Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => How to Build Confidence => Topic started by: Laser Man on September 06, 2011, 07:22:03 AM
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Picking up on a thread by a forum member who wears a hat when he goes into a certain store, are there places you feel either uncomfortable or less comfortable in since you went sly?
In my case, strange as it may sound, the place I feel less comfortable in is my church! I feel like I stand out because there are very few sly guys there. I can go to work, out to eat, to stores, to the gym, almost anywhere else and feel totally comfortable being sly. Yet heading to church, I have this vague sense of discomfort. No one there has said anything negative (in fact I've gotten a few compliments), but I still feel different.
Anyone else have a similar experience?
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Nope. I show my shiny dome everywhere without hesitation.
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I dont think I've ever been inside a church, but apart from you-know-where, I have absolutely zero problems with being sly (although I still really dont know what the meaning of 'sly' is)
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I may have been uncomfortable for maybe 2-3 days after going SLY, but that could possibly said for any style change.
I quickly got over it. ;D
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No way - - -I try to show off my shiny dome wherever I go
The minister at the church is as bald as I am - - -and so are alot of other guys there - - - - -when the new minister arrived several years - -more and more guys shaved their heads BALD - -there at least 10 of us totally BALD
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I dont think I've ever been inside a church ...
Seriously? You never had to attend a wedding or a funeral at a church? How do you live in Europe and not ever go inside a church? ???
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Nope, I'm comfortable with it everywhere.
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Uh...no. My life, my head.... you do yur thing and I'll do mine.
Time to move along.... nothing to see here.
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Only the first couple of days did I feel like people were staring. But being the anti-social personality that I am I quickly grew to a point of not caring. That was about 10 years ago. And I still don't care what anybody else thinks.
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I dont think I've ever been inside a church ...
Seriously? You never had to attend a wedding or a funeral at a church? How do you live in Europe and not ever go inside a church? ???
People in Europe aren't required to go into a church :) I don't even know where my nearest church is. I haven't been to a funeral since I was about 10, and it was a non religious funeral, and I don't do weddings. The UK isn't a particularly religious country and I'm not a religious person at all. Religion fascinates me and interests me, but that's about it
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People in Europe aren't required to go into a church :)Religion fascinates me and interests me, but that's about it
Interesting point of view, but so much of European civilization and history are contained in the art and so much of that is in situ, and hence not available unless you go into a church--a few significant works by such artists as Michelangelo. Hard to avoid if you're interested in religion too because the architecture reflects the philosophical context of the time the churches were built.
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Before the bald look I had a long pony tail that was controversial in my private life and also on the job. It was a challenge for me to always try to show people that long hairs were generous, caring, kind and considerate humans. So that's also the challenge when choosing to be bald. Right? ???
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I dont think I've ever been inside a church ...
Seriously? You never had to attend a wedding or a funeral at a church? How do you live in Europe and not ever go inside a church? ???
People in Europe aren't required to go into a church :) I don't even know where my nearest church is. I haven't been to a funeral since I was about 10, and it was a non religious funeral, and I don't do weddings. The UK isn't a particularly religious country and I'm not a religious person at all. Religion fascinates me and interests me, but that's about it
It's not about being religious or non-religious or attending services. It's just that you are literally surrounded by hundreds and hundreds of churches. I would have thought that you'd have visited on a school trip or something to study the art and architecture. :)
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i'm bald because i want to be i love to show it off, :@` :@` :-*,it feels great to shave and walk out with shiny dome :-*
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I'll drink to that! It does feel good, fresh, clean and very liberating. O0
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It's not about being religious or non-religious or attending services. It's just that you are literally surrounded by hundreds and hundreds of churches. I would have thought that you'd have visited on a school trip or something to study the art and architecture.
