Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: Runningman586 on July 16, 2020, 09:01:31 AM
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Hey everyone. I've been on this forum for a hot minute, and completed the 30 day trial. Still liking my bald head, but am still getting some push back. People keep wondering why a 23 year old with a full head of hair would want to be bald. Their reactions and comments make me wonder if I should grow my hair back out, and if 23 is to young for a man to socially be accepted as bald. What you you guys think? How young were you, and do you think there is a proper age when a bald head becomes more acceptable? Sorry if this is the wrong feed for this topic 😅. I couldn't decide what feed to write this in lol.
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Don't give up! Wow, by now everyone should be used to your haircut. I see alot of young guys sporting shaved heads around here. You really need to do what pleases you, and forget the negative comments. Just come up with a good comeback to comments, and dare to be different! Give it at least another 30 days and enjoy that great looking haircut!
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@reddog one of my friends said I should tell people I wanted to look like Mr. Clean lol. But yeah this has been something I've been wondering. I think people are used to it, but don't understand why I'm keeping it.
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I first shave head back in the mid 1980's when extremely uncommon.keptit that way for several years.
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At 23 years old you’re in no way too young to choose a clean look as a hairstyle .
A young man who is like a nephew to me is just turned 15 and is a sophomore in high school. he liked my shaved head so much that he asked his mom if I could shave it for him - and he’s kept it that way now for eight months. He comes to me once a week to have me shave his head . At first he got a little pushback from his buddies and a couple of teachers. I think some of the pushback is because some of them are actually just a bit envious that he had the cajones/self-confidence to make such a choice. Others are envious because his mom and his uncle (Me) gave him permission to make that choice and to choose a shaved head as his hairstyle because the parents of many kids his age might not be so supportive of a young man’s choices of personal style and self-expression.
In your case there may be a little bit of that going on because other people are not as self-confident as you are and not willing to explore their own self-expression - but rather lockstep their style to what either their friends, or magazines, or movies tell them are the appropriate haircut for them to choose/wear.
In my case, except for a bald spot at the crown an overall thinning, I still have a “full” Head of hair and people often query as to why I choose to shave off all my hair - especially in view of the fact that I’m a barber!
In your case, if you are like my nephew and you like the way it looks, and feels, and it makes you feel good about yourself - then what other people think simply doesn’t matter does it?
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I can understand this young man's apprehension. It much more difficult to be different than his peers at his age. When I was in my 40's, I started wearing a flattop, which was quite uncommon at the time, but I loved it. People got used to it, and I moved to a small town and found an older barber that could cut an awesome flattop. He had an old fashioned one chair shop in the tiny downtown, and he was a former U S Marine. I would stop in about every 3 weeks, get in the chair, and without asking, he would just start clippering up the sides.
So, yes, it's hard to have a different style, but as I suggested, keep shaving and in a short time the comments will stop. My comeback to the questions why I shaved a beautiful head of silver hair was simply because I like it, and it feels great.
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If you want a shaved head, keep it shaved. I can tell you I spent many years keeping what I thought was a socially acceptable haircut rather than what I wanted, and now I regret it. I wish that I had just done what I wanted to do with my hair and got over the pressure. Doing what you want has a lot to do with building confidence in your own decisions.
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If you like your shaved head just keep it. You will meet new people in life you will only know you as a bald guy. I don’t think there is a ‘right’ age to shave your head. I think many men look at it as a haircut choice that a guy can make. There are a lot of young guys who shave their heads. There’s a ‘better2bebald’ profile on instagram where guys submit there before and after pics of a head shave. Lots of young guys there. It’s very normal and people will get used to your look. I shaved for the first time at 36 and had a full head of hair. I just kept buzzing shorter and shorter and got curious about shaving. People got used to my bald head. I actually got more flack over my buzzcuts. A shaved head put an end to commentary on my hair and nothing but positive feedback on my shaved head.
Think of the alternative, a boring side part haircut that every guy has. Yawn.
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@Razorhead your so right! I was definitely the guy with a boring hard part.... it may look good, but why not have a hairstyle that stands out.
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Twenty-five to thirty years ago, shaved heads had a very negative connotation in most places. Now, shaved heads are pretty common and appear on all ages and walks of life, so I would say the answer to your question is "No".
If you like the look and feel of a shaved head, keep it. We waste a lot of time and energy trying to please other people. Think of it this way: If you kept your hair and others started telling you how to cut or comb it, you'd ignore them. It should be the same way with the choice of a shaved head, which is a "hairstyle" after all.
Enjoy your new look, my friend!
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In my case, except for a bald spot at the crown an overall thinning, I still have a “full” Head of hair and people often query as to why I choose to shave off all my hair - especially in view of the fact that I’m a barber!
I have a full head of hair except for the bald part on top. :D :D :D
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The first time I shaved my head was in 1975. I was living at home and my father was so pissed! Other than that, the only negative comment I got was when some guy asked me if I lost a bet. I only shaved it once back then then grew it back but these days, I don' t think age matters. Hair generally grows at the rate of 1/4 inch a week so if you shave and don't like it, just wait a week then it will look like you have a buzz cut.
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@clint902 Woah! In 1975! That was a brave thing to do back then. What prompted you to do that? How long was your hair back then?
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@clint902 , I had the opposite experience. I was 18 in 1972, and my dad was constantly bugging me to get my shoulder length hair cut in a crewcut. Of course I refused, after all it was my hippie days! He passed away in 1975, and I often wonder how happy he is now. It had to take alot of guys to shave your head in 1975. I think I would have been an outcast.
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I was in college in 1975 and a guy across the hall shaved his head to win a bet (a pizza - imagine that!) He became the talk of campus. Everyone knew Mauricio after that.
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@clint902 Woah! In 1975! That was a brave thing to do back then. What prompted you to do that? How long was your hair back then?
My hair was about shoulder length back then but I always wondered what i'd look like with no hair at all. I'll never forget how my father nearly crucified me! He was the only person I was truly afraid of.
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Oh, I forgot to answer the original question. Almost every bald guy I see is in their thirties and up. I very rarely see someone younger than that with a bald head.