Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: yoda in 5 yrs on April 29, 2007, 06:50:12 AM
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Hey everybody, I've been lurking these boards for some time, but now I think I need some more support.
I'm a 19 year old norwegian, and my hairline started receding all back in junior high. It's been a slow process, but it's really beginning to show now. I've been playing with the thought of taking it all off, and these last few days I've gotten close to taking the ultimate decision. After seeing all of your great results in the "before/after" thread, I've really become accustomed to the thought of being sly, and I was looking forward to bringing out the clippers.
Then comes the fatal moment. I told my father yesterday that I was planning to cut my hair off, and as he didn't give me much of a response, I thought that he was ok with it. He has been bald for a few years now, and my brother also cut his hair off recently.
Then, earlier today, out of the blue my father says: "You know son, I don't really think the bald look would look good on you."
Now, I know that I shouldn't let my father be the judge of my decision, but his comment really had a psychological impact on me. It didn't help much at all, and now I'm back at being unsure of whether I should go sly or not.
Now what to do?
I'd appreciate any of your advice, thanks.
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Give it a try...it will grow back if you don't like it. However, I'm sure it will look good and you'll love it.
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First, allow me to welcome you to the SBG forum yoda in 5 yrs.
Next , I think that you should go for it also, I think that your father only want's you to be happy and confident, and if choosing to Sly does both than why not?
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Then, earlier today, out of the blue my father says: "You know son, I don't really think the bald look would look good on you."
Now, I know that I shouldn't let my father be the judge of my decision, but his comment really had a psychological impact on me. It didn't help much at all, and now I'm back at being unsure of whether I should go sly or not.
Now what to do?
Wow, can I relate to this! The only negative comments I ever got when I went sly were from my mom -- and they were very negative and very frequent. I knew it would be coming, but it still had a huge impact when it did come. And I actually grew my hair back because of it. But within a month or two, I had the urge to go sly again. And let me tell you -- once that urge hits, resistance is futile!! You just can't rest until you do it!
I wanted to look good and I also wanted other people to think I looked good. I finally asked myself, was trying to look good for my mother or was I trying to look good for -- well, others? And out came the razor again. I got more flack, but I just ignored it and eventually the negative comments ceased.
If your hair is going anyway, it really is a no-brainer. You're going to end up bald, so the "you won't look good with a bald head" argument is really an irrelevant one. I've never seen a partially bald head that looked better than a completely sly one. Never. Don't let the naysayers rule your life. Regardless of what you choose, there will always be those who like how you look and those who don't. I know it's hard, but do what you must to make yourself happy.
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Wow, thanks for the hasty responses, and especially for your story RazorX.
I've set the date for d-day to 1st of May, and with your encouraging comments I think I'm going to go through with it.
If I don't do it, that would be the same as admitting that my father was right, and I can't stand for that. I'm gonna prove him wrong:D
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I can totally understand about negative reactions from important people in our life, yoda in 5. When I first went sly the reaction from my family was not a positive one. It was no doubt made worse by the fact that I was totally BBC. If your concern is about how you will look, why not try a virtual shave. BaldyGo.com offers such a service and you and your dad can see that it will really suit you. BTW, welcome to SBG's.
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Welcome Joda,
close your yes's and ask your self do you like shaved heads, is it yes open your ye's and shave it,and iff you like it shave it again and is it not lat it grow back
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you wanted to be bald before dad chimed in. Do the deed then. What others think is not important here, it boils down to making yourself happy.
Plus it's hair, if you happen to not like being sly, it grows back.
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Welcome Yoda,
Seeing that your dad is probably where you got the hair thinning genes, I would say not to worry about him. It's your life. It's better to try it out rather than torment yourself year after year. If it doesn't work right away, let it grow back to a short buzz (which is also much cooler than trying to cover up hair loss). Everyone knows when a guy is losing his hair no matter what tricks he tries to hide it. I think you need a new name... how about 'Yul Brynner in 2 days?'
