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Confidence and Success => Business/Work => Topic started by: TINSLEYCLAY on July 07, 2012, 06:55:39 PM

Title: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: TINSLEYCLAY on July 07, 2012, 06:55:39 PM
I am curious as to the brothers thoughts on relocating for a great job. I only ask because one year ago today I did so myself. I am only about 3 hours away from friends and family but it can be a strain at times. I told myself that it was too good of an opportunity to pass on and I believe it still is. However, I never realized how difficult it would be to ramp up my social life, even for an outgoing person as me.

Anyone ever done something like this? How'd it work out for you?
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: TheSlyBear on July 07, 2012, 07:00:57 PM
Yup. Moved from New England to Austin in 1997. Haven't looked back.
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Laser Man on July 07, 2012, 07:12:16 PM
I have relocated for jobs.  My first job out of college was a 7 hour drive from my family.  That job led to assignments in Europe for five plus years.  I wouldn't have traded those experiences for all the rice in China.

Relocating can be difficult, but can also be extremely rewarding.  I still remember my mom's words the morning I was leaving: "I'll miss you terribly, but I'd never hold you back." My parents are both deceased now, but my brothers and I are as close as ever and my daughters are close to their cousins despite the fact that we're spread over three different time zones.

I should add that all of my travel was pre-Internet / Skype, etc.  Keeping in touch is much easier now.  Don't let distance be a hindrance.
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Frontier Guy on July 07, 2012, 08:22:19 PM
Done it ... California to New Jersey to New York to South Florida to Central Florida.

Relocations are both difficult/stressful and exciting/challenging.

Each time I found it necessary to find new interests in order to expand my social circles beyond the people I worked with. I have lifelong friends from each move.

Your photo shows great confidence ... are you putting yourself into environments where you can meet the kind of people you want to meet?
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Post by: Paul the Headblader on July 07, 2012, 09:18:12 PM
I would!
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Post by: Sir Harry on July 07, 2012, 10:02:32 PM
Maybe Ro can chime in here with me on this one....but in the military it's a little hard but it's actually fun because you can get overattached to places and/or people which could stunt your professional/personal growth long term. While war is no fun, spending a combined 42 months overseas with the military was an opportunity I wouldn't trade for a lifetime of free headshaves by the hottest woman in the world (OK, I'm exaggerating, but I'm just saying relocation to advance yourself personally, financially and professionally is always a good thing).
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: TINSLEYCLAY on July 07, 2012, 10:13:36 PM
Maybe Ro can chime in here with me on this one....but in the military it's a little hard but it's actually fun because you can get overattached to places and/or people which could stunt your professional/personal growth long term. While war is no fun, spending a combined 42 months overseas with the military was an opportunity I wouldn't trade for a lifetime of free headshaves by the hottest woman in the world (OK, I'm exaggerating, but I'm just saying relocation to advance yourself personally, financially and professionally is always a good thing).
Well said bud!
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: thebbqguy on July 08, 2012, 06:21:51 AM
I have relocated 7 times for my employer and haven't regretted it for a minute. A friend of mine works for the same company and isn't willing to relocate at all. He's struggled to advance in the company and actually started a few months before I did. Once I demonstrated that I was committed to the company, the company returned the favor and committed to me.
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Post by: b.driscoll on July 08, 2012, 06:45:55 AM
       It would have to be a great pay increase doing something I love................otherwise I would pass at this point in my life.
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: mrzed on July 08, 2012, 07:40:45 AM
My family an I moved from Alaska to North Carolina 10 years ago. The girls were teenagers. Everyone said that's the worst time to move.

I was not asked to move, but situations in life demanded it. (in a good way). 

It's a BIG deal relocating.  I would say it took a good 2 years to start feeling at home again.  Wife spent most of the first year working with the girls in getting them established. It was a LOT of work. But the girls value the move NOW.  (Not then).

We put much effort into building a new social community, as we did not know anyone in NC when we moved. 

Overall it's been a good move, but that's looking at it from 10 years down the road. I HATE moving.  I only do it if it is absolutely essential. This move was essential and we worked through it.



Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Hingatao on July 08, 2012, 08:06:35 AM
I relocated from California to Hawaii seven years ago. Because of the nature of my job, though, I still get to spend two months in California every year so I've been able to maintain all of my long standing friendships as well as start many new ones. The job also allowed me to spend two months in Europe a few years ago. No regrets.
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Mikekoz13 on July 08, 2012, 08:42:36 AM
I grew up in Baltimore City (MAryland) and lived around the city my whole life. Then at the age of 33 I decided to move to Pennsylvania. I left all my Friends and even some Family behind. I was at a low point in my life and just wanted a fresh start where nobody knew me and preconceived notions of who I was.
It was the best thing I ever did.... I love Pennsylvania.
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Post by: kalbo on July 08, 2012, 08:54:34 PM
If the pay is great I would relocate even to the moon. :)
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Post by: TunaSkin on August 08, 2012, 04:43:34 AM
I think relocating is worth it even without the great pay, personally. I welcome new experiences and meeting new people and everything that comes with moving around, even if it isn't the easiest thing to do. Really though, the best moves to make are rarely the easiest.
I moved from Oklahoma to Minnesota a couple years ago, 12 hours from my family. Now I live in South Korea, on the opposite side of the planet from them. Now I'm contemplating another move to a different part of the globe. I miss my people, but I think the experience of travelling to new places and putting yourself through all the trials of settling somewhere new are so good for a persons character, especially their confidence, that it's totally worth it.
One thing I've learned about making it easier to find your place in a new place is, like the rest of life, you get what you put in. Most likely you'll have to put in the effort to meet new friends, but the more lines you cast the more fish you catch. Best of luck to you, brother.
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Frontier Guy on August 08, 2012, 06:13:58 AM
... the more lines you cast the more fish you catch.

