Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: amess_1999 on December 21, 2008, 06:12:41 AM
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Hey guys,
it's quite hard: I want to be bald - and I have been bald on and off. But no one, really no one, does like it. To get an impression, look at the pix. I dont know what to do. Is it that bad? I want to shave it all off, but I cannot stand the negative feedback I am getting.
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Welcome, amess. It sounds to me like you are listening to the wrong people. You look good with a smooth head. But either way, it looks like you have a fullhead of hair, so you can do what you want. Try it off and on if you like. But you really should give it at least 30 days or people will not have a chance to get used to the change.
Best of luck,
Rick
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Welcome to the Forum Amess! I think you look good shaved. Listen to your own heart........ it's your life, nobody elses.
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Welcome, amess.
Both looks are good for you. Do what YOU want, change, shave, let it grow, have a beard or not... - it's you! O0
J
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Welcome to the forum !! I agree with J, I think you look good either way.... O0
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Hey amess, in the words of the old song, "You can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself" You rock the look, if you want it, keep it. There are a lot of people out there that are insecure about someone secure enough to walk a different path.
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You look fine either way to me buddy. So as the saying goes - you cant please everyone so just please yourself.
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It's about how you feel with it my friend. Like Paul said "you've got to please yourself". Oh, and welcome to the group.
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I agree; don't listen to the naysayers. I know it can mess with your mind when you get negative feedback, but you have to learn to tune it out. If you stick with it for a while, people will get used to the new look and the negative remarks will stop. It's when you go back and forth that you get more flack, because every time you shave it starts all over again. The naysayers feel emboldened because they think they convinced you to grow your hair back the last time, so they'll try again. I've been down that road, so I know.
Give it at least 30 days, and when the 30 days are up, reassess. When I finally stuck with it for 30 consecutive days, when they were up I decided to see if I could go another 90 days, and when the 90 days were up I never went back. Hang in there; it does get better.
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You Look GREAT bald!
If you like yourself bald...shave it all clean bro...
it's your life, live it for YOU!
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Welcome, Brother!
You have that look in your eyes. Both pictures show it. It's that look that conveys the confidence it takes, to know that your self-esteem and your ego, are strong enough NOT to go running off into the corner to cry.
Look at the pics of every member on this site. See something in common?
That same Look.
Again, I say welcome.
You are here because you know you belong here. Here, with Brothers in Arms. Here, where the Sum of the Parts AND the Whole, combine to create the type of strength you were looking for when you found us. The same type of strength that you yourself possess.
Too many times, we find ourselves surrounded by those who lack the strength to change. Kudos to your efforts. You wouldn't be here, showing us your BEST SLY LOOK, if you didn't already know the answer to your own question.
So YES, Brother; we are here for you. YES, you are amongst Friends. YES, you look good with or without hair. YES, you have the strentgh to brush off what other's think; as they find it easier to bring YOU down, then lift themselves. YES, You have come to the right place, and finally, YES, they will try to steer your decisions and that can be a bit painful to overcome but remember, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional...
Once More, I say WELCOME!
Regards,
Chooch
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The negative feedback can only get you down if you let it!
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Welcome, Brother!
You have that look in your eyes. Both pictures show it. It's that look that conveys the confidence it takes, to know that your self-esteem and your ego, are strong enough NOT to go running off into the corner to cry.
Look at the pics of every member on this site. See something in common?
That same Look.
Again, I say welcome.
You are here because you know you belong here. Here, with Brothers in Arms. Here, where the Sum of the Parts AND the Whole, combine to create the type of strength you were looking for when you found us. The same type of strength that you yourself possess.
Too many times, we find ourselves surrounded by those who lack the strength to change. Kudos to your efforts. You wouldn't be here, showing us your BEST SLY LOOK, if you didn't already know the answer to your own question.
So YES, Brother; we are here for you. YES, you are amongst Friends. YES, you look good with or without hair. YES, you have the strentgh to brush off what other's think; as they find it easier to bring YOU down, then lift themselves. YES, You have come to the right place, and finally, YES, they will try to steer your decisions and that can be a bit painful to overcome but remember, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional...
Once More, I say WELCOME!
Regards,
Chooch
Nice words my bald bro! O0
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Why bother caring what other people think especially when they're being critical? That's such an easy thing to do.
Before the election I had to listen to everyone's opinion about who is better than who and who sucks... meanwhile, these people know close to NOTHING about politics.
The quarterback sucks, the CGI didn't look real, you didn't do the dishes right...
How much easier is it to critique than to actually do something that generates criticism? Critiquing is the easy part and generally involves very little forethought.
This is your hair, your head, your body. You know you look good either way so do what makes YOU happy. Tell your critics not to quit their day jobs.
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Thanks guys, waht a great support! And nice to hear i can go either way, because: The echo on being bald always suggested NO WAY. I know that some of u might be a bit biased ;), but well ...
I am getting closer to being convinced that i should dump all that negative talk and go ahead back to where i had been several times:
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I think it looks great and really suits you. People just need to get used to it.
