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Offline thinningfabio

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what do you think
« on: January 21, 2007, 05:24:28 PM »
I am 18 years old. I recently realized that my hairline is receding. As you can see from the picture, my long hair largely hides it. The problem is that this can change completely depending on the way the wind is blowing. Upon asking friends if I should shave it off, i've had many staunch no's, and a few "that might look really good"'s. I know that there are many nonaesthetic reasons to shave as well, but since I'm living in Maine, there are many practical reasons to keep these locks. My case is a difficult one, because I can't simply grow my old haircut back if it doesn't look good. What do you guys think?



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Re: what do you think
« Reply #1 on: January 21, 2007, 06:11:18 PM »
I am 18 years old. I recently realized that my hairline is receding. As you can see from the picture, my long hair largely hides it. The problem is that this can change completely depending on the way the wind is blowing. Upon asking friends if I should shave it off, i've had many staunch no's, and a few "that might look really good"'s. I know that there are many nonaesthetic reasons to shave as well, but since I'm living in Maine, there are many practical reasons to keep these locks. My case is a difficult one, because I can't simply grow my old haircut back if it doesn't look good. What do you guys think?

Aaaw, bless your cottons, you're a cutie!  ;D
In my personal opinion, I think a skinhead would look great, guys with hair like that are damn sexy as far as I'm concerned. There's a lot of pro's for chopping it all off as well, for a start, it won't have to be washed so often and I bet getting a brush through it can sometimes be a real drag (geddit, drag...sorry!!  :-[)
It would take a bit of getting used to at first, but a haircut like that would look a hell of a lot smarter too. You'll have the girls flocking round ya, mark my words!!
Good luck with that hun, whatever you choose to do!

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Re: what do you think
« Reply #2 on: January 21, 2007, 06:17:27 PM »
hey thinning. welcome. always gotta go with a LAY-DAY'S opinion brother.


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Re: what do you think
« Reply #3 on: January 21, 2007, 06:30:23 PM »
Hey Fabio, welcome to Sly Bald Guys!!

What are some the reasons that you'd want to keep your hair?  What makes your long hair special to you?  I ask this so that I can make some recommendations as to how a bald dome can be as equally gratifying.

Friends' will often be very reluctant about agreeing with you to make a big change because they don't want you to blame them if you don't like the results of the change.  But, being that most of the guys here, including myself, have been where you are, I'm sure that you will find that it's quite the liberating experience.  Just imaging waking up everyday and not having to worry if someone is going to notice if you're balding or not because the wind it blowing.

In regards to practical reasons for keeping your hair in Maine, I'm guessing you mean the cold weather.  Well, many guys here live in very frigid areas and love having a shaved head.

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Re: what do you think
« Reply #4 on: January 21, 2007, 06:39:29 PM »
Well, ive had long hair since my sophmore year of highschool, and in a sense that hair has been with me for the most eventful years of my life. Once I had long hair, thats when I started to get noticed by girls (the amount of girls that came into my life exponentially grew from my crewcut to fabio days, but then again - i got older and more confident). Its really good long hair that many people envy. It just happens to be thinning rather rapidly, considering I'm barely 18, and once you find four long hairs in every meal, you start to wonder if the hair is worth it. The other thing is, my girlfriend of 2 years really doesnt want me to shave it. She thinks I'll look like a leukemia patient, which is understandable. Im young, 5''5', and not extremely tan. But, I do think I have the right shaped head for the bald look - im just not sure if I should do it now or wait until people can notice im balding, because I don't look all that bad. But in a sense, im also kinda sick of my long hair -its been a long time. Well, I think I answered your question - essentially I like it for aestetic and sentimental reasons.

Thanks for your replies,
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Re: what do you think
« Reply #5 on: January 21, 2007, 06:46:50 PM »
Well, ive had long hair since my sophmore year of highschool, and in a sense that hair has been with me for the most eventful years of my life. Once I had long hair, thats when I started to get noticed by girls (the amount of girls that came into my life exponentially grew from my crewcut to fabio days, but then again - i got older and more confident). Its really good long hair that many people envy.

Hi, Nick. 

Welcome to SBG.  An important thing to remember - You are not your haircut!!  There is a lot more to you than just your hair and you'll be the same person without it (probably better because you'll stop worrying about the thinning and be more confident).

You still have a lot of hair and it will probably be a long time before you are anywhere near bald.   But a shorter haircut would probably be a lot more flattering.  Long hair is weighed down and this makes the thinning appear more noticable.  My recommendation is to get your hair cut as short as you feel comfortable with.  As the thinning gradually gets worse, go a little shorter to compensate.  I'd say that you have quite a few years before you need to seriously think about shaving it all off -- unless you really want to, in which case I'd just say, "Go for it."

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Re: what do you think
« Reply #6 on: January 21, 2007, 06:52:04 PM »
Hey thinning, at 18 yrs of age you're too young to remember 80's rock bands. At a minimum, take it to a #2 setting. At that point, re-assess & take stock.

I was never a long haired guy, but you're hairline appears similar to mine at that age.

