Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: tryingtostaypositive on August 11, 2017, 04:47:47 AM
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I'm curious to know what are your experiences with online dating sites/apps?
Do you feel that being bald/lacking hair have an impact on your overall chances and other competition when it comes to attracting women?
As you know studies have been done like this one - http://www.thebaldtruth.com/articles/the-maximum-hair-results-are-in-women-want-men-with-hair/ proving the obvious that women do prefer men with hair overall.
Do you think that even tall, good looking bald men (as in men who can pull of the bald look) can be successful as the equally good looking guy with hair? I feel my confidence has definitely been ravaged over the years as I've progressively lost my hair to the point of having zero today. I'm trying to stay positive but it's not easy when you feel you're not getting the same level of attention as you once used to.
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I've been married twice and I'm currently in a relationship, so no, being bald hasn't affected my chances with the ladies. FYI, my marriages failed, but my baldness wasn't even on the list of reasons why. I had a few days growth on my head the other day and ran into my ex-wife and she offered to shave my head for me! (I declined, but it was still cool of her to offer).
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And I am guessing that most women want men who are wealthy? Another thing that MOST of us can't attain. I don't date women, I date men. I can tell you that I have NEVER had an issues with my being bald, balding, shaved, etc.
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I've been married twice and I'm currently in a relationship, so no, being bald hasn't affected my chances with the ladies. FYI, my marriages failed, but my baldness wasn't even on the list of reasons why. I had a few days growth on my head the other day and ran into my ex-wife and she offered to shave my head for me! (I declined, but it was still cool of her to offer).
I guess yes as I said being darker skinned does help because it blends in alot better than it does for white guys.
Even so, I am still literally having zero luck on these apps and sites these days. I barely get any matches on Tinder or other apps, the few sites I'm on I'll get the occasional message.
I'm really not sure whether it is due to being bald or whether I am genuinely just unlucky. I think I have a decent, interesting profile with some fairly good photos but obviously I want to show that I am bald so have put on photos in good lighting.
Furthermore, in general when I'm out too, I've definitely noticed I get less attention than I used to when I had even a little bit of hair at the front.
Do you think being totally bald stands out more than having some hair? I mean generally it's being said that the totally shaved look is more attractive because it expresses confidence etc. but I'm not so sure
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Yes, I think having a shaved head limits the women that are interested in me on dating sites. The fact is, some just don't like bald heads at all. Some don't care, and a small percentage go crazy for sly guys.
For me, as desperate as I am, I choose to wait for that gal that thinks shaved heads are attractive/sexy. I like it, and think it looks good on me. Gotta do what makes you happy.
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Be confident in yourself. Yes some women prefer men with flowing locks. We haven't got that lol. You have to work with what you have. I've seen plenty of bald lads with plenty of ladies and like wise some of my mates with hair have no luck. A friend of mine said be confident, make them laugh and it's good advice. I'm currently single myself but I haven't really been looking and have no interest in a bird this year. I got pretty good attention online but I'm more old fashioned and online dating isn't for me. Dress good and stay in shape believe in yourself, you can't change having hair so move on and work with the tools provided.
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Be confident in yourself. Yes some women prefer men with flowing locks. We haven't got that lol. You have to work with what you have. I've seen plenty of bald lads with plenty of ladies and like wise some of my mates with hair have no luck. A friend of mine said be confident, make them laugh and it's good advice. I'm currently single myself but I haven't really been looking and have no interest in a bird this year. I got pretty good attention online but I'm more old fashioned and online dating isn't for me. Dress good and stay in shape believe in yourself, you can't change having hair so move on and work with the tools provided.
Yeah I don't know man. I feel I'm not attracting the women that I want. The women that do seem to be attracted to me are the ones that I don't find attractive. Always the way I know.
So you say you do have success with women looking like you do with no hair, online as well? Studies show that women 5 times more likely to respond to a guy with hair than no hair.
Generally speaking I still don't see that many bald guys with attractive women. I still think it's fairly rare. Usually the women they're with are very average looking and/or slightly overweight. When's the last time you saw a smoking hot chick (9/10) with a bald dude? Just doesn't happen that often.
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Be confident in yourself. Yes some women prefer men with flowing locks. We haven't got that lol. You have to work with what you have. I've seen plenty of bald lads with plenty of ladies and like wise some of my mates with hair have no luck. A friend of mine said be confident, make them laugh and it's good advice. I'm currently single myself but I haven't really been looking and have no interest in a bird this year. I got pretty good attention online but I'm more old fashioned and online dating isn't for me. Dress good and stay in shape believe in yourself, you can't change having hair so move on and work with the tools provided.
Yeah I don't know man. I feel I'm not attracting the women that I want. The women that do seem to be attracted to me are the ones that I don't find attractive. Always the way I know.
So you say you do have success with women looking like you do with no hair, online as well? Studies show that women 5 times more likely to respond to a guy with hair than no hair.
Generally speaking I still don't see that many bald guys with attractive women. I still think it's fairly rare. Usually the women they're with are very average looking and/or slightly overweight. When's the last time you saw a smoking hot chick (9/10) with a bald dude? Just doesn't happen that often.