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Look at it this way -- you've been there several times, as you've stated. Why do you think that is? You've given into pressure to grow your hair back and then you've kicked yourself for caving -- and at some point you end up shaving your head again. Why? Because you want to be bald. You wouldn't keep going down that road -- and you wouldn't have joined this group --if you didn't. You won't be happy until you shave your head and keep it shaved.
I know exactly what you're going through. Trust me, the answer to your dilemma is to shave and make the commitment to keep it shaved for 30 days, no matter what. That means that no matter how many negative comments you get, no matter how self-conscious you may feel about showing off your dome to family and friends, you will still continue to shave it. If nothing else, you'll score some points with yourself for sticking it out.
Go ahead and shave that dome -- and when you feel like your resolve is wavering, come back to this site and we'll give you all the support you need.
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You should go back..
two reasons, you look great with the bald head and clean shaven face, it's looks natural on you and...
YOU obviously love and WANT to be bald again...
I say shave it all smooth again and go back to the version you like best!
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Amess -- You're lookin' good either way, but you clearly liked a smooth head when you had it. Folks you don't know don't give a rip about your hair. The folks who are closest to you, and hold the power of opinion are the ones who give unsolicited critiques. IF you want to go sly again, DO IT because YOU want to. And give it some time. The worst that can happen now is you may hear a repeat of the critiques you've heard before. Big deal. Give it the 30 day commitment. Even tell them you don't want to hear about it if you have to. It's YOUR head and YOUR choice.
Good Luck!
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"Thank you for your feedback, but I am not soliciting opinions at this point."
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"Thank you for your feedback, but I am not soliciting opinions at this point."
Well, that's more diplomatic than the "Who the F asked for your opinion" that I usually say. ;D
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Amess,
You look great shaved. People do eventually get use to the new look. I used to get comments all the time when I shaved my head with the clippers. Now people very rarely comment.
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Great comments on this post guys. I can really relate to this. I've found that when I went back and forth between having hair and shaving, I got a lot more comments. People thought they could persuade me to keep the hair. I've been smooth eight months now and no one, except maybe my wife every now and then, says a thing. Being bald is the best! It's the only do-it-yourself haircut that looks good IMHO, as someone else said. Hopefully, I'll just keep getting balder and balder, so I won't have to shave so much of the noggin!
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Hopefully, I'll just keep getting balder and balder, so I won't have to shave so much of the noggin!
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Strange to think, or should I say admit, that thought. I've done that myself recently and thought, "better keep that to myself!" But like all things sly, there aren't any thoughts or opinions that someone on this site hasn't had, heard, or in some cases seen. Thanks for making me and others see that this is just another benefit of slyness.
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I'm jealous that you have both options and can pull off either. Mother Nature has not given me that choice, so I love being sly. I'm a lifer. You do look great shaved, so do what pleases YOU, and screw everyone else.
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Well...the crew knows my story but if they don't mind, I'll recap. I had a full head of hair. In fact it was shoulder length for many years. Then, decided I was tired of dealing with long hair so cut it off, shaping to collar length. Over time, clipped it shorter but didn't like it. Plus, I was dealing with job and marriage issues. Almost in an act of defiance and a declaration of self, I took it all off. My wife was definitely surprised. But what surprised me was the surge in confidence accompanied by a renewal of emotional energy. I also started working out and grew a goatee to boot!(My wife always complained when I'd start growing one. Now she seems to like it. Go figure.) Though I'm not Archie Bunker, I see that society is becoming too feminized and whether in books, movies or commercials, men are being made to look like fools, incompetents or low lifes. Unfurl your flag of independence and if no one likes it, go find new friends. :Xo!
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Welcome to the site. Agree with what others have said. You need to listen to yourself, instead of trying to please others. And I 100% quarantee you that as you go through the first 30 days and beyond, your self confidence will go through the roof. Keep us updated. O0
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amess, a late welcome to you, bro. I'm just catching up with all the posts.
I agree with what all the bro's have said, and I just have to point out the title of your post:
no one likes it- just me.
That's it in a nutshell right there, all that matters is that you like it, and you are happy with doing it. Simple.
Hope you choose to keep it smooth. O0
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I have a full head, so I can be bald or not anytime. Some people prefer me with hair, but like my bald dome, too. They simply got accostumed.
In fact, I shave for pleasure. It's delicious to be smooth. So I don't mind what people will think. I mind what I like to feel.
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I gotta say dude, it really suits you!! Keep it and the comments will subside!!
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Do what YOU want to do brother..if others don't like it they can have their opinion but I doubt they pay your bills for you do they??
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Welcome Bro. You look great. You are not going to please everybody... with any decision you make in life. There is always some opposition in all things. My mother has ha a hard time. Last time we met (couple weeks back) she said, "Your head looks like my butt!" I retorted saying, "The only difference Mom is that my head has no hair on it!!" We laughed and she got off my case. Relax. True friends will love and respect you irregardless of the choice to be Sly. Sometimes it just takes some time to get used to it.
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Hello Amess. I think either look is fine. My point to this is that perhaps you should change your moniker to Mr. Wonderful or something in the positive. Amess kind of indicates that you are not happy with the situation. It is really a bummer. DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO!!! Keep saying "I am great, wonderful and a good person irregardless of my appearance. If you can't accept me for the great person I am, shame on you".