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Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: BaldBlindAt20 on June 26, 2021, 03:15:59 PM

Title: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on June 26, 2021, 03:15:59 PM
I am confused by how people are reacting to bald (and by bald I mean shaved heads, not grown-out horseshoes). When I started losing hair in 2018, I found a forum named hairlosstalk.com, and there people are absolutely depressed about hairloss. They were telling that if you had no hair, you had no life. There was even a thread that if you are balding young then it is a sign that you should give up and rot. On the other hand, here there are voices that bald head is actually more attractive than hair, that shaving head made them actually happier and that they were perceived as better looking (not only romantically speaking but also professionally). I have many concerns because I will be the only person who is shaved in my family and social circle.

So how it is? Will shaved head make me a failure and invisible to women or it will be a no big deal? Because the mixed information I get about slyness is making my head ache.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on June 26, 2021, 04:13:59 PM
OK, my friend, here is my opinion. Eight years ago, I was tired of my grey hair and boring haircuts. I wore a flattop years before, so I wanted to go real short again. Then I, started noticing alot of guys with shaved heads, and thought it looked good. So I decided to try a buzzcut, but I didn't like it, so I just shaved my head bald. I immediately loved it, and after the initial shock, later that day my girlfriend told me she wanted me to keep it shaved. None of my family or friends wore a shaved head, but I got almost all positive comments.

So, yes, if you think totally bald is a good look, you will probably like it. After a week or two, nobody will comment, and they will be used to your new luck. I feel sorry for those guys that dread losing their hair. Most of us here enjoy wearing a smooth shaved head.

Funny, last week my neighbor(has a shaved head) and I were talking about head shaving, and his wife couldn't remember me with hair. I had a full head of hair for over a year when I moved in!
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Dragon on June 27, 2021, 03:28:50 AM
Ok the other side from reddog.  I had been balding and didnt like it but you dont get a choice! I had been cutting shorter and shorter and then one day i saw a picture of the back of my head and how far down the bald patch was going.  I said, no more, and shaved.  Havent looked back since.  No one comments, ots now just me.  Wear it with confidence and your are empowered.  Dont hide it!  I does take a while to get used to looking different but that would be the same with any haircut. if you are curious, try it and see
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: DoberDaddy on June 27, 2021, 08:37:03 AM
I started losing my hair at 15, started shaving my head when I was 30, and kept it mostly shaved or short until I was 40. At 40 I realized I had a sizeable bald spot growing on top, so I shaved it off again and kept it that way for another 10 years.

I started getting bored, I always had a beard it goes from long to short and back again in cycles of 2-3 years.

About three and a half years ago I saw a friend with a "Viking" hairstyle, and for the first time ever, I was jealous.

So I did some research, and went out and got myself a hair system.

I have been wearing one since, and I love it. People know I was bald (most), and I switch styles all the time, keeping my head totally shaved.

No one ever said anything negative to me bald, shaved, balding, or otherwise.

I never felt ashamed of going bald, nor did I care what people thought.

The only one who ever said anything negative was my a$$hole father... who made fun of me when he saw me with a shaved head for the first time.

My late husband's response was classic "Well, you don't f**k him, but I do". That stopped that conversation cold.

So confused about the effects? It is all 100% your own attitude, period. f**k everyone else.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Razorhead on June 27, 2021, 11:09:18 AM
@BaldBlindAt20   I think itís best to just take the positive road here. There are a lot of guys out there with shaved heads or tight buzzcuts who are in there in there 20s. Just because your hair is thinning doesnít mean that you need to shave your head. You can go with just a shorter haircut like a buzzcut or perhaps a fade with hair just scissored short on top. You just have to adapt the style as you go as your hair loss is progressing. Losing your hair is just a fact of life among men. Most of us will lose our hair to some degree. you just have to find the right style and adapt it over time.

Reading articles that are telling you that your life will be over because of hairloss is ridiculous and will only make you depressed unnecessarily. They are just a bunch of haters trying to knock down your confidence. Just because they are miserable doesnít mean that you should be. 

There are a lot of guys who look great bald headed. Jason Statham, Kelly Slater, Michael Jordan, George St. Pierre (though heís a tight buzzcut).  At some point you might just want to shave your head to get rid of the hair and stress associated with it.

I shaved my head by choice. A buddy buzzed my hair short once and i actually liked that i looked almost bald. So I took a razor to finish it off.  For me itís the best haircut. Itís simple. Itís easy. And I never had a haircut that I really liked anyway unless if it was a buzzcut..

