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Discussions About Being Bald => Advantages and Disadvantages to being Bald => Topic started by: theboss on December 04, 2007, 02:43:38 AM
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i am going bald and am curious as to how much it will ultimately change my lifestyle, i.e. having to be more aware of what to wear outside, having to go the extra step to prevent sunburns, getting ahead at your job, achieving success in romance, etc.
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good question boss. not sure how much my lifestyle changed. i am still the outgoing smart-azz fun loving guy that i was before. but now i don't have to worry if someone notices that my hairline is receding. or if my hair is screwed up. just a quick feel and then i smile (or smirk usually) like i know something that others don't (cause i do) and then carry on. shaving made me more confident, ok ok arrogant, but not really changed my lifestyle. women like it. not all but more than i would have imagined. i think the confidence has a big part of that though.
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Hey Boss, I posted about the sunscreen thing in another one of your topics. I have to say the my lifestyle changed slightly for the better, look at my before and after and you will understand. The upkeep is actually less than when I had hair, because I don't shampoo and blow dry anymore, I shave in the shower and throw the moisturizer on and I"m out the door. At my office I have been told I seem more professional in appearance, which kinda stumped me. And the romance department, lets just say its been a great year so far. A friend of mine has been talking to me about shaving simply because he has seen the reaction I get when we are at a club, although personality also plays a big part. As my friends tell me, I just don't give a sh*t anymore on how people persive me because I know I look the best I have looked in years!!
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No change in lifestyle! Little better attitude maybe!
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Boss, it's really going to depend on your attitude about it. If you go it with the attitude that you rock the look, then you're lifestyle is going to be much better than it was before. Though, if you go in with the attitude that you're a "victim" of bad genes, then you're lifestyle is going to degrade. It's really up to you bro.
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good question boss. not sure how much my lifestyle changed. i am still the outgoing smart-azz fun loving guy that i was before. but now i don't have to worry if someone notices that my hairline is receding. or if my hair is screwed up. just a quick feel and then i smile (or smirk usually) like i know something that others don't (cause i do) and then carry on. shaving made me more confident, ok ok arrogant, but not really changed my lifestyle. women like it. not all but more than i would have imagined. i think the confidence has a big part of that though.
Yeah, what Paulie said. O0
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Boss, it's really going to depend on your attitude about it. If you go it with the attitude that you rock the look, then you're lifestyle is going to be much better than it was before. Though, if you go in with the attitude that you're a "victim" of bad genes, then you're lifestyle is going to degrade. It's really up to you bro.
Tyler, you got that one nailed. Going at Sly is going to own it, not to avoid MPB--avoiding the MPB look that's just an unavoidable accessory. You're controlling your appearance, you've made the choice, you control the process--and inevitably it's going to look good. A scale of 1-10 implies the existence of negative numbers and there's nothing negative about going forward w/ the blade--it's a positive act both physically and mentally. I can't think of any person I've ever seen in the MPB process w/ thinning hair that looks like he's in control.
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Boss, it's really going to depend on your attitude about it. If you go it with the attitude that you rock the look, then you're lifestyle is going to be much better than it was before. Though, if you go in with the attitude that you're a "victim" of bad genes, then you're lifestyle is going to degrade. It's really up to you bro.
It's not that simple. You guys often tend to forget that the shaved look really really does not suit everyone.
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yep_yep--Do you have a picture of the guy it didn't look better on? "Better" being a comparitive word, I'm sure some ugly guy is still ugly, just much less so Sly. If you have a before and after of someone it didn't improve, I'm sure the guys would love to look at it, particularly MPB.
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Boss, it's really going to depend on your attitude about it. If you go it with the attitude that you rock the look, then you're lifestyle is going to be much better than it was before. Though, if you go in with the attitude that you're a "victim" of bad genes, then you're lifestyle is going to degrade. It's really up to you bro.
It's not that simple. You guys often tend to forget that the shaved look really really does not suit everyone.
I think you're missing the point, Y-Y. The whole idea is how you feel about yourself. If you approach your hair loss with a "woah is me" attitude, then it really doesn't matter if you go sly or not. Although I was comfortable with my hair loss (though not happy about it), the fact that I shaved my head made me feel better about myself. Plus, I finally found relief from the scalp condition that had afflicted me for years.
