Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: tryingtostaypositive on October 05, 2018, 04:07:53 PM
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Let's get real. When's the last time you saw a bald man dating/going out with a really good looking woman?
It's rare in my opinion, even for those bald guys who still look good with a bald head.
A receding and obvious balding is clearly unattractive but totally bald puts women off too. Of course there'll be some women who will be into the bald look but it's more of a "fetish" kind of thing. Baldness is seen as universally unattractive and if you are bald at a relatively young age, your dating prospects really take a blow.
Let's be honest here. I don't want to believe all the sympathetic cries of "it's what inside that counts" and it's about confidence etc. You HAVE TO LOOK AT THE REALITY. And the reality is that women care about looks as much as men do and generally speaking baldness is not viewed as attractive. A bald shiny head is for the vast majority of women not something that turns their heads in the same way overweight women aren't going to have men chasing after them in a hurry.
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You're entitled to your opinion. I'm entitled to think you're talking rubbish.
Bald men look great, absolutely loads of women are into it. At the end of the day all you need is 1 woman (or man) who likes it.
If someone is shallow enough to not like bald men then that's their issue, their opinion is just that, an opinion.
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i feel thats whats inside is all that matters.just because someone looks great does not make them nice.someones looks does not talk the persons personality does.thats important in a good long lasting relationship.
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This is the same old sob story,you keep repeating time after time. You mention reality, and maybe for you this is true. But for many of the members on this forum we find your statements not to ring true , in their experience. If you keep thinking in such negative ways , finding any happiness will be much harder. Continuing to complain about your baldness will not help in building any confidence. How you feel about your baldness, does make all the difference. To go thru life with your negativity , cannot help you in any good way. Granted a full head of hair maybe more desirable, but unfortunately nature had other thoughts . So in essence quit crying !!
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well said magoo.i have been shaving my head for a couple of years now and i have been the happiest i have ever been.i have been married to my beutiful wife for over 25 years now,and she loves my bald head better now then when i had thinning hair.a possitive attitude is a good attitude.and all of the people on this website that i have asked advice from have good attitudes and good people.
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Please wear a toupee and change your name to The Prince of Pessimism. You believe you are doomed, therefore you are. 'Nuf said.
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I know several guys with shaved head who have gorgeous girls.
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tryingtostaypositive, it sounds to me like you're looking to be with the top 1% of beautiful women (however you describe beauty to yourself). It also sounds like you're not Okay with being bald yourself. If you're not Okay with yourself, why would the top 1% of beautiful women be Okay with you?
I would suggest to look at how you are judging women on their outward appearances (posts talking about overweight women or ugly skinny women), and at the same time condemning women for judging you on your outward appearance.
I think once you accept people for being people, once you get past superficial judgement, then you will have a better chance of finding the woman for you. There are billions of women out there, try getting to know some of them and you might find what you're missing.
Good luck to you.
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tryingtostaypositive, it sounds to me like you're looking to be with the top 1% of beautiful women (however you describe beauty to yourself). It also sounds like you're not Okay with being bald yourself. If you're not Okay with yourself, why would the top 1% of beautiful women be Okay with you?
I would suggest to look at how you are judging women on their outward appearances (posts talking about overweight women or ugly skinny women), and at the same time condemning women for judging you on your outward appearance.
I think once you accept people for being people, once you get past superficial judgement, then you will have a better chance of finding the woman for you. There are billions of women out there, try getting to know some of them and you might find what you're missing.
Good luck to you.
Totally agree with you , JohnRa . But I think he likes to troll , the members on this forum.
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Tryingtostaypositive, what do you want us all to do? Say, "yes, you are right. No woman wants to be with a bald man. We're all doomed to lives of loneliness and quiet desperation." Would that make you feel better? Then what would you do?
To answer your question about when was the last time you saw a good looking woman with a bald guy. My answer is "this past weekend". My daughter who is very good looking has been dating a bald guy for nearly a year. She does not have a "fetish" as you put it. She met him online and his baldness was no issue for her. He told us this weekend that he noticed his hair thinning when he was in his early 20's and decided that was enough, so he began shaving his head and has done so for 10 years.
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I see attractive women with bald guys all the time! Heck, I even know a hairstylist whose husband shaves his head. Ironic that a hairstylist married a man with no hair! lol
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Funny you mentioned that, miller. I received a message of interest on my singles site this week from a hairstylist/salon owner. She commented how handsome she thought I was.
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See, even hairstylists don't mind the hairless! Hahaha. And most girls say they don't mind a guy who is completely bald, it's thinning hair, horseshoes, combovers, and toupees that they can't stand.
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No every woman or men find attractive a bald head,that's true,but is not that they find you gross or something like that,is just their own taste.
I tend to attract a certain type of man since I'm bald,but that's ok for me, some have the fetish,others don't. But in general my date/sex life improves a lot
Sounds chessy,but is all about confidence,people can't tell when you hate your appearance.