The guys here are great. Full of positive energy.  We are happy to help you. Donít let the negative people fill your head with bullshit.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on June 27, 2021, 12:25:17 PM
@BaldBlindAt20   I think itís best to just take the positive road here. There are a lot of guys out there with shaved heads or tight buzzcuts who are in there in there 20s. Just because your hair is thinning doesnít mean that you need to shave your head. You can go with just a shorter haircut like a buzzcut or perhaps a fade with hair just scissored short on top. You just have to adapt the style as you go as your hair loss is progressing. Losing your hair is just a fact of life among men. Most of us will lose our hair to some degree. you just have to find the right style and adapt it over time.

Reading articles that are telling you that your life will be over because of hairloss is ridiculous and will only make you depressed unnecessarily. They are just a bunch of haters trying to knock down your confidence. Just because they are miserable doesnít mean that you should be. 

There are a lot of guys who look great bald headed. Jason Statham, Kelly Slater, Michael Jordan, George St. Pierre (though heís a tight buzzcut).  At some point you might just want to shave your head to get rid of the hair and stress associated with it.

I shaved my head by choice. A buddy buzzed my hair short once and i actually liked that i looked almost bald. So I took a razor to finish it off.  For me itís the best haircut. Itís simple. Itís easy. And I never had a haircut that I really liked anyway unless if it was a buzzcut..

The guys here are great. Full of positive energy.  We are happy to help you. Donít let the negative people fill your head with bullshit.

Thank you for your input! Truth be told, I want to shave completely because I'm tired of seeing thinning hair and want my appearance to be somewhat constant (thinning is very rapid) and people told me that I look fit for a shaved head, almost menacing :D Also, by ,,adapting my style" you mean my clothing? Because I think my style will not need a change after shaving head (leather jackets, cargo trousers and Protektor GROM military boots)
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on June 27, 2021, 12:55:35 PM
It's called "bald badass"! Sounds like you're ready to join the club. Just commit to keeping it for 30 days. If you go beyond 60 or90 days, you will probably keep it shaved for a long time.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Razorhead on June 27, 2021, 02:16:47 PM
@BaldBlindAt20  You sound like you know what you want! Which is great. Good luck to you and I agree with @reddog on giving a shaved head a shot for 30 days.

By style, i meant hairstyle. But hey, the right clothes always helps too and i like your fashion style!  As your hair thins, you may want to consider a shorter buzzcut.  I started shaving 15 yrs ago. Over time, my own hair started to thin. I started out shaving with pretty much a full head of hair. It wasnít until recently, i realized some haircuts like side parts and flattops just arenít an option for me anymore because the front is so thin. So i adapt the style to be buzzcuts and skin fades when i grown my hair out.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on June 27, 2021, 05:39:09 PM
Well, honestly, it seems like everybody complains about something but most of it is about petty stuff.  If you either cut it short or just shave it off, do it because it's what you want to do, not what others want you to do.  I was gonna say more here but it would've been redundant so I didn't say it.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Miller1989 on June 29, 2021, 07:33:01 PM
Don't listen to all the negative nancys!Just because you're going to be bald doesn't mean your life is over. You'll still be you, just with a new haircut. I know several guys who shave their heads and have wives or girlfriends that are absolutely gorgeous. Hell, one guy I know landed a babe AFTER he shaved his head! And I think you'll be surprised at how fast people get used to the new you, and how many people actually compliment you. And people who don't like it are unlikely to say anything, whereas people who do like your new look ARE likely to say something. It's normal to be a little nervous before taking it all off for the first time, but I think you'll be glad you did; most guys are.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: slybeard on June 30, 2021, 08:12:38 AM
Most of us also started as the first guy with a shaved head in the family or circle of friends.  That was the case for me as well.  I did know only one guy at work who was shaved.  Many guys that shave also gain confidence make other changes.  We seem to work out more, maybe grow some facial hair, and dress better.

I suggest you post a photo so we can see where you are with your balding.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Laser Man on June 30, 2021, 09:38:42 AM
The first few weeks after shaving your head are the toughest (or most annoying).  That's when family and friends make the most comments.  It's also the time when you run into people for the first time as a bald guy.  You will get questions, comments and opinions, but as the others have said, this passes pretty quickly.  Basically people are busy with their own lives, so your choice of hairstyles really isn't all that important to them.

After that, you'll find that you've become comfortable with your new look and it will start to feel very natural.

Just remember that some people are still wary of guys with shaved heads, so be polite and smile to battle the negative perception.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on June 30, 2021, 04:07:49 PM
Most of us also started as the first guy with a shaved head in the family or circle of friends.  That was the case for me as well.  I did know only one guy at work who was shaved.  Many guys that shave also gain confidence make other changes.  We seem to work out more, maybe grow some facial hair, and dress better.