Lastly, how you are percieved by others is directly related to how you percieve yourself. I'll never forget a guy I knew in college. He was not wealthy, average looking at best, fairly short, and slightly overweight. But, he had one of the hottest, nicest girls as a girlfriend. His secret.....he was a lot of fun to be around! Not a jokester (though he had a great sense of humor), but just a genuinely good guy. Treated everyone with respect.
How you see yourself is how others view you.
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I think you're missing the point, Y-Y. The whole idea is how you feel about yourself. If you approach your hair loss with a "woah is me" attitude, then it really doesn't matter if you go sly or not. Although I was comfortable with my hair loss (though not happy about it), the fact that I shaved my head made me feel better about myself. Plus, I finally found relief from the scalp condition that had afflicted me for years.
Lastly, how you are percieved by others is directly related to how you percieve yourself. I'll never forget a guy I knew in college. He was not wealthy, average looking at best, fairly short, and slightly overweight. But, he had one of the hottest, nicest girls as a girlfriend. His secret.....he was a lot of fun to be around! Not a jokester (though he had a great sense of humor), but just a genuinely good guy. Treated everyone with respect.
How you see yourself is how others view you.
yep yep, you're right it's not about head shaving. It's about attitude. I've seen guys with the "horseshoe" that have more confidence that me and three others combined. They are very successful, have beautiful wives, and a great life. It's all about your attitude, not your length of hair. The thing is, when a guy shaves his head, it's often that one thing that can help boost his confidence and give him a great attitude. Before you judge it, I really think you should try going completely bald. Not clippers, shave the whole thing.
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The following comments are not directed at anyone in particular -- just general comments for those who are upset about hair loss:
If you're unhappy about your life, don't use your hair or lack thereof as an excuse. If your hair was the only thing you had going for you, that alone is not sufficient to be successful. If your life as a bald man sucks, chances are your life with hair would be no better. We don't always get what we want in this life, but you have to take what you've got and make the most of it. Maybe some guys would look better with hair. So what? I would probably look better if I were taller, thinner and had skin that had the ability to tan. Getting thinner is something I'm working on. Taller and tanner are never going to happen for me. Should I withdraw from the world, become a recluse and curl up in a corner somewhere in a fetal position because of it?
Looks do matter in this world, but if only people with perfect hair, skin, teeth, height, weight, etc. were the ones to be happy and successful, that would leave 99.9% of the population out in the cold. I fully understand the trauma of hair loss, especially at a young age. I was 20 when I first noticed mine was starting to go. But self-pity never solved anything. Be thankful you are living in a day and age where it's perfectly acceptable and mainstream to shave your head and most people will think that it looks great. That wasn't an option for previous generations. I can't imagine how much harder it was for guys who were in this situation 30 years ago. Count your blessings, live your life, and don't obsess over things that you can't control.
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Those were some powerful words, Razor. Amen, Brother, Amen!!!
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The following comments are not directed at anyone in particular -- just general comments for those who are upset about hair loss:
If you're unhappy about your life, don't use your hair or lack thereof as an excuse. If your hair was the only thing you had going for you, that alone is not sufficient to be successful. If your life as a bald man sucks, chances are your life with hair would be no better. We don't always get what we want in this life, but you have to take what you've got and make the most of it. Maybe some guys would look better with hair. So what? I would probably look better if I were taller, thinner and had skin that had the ability to tan. Getting thinner is something I'm working on. Taller and tanner are never going to happen for me. Should I withdraw from the world, become a recluse and curl up in a corner somewhere in a fetal position because of it?
Looks do matter in this world, but if only people with perfect hair, skin, teeth, height, weight, etc. were the ones to be happy and successful, that would leave 99.9% of the population out in the cold. I fully understand the trauma of hair loss, especially at a young age. I was 20 when I first noticed mine was starting to go. But self-pity never solved anything. Be thankful you are living in a day and age where it's perfectly acceptable and mainstream to shave your head and most people will think that it looks great. That wasn't an option for previous generations. I can't imagine how much harder it was for guys who were in this situation 30 years ago. Count your blessings, live your life, and don't obsess over things that you can't control.
