are many) for me was the "being different" -- “being daring” aspect.  Life can get so monotonous sometimes and changes can be extremely gratifying.  Besides going through the hair loss and thinning hair phase, I was so bored with my hairstyle.  I was toying with the idea of going bald also as an expression of being different.  Often we say, "Ah, I don’t care what people think of me", whereas we do deep down inside.  Going sly taught me to literally practice that adage.  Now I can truly say, “I do not care what people think of my dome!”

(I have said this before) Having said that, I may have been a little more self conscience in my young 20"s, -- you know? Those courting days.  I mean perhaps now, due to my age and the fact that I am happily settled, it is much easier to "Not care what people think."
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: ScribeGuy on October 23, 2013, 11:55:44 PM
Excellent post . . . I sat on the fence for a long time before taking the plunge.  Now, I don't know why I waited so long.  Going Sly is one of life's great confidence-boosters!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Baldstu on October 24, 2013, 07:28:44 AM
It is and a wayto pamper your own masculinity
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Thebaldnation on November 16, 2013, 06:45:44 AM
with all these excellent posts, why would you ever wonder why SBG is the #1 place to be! i think everyone will agree that SBG is a great place for support for guys who are really having a hard time with MPB and are kicking around the Idea of taking the big plunge (so to speak), or, just thinking about taking the sly look because as we all know its just "so darn cool". What ever side of life you are on one thing is certain SBG is an awesome site for all the support you need to make your decision. Im bald by choice and love every minute of it. I claim my independencefrom hair on a daily basis, but thats just me. If i was loosing my hair and didnt have a choice in the matter my feelings might be different. I can honestly say that going sly was one of the best decisions ive made. Bald is always best!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: fcb2001 on November 27, 2013, 02:18:30 AM
with all these excellent posts, why would you ever wonder why SBG is the #1 place to be! i think everyone will agree that SBG is a great place for support for guys who are really having a hard time with MPB and are kicking around the Idea of taking the big plunge (so to speak), or, just thinking about taking the sly look because as we all know its just "so darn cool". What ever side of life you are on one thing is certain SBG is an awesome site for all the support you need to make your decision. Im bald by choice and love every minute of it. I claim my independencefrom hair on a daily basis, but thats just me. If i was loosing my hair and didnt have a choice in the matter my feelings might be different. I can honestly say that going sly was one of the best decisions ive made. Bald is always best!
right on I'm the same way . Ten years ago I was in the phase of thinking about doing it. I was starting to get sick and tired of dealing with constant dandruff December 26th 2003 I gave myself 100 days to transition to completely bald. On April 5th 2004 was the first day I used shaving cream and a blade razor there is no turning back.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Adamski1972 on March 05, 2014, 09:35:21 AM
Hand to admit I was very hesitant at first but once I had done the deed and shaved off my thinning hair I loved the result. :-)
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: tobler1 on March 06, 2014, 04:07:37 AM
No wonder, Adamski!  You look great!  Awesome shine there!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Thebaldnation on March 06, 2014, 04:42:43 PM
with all these excellent posts, why would you ever wonder why SBG is the #1 place to be! i think everyone will agree that SBG is a great place for support for guys who are really having a hard time with MPB and are kicking around the Idea of taking the big plunge (so to speak), or, just thinking about taking the sly look because as we all know its just "so darn cool". What ever side of life you are on one thing is certain SBG is an awesome site for all the support you need to make your decision. Im bald by choice and love every minute of it. I claim my independencefrom hair on a daily basis, but thats just me. If i was loosing my hair and didnt have a choice in the matter my feelings might be different. I can honestly say that going sly was one of the best decisions ive made. Bald is always best!
right on I'm the same way . Ten years ago I was in the phase of thinking about doing it. I was starting to get sick and tired of dealing with constant dandruff December 26th 2003 I gave myself 100 days to transition to completely bald. On April 5th 2004 was the first day I used shaving cream and a blade razor there is no turning back.
thats because your awesome brother!!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Munkynutz on October 29, 2014, 05:37:50 PM
Well said Sir.  I have lurked around numerous hair loss forums before finding this one and I have attempted to tell all the guys with the posts about having a terrible time with women, or how they feel hideous, that sooner or later hair doesn't look that good no matter who you are.

I have definitely never heard a woman say what you suggested they might about comb overs or receding hairlines, although I do know some women who thoroughly enjoy a full head of hair - but of far greater importance to them is the confidence, self assurance, and personality of the men they meet.

I am 100% sure that guys who are losing their hair and have lost their self confidence as a result will not be attractive to women in the same way as a man in the same situation who has said "screw it" and gotten on with life.

And you guys are the epitome (except for you guys who are BBC, which I suppose I will be too despite the receding hairline) of people who have embraced baldness and look their best as a result of it.