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I think "turn off" is too strong. We all have tastes and preferences in what we find attractive - and that's a good thing. If "most" means the remaining ones really dig it then it gives sly guys an advantage. They are out there and looking for you! ;) But hey I'm just a newby so I'll have to find out for myself!
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I gotta disagree. I absolutely love bald men and think baldness makes any man exponentially hotter.
Maybe I'm biased because I'm a bald woman but I've gotten way more attention and complimets from men since going bald as well.
I think it's about how you carry yourself. If you're confident about your look and the way you are that is attractive no matter what you look like.
Being confidently bald is always gonna be attractive and if some people don't get it then that's their loss.
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Most people are attracted to other people who are confident in and comfortable with themselves, bald or not bald.
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I'm a 64 year old single guy, looking for a relationship. Yes, I think there are alot of women that avoid a guy with a shaved head. I have known women that love bald guys, but they are rare. The majority of women probably don't care either way. It might be different for married people when the guy goes bald, but many single gals might avoid baldies. The key is actually finding a women that will look beyond a guys hairstyle, and look at your character.
I'm on a singles site, and have over 300 women that clicked on " want to meet me". I have met quite a few, but haven't found " the one". Of course I'm way to picky!
So, guess I'll wait for the one that messages me that she loves my shaved head. And that she's a master barber and will shave my head for me. I might be waiting awhile!!
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Jason Stathom, The Rock, Vin Disiel... Example of celebs women love who are bald. I think youre full of it tbh. I get compliments all the time and the wife gets jealous because of it. Its been years since I posted here and that should tell you something lol.
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Looks are just a small part of the equation. Self-confidence is a larger part of the equation. Just ponder that awhile before responding 😉
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well said macgregor.
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This subject has come up many many times on this forum, and on forums for guys who are losing their hair.
I don't date women, but I will tell you, from a gay man's perspective, it's just NOT a thing. I see balding/bald/shaved guys coupled with guys who have "good hair".
My late partner had a beautiful, auburn mane until the day he died at the age of 51. I was shaved bald when he met me. I was not allowed to go more than a few days without shaving! He loved it... (managed to rub my head on the first date).
I would bet that women are the same.
It's about the person, not the hair.
Sure, some of us shave it (I did so for 24 years), and some of us cover it up. I have been wearing a hair system for six months, and I am really having fun with it. My current BF prefers me shaved, but I do what I want. He loves me no matter what.
He... is balding... and, on him, it looks super sexy (it's perfectly cut).
His personality sparkles... and he is super confident. He doesn't care he is balding, and neither does anyone else.
Whenever I see a post like this, the first thing I think of is that this person has issues with their self-confidence, and is using their hair as an excuse.
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Glad that I don't have this problem.
Most guys love my bald head.
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Glad that I don't have this problem.
Most guys love my bald head.
Grrrrrwwwwoooooffff!!!!
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Glad that I don't have this problem.
Most guys love my bald head.
Grrrrrwwwwoooooffff!!!!
💪
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For some women sure, but I am average looking at best and I've had women come up behind me at a bar and start rubbing my head.
I would say a combined majority of women are either apathetic (would date hair or no hair) or are turned on by bald men.
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For some women sure, but I am average looking at best and I've had women come up behind me at a bar and start rubbing my head.
I would say a combined majority of women are either apathetic (would date hair or no hair) or are turned on by bald men.
LOL, OMG, isn't that AMAZING!!! My late husband did that on the first date. I would NEVER let anyone touch my beard, however. Too personal.
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For some women sure, but I am average looking at best and I've had women come up behind me at a bar and start rubbing my head.
I would say a combined majority of women are either apathetic (would date hair or no hair) or are turned on by bald men.
LOL, OMG, isn't that AMAZING!!! My late husband did that on the first date. I would NEVER let anyone touch my beard, however. Too personal.
Have you noticed any difference since you started wearing your system Dober?
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For some women sure, but I am average looking at best and I've had women come up behind me at a bar and start rubbing my head.
I would say a combined majority of women are either apathetic (would date hair or no hair) or are turned on by bald men.
LOL, OMG, isn't that AMAZING!!! My late husband did that on the first date. I would NEVER let anyone touch my beard, however. Too personal.
Have you noticed any difference since you started wearing your system Dober?
LOL, nobody wants to run my head, anymore.
I don't really "go out", since I live in the boonies... moving January 15th back to town... I will see what happens once I start being social again.
:)
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any girl I've ever talked to said they'd much prefer a shaved head co a combover or half a head of hair. They've even done studies where women have said they'd rather rub a smooth head than run their fingers through thin, wispy hair or a toupee. More still have said that they weren't sure about their man's bald head at first, but now they like it.
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I don't believe this for a second, in fact, in my own experience, Ive found the reverse to be true.
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Some women preferred me with hair but when i shaved my head they paid me less attention but girls that wasn't interested before said the shaved head suited me better and i got more attention with different women.