Amen brother! O0
I too have down falls that would cripple alot of others and at times in my llife I struggled to deal with them, gowing up the fat kid with gynocomastia(bitch tits) was a real cofidense killer, but I finally came to the conclusion that I am who I am and thats not gonna change and I need to be happy with me then the rest just comes naturally. I don't care what others think about me any more, I'm very happy with me and thats all that matters. Shaving my head was just the icing on the cake. I think that because of my attitude of myself others will come around to who I am and what I'm all about. I'll tell ya it works Be cause in my travels I never have an issue with making freinds and or attracting the Ladys
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razor....well said, brah!!! AMEN 2 THAT. O0 O0 O0
WARHAWK O0
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very little, unless it changes your inner confidence.
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Boss, it's really going to depend on your attitude about it. If you go it with the attitude that you rock the look, then you're lifestyle is going to be much better than it was before. Though, if you go in with the attitude that you're a "victim" of bad genes, then you're lifestyle is going to degrade. It's really up to you bro.
It's not that simple. You guys often tend to forget that the shaved look really really does not suit everyone.
I think you're missing the point, Y-Y. The whole idea is how you feel about yourself. If you approach your hair loss with a "woah is me" attitude, then it really doesn't matter if you go sly or not. Although I was comfortable with my hair loss (though not happy about it), the fact that I shaved my head made me feel better about myself. Plus, I finally found relief from the scalp condition that had afflicted me for years.
Lastly, how you are percieved by others is directly related to how you percieve yourself. I'll never forget a guy I knew in college. He was not wealthy, average looking at best, fairly short, and slightly overweight. But, he had one of the hottest, nicest girls as a girlfriend. His secret.....he was a lot of fun to be around! Not a jokester (though he had a great sense of humor), but just a genuinely good guy. Treated everyone with respect.
How you see yourself is how others view you.
Nah, it's not like that. I think I'm an okish looking guy, but my odd headshape and balding almost completely ruins it for me. What I do know is by looking at some older pictures, I looked a helluva lot better with longer hair. Of course if you're gonna go and compare the bald horseshoe look with the shaved look, the shaved look wins hands down. I'll give you that.
RazorX, I can assure you that my life was much better when I didn't have this early balding to deal with. It's bound to wear one down if you don't like what you see in the mirror. Yes, deep down it's all about attitude but there's so much more to it. It's hard to have a good attitude when I have had so much genetic bullcrap dealt at me and I'm only 25. Wonder what's next, eyesight problems like my mum or developing a severe rheumatism like my father? My point is that for some people the early hairloss can really be the final nail in the coffin.
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I really liked razor's comment about the subject matter. I'm pretty new to the way of the sly, but i find no regrets after shaving. (other than the elements!) I kinda viewed my going sly as more of an awakening to stop covering crap up, and face reality. Alot of other things can follow if you view it in a positive way. ;D
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Yes, deep down it's all about attitude but there's so much more to it. It's hard to have a good attitude when I have had so much genetic bullcrap dealt at me and I'm only 25. Wonder what's next, eyesight problems like my mum or developing a severe rheumatism like my father? My point is that for some people the early hairloss can really be the final nail in the coffin.
I'm not trying to minimize how it can affect someone, especially in their 20s.
But I guess it's all where you're coming from...personally, I can't fathom how inheriting a receding hairline or balding is a final nail in the coffin. Sure, it can mindscrew your self-esteem and do a number on your confidence.
But I can think of a whole host of "genetic bullcrap" dealt to people that would qualify. Inheriting a progressively debilitating disease. Finding out you have a genetic marker for certain type of cancer. A child with a severe developmental disability.
I can only imagine how anyone whose been "dealt" something like this would "trade up" to the impact of a bald or balding head of hair..and it wouldn't even register on a scale of 1-10.
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RazorX, I can assure you that my life was much better when I didn't have this early balding to deal with. It's bound to wear one down if you don't like what you see in the mirror. Yes, deep down it's all about attitude but there's so much more to it. It's hard to have a good attitude when I have had so much genetic bullcrap dealt at me and I'm only 25. Wonder what's next, eyesight problems like my mum or developing a severe rheumatism like my father? My point is that for some people the early hairloss can really be the final nail in the coffin.
It's only the final nail in the coffin if you let it be. Do you seriously think your life is over? I assure you it is not. God willing you have an entire lifetime ahead of you yet. Don't ruin it by lamenting about your hair loss. There's nothing you can do about it anyway. Accept what you cannot change and move on. Once you do, you will feel a whole lot better.
