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Discussions About Being Bald => General Discussion => Topic started by: warhawk on January 17, 2008, 10:39:08 AM
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hello fellow chrome domes.... one day at work we had a discussion on how we were disciplined as a child & how we discplined our own children. i wanted 2 have a discussion with my sly members on this same topic.
i'll start: since me & the wifey don't have any kids, yet. i'll start with my own childhood. 1st of all i never had a timeout (r u kidding me?) when i was in elementary & junior high ...i received an old fashion butt whooping. my dad used 2 get his leather belt (in front of me) & did the deed. my mom used 2 take her leather slipper & did the deed. however...when i was in high school, i received restrictions such as NO going out or using the telephone. IMO....i'll take the butt whooping any day compared 2 the restrictions. restrictions hurt longer.
all in all...the discipline that my parents applied 2 my brother & i really helped. if me & the wifey had children...we agreed that a good ole butt whooping would b one of our choices of discipline. so....how 'bout U? how were U discplined? and how do U discipline your children? and 2 the new sly daddies (tyler, jdog, andre and jim) what will U do?
WARHAWK O0
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Things at our house growing up were handled quickly and decisively. I wasn't spanked a lot, but when it was appropriate it was certainly used.
With our 2 kids, we use time out some but time outs do NOT work on 4 year boys apparently. I pop him in the fanny and that seems to work for him. Every kid has what works for them. Finding it is the trick.
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I was about the same Warhawk.
Dad had the ninja like abillity to remove belt from his pants and double it up in one move just as he would land the first strike. Amazing ass whoping abilities that guy had.
Mom had a wooden spoon that must have been made by the Amish as it was bulky, crude and never broke. That thing hurt like hell.
Like Warhawk, I received restrictions as I got older and stronger (no phone, no going out, just to school and back home) but those just led me to break those restrictions only to be giving a lengthier sentence.
There is a point where the folks kept adding on weeks of restrictions to the point of it meaning absolutely nothing. So like a prisoner with a life sentence, why not try to escape right?
I think my parents would rather be drawn and quartered than deal with me at 16 again.
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Dad had the ninja like abillity to remove belt from his pants and double it up in one move just as he would land the first strike. Amazing ass whoping abilities that guy had.
marz....my dad & your dad must have enrolled in the same "azz whooping skills" class back in the day. W#p
WARHAWK O0
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Yes it was amazing how fast that damn belt came flying out of the belt loops. You could hear it whirling the air as he yanked it out. The bad thing about my house was...dad didnt ever get home until around 6 pm...so we usually got in trouble right after school and my mom all she had to say was you are going to get it when your dad comes home. Sometimes dad would take care of it as soon as he walked in or he would wait until after supper just depended on what kind of day he had at work. So the agony of sitting around waiting for it to happen was far worse than recieving the whoopin'. My parents never abused us...we only got what we deserved.....only one time I threatened to turn my mom in. She went to smack my rear in with the flyswatter....well i turned really quick...and the wire handle went across the back of my leg...and left a welt...needless to say..she didnt give me another one after that. The best part wiht my mom was , she wasnt a fast runner.....we would always play catch me if you can around the kitchen table. I can see the look on her face now.....IF YOU DONT STOP....YOU ARE GONNA GET IT WORSE THAN WHAT YOU WOULD HAVE RECIEVED BEFORE WE STARTED THIS CAT AND MOUSE GAME!...lol but of course...i never stopped...i just kept going round and round...
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My mom had a cutting board with a handle on it... and she could swing it harder than Barry Bonds right after he juiced up!
Dad had a 1/4" dowel made out of hickory... plus the belt!
The principal in my elementary school had an over sized ping pong paddle with holes drilled through it for less resistance...
Ahhhhh... the good old days!
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My mom had a cutting board with a handle on it... and she could swing it harder than Barry Bonds right after he juiced up!
Dad had a 1/4" dowel made out of hickory... plus the belt!
The principal in my elementary school had an over sized ping pong paddle with holes drilled through it for less resistance...
Ahhhhh... the good old days!
I always thought the holes were for making it feel more pain. I always imagined the skin and flesh on my ass squeezing thru those holes like a strainer...........OUCH!