I'm with Paul, a lay-day's opinion carries more weight than one coming from a guy that hangs around websites dedicated to bald dudes. Damn, I should be looking at on-line porn.

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Re: what do you think
« Reply #7 on: January 21, 2007, 07:11:40 PM »
Thanks guys. I think im probably going to keep the hair for now (unfortunately, i dont think i can cut it because of how high the hairline is). ill probably be back here - just don't know if itl be 2 weeks from now or 20 years from now.

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Re: what do you think
« Reply #8 on: January 21, 2007, 11:26:38 PM »
Welcome to the group, Nick!  I would listen to the the ladies, shave it!  There are so many more benfits to having a shaved head that you'll discover.
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Re: what do you think
« Reply #9 on: January 21, 2007, 11:41:35 PM »
I would say in your case, you need to decide how important hair is to you.      I personally think it's a myth that people don't have the body type/head shape whatever to pull it off.

Ultimately at the end of the day, you are the one looking in the mirror, you are the one dressing up to go out with your friends, etc.    Whatever route you choose has to give you confidence in whatever you are doing.    Whether it's trying to impress a girl, hanging out with your buds, or giving presentations/answering questions in class, confidence and how you handle yourself is what matters.

All that people see is your happiness/confidence or unhappiness.   It doesn't matter whether you have hair or not, tall or short, etc.....

To me though, it seems you want to shave it, but have some lingering doubts because you are afraid what if I hate it and I can't ever grow it back. 

Thanks guys. I think im probably going to keep the hair for now (unfortunately, i dont think i can cut it because of how high the hairline is). ill probably be back here - just don't know if itl be 2 weeks from now or 20 years from now.





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Re: what do you think
« Reply #10 on: January 22, 2007, 12:49:34 AM »
I would shave it, i wish i shaved my head back in 1997, i didnt shave my head until 2004



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Re: what do you think
« Reply #11 on: January 22, 2007, 03:29:10 PM »
Cold???  You wanna try being here today, the snow is deep and the nipples are like rutt ends!!
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Re: what do you think
« Reply #12 on: January 22, 2007, 03:46:59 PM »
Cold???  You wanna try being here today, the snow is deep and the nipples are like rutt ends!!
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Re: what do you think
« Reply #13 on: January 22, 2007, 09:47:50 PM »
I admit the idea is still pretty tempting, life would be more simple - but im only 18, skinny, and can easily pass for someone with alot of hair - on the other hand - i feel less confident now, and the considerable loss of hair ive had has made my look less apealing. I sometimes resort to hats to cover up the hair loss, which seems to work. I definitely respect you sly guys - and I kinda wanna join the crew - but I also really care about how my gf perceives me - and she loves long haired guys. The thing is, alot of what I love about long hair is going away with my hair. Instead of being able to play with the hair, I reach and feel thin receding hair, which i'm afraid to touch -because it might fall out. Im even noticing some thinning in the crown. She thinks im crazy for even thinking i have a receding hairline, but i know i do. she also argues that if i do have one, i should savor the hair while it lasts - but thats hard to do when its thining. But, how can i be confident with a shaved head if my gf doesnt want it to happen? I know I should be my own man, but the ramifications are clear. jeez, balding is difficult!

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Re: what do you think
« Reply #14 on: January 22, 2007, 10:16:26 PM »
I admit the idea is still pretty tempting, life would be more simple - but im only 18, skinny, and can easily pass for someone with alot of hair - on the other hand - i feel less confident now, and the considerable loss of hair ive had has made my look less apealing. I sometimes resort to hats to cover up the hair loss, which seems to work. I definitely respect you sly guys - and I kinda wanna join the crew - but I also really care about how my gf perceives me - and she loves long haired guys. The thing is, alot of what I love about long hair is going away with my hair. Instead of being able to play with the hair, I reach and feel thin receding hair, which i'm afraid to touch -because it might fall out. Im even noticing some thinning in the crown. She thinks im crazy for even thinking i have a receding hairline, but i know i do. she also argues that if i do have one, i should savor the hair while it lasts - but thats hard to do when its thining. But, how can i be confident with a shaved head if my gf doesnt want it to happen? I know I should be my own man, but the ramifications are clear. jeez, balding is difficult!

1)   If you feel less confident you need a change now rather than later.   How drastic that is up to you.

2)   If she really loves/cares about you, she loves you for the person you are, not your long hair.    A lot of the significant others of the guys here have tried to get them to grow back hair, exhibited displeasure, etc, but others like it(see magmababe).   And either way, it isn't affecting their relationships to the best of my knowledge.    Also, has your gf dyed her hair(highlights count) or gone either long to short or vice versa since you started dating?   If she has, then remember how you reacted and realize you are still together.   If not, i'd personally be really surprised.   Because shaving your head really is no different than when a girl says I want to go red from blonde, or add highlights, or chops off long hair/goes for hair extensions.     

3)  Body type doesn't matter.    All that matters is how you feel about being bald and how you carry yourself.    If it does matter to you, you can go to the gym if you want, many guys here discuss their workouts daily.   

4)  Hair was given to us as protection from the cold.  Our version of fur, to  speak.   We all lose it eventually, or it turns gray and people wish they had none.     
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