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Yep_Yep, Razor and Tyler have told you the truth. But if your self perception is as you state, you need to talk this one out w/ a professional because your problem isn't hair, it's much more serious and you shouldn't try to ignore the fact that you have a serious issue and please don't try to solve it your own. You need some professional guidance and there's no shame or problem seeking it out. Please look for some help. I know all the guys here want to support you, and it will get better, it's just that, for you, it's not a hair issue. Work on that if you need to after you've talked this through w/ a professional.
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It's only the final nail in the coffin if you let it be. Do you seriously think your life is over? I assure you it is not. God willing you have an entire lifetime ahead of you yet. Don't ruin it by lamenting about your hair loss. There's nothing you can do about it anyway. Accept what you cannot change and move on. Once you do, you will feel a whole lot better.
yep yep,
I recommend you listen to razor x's advice.
And it's not just because he's a fellow "Jersey Boy"!
You are very lucky to have found this place. So just be open-minded and listen carefully.
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yep.yep.....i totally agree with razor "it's only the final nail in the coffin if you let it be". that is one very strong and powerful statement. i can't say it any better. u have 2 embrace it and not be in denial. if u don't embrace it....then it will take over u in a negative way....u will start being depressed, insecure, unsure, & miserable.
WARHAWK O0
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yep-yep..... you have received many words of wisdom that I wish I knew at your age. Many members have given you sound advice, razor, rob, and myself in another post. If you still feel the way you do then I think saint is right and you need to seek professional help elsewhere as your problem is much deeper than loss of hair. I am not trying to be mean, just my 2 cents, I am not a doctor or anything close, I just know that ALL of us have issues to deal with, and you are not alone.
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hmmm...
Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
Now see, you are already better of than many.
Everyone has problems, be thankful that your are not worse.
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hmmm...
Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
Now see, you are already better of than many.
Everyone has problems, be thankful that your are not worse.
Exactly. Anyone can expend this much energy being upset about hair loss is lucky because he must not have any real problems. I'm not saying that hair loss is something you have to like, but it is something you have to learn to live with.
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Yep_Yep, I didn't mean to be mean or anything like that. It's just that you seem to be really into something that is more than hair and you aren't able to see that on your own. It's not uncommon to do that, especially when you're as young as you are. You've got a lot going on in your life and except for this you've got the world by the tail. Please, give yourself a break, everyone else is and will--it's just hard for you to see that right now but you will, you really will.
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hmmm...
Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
Now see, you are already better of than many.
Everyone has problems, be thankful that your are not worse.
Yeah, thanks to all you guys for support. Anyway, that wiggle your fingers and toes part made me laugh since I only got 9 fingers. That's right, I only got 4 fingers on my right hand. I was born with all 10 but my right thumb just wouldn't develop and it had to be surgered off when I was 4. Now I have my original index finger as thumb. Just one part of the "genetic bullcrap" I was referring to earlier.
Saintc, you were totally right. My problems lie way beneath hairloss. I'm not thinking about suicide or anything like that but sometimes I feel very hopeless.
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hmmm...
Wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
Now see, you are already better of than many.
Everyone has problems, be thankful that your are not worse.
Yeah, thanks to all you guys for support. Anyway, that wiggle your fingers and toes part made me laugh since I only got 9 fingers. That's right, I only got 4 fingers on my right hand. I was born with all 10 but my right thumb just wouldn't develop and it had to be surgered off when I was 4. Now I have my original index finger as thumb. Just one part of the "genetic bullcrap" I was referring to earlier.
Saintc, you were totally right. My problems lie way beneath hairloss. I'm not thinking about suicide or anything like that but sometimes I feel very hopeless.
Oh great, my foot is in my mouth... I apologize.
I did not mean anything by that other than whatever your problems may be and how unsurmountable they appear at times things can always get worse.
I have been through the balding at a young age too and I completely understand the pain it can cause.
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These posts have all been pretty good, and I think they are right, it's not so much of a lifestyle change as it is really just an appearance change. However, for the sake of giving you an answer, I'll say it's had a huge impact on me. It hasn't made me more or less qualified for jobs, made me a better hockey player, or put more money in my pocket. It doesn't have those kinds of affects. However, I'm not nervous to walk in front of people anymore, I'm not worried about opening my sunroof and messing my hair up or the little glares that would come sporatically across my head, and when I get out of the pool, I carry my towel and show off my head rather than cover my head up. I gave my first speech since shaving my head in class the other day, and where I used to worry about standing under the light and people noticing what wasnt' there, I now care about making sure my zipper is zipped. I don't really know if this was the type of answer you were looking for, I just wanted to give you a little insight on what it's done for me. I've always been a naturally confident person, shaving my head eliminated my last worry, I feel untouchable now...
