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Confidence and Success => How to Build Confidence => Topic started by: MarkusToe on March 10, 2013, 04:32:01 PM

Title: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: MarkusToe on March 10, 2013, 04:32:01 PM
hey guys, I've been on a holiday trip to paris for 4 days and have been very self-conscious all the time, I haven't shaved for a week now and being in a big city with all those good looking people around made me often feel very uncomfortable and being on holiday means making photos, it was the first time I got photographed without much hair, so when I saw the photos I felt a little shocked

here's on photo I dont like at all
https://www.dropbox.com/s/ygoe9gt4kq0rzwd/DSCN2414.JPG (https://www.dropbox.com/s/ygoe9gt4kq0rzwd/DSCN2414.JPG)

I just hope that I dont look like that in real life - maybe you know that feeling - but why I am sharing this with you is because I found this article http://io9.com/5929667/why-do-we-hate-seeing-photos-of-ourselves (http://io9.com/5929667/why-do-we-hate-seeing-photos-of-ourselves) I think it is quite interesting

maybe some of you know what I am talking about
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: benlen on March 10, 2013, 04:51:56 PM
I'll be honest dude––I think, like me, you're more self-critical of yourself than most other people. I think you look better completely shaved, but even buzzed looks just fine! In that photo you've got a great smile and appear happy!

Also, if you're in Paris, LIVE IT UP! Paris a beautiful city that I visited in 2011, there's no place like it! Get off SlyBaldGuys for a couple days and live in the moment!

And yes, Euros are (generally) much more beautiful than Americans––French women, OH MAN! damnnnnn!

It's perfectly okay to feel self-conscious next to Europeans who look great from good breeding and universal health care. You're not alone in feeling that way!

You look great dude, don't think otherwise!

Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: Razor X on March 10, 2013, 05:10:58 PM
The photo looks fine. Most of us don't like photos of ourselves and you probably wouldn't like this one even if you had hair.
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: Itall on March 10, 2013, 05:14:09 PM
I honestly don't see what you are concerned about. You look great.
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: MarkusToe on March 10, 2013, 05:23:25 PM
And yes, Euros are (generally) much more beautiful than Americans––French women, OH MAN! damnnnnn!

It's perfectly okay to feel self-conscious next to Europeans who look great from good breeding and universal health care. You're not alone in feeling that way!

haha, I am european myself  ;D
thanks for the compliments, what do you think about the article?
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: Frontier Guy on March 10, 2013, 06:01:36 PM
Markus, you are worrying too much. The photo and your avatar are both great. You look confident and have nothing to be concerned about.

The article was interesting. Seems to me I recall about 15 years a unique product being demonstrated which was a mirror which displayed the reversed image, so what you saw is what others actually saw. Doesn't seem to have caught on though.
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: benlen on March 10, 2013, 06:19:58 PM
haha, I am european myself  ;D

*ZING* !!!! Well then I suppose that makes you better looking than average Americans by default eh? There's your answer dude, why you even posting this! :-p
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: Sir Harry on March 10, 2013, 06:23:00 PM
Markus, I think the photo with the short buzz is pretty good, and I agree that you should have a good time while in Paris....but I can kind of relate to how you hate to look at your own pictures (in a way). I hate hearing my own voice played back on TV or whatever, because it doesn't sound manly enough to me....Getting back to your situation, if it makes you feel better, just shave it again and enjoy!. The point I was trying to make is, we all are critical of something that we don't like about ourselves, just chalk it up to human nature.

P.S. Bring me a souvenir back will ya ;D ;D (just kidding)
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: NoPony on March 10, 2013, 06:37:37 PM
Markus, I think the photo with the short buzz is pretty good, but I agree that you should have a good time while in Paris....but I can kind of relate to how you hate to look at your own pictures (in a way). I hate hearing my own voice played back on TV or whatever, because it doesn't sound manly enough to me....Getting back to your situation, if it makes you feel better, just shave it again and enjoy!. The point I was trying to make is, we all are critical of something that we don't like about ourselves, just chalk it up to human nature.

P.S. Bring me a souvenir back will ya ;D ;D (just kidding)
Unfortunately what you hear on a recording of your voice is what others hear all the time, and I agree it never sounds as good as I think it sounds to me, from the inside out.
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: b.driscoll on March 10, 2013, 06:42:11 PM
Sorry ''Benlen''...........but Euro's are better looking than Americans???  I doubt that since the majority of Americans are of European descent. ps...............I have also heard that Americans are much better in the hygiene department.
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: Viking on March 10, 2013, 06:55:40 PM
Sorry ''Benlen''...........but Euro's are better looking than Americans???  I doubt that since the majority of Americans are of European descent. ps...............I have also heard that Americans are much better in the hygiene department.