I went to an all-boys boarding school in quite a remote part of the country (northern Scotland) for several years, and the school trips we did were to oil rigs and industrial places like that. The school wasn't particularly motivated by culture, to say the least. I then went to school in the middle east for a couple of years and there literally were no churches. I do like architecture, but of the modern variety. Throw me into the middle of Manhattan or Dubai or Hong Kong and I stand there with my eyes wide open and my tongue hanging out, but churches / royal palaces / battlegrounds etc just bore me. I know, I'm a bad person :(
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Was in a church for a funeral this past Monday. I have no problems showing my bald head anywhere, anytime.
In the first few weeks after going sly I had the feeling that people were looking up to me more often than before, this has changed, it might only be that I have gotten used to it. I guess that being bald, 6f6 and 220lbs doesn't help to go unnoticed
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I too have a problem being bald in church. I sit in the very back where no one will stare at my bald head. For some reason my ear get red, warm and I get this uncomfortable feeling that everybody behind me is staring at my bald head. Everywhere else there is no problem. I'm coming into my third anniversary of being bald on September 09 and I can't see myself with hair again even though I have a head full of hair.
This pass Sunday a new minister joined the church and to my amazement, he is completely shaved bald (MPB). As always after the service, we introduced ourselves and he told me he liked my look. Two bald men.
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Any where that has their Air Conditioner temp set too cold !!!!
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I travel to the PRC a lot and everyone has to check out this >6 foot, 240 pound, bald westerner, with a beard. On many occasions as I pass restaurants people will stop eating and stare out the window at me. I always wonder what they are saying to each other. I have been to cities where I have not seen any other Westerner for a month...so I'm a spectacle and not necessarily the chrome dome.
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Any where that has their Air Conditioner temp set too cold !!!!
Hehe...good one :*))
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Any where that has their Air Conditioner temp set too cold !!!!
Ain't no such thing. ;)
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Any where that has their Air Conditioner temp set too cold !!!!
Very true, good post :)
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I am a BALD show off - - -I can't go enough places to show off my SLICK MELON - - -
I love being bald and love to show it
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I am a BALD show off - - -I can't go enough places to show off my SLICK MELON - - -
I love being bald and love to show it
My kinda guy. I feel the same.
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I can relate to slynito's comment re China. I do some work in China and as a 70 year old with bald head and white beard I find I am often asked to pose with locals for a photo. Once one person takes a photo they all line up; I suppose they assume you are some kind of celebrity.
If someone reads this post could they tell me how to post an introduction and photo. I've been lurking for some time and reading lots of posts. From Australia and have been sly for 7 years and bearded for 45 years.
Always wanted to go bald but took some time to just shave it all off. Now wouldn't want it any other way. I find a bald head very liberating; need lots of sunscreen in the Oz sun.
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I can relate to slynito's comment re China. I do some work in China and as a 70 year old with bald head and white beard I find I am often asked to pose with locals for a photo. Once one person takes a photo they all line up; I suppose they assume you are some kind of celebrity.
That's so funny...I get that also. I was standing around outside of a store (checking out the perdy young thangz) last Chinese New Year and men and women took turns putting their arms around me and taking pictures. So I would take pictures of them while they were taking them of me. The Chinese are nice folks and can be a lot of fun.
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I don't really think about it anymore. I wear a hat when I go in the sun so I don't get lobster Dome, and a beanie in the winter to keep my rock warm but that is about it.
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I occasionally have to go up into the Andes in winter where it's very cold. Even if I had hair, I'd wear something warm, other than that, no. Its been fifteen years and, by now, were I to show up with my head covered or, worse, with hair, it would excite considerable comment.
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Never have I felt uncomfortable anywhere about being bald. I walk in like I own the frickin' place. O0
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Before the bald look I had a long pony tail that was controversial in my private life and also on the job. It was a challenge for me to always try to show people that long hairs were generous, caring, kind and considerate humans. So that's also the challenge when choosing to be bald. Right? ???
I wear my ponytail on the inside :px
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Nope. I show my shiny dome everywhere without hesitation.
i am so with ya on that one! O0
WARHAWK O0
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Wearing certain clothes.
I just like wearing alot of retro-indie type clothes, some folk might say 'Hipster' but I am not. I feel when sly that I look silly in these so when I was sly I'd ditch a lot of my wardrobe for more conservative kashmir jumpers and jeans.