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Saintc, you were totally right. My problems lie way beneath hairloss. I'm not thinking about suicide or anything like that but sometimes I feel very hopeless.
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You don't need to feel that way, it can be treated, please go to a psychologist or doctor and talk this out. You're not any different than anyone else. No one has perfect genes and I'm sure that it's been pointed out that people have genetic problems that are worse than yours, millions of Type 1 diabetics for example are probably genetic. You just need some objective help to see the world in its proper prospective. Don't be ashamed of seeking out help, I did it in my twenties--they're tough but also wonderful years. Please tell us you're going to seek out someone with the ability to work this through with you. Life's too sweet to waste enduring this when you really can get it treated and live to your full potential.
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Saintc, you were totally right. My problems lie way beneath hairloss. I'm not thinking about suicide or anything like that but sometimes I feel very hopeless.
You don't need to feel that way, it can be treated, please go to a psychologist or doctor and talk this out. You're not any different than anyone else. No one has perfect genes and I'm sure that it's been pointed out that people have genetic problems that are worse than yours, millions of Type 1 diabetics for example are probably genetic. You just need some objective help to see the world in its proper prospective. Don't be ashamed of seeking out help, I did it in my twenties--they're tough but also wonderful years. Please tell us you're going to seek out someone with the ability to work this through with you. Life's too sweet to waste enduring this when you really can get it treated and live to your full potential.
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Nah, I don't need professional help anymroe. Been there done that... didn't help much but it was nice to speak of my problems to someone.
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Yep yep, I hope you're able to come to terms with this. You're lucky to have such a great and enlightened group of guys to run this by. They make alot of sense.
Take care of yourself.
KC
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little change, but that is my attitude towards it, you take what life gives you, i actually embraced being bald. and i cant rate it on a 1-10 scale
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I would say it really hasn't changed my life at all......of course i do have to wear a beanie every once in a while, but it really depends on where you live....Me, for example, santa barbara has some of the best weather around, its pretty much always sunny and in the 70's, so it's perfect for the chromage domage. but if you live in antarctica, you might think twice. Also, i think that as a shaved-headian, you get some more attention on yourself, especially with the womenfolk. there are many that enjoy feeling my top whilest exclaiming "Rub Duh Buddah".
hope this stuff helps?
any other sly guys agree?
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Hey Guys...I'm BBC (bald by choice) and my freakin' life is now a 10! Should have done it sooner...IT"S MY LOOK!
I'm 44 and had a full head of blonde hair...OFF WITH THAT SH*T! The thing I've noticed most is that my self-confidence, which was always pretty solid, has increased ten-fold. I love the look and feel great about myself.
Wife and kids like it too!
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10, my lifestyle is better, i have no more bad hair days, when i had hair, i always had bad ahir days, i alwsys washed my hair every day, but the psorasis created problems, and my head would chaff, then i alwsys had to strach my hair to get all the flakes and dead skin out, and a lot of people complained to me about it, ever since i went sly in 2004, people said that i look a lot better, and that they had a more positive impression of me, and that they will forget my bad hair days
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I am a #1 or #0 shaver for 3 months now. Does that make me sly or do I really really need the straight razor?
Anyway on a scale of 1 to 10 it is hard to say but it was at least 1. And I developed a theory about small improvements. This is one of the main principles by which I live my life.
For argument's sake.... Lets call it "Colorado's Exponential Theory or Attraction and Repulsion"
OK here is how the theory goes.
There are 5 degrees of attraction (6,7,8,9,10) and 5 degrees of repulsion (4,3,2,1,0). Each degree is 10x stronger than the previous one.
We can rate all of our abilities to attract things, people, events to us on a scale of 0 to 10. One being the worst 5 being Neutral and 10 being the best. We can use this scale to measure things such as our ability as an athlete, our ability as a sales person, our ability as a leader, our ability as a worker, our ability to attract the opposite sex.
Therefore a small improvement of just 1 would be a 1,000% improvement making you 10x more effective in that area. An improvement of 2 would make you 100x more effective.