I suggest you post a photo so we can see where you are with your balding.

My balding is NW3 with diffuse thinning (horseshoe pattern begins to show)
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on June 30, 2021, 04:14:24 PM
Don't listen to all the negative nancys!Just because you're going to be bald doesn't mean your life is over. You'll still be you, just with a new haircut. I know several guys who shave their heads and have wives or girlfriends that are absolutely gorgeous. Hell, one guy I know landed a babe AFTER he shaved his head! And I think you'll be surprised at how fast people get used to the new you, and how many people actually compliment you. And people who don't like it are unlikely to say anything, whereas people who do like your new look ARE likely to say something. It's normal to be a little nervous before taking it all off for the first time, but I think you'll be glad you did; most guys are.

Well I hope that will be my case  :) I am somewhat concerned about picking up girls, especially because I am just 20 and from what I heard young girls are not fond of sly guys, I was considered handsome with hair so much girls approached me casually, I am to be honest somewhat scared that they might be intimidated by my look (people were stepping out of my way on the streets when I had 9mm buzzcut). I might be worrying too much I guess :D
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on June 30, 2021, 04:26:05 PM
Well, I hope you realize that if you shave your head and don't like the look, you can always put a hat on.  The hair on the head grows faster than you'd expect.  There are other alternatives to the completely bald scalp. You could buzz it down to 4mm which is pretty short but not shaven.  Actually, you can buzz it down to any length you want.  Then maybe someday when you're on vacation, you might want to bic you scalp just to see how you look.  There's no judgement here and you'll find that your friends and relatives will soon realize that  it's still you.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on June 30, 2021, 04:34:20 PM
Well, I hope you realize that if you shave your head and don't like the look, you can always put a hat on.  The hair on the head grows faster than you'd expect.  There are other alternatives to the completely bald scalp. You could buzz it down to 4mm which is pretty short but not shaven.  Actually, you can buzz it down to any length you want.  Then maybe someday when you're on vacation, you might want to bic you scalp just to see how you look.  There's no judgement here and you'll find that your friends and relatives will soon realize that  it's still you.
Truth be told my balding is so advanced that I think that I will go for slyness, also I am not so fond of buzzcuts (sly baldness gives that zajebisty 'clean' look, and I do not want to become ,,hat prisoner" (although I will buy a hat for my suit). The greatest shock I think will come because I have quite long hair right now, but many people said I would look good bald :D
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on June 30, 2021, 05:02:24 PM
Go for it!  I guess what I'm trying to say here is you don't have to go bald all at once.  Some take it down a little bit every week as others grow accustomed to seeing you with very short hair then at the time of your choosing, you can just bic it.  At that point, others probably wouldn't even notice the difference.   In my case, my hair was shoulder length and everyone knew me that way then one day I just shaved it right down to the nut.  I think people were more surprised or confused, not knowing what to say and being all awkward and stuff.  They're used to my new look now. 
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 01, 2021, 09:08:13 AM
@BaldBlindAt20 , I totally agree. When I decided to go super short, I did a couple different lengths of a buzzcut, and didn't like the look, so I razor ed it clean and loved it.

I had a full head of silver hair, so it was a dramatic change. Yes, there were a few questions about why I shaved, but mostly positive reactions. And it's true, after a week or two, the comments will end.

And you're right, a totally shaved head makes a statement. It not just a haircut, it's a distinct style. After 8 years, I still love it, and seldom go anywhere without a fresh smooth shave!
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Laser Man on July 01, 2021, 01:01:46 PM
@BaldBlindAt20 ,If you have people commenting that you would look good bald, that's good.  Yes, going from long hair to bald is a dramatic change, but it's completely manageable.  If you don't like it, you can grow your hair back to a length that's comfortable for you and it won't take very long.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on July 02, 2021, 04:52:26 PM
Well, I hope you realize that if you shave your head and don't like the look, you can always put a hat on.  The hair on the head grows faster than you'd expect.  There are other alternatives to the completely bald scalp. You could buzz it down to 4mm which is pretty short but not shaven.  Actually, you can buzz it down to any length you want.  Then maybe someday when you're on vacation, you might want to bic you scalp just to see how you look.  There's no judgement here and you'll find that your friends and relatives will soon realize that  it's still you.

To be honest even if I looked like sh*t with shaved head I would not hide it with hats, I think that my mental health is far more important, and hiding something, especially looks, is just too exhausting for me.