This is so true ... and you must not be discouraged when a few lines come back empty. That's the way of the world.
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Beardman on August 08, 2012, 06:42:17 AM
When I was fresh out of university, I considered moving to both northern and western australia from south eastern australia in order to get a job. So yes, if it is a job you love then ther should be no reason for you not to go after it!
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Natedawg on August 08, 2012, 08:02:39 AM
My personal answer to the topic question is: in a heartbeat... at this point in my life. The wife and I are so tired of living in Illinois. We're ready to get out of here. We want to raise our baby boy somewhere else.
It wouldn't even have to be an advancement for me. As long as I get paid at least the same, I'm good anywhere.  O0

As for a more generalized answer: Still a 'yes'. Life is to be truly experienced, and as far as we know, this is the only life we have. There are many, many things out there to take in... Not all of them in your backyard.
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Viking on September 15, 2012, 05:10:36 PM
Allways found this a funny subject with me, I'd be reluctant to leave the area I'm in now but at the same time it frustrates me that I've allways lived and worked within about 20 miles of where I am now! Would have loved to have done it a bit younger, a load of my friends and workmates have gone from the UK to Australia and seem to love it.

Eventhough I'm still young (29), living in a rented house, no kids and in a job I really dislike I keep finding reasons not to try my luck elsewhere!! Over in the UK finding a job is getting real hard to do, to relocate for me and my girlfriend would mean at least one of us having to find another job, which is easier said than done unfortunatly.

Maybe one day....
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Slynito on September 15, 2012, 05:23:34 PM
You aren't old and that wouldn't make much difference with me. Every new move for me was a point to start over, a new adventure.
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: tomgallagher on September 16, 2012, 08:33:48 AM
Allways found this a funny subject with me, I'd be reluctant to leave the area I'm in now but at the same time it frustrates me that I've allways lived and worked within about 20 miles of where I am now! Would have loved to have done it a bit younger, a load of my friends and workmates have gone from the UK to Australia and seem to love it.

Eventhough I'm still young (29), living in a rented house, no kids and in a job I really dislike I keep finding reasons not to try my luck elsewhere!! Over in the UK finding a job is getting real hard to do, to relocate for me and my girlfriend would mean at least one of us having to find another job, which is easier said than done unfortunatly.

Maybe one day....

I hear they are hiring at a pretty good clip in New Zealand. That's just a skip and a jump from Oz.
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Post by: bobster on September 16, 2012, 10:54:01 AM
I moving to Qatar in febuary 2013 for 4 years as part of a construction project. looking forward to it very much indeed!
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Post by: djones on February 13, 2014, 01:32:58 PM
 Going from Georgia to west Texas for a job although I do have family in both places...
Title: Re: Would you relocate for a great job?
Post by: Blitzed on March 11, 2014, 07:33:01 AM
Hmmm. Relocation. I moved from Cape Town to Kansas when  I was nine, returned to do my military service there, became an American citizen, went to Frankfurt to the Dresdner Bank and back to Kansas, thence to Buenos Aires and Bancohipotecario, Kazakhstan as part of my work as a Physicist, Murmansk, same reason. Calgary-oil play, Several years intermittently lecturing on Physics which is or is not-depending on how you see itelocation all over the world. Turned down a research position in Xi'an, As part of a UN Atomic Energy group was poisoned in Pyongyang and "relocated" to Sochi-this was before the Winter Olympics had even been considered and next winter (here) and summer (there) I hope to join a group from Otago University in New Zealand to SCUBA dive in various places under the ice in the Ross Ice shelf.

I was/am single so I could pack a bag-I got quite good at it-and was off. Some people would find the changes in customs, food, water, very distracting particularly if you hadn't taken the time to do some research and learn at least the genesis of the language. I thought leaning Russian was tough until a Russian friend referred me to Finnish.....There are home bodies to whom moving to the next county would be a wrench and then there are those like myself who can-and have-said, "Luanda?Wow, what's the air routing to get there. " The fewer "complications" involving home and family you have makes it a lot easier. If you have clinging vines about you who go to great lengths to point out every possible down side, then, just to be shot of them, it's a good idea to get away. Forever. You have to be prepared to accept what you find in situ as what it is and not wish for a shower tall enough for you, one more burner-to make it three-lodgings that would seem cramped to a hibernating bear....etc. But relocating can be one of the most broadening experiences of your life but you must up front embrace the idea for when you get there, turning back can be very difficult and can also besmirch your professional reputation.