And that, my friend, is part of the problem. It seems like you're worried about the women being shallow toward bald(ing) men, but you are being shallow towards women who may be the best thing for you even if they aren't a perfect 10. Not trying to be blunt here, but with that attitude, you may be searching for a long, long time. Just remember beauty isn't necessarily on the outside.
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I maybe wrong , but I keep hearing troll. Just to much negativity , always contradicting statements, made to help his way of thinking. If your bald and can't come to accept the fact , then maybe you should looking into a hair club . For some people this maybe the answer.
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I was out during xtmas and remember seeing a bald lad with an absolute stunner. I've seen plenty of them about. It's confidence. Low confidence is more ugly to most women then a bald head. Look it is what it is friend. You need to make the most of your bald head rather then spending the rest of your life putting yourself down. Maybe give online dating a brake and do the old fashioned "hi how are you" in a pub. If you feel you are unable to cope with being sly you can always get a wig.
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I maybe wrong , but I keep hearing troll. Just to much negativity , always contradicting statements, made to help his way of thinking. If your bald and can't come to accept the fact , then maybe you should looking into a hair club . For some people this maybe the answer.
Well said.
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I'm not a troll, sorry to disappoint. I'm just someone who's struggling through this and I figured this was a support group.
Now watch this please (from the UK) about how girls feel about bald guys - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T0ruOQHr060
Notice how the best looking women all said NO...
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It doesn't really matter what the video says. Your success or failure with dating still has a lot to do with how you present yourself. People generally don't like to be with someone with a negative outlook. And consider this: would you rather have a woman who's absolutely gorgeous or one who's fun to be with and accepts you the way you are? If you choose the former you're cutting yourself off from a lot of potential love interests. And it would make you just as shallow as the people you seem to want to attract.
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Most if not all members try to b e supportive. But no matter what someone suggest, your back with negative remarks. Some I find offensive when you say , bald guys can't seem to date hot babes. Your welcome to your opinion, but on a forum of mostly positive bald people you sound trollish.
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The first BAD indication is referring to women as "Hot Babes". What do YOU look like? Are you a "10"? If you are a slouch, and blame your inability to meet "HOT" women on you hair, you have more than an issue with your HAIR.
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The first BAD indication is referring to women as "Hot Babes". What do YOU look like? Are you a "10"? If you are a slouch, and blame your inability to meet "HOT" women on you hair, you have more than an issue with your HAIR.
I am only making an accurate observation from my own experience of going out and observing reality, I simply do not see many bald dudes with really attractive women and that video, I know it's only one video backs up that point. What I look like is irrelevant. In any case I have mentioned that having lost my hair, I'm not feeling great about it.
I think reddog who responded to me earlier at least understands my point that baldness is a deterrent to many but I feel many on this forum do not want to admit that.
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You're so weak, man... Mentally at least. Look at the Rock - Vin Diesel, Jason Statum - I work at a resort and I've seen many hot chicks with bald dudes... I haven't notice any difference in my dating life. If you're struggling - it's because your insecurity is showing. If you wear your dome proud and confident - you will score.
Wow, I just can't believe it.
Let me give you some insight. Men fall in love with their eyes - women fall in love with their ears. Live and learn. It hasn't affected my game - that I can tell you...
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The first BAD indication is referring to women as "Hot Babes". What do YOU look like? Are you a "10"? If you are a slouch, and blame your inability to meet "HOT" women on you hair, you have more than an issue with your HAIR.
I am only making an accurate observation from my own experience of going out and observing reality, I simply do not see many bald dudes with really attractive women and that video, I know it's only one video backs up that point. What I look like is irrelevant. In any case I have mentioned that having lost my hair, I'm not feeling great about it.
I think reddog who responded to me earlier at least understands my point that baldness is a deterrent to many but I feel many on this forum do not want to admit that.
You can admit if you feel baldness is a deterrent to your dating. But when you say many on this forum will not admit to the same ,you are then looking to raise negative comments. Aka : troll .
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Just come hang out at my gym. You'll see a lot of hot chicks hanging out with bald guys.
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In fairness most of the girls saying no wouldn't be at the top of most guys pulling list😂😂😂
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Time and time again my point is being proved though. Bald guys simply are at a disadvantage. I understand that it's about confidence and how you come present yourself to a degree, however as I said before, we are all judged initially outwardly on the way we look. So if baldness is already something that turns most women off, then these sly bald guys never have a chance to prove that confidence and show off their personality, BECAUSE THEY ARE REJECTED AT THE FIRST STAGE. Looks aren't everything but obviously they matter.
In the same way, you see an overweight woman in a bar/club, most men aren't into that and so they're not going to approach her, even if she happened to be a sweet, decent, genuine caring woman with many good traits. It's the same with sly, bald guys; most women will gravitate towards men with hair.
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Tryingtostaypositive , many of your statements are accurate. But your crying about having no hair doesn't solve " your " problem does it ? Other than complaining about your lack of hair what , do you suggest we should do ? You we're dealt a certain hand in life make the best of it. The other forum where they make fun of us and try to put hair on the heads is where you should stay .