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Welcome Yoda,
GBorn reiterated one of the most basic, black-n-white considerations that is worth repeating:
"Try it....if you don't like it....or if your life takes a downward spiral.....grow it back"
Pretty simple, man.
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Welcome Yoda to SBG. I just want to add that once you make it to Sly and your father ask why you did it anyway, tell him you decided to take control of the situation. I have often said that to people when asked and they seem to respect it more than "I was losing it anyway". Don't forget that throughout life it is meant for kids to defy their parents decision on certain things anyway. Can't wait for my son to defy me!! >:( ...LOL.
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Welcome Yoda,
GBorn reiterated one of the most basic, black-n-white considerations that is worth repeating:
"Try it....if you don't like it....or if your life takes a downward spiral.....grow it back"
Pretty simple, man.
Welcome Yoda...
...totally agree with GBORN and Robmeister. I was in a similar situation when I was your age and did shave it off, although it was bootcamp when I did it. I grew it back and was content holding on to it for a few more years...probably a few more years than I should have. 8)
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Sly Bald Guys, Yoda welcome to!
Will bring you the force, shaving your head.
What the others have said, I echo.
In all seriousness, I echo what these guys have said and urge you to go for it. Keep it for 30 days to gauge how YOU really like it.
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I say do it. You'll love the look, and your dad will get used to it if he doesn't like it. Once you do it, you'll see it's not a big deal--just another style of haircut. The bigger change is the feeling of liberation.
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Welcome to SBG Yoda. Like others have said, what matters most is how you like the sly look and you won't know unless you try it. You are fortunate enough that should you not like it you can grow it back. Give it a shot and I bet you'll stay Sly! O0
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Yoda, if you have been lurking for a while, you've seen some amazing before and after photos. Try it. Give it a little time.
Welcome to the club.
Max
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Ditto what the others have said. I'm still fairly new to being SLY but one thing I am learning is that you have to look deep within yourself and determine what it is that you really want. And like we have all said, it will grow back if you don't like it and it you don't it'll probably just really bother you that you didn't give it a try.
Best of luck... O0
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I'm just a couple years older than you Y in 5 but I'm BBC! (Bald By Choice) The up side is, if you don't like the SLY look you can grow what you have back! Looking at your pic, I think the SLY look will look really good on you! O0
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Go for it. You can always grow it back if you don't like it. Give it at least a good month though so you can settle into your "new look." Good luck.
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Go for it. You can always grow it back if you don't like it. Give it at least a good month though so you can settle into your "new look." Good luck.
Lance is right, if you do it you have to keep it smooth for at least a month before you can make a good desicion to keep it bald or grow it back...
but you know since you have the idea of a bald head in your head..you will never be happy until you've scraped the dome smooth....that is a fact , my friend!
Do it, you'll feel so much better...good luck dude!
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Yoda,Don't wait 5 years. :-\
Do want you want to do now! 8)
Don't let other people dictate what you want to do. :/O
You seem "SLY" enough to make the right decision! O0
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Yoda,
May I suggest one other thing that I don't see on here. I think that your fathers comment had more to do with himself than you. You losing your hair may refelct on his own aging process and his loss of youth, your growing up and all the changes that have to be made as he ages and you to. Might be something you explore with him while you go through this process.
I say go for it, I think you will look great, and hope it feels good as mine does. I am new to this and don't regret it at all, only wish I had done it sooner.
Koaa2
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Yup do it.
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You'll look great, you should def. do it!
Let us know what you do ;D
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what others say really isn't important, it's how you feel about it.
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You may have already done it by now!
But maybe use the big guard and work your way down!!
Maybe the gradual change will work!! It worked with my family!!!
Its a great feeling to not have hair!!!!
Post a pic when you do it!!!!
Besides that you have a great bunch of Sly Guys for support!!!! 8) 8)
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try it.
you have nothing to lose.