Also, did you experience people who were saying that baldness is just horrifying? Because today I told some people that I plan to shave my head to 0mm and they were horrified by the idea of it, They said some sh*t like 'I AM SCARED OF SHAVED MEN'. Does people's attitude change when the shaving is done or do I have to just thicken up and brace for shittalking?
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 03, 2021, 07:58:26 AM
Honestly, the only one that went ballistic about my bald head was my doctor but otherwise, only one other said she still couldn't get used to my shaven head.  Other than that, people generally accept me the way I am.  Some sun exposure helps even out the skin tone but just maybe a few minutes a day but not more than that.  I think you'll be surprised by how many people don't say anything.  Just yesterday my friend(who has a full head of hair with some balding) said he needed a haircut so I said so do I.  I have no problems joking with my friends about it.  To me, it's not a big deal but I've encountered a few people that don't know what to say so I ease the tension whenever I can.  This is me. 
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: SlyMike on July 04, 2021, 09:28:19 AM
Why did your doctor care about your bald head?
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 04, 2021, 10:24:29 AM
The only time I wear a hat, other than very sunny days, is if I don't shave for a couple days. I feel unkempt without a smooth shaved head. If people say they are scared of shaved head guys, they have a problem! I can't imagine someone feeling like that. They must live in a perpetual state of fear, because everywhere you look these days, men are sporting great looking totally bald heads.

Yes, Clint, why did your doc freak out? Sun exposure? My doc is bald on top with the horseshoe fringe, but my last visit, he was wearing a nice shiny shaved head. I said we both got a sharp looking haircut today!
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 04, 2021, 10:52:17 AM
Why did your doctor care about your bald head?
I dunno.  He has issues I guess.  I shaved my head over 1 1/2 years ago and he still isn't used to seeing me like that so he better deal with it.  He did ask me if I used a sun block but I don't.  I'm never in the sun for long so I don't bother.  He told me that I don't want to get melanoma so maybe that's it.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 04, 2021, 11:10:33 AM
About 5 years ago, I was discussing my foliculitis issue on my head with my former doc. A dermatologist wanted me to go on long term antibiotics, and I told him as long as I shaved my head daily it was gone. I said I didn't want to take antibiotics, so my doc said, well then just keep shaving your head, it looks good on you.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Magoo on July 04, 2021, 11:37:32 AM
Well, I hope you realize that if you shave your head and don't like the look, you can always put a hat on.  The hair on the head grows faster than you'd expect.  There are other alternatives to the completely bald scalp. You could buzz it down to 4mm which is pretty short but not shaven.  Actually, you can buzz it down to any length you want.  Then maybe someday when you're on vacation, you might want to bic you scalp just to see how you look.  There's no judgement here and you'll find that your friends and relatives will soon realize that  it's still you.

To be honest even if I looked like sh*t with shaved head I would not hide it with hats, I think that my mental health is far more important, and hiding something, especially looks, is just too exhausting for me.

Also, did you experience people who were saying that baldness is just horrifying? Because today I told some people that I plan to shave my head to 0mm and they were horrified by the idea of it, They said some sh*t like 'I AM SCARED OF SHAVED MEN'. Does people's attitude change when the shaving is done or do I have to just thicken up and brace for shittalking?

Iím sorry I donít recognize the flag of your country. But in the USA shaving bald is very very common. Maybe in your country this is an odd practice. What country are you from ? Please excuse my ignorance.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 04, 2021, 05:30:11 PM
I'm pretty sure it's Poland.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Magoo on July 04, 2021, 07:37:21 PM
I'm pretty sure it's Poland.
     
      Thanks!
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: SlyMike on July 05, 2021, 02:01:46 PM
It is Poland, if you hover your mouse over a flag on a post it tells you.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 05, 2021, 02:22:42 PM
I wonder how different wearing a shaved head is in different countries. I guess we are so mainstream here in the USA, it's hard to think guys are oppressed for choosing a hairstyle that is not acceptable. Personally, I can't believe how many guys have come over to the sly look this summer. I figured many of the men that tried a Covid headshave might decide to keep it smooth.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 05, 2021, 05:19:58 PM
Yep!  I shaved my head when all the barber shops were closed because of the virus.  My wife offered to trim my hair but I just shaved it off myself.  After about 90 days of shaving my scalp, I decided I liked it and so did my wife so I'm still bald. 8)
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Magoo on July 05, 2021, 09:11:42 PM
It is Poland, if you hover your mouse over a flag on a post it tells you.

   I learn something new each day , thank you.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: slybeard on July 06, 2021, 07:18:00 AM
The only time I wear a hat, other than very sunny days, is if I don't shave for a couple days.