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Tryingtostaypositive , many of your statements are accurate. But your crying about having no hair doesn't solve " your " problem does it ? Other than complaining about your lack of hair what , do you suggest we should do ? You we're dealt a certain hand in life make the best of it. The other forum where they make fun of us and try to put hair on the heads is where you should stay .
You are correct, I guess I just need to find a better coping strategy to deal with this and feel more positive. What would solve the issue is if I did meet my ideal partner because she would accept me with my bald head and everything else. So for me, that's what it really comes down to. It's all to do with women and being able to attract the right person. Once I do that, then why would I need to worry about being bald anymore?
Are there other single bald guys who feel this way?
I remember reading a story about a guy in his 50s who was married, had children, had his own business etc. was successful in every area of his life but his hair loss bothered him so much that he decided to go for a transplant and I just thought why is he that bothered...I mean he has everything he wants and at that age I can't imagine even caring that much.
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Tryingtostaypositive , many of your statements are accurate. But your crying about having no hair doesn't solve " your " problem does it ? Other than complaining about your lack of hair what , do you suggest we should do ? You we're dealt a certain hand in life make the best of it. The other forum where they make fun of us and try to put hair on the heads is where you should stay .
You are correct, I guess I just need to find a better coping strategy to deal with this and feel more positive. What would solve the issue is if I did meet my ideal partner because she would accept me with my bald head and everything else. So for me, that's what it really comes down to. I know for other guys, regardless of their relationship status, the baldness is still going to be a problem.
The old saying " we all have that certain partner out there " is probably true . Most people have doubts, especially in our younger years. So just keep on trying you never know when that special person will show up.
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I know of two examples of women being attracted to bald men. My daughter' best friend at age 25 met, fell in love with and married a guy who was fully bald at age 26. Five years later, they're happily married. One of my neighbors had very advanced MPB and shaved his head on his wedding day. He and his wife have three kids and just celebrated 12 years of marriage.
Yes, some women are turned off by baldness. People, both men and women, have inherent biases, but if we let our perceived shortcomings keep us out of the race, we have no one to blame for our unhappiness but ourselves. My wife is attractive and charming. It took me a ton of courage to ask her our because I'm not the most athletic, best looking, richest, wittiest guy, but I'm really glad I took a shot because we're happily married for 33 years. Guess what? She loves me as much as bald guy as when I had a full head of hair.
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I suppose you're fortunate in that you got in there before you went bald. That certainly helps.
I was talking to this girl online and this is what she had to say about bald guys -
The majority of attractive women in our age group (22-35) do not find bald men attractive. Not all but most. Guys in your situation need to have other compensating factors such as a great personality and a huge circle of fun friends, a great house, a boat, a great job, great connections, etc.
Her screen name is LA Doll.
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Dude. That might be one of the most shallow things I've ever heard a women say/write. I shaved when I was 26 and quickly wished I would have done it sooner due to the amount of attention I received from women. I lived in SF at the time.
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"LA Doll"? My guess is that she's not.
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I on the contrary meet many girls who like bald men
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I think this is a question every man who considers shaving their head asks themselves - Will it effect my attractiveness and chances with women?
Ultimately, from my experience and observation, the visual side to attracting women DOES play a role, but is not the be all and end all of your success in dating. It really falls down to how you CARRY yourself as a man. If you perceive yourself as less of a worthy man, then the women in your life will literally be able to smell the self doubt you have. A man with genuine confidence on an INTERNAL level is far more attractive than a man whose confidence relies on external traits (such as good hair, height, etc). I talk about this subject in one of my vlog posts on my youtube channel:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZRt-UJcCZ-M
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i have been married to my wife for 25 years,she loves my bald head better than me with hair.
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The thing that most guys believe when attracting women is that looks matter to women as much as it does to us. You can be a 6ft4, model but have zero confidence and see how far that gets you. I grew up being comsidered “handsome” but i was insecure even tho my looks attracted women and turned alot of women off.
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The thing that most guys believe when attracting women is that looks matter to women as much as it does to us. You can be a 6ft4, model but have zero confidence and see how far that gets you. I grew up being comsidered “handsome” but i was insecure even tho my looks attracted women and turned alot of women off.
Practically all my dating came after I was bald. Before that, I had little to no confidence in myself as a balding younger guy.
Today, I wear my bald head like a badge of honor.You gotta.
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Same as Chris. My dating life start when I shave my head.
Pd: a shiny dome can be a good topic to talk about...
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Same as Chris. My dating life start when I shave my head.
Pd: a shiny dome can be a good topic to talk about...
I suspect I draw a different group of woman as a bald guy. Having a full head of hair would likely be a different mix.
And I'm VERY okay w/ that.
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Same as Chris. My dating life start when I shave my head.
Pd: a shiny dome can be a good topic to talk about...
I suspect I draw a different group of woman as a bald guy. Having a full head of hair would likely be a different mix.
And I'm VERY okay w/ that.
If you were attractive before the shave, you're going to be equal attractive after the shave. Hair doesn't make you better looking,same with a bald head. Most people are attracted to CONFIDENCE.
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Most people are attracted to CONFIDENCE.
That's the key phrase right there.