I'm pretty sure personal hygiene has nothing to do with where you are from.  :/O

I'm British and I don't know if it is just a UK thing but I don't really feel or consider myself as European. Maybe it is because the UK isn't part of mainland Europe, or because we do things a little different (we don't use the euro money and we drive on the correct side of the road), or maybe because the rest of Europe doesn't seem to like us. I dunno!

However I do know there are some smelly Brits and some lovely smelling Brits!!  ;D
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: Sir Harry on March 10, 2013, 07:22:20 PM
Now, now guys...let's get back on topic here....I admit I shouldn't have said anything about how I hate my voice, but I was just trying to convey to Markus about we as humans have something about ourselves that we don't like. That said, carry on Folks!
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: Razor X on March 10, 2013, 07:25:05 PM


I'm British and I don't know if it is just a UK thing but I don't really feel or consider myself as European. Maybe it is because the UK isn't part of mainland Europe, or because we do things a little different (we don't use the euro money and we drive on the correct side of the road), or maybe because the rest of Europe doesn't seem to like us. I dunno!


It's like Penelope Keith once said in To The Manor Born when the topic of Europe came up, "You may be in Europe; I'm in Britain."   ;D

Thread hijack is now officially over.   ;)
Title: Re: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: gutsygirl on March 10, 2013, 08:47:25 PM
Dude I think you seriously look great in both pics and I especially like seeing your smile! So no worries, eh? If I didn't feel this way either I wouldn't have posted or I would have told you otherwise...I'm blatantly honest like that. Enjoy Paris!! (From one French Canadian to one Brit!)
Title: Re: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: gutsygirl on March 10, 2013, 09:03:24 PM
By the way, I enjoyed the video and link to the mirror image article. I've found this to be true myself as well.
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: mrzed on March 10, 2013, 09:15:20 PM
Both your Avatar and your Paris photo look good, although the Paris photo has some shadow of several days' growth.  I'd prefer shaved smooth. Just feels so good.

It does take a while to get used to the new completely sly look. I still find myself looking in the reflective windows and mirrors and feel like I'm still getting used to my new look. It's better than it was a year ago, but it does take a while to get used to it.

Mr. Z.
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: leighmundo40 on March 11, 2013, 03:23:54 AM
I TOTALLY know how you feel, I have yet to have a photo taken without me wearing a hat of myself since ditching my system over 12months ago!!

I think we are our own worst enemies! I looked at your photo and thought you looked absolutely fine! But the thing is, we tend not to listen to the positives from others, more the voice in our heads going "You look weird! You look odd!"

It's a battle! But honestly, you look great!
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: MarkusToe on March 11, 2013, 03:51:22 AM
I think it has a lot to do wirh comparing myself to others
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: Sir Harry on March 11, 2013, 09:36:10 AM
Ah, yes, one of the biggest flaws of human nature....trying to measure ourselves against others....I've done that many of times myself in my bald years.....One step to make yourself happier with you is reciting silently to yourself "My standards not yours" This even applies in the world of bald. You'll get there in time, Markus, keep your head up!
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: sahil15 on March 11, 2013, 10:24:02 AM
Mate you look great... nothing to worry about... I do understand how you feel though... I dont think Im still comfortable with anyone taking a photo of me from the back or side.....And who are you comparing yourself too? you dont need to compare yourself to anyone... you rock the fully shaved and buzzed look....

Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: clarinetguy on March 11, 2013, 07:33:33 PM
Looks good- just think when you shave again it will feel spectacular!
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: MarkusToe on March 20, 2013, 09:04:14 AM
here's a quote I wanted to share with you from this book http://www.amazon.com/The-Happiness-Trap-Struggling-Living/dp/1590305841/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1363791778&sr=8-1&keywords=happiness+trap (http://www.amazon.com/The-Happiness-Trap-Struggling-Living/dp/1590305841/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1363791778&sr=8-1&keywords=happiness+trap)

"The 'Don't get killed' device of our ancestors helped them survive by constantly comparing them to other members of the clan, to ensure that they didn't get rejected. And it constantly drew attention to their weaknesses, so they could improve on them and thereby live longer."
Title: Re: don't like pictures of myself
Post by: benlen on March 20, 2013, 06:25:27 PM
Markus, I'm not one to try and preach or anything, but I think from what you've written here you might appreciate Eckhart Tolle's "Power of Now." If you can get it on audiobook that's best. It's a magical book about how changing your thinking and outlook in a few simple ways.