Do you get hat hair?
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 06, 2021, 07:44:59 AM
Haha, no, never gets to that point!
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 07, 2021, 11:20:40 AM

Do you get hat hair?
:*))
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on July 11, 2021, 01:29:42 AM
Well, I hope you realize that if you shave your head and don't like the look, you can always put a hat on.  The hair on the head grows faster than you'd expect.  There are other alternatives to the completely bald scalp. You could buzz it down to 4mm which is pretty short but not shaven.  Actually, you can buzz it down to any length you want.  Then maybe someday when you're on vacation, you might want to bic you scalp just to see how you look.  There's no judgement here and you'll find that your friends and relatives will soon realize that  it's still you.

To be honest even if I looked like sh*t with shaved head I would not hide it with hats, I think that my mental health is far more important, and hiding something, especially looks, is just too exhausting for me.

Also, did you experience people who were saying that baldness is just horrifying? Because today I told some people that I plan to shave my head to 0mm and they were horrified by the idea of it, They said some sh*t like 'I AM SCARED OF SHAVED MEN'. Does people's attitude change when the shaving is done or do I have to just thicken up and brace for shittalking?

Iím sorry I donít recognize the flag of your country. But in the USA shaving bald is very very common. Maybe in your country this is an odd practice. What country are you from ? Please excuse my ignorance.

I'm from Poland, where shaving head was common for criminals, military or policemen. Since I am neither of these, there is a risk I would be oddly looking
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 11, 2021, 06:37:22 AM
Shaved heads have been so common in the USA for decades, many of us don't realize it's less common in other countries. It is really just another haircut here, and seldom even gets a comment from anyone.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on July 15, 2021, 02:26:14 AM
Shaved heads have been so common in the USA for decades, many of us don't realize it's less common in other countries. It is really just another haircut here, and seldom even gets a comment from anyone.

As I found out in Poland people stil hold grudge against sly look, albeit less than before. I see many young guys who decided just to shave it, but they use huge beards, which is not my preferred look at all (I would wear a stubble like BaldCafe on Instagram). In Poland a buzzcut is more popular than sly look, but for me buzzcut is not an option (I don't like them) sooo I think slyness is a sole haircut I would do now, considering I am just 20
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 20, 2021, 05:28:17 AM
I do like the buzzcut however, someone else has to buzz my hair because when I do it alone, I leave dark streaks and end up shaving everything off.  One point to make here.  I used to shave on a Friday evening but hair grows so fast that by the next Friday, it will be a buzzcut.  Using something like the pittbull shaver would bring it down so you won't' need to use an actual razor(unless you want to).
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 22, 2021, 05:21:44 AM
I am confused by how people are reacting to bald (and by bald I mean shaved heads, not grown-out horseshoes). When I started losing hair in 2018, I found a forum named hairlosstalk.com, and there people are absolutely depressed about hairloss. They were telling that if you had no hair, you had no life. There was even a thread that if you are balding young then it is a sign that you should give up and rot. On the other hand, here there are voices that bald head is actually more attractive than hair, that shaving head made them actually happier and that they were perceived as better looking (not only romantically speaking but also professionally). I have many concerns because I will be the only person who is shaved in my family and social circle.

So how it is? Will shaved head make me a failure and invisible to women or it will be a no big deal? Because the mixed information I get about slyness is making my head ache.
That's kind of like saying that people with colored hair, piercings or ink have no life while to the contrary, they do have a life.  Not my cup of tea by any stretch but people do pull it off.  So anyway, I can't understand why anyone would say that a bald dude has no life.  I have a life and I'm just bald with a couple of tats on my arm(from 17 years old).  Baldness shouldn't determine if one has a life or not.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on July 22, 2021, 06:54:54 AM
I am confused by how people are reacting to bald (and by bald I mean shaved heads, not grown-out horseshoes). When I started losing hair in 2018, I found a forum named hairlosstalk.com, and there people are absolutely depressed about hairloss. They were telling that if you had no hair, you had no life. There was even a thread that if you are balding young then it is a sign that you should give up and rot. On the other hand, here there are voices that bald head is actually more attractive than hair, that shaving head made them actually happier and that they were perceived as better looking (not only romantically speaking but also professionally). I have many concerns because I will be the only person who is shaved in my family and social circle.

So how it is? Will shaved head make me a failure and invisible to women or it will be a no big deal? Because the mixed information I get about slyness is making my head ache.
That's kind of like saying that people with colored hair, piercings or ink have no life while to the contrary, they do have a life.  Not my cup of tea by any stretch but people do pull it off.  So anyway, I can't understand why anyone would say that a bald dude has no life.  I have a life and I'm just bald with a couple of tats on my arm(from 17 years old).  Baldness shouldn't determine if one has a life or not.

