Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: Akirian on December 02, 2015, 06:17:44 PM
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Edit: Gonna shave the darn thing soon, will post before and afters!
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Welcome to the board, Akirian.
You are not alone. Most of us worried to some extent about how we would look smooth. The moment you take that first swipe with the razor, however, the anxiety will be over.
If you want to shave it, do it.
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Welcome, Akirian. This board is a great place for a bunch of reasons.
If you hang around any length of time, one thing you'll see is how common our concerns, fears, and insecurities are.
Men aren't supposed to admit that we care about our appearance, but we do. One of the things that men have been taught is that baldness is some horrible fate that we should fear.
So, in a sense we become slaves to our hair, and baldness is a sign of weakness or aging or something bad. So we hide our balding, but we're not really hiding it because everyone can tell.
Shaving your head, if done with the right attitude, can be like confronting a big bad fear that many of us have. It can be a sort of initiation, if approached in the right way.
Like many initiatic experiences, however, it can leave us in a vulnerable state for a little while. During that vulnerable state, we can be open to a re-forming of our self image, a strengthening of our acceptance of ourselves even with our weaknesses and vulnerabilities.
Going bald is not yet a mainstream choice, and it takes guts to do it for the first time. It throws people around you for a loop, at least for a little while.
Brave the storm, and look at yourself with new eyes. Be kind to yourself. Accept yourself without some kind of suit of camouflage, regardless of the reactions around you.
You can read so many stories of transformations on this board - guys who learned about themselves via what might seem to be such a small act - shaving their head.
Read up, prepare yourself, and do what you choose to do.
A comb-over will never be a transformative experience, but head-shaving has the potential to be.