I had a nice brown/military type shirt that I felt I couldn't wear when sly.
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Why are so many places overly generous with air conditioning in the summer & now that winter approaches skimpy with the heat ?? Those are the only places I'm uncomfortable !! 😄
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pf.
I feel unconfortable wearing a hat! all I want is to show my shavedhead everywhere, anyhow!
I don't care of the "wow"'s I get!
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I was a little shy about the bald dome when I first shaved, but haven't had a concern about it in years. In fact, the opposite is true; I love being bald and am proud to show the dome off to anyone, anywhere, anytime! 8)
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yes yes yes :@` :@` O0
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I felt it for the first few days (and this site helped soooooo much! Thanks guys!) and then I've only felt "the oddness" once...
I was in a pub a few months back watching a footy game (that's soccer! :) ) and I noticed myself in a mirror on the wall and that I was the only bald guy in the pub... first time I'd experience that! (Before I was the only one in the pub with a bald patch and a funny poytail!) ... but I did feel that I stuck out like a sore thumb.
Not really sure why I felt it that night, hasn't happened since...
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In the beginning, I only felt uncomfortable when going to my kids school (I didn't want to scare the other kids, but that was more than three years ago) Now, with it being so common, I actually feel more uncomfortable if my head is NOT shaved!
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Slightly, very slightly, uncomfortable when I went into a traditional barbershopf for a beard trim--that's it. And, by the way, the barber said he'd do a straight razor shave it I wanted the full treatment, hot towels, massage etc., although he said he couldn't get it any smoother than it was (I shave daily and that was a nice compliment.)
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I get uncomfortable around people my age , mid 20's.
Especially if I show up wearing a hat. It's prolly in my head but I sometimes think it'll be such a shock, in a bad way, when i take the hat off. I've had numerous people tell me I look very different with a hat. Which i equate different to mean better.
It makes me angry that something so insignificant as hairloss still has an effect of me sometimes
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Especially if I show up wearing a hat. I've had numerous people tell me I look very different with a hat. Which i equate different to mean better.
I would not make this conclusion. I know that I look different with a hat. (see photo). But that does not mean I look better that way. I find that I'll take my had off to show off the bald dome whenever reasonable or possible. Be bald with pride. Not everyone is willing to do this.
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I love my bald dome and don't feel uncomfortable showing it off.
I don't wear hats so wherever I go it's visible.
I was a little apprehensive around my wife because she doesn't care for it but she now knows how much I like it and all is well. 8)
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Although not yet sly, my family STILL make me feel uncomfortable about having a shaved head (clippers no guard).
When I out and about I feel 100% confident and my girlfriend says it suits me :)
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Know what you mean about the family thing. Spending a few days with my parents. They really should be used the sly look by now. Well they should.
But my Mum calls my shiny bald head 'unnerving'.
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Parents get used to it and luv you for who you are
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I am in the service industry and when I go into a Super Cuts to perform contract work I feel a little awkward like the stylists are glaring at me - although I have never seen them doing so. I think it is that I feel guilty for somehow not supporting there business :/O And if you think that's weird you ought to see what else is bouncing around inside my head. :px
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Absolutely not!!!! I never wear a hat regardless of the time of year so the gleaming dome is always visible.
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@npsbg - To answer the question, no there is not a single place that I worry about being sly. I have got to the stage where I do not really care. My noggin is least of my worries. Interviews, no, funerals, no. I cannot think of any place.
Regarding church, I am sure God does not mind you bald so why should the other worshippers think any different?
I don't go to church anymore, but even if I did, it would actually look kinda cool, especially in a Charismatic church!
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I started this thread in my early days of being sly. At this point (over a year now), sly is who I am and I'm completely comfortable with my shaved head wherever I go. In the first 30 days, you adjust to the look. After a year, it's hard (impossible?) to recall what it's like to have hair.