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I used to get the belt from time to time and I thank my father for it. My parents were firm with us but always showed us love and support and guidance.
As I got older I sort of misbehaved less and less and was kind of a recluse at home so I dont think I was EVER grounded.
With my child I belive that a swat on bum if he does something especially naughty isnt a bad thing. There is a big difference between discipline and abuse.
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Spanking, but not too often (hey, I was a good kid). Time out wasn't invented back then and I think we were better without it.
Max
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The principal in my elementary school had an over sized ping pong paddle with holes drilled through it for less resistance...
Ahhhhh... the good old days!
Our principal had what seemed to be a cricket bat with holes drilled in it. You would have to bend over, put your hands on his desk, and your feet would leave the ground with each swing... Sorry Timmj, didn't mean to turn you on there ;D
My mother would send us out to the shrub bush in the from yard and we would have to choose a "rubber" switch and pull the leaves off, then hand to her so she could whip us.
Or, if we were in the car she would just backhand us and knock us out!
Then when Dad came home we would get the belt....
So Warhawk, I beat my kids with a belt, but be prepared, when they learn to dial 911 they will try to say they are calling the cops on ya, mine tried once and I handed him the phone and said start dialing as I tore his ass up. We never had that convo again... ever!
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Butt whoopin.....always
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Good old fashioned asian discipline which meant a lot of ass whoopings if I ever looked at the old man the wrong way.
After awhile I learned how to adapt to this form of punishment by not being too obvious in my misdeeds. I was always the very good kid in class who always placed the blame on the louder more obnoxious kids if I ever got into trouble. Who on earth would suspect the quiet little smarty pants? ;D
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My old man handed out the ass whoopins, got quite a chin from it now, haven't been blacked out since i was an adult. My brother on the other hand didn't get them nearly as often and never as many as he should have, i still took'em. now he's not a bad dude just an idiot with no sense of nothing, and i can't stand the disrespectful *****.
I do not have kids but fully plan on handing out ass whoopins and if they have any issues i'll call CAS(children's aid soceity) for them.
canada pass a law fee years ago stating that it's still ok to use physical abuse as punishment as long as it is not abusive.
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with my pops it was the closed fist or the belt.
with my mom it was what ever she could pick up and swing at me, she could get real dam creative.
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When I was younger my mom always told me and my younger sister "wait til your father gets home". Like timmj said it was worse waiting for the getting in trouble, sometimes I would almost want him to yell at me sooner then later. As I got older my mom wasnt too threatning but to this day I am still scared of my Dad even though I'm a good 4-5 inches taller and out weigh him by about 20-25 lbs. He never abused us, he only gave what we deserved. After I had gotten older our Mom had told me that my Dad had a reputation for getting into fights when he would play soccer or even after the games. I was always at practices with him while i grew up so I guess I always heard him yelling at his players. But as far as for my daughter, I'm gonna be the strict parent (giving the ass whoopings).
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Butt whoopins here, at least when I was younger. As I got older, it was more just restrictions. But for the most part, I was the good (compliant) child. My older sister and younger brother kept things hoppin around our house. I just sat back and watched.
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Always got a good old ass-whooping, usually from both if Dad wasn't home. Mom would get me first then he would when he got home. I don't recall any belts or spoons but the old man had very strong hands from work so he didn't need a belt. I always deserved every bit of what I got and sometime probably should have gotten more, especially for some of the whoopn's I gave my younger bro. I was banned from the use of stuff once I was older, and they knew what would hit home too. No running the (insert combustion engine machine) for a week. Man that sucked.
I don't have any kids yet but if I do I plan on the same style of discipline.
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The principal in my elementary school had an over sized ping pong paddle with holes drilled through it for less resistance...
Ahhhhh... the good old days!
Our principal had what seemed to be a cricket bat with holes drilled in it. You would have to bend over, put your hands on his desk, and your feet would leave the ground with each swing... Sorry Timmj, didn't mean to turn you on there ;D
Champ I think you are the one we need to worry about....if that was a subject to turn someone on LOL....bend over....get real...! LOL....
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Dad used a belt ... Mom used either a belt or a switch off the elm tree by the back door.
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Being a chubby kid, my parents usually sent me to bed without dinner when I misbehaved, and that kept me in check. It did however, contribute to an eating disorder and I had bulimic tendencies by the time I was 7.