I love this forum.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Mikey Vre on December 29, 2015, 03:57:15 PM
I was on that fence, shaved my head, but I looked like my dad and I hated it. Got a hair transplant at hair science institute in Europe. Must say I am totally happy about it. I feel a lot better ever since. It has only been 3 months so I still need to be patient about the final result, but still I feel a lot better. And happy to have more time in the morning now that I do not have to shave my head as well...  O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Cave Dweller on December 29, 2015, 04:57:58 PM
Mann, trolls are cute around this time of year.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: nuts on December 29, 2015, 06:45:32 PM
Do the trolls come down the chimney with Santa
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Sir Harry on December 29, 2015, 07:24:15 PM
I was on that fence, shaved my head, but I looked like my dad and I hated it. Got a hair transplant at hair science institute in Europe. Must say I am totally happy about it. I feel a lot better ever since. It has only been 3 months so I still need to be patient about the final result, but still I feel a lot better. And happy to have more time in the morning now that I do not have to shave my head as well...  O0
Good for you. Hope you're happy. Just don't come crying when the scarring kicks in from butchering your head.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: Quiet_Dan on December 30, 2015, 01:11:01 AM
I'm not bald, I have plenty of hair on my head, just not on the top of it! O0
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: SlyMike on December 30, 2015, 05:31:28 AM
I'm not bald, just decided to help the baldness along!
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: jbrit25 on December 30, 2015, 06:41:46 AM
I was on that fence, shaved my head, but I looked like my dad and I hated it. Got a hair transplant at hair science institute in Europe. Must say I am totally happy about it. I feel a lot better ever since. It has only been 3 months so I still need to be patient about the final result, but still I feel a lot better. And happy to have more time in the morning now that I do not have to shave my head as well...  O0

My friend went to this exact clinic for a hair transplant and came out with tits the size of Pamela Anderson's. Would not recommend.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: chrisphilly123 on March 16, 2017, 03:13:22 PM
Excellent post . . . I sat on the fence for a long time before taking the plunge.  Now, I don't know why I waited so long.  Going Sly is one of life's great confidence-boosters!
  amen, brother.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: reddog on March 16, 2017, 04:27:10 PM
Like I've said before, if you see guys with a shaved head and think, that looks good, you will probably think it looks good on you. Not everyone looks good shaved bald,  it there is really only one way to find out.

For me, it was a spur of the moment decision, curiosity I guess. Luckily, my head has a good shape, and almost all the comments were positive. For guys with grey or white hair, it's awesome not seeing that grey head in the mirror. Another plus is the shaving routine. I enjoy the process of lathering up my head and taking a razor to it almost every day. One way to take pride in your appearance I guess. Feels so neat and clean.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: brannon67 on October 30, 2017, 11:54:32 AM
Yeah, I total agree. I understand what its like to be stressed about losing hair, and eventually being bald, but Im learning to embrace it, little by little. Some people say I look good that way, most say nothing. I don't care. Whatever, Its my hair(whats left of it) and my head, not theirs. Im not going through life with a comb over, a rug, or God forbid transplants. I do now want to have a thin, stringy mess on my head, and have to worry about it raining, or swimming, and it getting more messed up, or sleeping on it all night. With a shaved head, none of these things are a concern anymore. Im tired of guys getting on here and whining about the shapes of their heads. Enough already. Geeeesh. I think people just want attention, more or less. Quit being babies, man up.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: chrisphilly123 on March 14, 2019, 12:18:04 PM
Yeah, I total agree. I understand what its like to be stressed about losing hair, and eventually being bald, but Im learning to embrace it, little by little. Some people say I look good that way, most say nothing. I don't care. Whatever, Its my hair(whats left of it) and my head, not theirs. Im not going through life with a comb over, a rug, or God forbid transplants. I do now want to have a thin, stringy mess on my head, and have to worry about it raining, or swimming, and it getting more messed up, or sleeping on it all night. With a shaved head, none of these things are a concern anymore. Im tired of guys getting on here and whining about the shapes of their heads. Enough already. Geeeesh. I think people just want attention, more or less. Quit being babies, man up.
I agree with most of what you say, especially for us veteran cue balls. But . . .

I totally understand the initial apprehension for those just starting out. It took me a while to kick myself in the ass as a younger guy.

I remember not sleeping at night thinking:  will I look horrible; will woman date me bald; will I be like my dad;  once it's gone, it's gone, etc. I guess we all step into this on our own terms. No doubt, LONGTERM it's the best move but we all learn at different rates. Cheers.
Title: Re: "I won't look good with a shaved head." - for the guys on the fence!
Post by: clint902 on May 12, 2021, 09:22:07 PM
I hate to bring this up but if you shave your head an you think it looks terrible then just put a hat on.  Your hair will grow back faster than you might expect.