Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => How to Build Confidence => Topic started by: outsidemike on February 23, 2011, 11:28:02 PM
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I've noticed a lot of people on here are rather self conscious of there balding. Well, imagine that one day you woke up and your hair had grown back as perfect as when you where 16... your thinking woohoo.....but....
As soon as you open your mouth you block, stammer , make weird noises, and contort your face. You go talk to your wife, but cant even say her name and she looks at you like your a retard. You stop for a coffee on the way to work, but cant say "cream no sugar", and wind up with sugar in your coffee, which you hate but drink anyways. At work you find out your co-workers no longer have the time to listen to you and start ignoring you, some are so busy as to tell you to say it quick or screw off. You wind up loosing your job and get stuck working in the back of some dingy warehouse where you don't have to talk to people much. This BS goes on for years, and you spend tens of thousands of dollars to go to a speech pathologist, but 25 years go by, and despite improvements you still cant talk right..... ah but look at that full head of hair, I bet you want that size 3XL forehead back now.
Welcome to my life except I'm balding too. But balding is the least of my concerns, its a cosmetic hiccup compared to my stutter. so trust me on this, there are fates far worse than a shiny scalp, and even worse yet than a stutter.
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Your so right Mike.
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Roger that mike, many people don't realize how minor hair loss is in the big picture :o
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The bald part is easy. I have a friend, brilliant and I do mean brilliant lawyer, graduated with honors from Yale an all around great guy. Full head of hair, but he shares with you the problem of stammer. He's never let it stop him, participates fully in a trial practice, lobbies with the legislature--seemingly going all out to be in situations where he needs to speak in public. It can be done, even though the stops and stammer continue unabated he's effective and successful. I hope you gain the ability to live with the issue--and if there is any comfort to this issue, remember it isn't life threatening any more than being bald is. People appreciate you for what you say, not the difficulty that you have saying it.
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Excellent thread. Well said Mike O0
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Great post
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Very nice Mike!
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Great way to realize and count our blessings!! O0 Thanks Mike!
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Have you checked into speech therapy? I have heard that there is a technique that they have found that will either reduce or eliminate stuttering.
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Awesome post!
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What a great anallogy Mike. I too have a speech problem. Or is it that my brain is dead? When talking, I have a thought in my mind, but when I open my mouth, a different wordis substituted from my original thought. This can really cause me to sound ignorant. So usually in a conversation with several people, I tend to keep my thoughts to myself. Just goes to show, that we all have our little problems in life. I hope that one day you will overcome your stammer.