Well, I think sly baldness is unique in its own sense, makes you even more outstanding than coloured hair. People say bald people have no life because with male pattern baldness they score no girls, be it dates or casual sex and they say it is because of going bald. Also, it was often ridiculed in my school (balding)
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: chuck63 on July 22, 2021, 08:40:11 AM
I keep my head shaved bald by choice.   I got a few comments about it at first, but nothing negative.   I enjoy being outdoors, keeping a good tan, and trying to stay in shape.   Honestly, itís just another haircut to me. 
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 22, 2021, 09:40:15 AM
@chuck63 , plus 1 here. You said it, just another haircut. I'm sure it will be the same in Poland as more guys discover how great it is to sport a shaved head.

I also think more and more women are attracted to baldie. I see alot of sly guys with great looking women!
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on July 24, 2021, 10:26:59 AM
@chuck63 , plus 1 here. You said it, just another haircut. I'm sure it will be the same in Poland as more guys discover how great it is to sport a shaved head.

I also think more and more women are attracted to baldie. I see alot of sly guys with great looking women!

In Poland unfortunately bald dome is not the fashionable choice, people choose to have tiktok logan paul fringe cringe or some sh*t like that

I hate with a passion the fact that I still have to wait to shave my head. My scalp is still diseased, my parents are doing elaborate plots so I do not shave at all and looking at myself I get only more depressed. Even more depressed considering people beating me down telling me that I will look like sh*t with or without hair but without it will be even worse because of the fear factor coming in. I began to hate my skull shape and my face to the point I just hate looking at myself and feel I will look like utter crap without my hopeless hair. The fact that people are dissing me for balding and my desire to shave that fuss on head simultaneously drives me nuts! I feel like whatever I do it will be a crappy decision...
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: DoberDaddy on July 25, 2021, 01:55:06 AM
I see lots of guys in Poland shaving their heads on Youtube...
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 25, 2021, 03:53:57 AM
You said your scalp is diseased so what's going on there?  I'm not sure what to say.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 25, 2021, 07:06:01 AM
@BaldBlindAt20 , your last post makes me think you might benefit by talking to a professional. If this hair situation is causing depression and stress, you should get some help. I know it's a bigger deal when you're young, and it's easy for us older guys to say it's just a haircut. I think the older you get, the less we care about what other people think.

If a shaved head isn't widely accepted there, maybe a buzzcut would work for now.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on July 25, 2021, 08:13:26 AM
@BaldBlindAt20 , your last post makes me think you might benefit by talking to a professional. If this hair situation is causing depression and stress, you should get some help. I know it's a bigger deal when you're young, and it's easy for us older guys to say it's just a haircut. I think the older you get, the less we care about what other people think.

If a shaved head isn't widely accepted there, maybe a buzzcut would work for now.

My therapist was not helping sh*t about this topic, even though in other matters he helped me a lot
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 26, 2021, 02:09:41 PM
I really don't know what to say about any of this.  If this matter is causing you great concern then I think you need to sort this out on your own because I don't think that any one of us is qualified to decide for you.  If you want to shave then shave.  If you don't want to shave then don't shave.  That's all I got.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 26, 2021, 05:31:00 PM
100% agree @clint902 .
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Razor X on July 28, 2021, 01:23:08 PM
@chuck63 , plus 1 here. You said it, just another haircut. I'm sure it will be the same in Poland as more guys discover how great it is to sport a shaved head.

I also think more and more women are attracted to baldie. I see alot of sly guys with great looking women!

In Poland unfortunately bald dome is not the fashionable choice, people choose to have tiktok logan paul fringe cringe or some sh*t like that

I hate with a passion the fact that I still have to wait to shave my head. My scalp is still diseased, my parents are doing elaborate plots so I do not shave at all and looking at myself I get only more depressed. Even more depressed considering people beating me down telling me that I will look like sh*t with or without hair but without it will be even worse because of the fear factor coming in. I began to hate my skull shape and my face to the point I just hate looking at myself and feel I will look like utter crap without my hopeless hair. The fact that people are dissing me for balding and my desire to shave that fuss on head simultaneously drives me nuts! I feel like whatever I do it will be a crappy decision...