I will use the example of a woman but I believe my scale applies to all attributes
OK for the woman
0 - She is Mentally Ill, HIV+, 800 pounds, and has oozing sores all over her body. An annoying loud voice and she doesn't stop yelling and throwing things at you which are covered in disgusting substances that have oozed out of sores in her skin. No man on earth would want to even be in the same room with her
1 - One of the worst specimens of the female human, overweight, depressed, bad skin, hideously ugly and a bad attitude as well
2- This is an extremely ugly woman who looking at is slightly painful to endure. There also may be things about her personality pushing you away from her.
3- There are gross features about this woman. She is quite hideous, and she is 10x worse than the 4. Yet there still may be some redeemable qualitys
4- There is something repulsing you about this woman and you are not sure exactly what but you are definitely drawn away from her.
5- Neutral
6- There is something attractive about this woman. But also some things that are unattractive. While you may be interested you are not going to go that far out of your way over her.
7- You feel a strong attraction to this woman immediately. You are drawn to her would take her in lieu of 10 6's. Yet her powers over you are extremely limited.
8- Any straight man would jump at the opportunity to spend time with this woman. Most would straight up marry her if given half the chance.
9- One of the most beautiful women you have ever seen. You are breathless just looking at her. You would give up almost all just to be with her. She has the ability to ruin marriages, have you waste millions on her, control you completely.
10- Wars can be fought over women like this.
try to imagine what type of woman would be a 3 and what type would be a 5. is a 5 not 100x times better than a 3. or the same comparison from a 6 to an 8. or any two degrees on the scale.
I also believe this scale can be used for every aspect of ones ability.
So to answer the question I would say at least 1 across the board. Making everything at least 10x better.
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Colorado,
Hmmm, interesting theory you have going there, a quantitative parabolic projection as a function of qualitative observation.
B.
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"Colorado's Exponential Theory or Attraction and Repulsion"
OK here is how the theory goes.
There are 5 degrees of attraction (6,7,8,9,10) and 5 degrees of repulsion (4,3,2,1,0). Each degree is 10x stronger than the previous one.
9- One of the most beautiful women you have ever seen. You are breathless just looking at her. You would give up almost all just to be with her.
10- Wars can be fought over women like this.
Whaaat! No pictures!! Why didn't you illustrate your theory?
#9 and/or #10
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Hi all. I just wanted to chime in. I suffer from manic depression, chronic anxiety and other mental illnesses. The impact on my life has been huge because of this. I started losing my hair around 18. I didn't notic until a few years later but it never really bothered me too much until it was un hideable around 26. I am now 30. All I can say is with all these problems when I had hair I never once doubted my attractiveness. Girls would always look at me and it was easy to attract women, although I couldn't go out with them because of my issues. Now that I am past the point of no return I can see the disgust on some womens face when I flirt or try to dance with them. It kills me. 30, single, unattractive to the opposite sex (not all but most). I have only been with one person and that was liek 5 months ago. I am trying to pick up the pieces and move on startiung my life at 30 literally. This whole hairloss issue is killing me. I don't really want to live anymore (likwe I said I am manic depressive). I scare myself so much. I have no clue what to do. I would give anything for my mental health. that is the most important thing in the world. But I don't have it. Like Y-Y said it is a final nail in the coffin for some people. I know there is something wrong with me. I just can't fix it. Tried everything. Shock therapy, meds everything. I am at my wits end. Enough whining. Back to Obsessing about my hair that I have no control over.
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Hi all. I just wanted to chime in. I suffer from manic depression, chronic anxiety and other mental illnesses. The impact on my life has been huge because of this. I started losing my hair around 18. I didn't notic until a few years later but it never really bothered me too much until it was un hideable around 26. I am now 30. All I can say is with all these problems when I had hair I never once doubted my attractiveness. Girls would always look at me and it was easy to attract women, although I couldn't go out with them because of my issues. Now that I am past the point of no return I can see the disgust on some womens face when I flirt or try to dance with them. It kills me. 30, single, unattractive to the opposite sex (not all but most). I have only been with one person and that was liek 5 months ago. I am trying to pick up the pieces and move on startiung my life at 30 literally. This whole hairloss issue is killing me. I don't really want to live anymore (likwe I said I am manic depressive). I scare myself so much. I have no clue what to do. I would give anything for my mental health. that is the most important thing in the world. But I don't have it. Like Y-Y said it is a final nail in the coffin for some people. I know there is something wrong with me. I just can't fix it. Tried everything. Shock therapy, meds everything. I am at my wits end. Enough whining. Back to Obsessing about my hair that I have no control over.