It's all good, it doesn't look like I've missed a meal recently :P
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Bare butt whooping! One of my best friends still brings up when my mom gave me a bare butt whooping in the middle of Safeway.
I only got the belt from my dad once...it was all I needed.
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often!
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OH I remember the bare butt whoopin's.....actually the other day I seen it first hand here on the street. This lady had just about enough of her son ..so she laid in on him. Here I was in the store...thinking Yeah...whip that ass...show him who is boss...but at the same time I was like...OK lady..ummmmm not everyone has the same views as you and I.....so ya best get ya butt back in the car and go home. LOL....im sure there was quite a few comments flying around that day about this lady beating her kid on main st. And she wasnt abusing him...she just shucked his pants down and went to town.
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I actaualy dont remember being punshed.. much.
But I do remember that elementry school I went too.. All I should say is nuns are mean. But I am not goin' to But I am not goin' to going say that, Or I may just get whacked again (H@
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I prefer the 'Detention-Suspenion-Expulsion' thing better at the high school I am at. Mostley because they are more lax on the rules(Whoo Hooo! Not in trouble yet at the school!)
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I remember my old man giving me a little tap on the ass in a grocery store once, and told me the next time it's bare assed.... didn't do anything again to warrent that...least for a while, than another time i was screwing around and he warned me.... and than told me..... and then asked......do you want one here or at home. I chose here and got a bare ass whoopin there..... not wise how embarasing so... than doing something stupid later (probaby years later) same question asked...... well was i in for it when i got home, was hoping he forgot, about it but nope second we walked into the house the old grab the hand and start the smacking all the way up the hall to the bedroom you know the one where you are trying to jump with the motion of the hand so you don't get it as hard...... shoudda picked at the store again cause it wasn't close in degree.
buddy of mine his fater would just say "I'm so disappointed in you" and he would be no good for hours just balling and crying. told me on numerous occasions that he would have prefered his pop to just whooip his ass ninja belt style.
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We just had an episode here at my house. My son for some reason feels spooked tonight so my youngest daughter is sleeping in the same room with him. Both of them are chickens anyways...but they were told to be in bed at 9. Well 930 rolls around....they just got to bed. I know at least 3 times I had to holler at them to quiet it up and go to sleep. Was getting tired of the crying and bickering back and forth. Finally I said OK....next time..you both sleep in your own rooms by yourself, if you dont want that i would suggest this is the last time I have to tell you to be quiet. Well that didnt work. Here it is 10pm....one thru a toy and hit the other in the head. So...what does dad do? Dad gets up ...grabs the belt...goes in and wacks each one of them once on the rear end. Of course the son....Logan.....thinks he is being brutily murdered, goes into a screaming fit of rage that he is dying and that his spine has been split open. The daughter ( youngest) takes it like a trooper...and tells Logan to shut it up and take it like a man..( i tried not to laugh at that comment) Well he carries on for like 5 more minutes and finally I had enough...walked back in there, belt in hand and wacked him again on the rear...after having to wrestle him around to get him to turn over.....the Oldest daughter....she thougth we were in a huge fight and goes screaming down stairs to mom...saying that dad is beating logan to death. Im like what the hell. So I end up getting mad at the oldest because of the way she is carrying on about it. So i drag all their butts out of bed. Make them line up in the hallway and I tell them. THere is going to be no more of this going on in this house. Im gonna warn you all once and if that dont work the belt comes out. None of you kids respect anyone or anything about this house. Well Im gonna teach you respect real quick. No shut the mouths...no more whinning and crying and when i say go to bed...it means GO TO BED...Lights out..mouths shut.....See ya in the morning.
OK was I too hard or is it just my family is out of control????
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I actaualy dont remember being punshed.. much.
But I do remember that elementry school I went too.. All I should say is nuns are mean. But I am not goin' to But I am not goin' to going say that, Or I may just get whacked again (H@
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I prefer the 'Detention-Suspenion-Expulsion' thing better at the high school I am at. Mostley because they are more lax on the rules(Whoo Hooo! Not in trouble yet at the school!)