If you want to shave your head, then do it.  Itís your head and no one can stop you from shaving it. Donít worry about whatís fashionable or what other people think - itís what YOU want that matters. Some people may not like it, but trust me they will get over it.  Take control and do what makes you happy. The world wonít end and no one will get hurt,  at the end of the day, itís just a haircut.  And if youíre already losing hair, you will need to adjust to having a bald head eventually, anyway. There is no ideal time.  Once itís done, you will stop obsessing about it and will feel better almost immediately.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on July 29, 2021, 06:12:31 AM
 O0
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Magoo on July 29, 2021, 09:40:58 PM
If you want to shave your head , go ahead and shave it. Give it 30 days, if you donít like it ,grow it back . It will grow back faster than you think. You say your head is diseased, have you seen a doctor?  Also if you need to apply medicine to your scalp ,  a bald head makes it easier and more efficient.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on July 30, 2021, 02:54:42 AM
If you want to shave your head , go ahead and shave it. Give it 30 days, if you donít like it ,grow it back . It will grow back faster than you think. You say your head is diseased, have you seen a doctor?  Also if you need to apply medicine to your scalp ,  a bald head makes it easier and more efficient.

Yeah I have some red spots of unknown origin (despite many medical tests), with long hair it is hard as f**k to manage it, but my parents are telling me 'no healtgy head no shaving'
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Razor X on July 30, 2021, 11:28:53 AM
1.  Shaving may improve your skin condition.  Others have had that experience.
2.  You are old enough to decide what kind of haircut you want without getting permission from anyone.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: chuck63 on July 30, 2021, 11:51:16 AM
I live in a hot and humid area.  When I had hair, I had problems with acne on my scalp constantly during the summer. Itís pretty much gone away since I started keeping my head shaved.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on July 30, 2021, 12:10:43 PM
1.  Shaving may improve your skin condition.  Others have had that experience.
2.  You are old enough to decide what kind of haircut you want without getting permission from anyone.

1. When I shave my face clean, I notice my skin problems magically cease to be on face lmao
2. My parents gave up trying to stop me. After I come back from pilgrimage, I shave that fucking head
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on July 30, 2021, 12:35:28 PM
For decades I had a severe acne like condition on my scalp. To my great surprise, it disappeared 3 or 4 days after my first headshave! If I try to grow my hair back, it returns in a week or two. As long as I shave my head everyday, my skin is totally clear.

I saw a dermatologist, and we tried several treatments that didn't work, so she wanted me to go on long term antibiotics, which I didn't want to do. She said, then keep shaving your head, it looks good!
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Razor X on July 30, 2021, 02:31:19 PM
1.  Shaving may improve your skin condition.  Others have had that experience.
2.  You are old enough to decide what kind of haircut you want without getting permission from anyone.

1. When I shave my face clean, I notice my skin problems magically cease to be on face lmao
2. My parents gave up trying to stop me. After I come back from pilgrimage, I shave that fucking head

Speaking from personal experience, it can be really difficult to take that first step and actually shave your head, but there comes a point when the desire to do it becomes so overwhelming that you just have to do it. You will know no peace until you do.  Remember that when your head is shaved, your hair starts growing back the very next day, so if you donít like it, itís really no big deal.  The worst thing that can happen is that you have to wait a little while for your hair to grow back to where it was.

Even if you donít like it, youíll never regret shaving your head. Youíll either love it or you will find out that itís not for you.  Either way, the situation is resolved.  If you do nothing, you will always wonder and continue to be tortured.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on July 30, 2021, 02:51:33 PM
1.  Shaving may improve your skin condition.  Others have had that experience.
2.  You are old enough to decide what kind of haircut you want without getting permission from anyone.

1. When I shave my face clean, I notice my skin problems magically cease to be on face lmao
2. My parents gave up trying to stop me. After I come back from pilgrimage, I shave that fucking head

Speaking from personal experience, it can be really difficult to take that first step and actually shave your head, but there comes a point when the desire to do it becomes so overwhelming that you just have to do it. You will know no peace until you do.  Remember that when your head is shaved, your hair starts growing back the very next day, so if you donít like it, itís really no big deal.  The worst thing that can happen is that you have to wait a little while for your hair to grow back to where it was.

Even if you donít like it, youíll never regret shaving your head. Youíll either love it or you will find out that itís not for you.  Either way, the situation is resolved.  If you do nothing, you will always wonder and continue to be tortured.

Yeah I hate that I am constantly on the fence - although I know that soon there will be no hair to cling on, I think when I finally shave, I will be really relieved and will ask myself here or in my head why was I waiting so long :D

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Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Razor X on July 30, 2021, 03:08:56 PM

Yeah I hate that I am constantly on the fence - although I know that soon there will be no hair to cling on, I think when I finally shave, I will be really relieved and will ask myself here or in my head why was I waiting so long :D


Thatís what usually happens.   :)
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on August 01, 2021, 02:26:15 PM
I shaved mine knowing full well that I had the option of staying bald or growing my hair back.  Now if it was a permanent thing, well, I would've given it a lot more thought. 
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on August 12, 2021, 02:50:09 PM
All right, I finally did it!!!