Hey bro, I can't remember...have you shaved yet?
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Wow, pretty deep stuff in these posts...
My lifestyle has not changed a bit...My opinion, it's just hair.. Attitude and confidence are within you regardless of hairstlyles or Slyness..
If mpb bugs you, the sly look is a great option..
It is a cleaner look that does not focus on the mpb..
If you have a full head of hair and go Sly, you can always go back.
Just keep in mind you are who you are no matter which way you go... O0
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The following comments are not directed at anyone in particular -- just general comments for those who are upset about hair loss:
If you're unhappy about your life, don't use your hair or lack thereof as an excuse. If your hair was the only thing you had going for you, that alone is not sufficient to be successful. If your life as a bald man sucks, chances are your life with hair would be no better. We don't always get what we want in this life, but you have to take what you've got and make the most of it. Maybe some guys would look better with hair. So what? I would probably look better if I were taller, thinner and had skin that had the ability to tan. Getting thinner is something I'm working on. Taller and tanner are never going to happen for me. Should I withdraw from the world, become a recluse and curl up in a corner somewhere in a fetal position because of it?
Looks do matter in this world, but if only people with perfect hair, skin, teeth, height, weight, etc. were the ones to be happy and successful, that would leave 99.9% of the population out in the cold. I fully understand the trauma of hair loss, especially at a young age. I was 20 when I first noticed mine was starting to go. But self-pity never solved anything. Be thankful you are living in a day and age where it's perfectly acceptable and mainstream to shave your head and most people will think that it looks great. That wasn't an option for previous generations. I can't imagine how much harder it was for guys who were in this situation 30 years ago. Count your blessings, live your life, and don't obsess over things that you can't control.
RazorX, you said it! Everything you've expressed is exactly the way I feel about it, which is 'quit whining, and if you're losing hair, take charge of the situation and don't become a victim!'
I shaved my head 4 years ago for the first time, then again 6 months later... and finally for the 3rd time last night! Its such a relief... no fuckin hassles! :)
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Well said, AlphaQ and welcome to the forum
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Going sly helped me break my "people pleasing" habit and that in turn freed me to be myself but going sly was just one step in the process! O0
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Shaving my head really just settled things out in my life. After my first head shave, the guy that I saw in the mirror finally matched the guy that I saw inside of myself. The nagging discord went away, so I could just get on with living my life.
...hope that that didn't sound too kooky-metaphysical... <chuckle>
Being bald has never affected jobs, careers, or friends. If anything, it seems to have added an extra something to the whole thing.
It may have reduced my potential pool of partners. If so, I never noticed. I did notice that the people who were attracted to me were REALLY on my wavelength! Quite a few of them had been involved with bald/ shaved guys before- and found themselves hopelessly hooked on us. >:D
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Hi all,
Im a 21year old guy who have been suffer from hairloss for 2years now and I must tell you that it almost have killed all my social life.
Before I was a very attractive guy with my lovly sun blonded hair, the girls loved me and everything was perfect in my life, well not perfect but I felt good and was very happy with myself. Then when I started to realise that I was about to get bald, I got in a deep depression. I got so depressed that I stopped seeing my friends, my lovers. I made them hate me so they would leave me alone. I really couldnt accept the hairloss and that I was gonna look diffrent becouse for the first time I had accept myself, I come from a broken family with lots of stupid problems, so in my early youth I was a very shy, lonly guy and I always hated my parents.
I had a lovly time during college and I was so pleased with myself. So for 2 years I have been blocking away my friends and girls that liked me. I have accomplished nothing in 2years except that Im balder now. For 2years I have been a total lonewolf. I have forget everything i have learned,really, I feel like the biggest looser, even my parents say this. I dont conversate with them if i have any problems cuz I have always been on my own and I dont want their help.
I have started to realise I need to seek proffesional help and someone to help me.
Just wanted to drop in and tell my story becouse I could really cope with alot of stuff in here. Also when I said that I was very attractive, I was not an arrogant idiot or diva.
I also wanna upload a picture of me that was taken 2years ago becuose I still feel like that guy. I have very hard time accepting my hairloss and that i look like a total diffrent person now :'(
ps* sorry for my english and if it is deppressive to reading
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I feel indifferent now to be honest. I can probably get away with wearing clothing that I probably would not have had I still had a flock of seagulls resting on my head.