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I've only been sly for a few days, I feel relatively comfortable pretty much everywhere. I would feel slightly weird going to a party or something with all my high school friends tho who haven't seen me in years... I'm also visiting my grandma this summer who hasn't seen me since I was 15... I can't say I'm totally looking forward to showing her my bald dome.
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Amost everywhere? lol
Maybe it's a combination of being somewhat young (27), and being slightly self-conscious about my head shape.
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Jason ... I don't see any "shape issues" you should be concerned about. We are our own worst critics. Let go of that worry, and enjoy yourself. 27 is too young to spend your energy on something which, ultimately, is rather trivial (though it may not seem so). I'm more than twice your age, and looking back I see some very foolish things I worried about which really didn't mean anything then (to anyone else) and certainly don't mean anything now (to me or anyone else).
Nice to see you posting.
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I haven't felt uncomfortable anywhere yet. That may change when I get to California, though. California's got a lot more people and a much wider variety of potentially uncomfortable situations than Hawaii does.
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Never Never Never I am totally comfortable where ever I go. Jason you have a beautiful shaped head, what are you worried about. You are a very handsome guy. Believe me you have nothing to worry about :)
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Like Jason don't know that jet :*)) on Jason's standards I would have to kill my self because I don't have that Tom Cruise perfect Holliwood face :Xo!
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I have a friend that looks just like you Jason but he is not trippin he is out collecting chicks you should do the same bro O0
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Nope, there's no place that made me feel even a little bit uncomfortable because I'm sly.
I can remember some days when I felt uncomfortable because of my haircut, but that was before going bbc.
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I cannot think of a single place that I would feel uncomfortable as a Sly guy...
b*n!
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I cannot think of a single place that I would feel uncomfortable as a Sly guy...
b*n!
I was thinking the same... Any place I would feel uncomfortable sly, I would just be naturally uncomfortable.
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Priest told me in my house that I should not shave my head and shaving head is wrong - and I kindly show him the door !
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Priest told me in my house that I should not shave my head and shaving head is wrong - and I kindly show him the door !
I would be a little less polite than that if a priest told me that Wonderer... ;D
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I don't think I would have a priest in my house... lol.
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Well as i said before I believe in Karma :x! ,I was a bigger man than ...-seriously i am 187 cm and he is 173 or something tall ;D !
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I was thinking the same... Any place I would feel uncomfortable sly, I would just be naturally uncomfortable.
Precisely. For me, Sly has nothing to do with it.
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I don't think I would have a priest in my house... lol.
O0 I am with you on that one Beardman...
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Guys my family believes in something ,who am I to say that their beliefs are wrong ?!At this point of time i will believe in ANYTHING if that helps my mother to stay alive !
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When I first went sly, the two places I thought that I might be uncomfortable were at church and at work. It turned out that there was no problem in either place. At work, my boss gets a kick out of it and sometimes tells me I need to polish my dome! The first time I walked into church with it, two women came running up to me and actually kissed my head! (I think I mentioned this here somewhere else before.) When the priest saw me, he told me he liked it. My mom lives with me and she absolutely despises it and asks me everyday when I am growing it back. When the priest told me he liked it, I asked him to tell my mom that he liked it. He gave me a good answer. He said, "I like YOU, I don't care what you do with your hair."
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bigstosh --When world would just be perfect place but it isn't ,once a priest slap my girlfriend just because she asked him something about God then i wanted to send him to see God . :x!
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"I like YOU, I don't care what you do with your hair."
If only some family members and "friends" had this attitude........Stan, that was the statement of the day for me, thanks for sharing!
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"I like YOU, I don't care what you do with your hair."
If only some family members and "friends" had this attitude........Stan, that was the statement of the day for me, thanks for sharing!
I'm with you on Sir Harry!
bigstosh --When world would just be perfect place but it isn't ,once a priest slap my girlfriend just because she asked him something about God then i wanted to send him to see God . :x!
You and people you know seem to have a lot of trouble with priests... I thought they were supposed to the benchmark for all that was good and holy... No wonder I don't believe in god when his priests can't practice what they preach haha.
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Just watch them blessing guns