It is not sly yet, my hair are 2mm long, yet amount of positive reactions from myself and other people are overwhelming. People are telling me I look hot, that I suit the bald look, that I am aesthetic as f**k etc., so I consider this a win for myself. Even one guy who told me I am gonna be single for the rest of my life if I shave admitted today I look ,,zajebiście" (which means 'fucking good' in Polish language). As for the first day, it seems my confidence came back and hairloss does not seem to bother me. Although it is not with razor yet, thank all of you for support guys. You made my life come back to normal!
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Post by: slybeard on August 12, 2021, 03:25:57 PM
Good for you!
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Razorhead on August 12, 2021, 06:24:55 PM
@BaldBlindAt20  Congratulations! Itís a relief isnít it. So your hair length is barely a weeks worth of growth. Just think if you razor shave your head, what you have now you can grow back in only a week. The temptation to shave gets greater. Now you can see the possibility.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on August 13, 2021, 03:32:34 AM
@BaldBlindAt20  Congratulations! Itís a relief isnít it. So your hair length is barely a weeks worth of growth. Just think if you razor shave your head, what you have now you can grow back in only a week. The temptation to shave gets greater. Now you can see the possibility.

Dead srs now I have no problems with messy hair, heavy soaked hair or people telling me I look 36 when I am 20 :D When my scalp is healed I will try sly bald head as f**k, I do not even know why was I afraid to shave
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on August 13, 2021, 03:33:12 AM
Can't beat the nice clean feeling!  Hey, did you take any before and after pictures? 
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on August 14, 2021, 02:01:31 AM
Can't beat the nice clean feeling!  Hey, did you take any before and after pictures?
Yeah, but I will show them only in private messages :D
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on August 23, 2021, 12:09:27 PM
Yeah, but I will show them only in private messages :D
Ok but I'm wondering why the secrecy?  Not that it matter much but I'm just curious.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: BaldBlindAt20 on August 23, 2021, 03:40:29 PM
Yeah, but I will show them only in private messages :D
Ok but I'm wondering why the secrecy?  Not that it matter much but I'm just curious.

I am afraid of getting doxxxed, so usually I give none of vital informations about me, especially how I look, should anyone I know get on this forum, seeking bald solace
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Dragon on August 24, 2021, 01:55:54 AM
be happy in yourself, dont worry about what other people will think or say.  I know that can be difficult especially in younger people but you are you, you are unique, embrace being you
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Calvo1029 on September 21, 2021, 08:04:16 PM
I can't speak to other countries, but here in the US I notice so many more bald bros since COVID.

I hate those sites. I used to read them too.

My ONLY regret shaving my head is that I didn't do it sooner.

I went from agonizing over losing my hair to being mad missing a hair when I shave.

The bald me is the real me. I'm way more confident and it shows. Don't miss hair at all.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: clint902 on September 22, 2021, 03:07:49 AM
I've been shaving for almost a couple of years and spend a lot of time outside.  I no longer give my baldness much thought.  It's just the way I am.  Nobody cares and nobody judges me.  Doesn't matter, who cares?
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Thathawkguy001 on September 25, 2021, 06:31:48 PM
I am bald by choice and recently grew mine out for a month or more so far. Let me tell you the effect is this, after you shave more than 30 days you will love it too much to go back. Im currently planning on shaving soon and sticking with it because now hair just seems wrong I just want to have a nice barber shave so Iím waiting just a little bit.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: reddog on September 26, 2021, 06:24:39 AM
@Thathawkguy001 , you are right, most guys that keep a shaved head for a few months will have a hard time going back to hair. I've tried many times, but always return to smooth bald head. I think it becomes an obsession for some of us, but there are many worse things to become obsessed with! I wish shaved heads weren't so mainstream now, I really liked when it wasn't so common, and considered a little edgy. With guys of all ages choosing to shave it off, I think the baldie style will stay around for a long time.
Title: Re: I am genuinely confused about effects of shaving head
Post by: Razor X on September 26, 2021, 09:59:19 PM
I typically shave about 6 days a week and skip one day over the weekend. On the days that I skip, thereís not typically enough stubble to be visible, so the look is essentially the same, but it feels a lot different.  The top of my head is mostly smooth and itís quite a contrast from the stubble in the fringe area. Itís a strange sensation and I actually feel more bald on the days I donít shave.