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Not that much difference. The heavens didn't open and there was no heavenly music.
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It has affected my life, I would say honestly, about a five in the positive direction....my self image is far more solid...which in turn has worked in the dating departement.....also in all other relationships.
Although there still is a little self-consciousness present..it is far less than when I had a goofy haircut
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Welcome William,
Sorry you seem to be having a tough time..
remember having a slick bald head nowadays is accepted and even a preferred "hairstyle" by a lot of guys and girls do dig it (really)...
Now tell me...does this guy look like he has trouble getting girls? If you're as good looking in real life like you say...you still will be with a SLY bald head....
Good looking is good looking no matter what "haircut" you have..
Don't sweat it dude...embrace it!
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Hi all,
Im a 21year old guy who have been suffer from hairloss for 2years now and I must tell you that it almost have killed all my social life.
Before I was a very attractive guy with my lovly sun blonded hair, the girls loved me and everything was perfect in my life, well not perfect but I felt good and was very happy with myself. Then when I started to realise that I was about to get bald, I got in a deep depression. I got so depressed that I stopped seeing my friends, my lovers. I made them hate me so they would leave me alone. I really couldnt accept the hairloss and that I was gonna look diffrent becouse for the first time I had accept myself, I come from a broken family with lots of stupid problems, so in my early youth I was a very shy, lonly guy and I always hated my parents.
I had a lovly time during college and I was so pleased with myself. So for 2 years I have been blocking away my friends and girls that liked me. I have accomplished nothing in 2years except that Im balder now. For 2years I have been a total lonewolf. I have forget everything i have learned,really, I feel like the biggest looser, even my parents say this. I dont conversate with them if i have any problems cuz I have always been on my own and I dont want their help.
I have started to realise I need to seek proffesional help and someone to help me.
Just wanted to drop in and tell my story becouse I could really cope with alot of stuff in here. Also when I said that I was very attractive, I was not an arrogant idiot or diva.
I also wanna upload a picture of me that was taken 2years ago becuose I still feel like that guy. I have very hard time accepting my hairloss and that i look like a total diffrent person now :'(
ps* sorry for my english and if it is deppressive to reading
Seriously man, it is not everyone that can go through life without having some major obstacle's to overcome. Some of us have more, some less and what seems like a cakewalk and hardly qualifies as an obstacle at all to me could be complete devistation to someone else.
Life aint easy, and as you grow older you will (hopefully) understand that going it alone makes the hard times harder and the good times boring. Regardless of your appearance having people that you care about (and that care about you) in your life is one of the best parts of the ride.
If you define yourself by your looks and not who you really are you are doing yourself a disservice. It means that for the rest of your life you will be looking at that picture and forgetting how much you have truly grown and simply judge yourself superficially.
Get out there and be yourself and as my bald bro Andre said, embrace it... learn to love yourself, not your hair from 2 years ago.
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William - You've been given some wise words. Think about them !
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william, welcome to Sly Bald Guys! Like wpruitt said, you've been given some good advice. I'd give head shaving a shot. My guess is that you'll feel a 100 ton weight lifted off your shoulders as your hair falls to the floor.
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Welcome to the neighborhood William
give shaving it a chance you will be surprised. The rest of the advice you've been givin is worth listening to.
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Hey WIlliam: Take it from a guy who covered his head with hats due to transplants and thinning hair for nearly 20 years. It ain't worth getting that aggravated about. Make a decision re your hairline and get a few opinions. Better to be natural. I wish I had 20 years ago.
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well William ....i am 31 now but i was in your boat 10 years ago....and going bald and shaving my head made a world of difference for me...but hey it could be worse ...no hair Vs..a lost limb or something worse...look at my pick .. i am, the one standing up the other is my brother..not real brother but he is my brother...and my name is also William...it takes getting used to but hey so does ma new car....lol
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Change of lifestyle..... maybe just a 5.
Change in attitude..........8 (more confidence, better reactions from girls than the last few years when I had hair.
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Boss, it's ultimately up to you what makes you happy. For myself, I consider a faith in Christ, love for my beautiful wife Pamela and son Daniel and being Sly the best lifestyle I can lead.
I will tell you...once you start down the Sly path- forever will it dominate your destiny!!