Death, your post reminded me of when I was in elementary school. I went to a catholic school that had nuns as teachers, and when we got "caught" they would make us ball our first on the desk and whack our knuckles with a ruler. I remember in 4th grade I had one that always blamed me for everything and was always whacking me. I got so use to it that I would just stare at her without any emotion while she whacked away... plus I did pushups in Karate on my knuckles which helped alot. Anyway, she got so pissed one day that she broke a yard stick across my knuckles. I got my revenge on her the last day of school that year though. We had one of those math boards that you would toss a beanbag on and work out the problem that spun up, so I took one of the beanbags and walked by her door where she happened to be writing on the board, threw that beanbag as hard as I could and yelled "Satan" as it pegged her right in the back of the head!! Sweet Revenge >:D
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OK was I too hard or is it just my family is out of control????
We've had a few of those. I'm not really quite sure what is "normal". Since tomorrow is a holiday, my wife and I are splitting the day with the kids. I've got the morning shift. I've already warned them that the day with Dad will not be fun if there are problems. I just put them to work when we have problems. We've gotten alot of housework done that way. We may have the cleanest house on the block tomorrow.
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OK was I too hard or is it just my family is out of control????
Timmj, I say you have alot more patience than I do.
I would have let Logan have a nightlight but he would have had to sleep by himself, so would the others.
My kid use to think he was slick and would turn his tv on real low and stay up. I would wake him up at 6am the next morning and tell him to get ready, if he fell back asleep, I would return in 10 minutes and throw ice cold water on him, or use the boat emergency airhorn, blow up and pop a plastic bag next to him, get right down next to his hear and yell his name very loudly, and even picked him up and threw him outside in his boxers one morning when it was about 38 degrees and locked the front door for 3 minutes.
Lets just say I cured him in about 3 weeks and kinda enjoyed myself in the process :)
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Our kids here go to school tomorrow.....but I will take your advice there Rick about cleaning the house and stuff. So the next day they have off for school...pack your bags cause you are coming here for the day ! lol..........Oh they will be complete angels for someone else....its just mom and dad ya know.....they dont have to listen..........by golly....they are gonna start learning real quick about the listening and respecting...When Mom/Dad says to be quiet...they are going to learn what quiet is.
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Well Champ put it this way....those thoughts have crossed my mind several times. The nightlight thing....doesnt work. He says he night light cast shadows. There is a long story behind why he is scared and we are trying to correct it. In a way it is my fault and we really are at wits end on how to fix it. About 2 years ago he was sitting on my lap at the computer. I was doing this puzzle thing that was sent to me in email . Well unexpectedly, just when you thought you were about done with the puzzle this really scarey looking face pops up on the screen adn we had the speakers turned up loud, and you heard this big ol scream. It even frightened me for a second because I pushed my desk chair back away from teh computer and Logan literally jumped up and flew out of my lap over my head. It tramatized him and I almost thought we were gonna have to take him to the hospital that day. Poor kid.....but I dont know what to do, we have had people talk to him about his fears and it is just embedded into his mind he cant seem to shake it. Sometimes he is fine and others...??? It only bothers him when something triggers the memory. Other than that he is a good natured kid and very caring and all....we ( the wife and I) are just at wits end...
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Well Dad whomped us with a belt and Mom (on very rare occasion) would pull out the metal spatula and give us a good case of "waffle ass".
You know... even with these butt whompings I don't feel like i was ever abused and I love my Folks dearly. They just gave me what I needed, when I needed it. Many now would probably consider it some kind of abuse..... which is ridiculous......
I grew up in a tough neighborhood during tough times..... Thank God that the folks kept me in line.......
Mike 8)
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My mom gave me a timeout one time and I SUED HER ABUSIVE ASS!!
So from then on it was only closed fisted beatings from my dad.
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My father whipped me with his belt, washed my mouth out with soap, and gave me bare-ass spankings. He'd sometimes spell out the words of the thing I did bad slapping my ass once for each letter.
I've never spanked my daughter, although she's given me reason to. I've opted to take away things she really likes instead - cell phone, ipod, computer use, etc... It seems to have worked.
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In all seriousness....one time I got caught having stole a small role of caps. (remember the little paper strip for loading into cap guns).
Anyway, I got a woopin' from my dad.......but worse than that he took me down to the drug store and made me return them to the manager and apologize for stealing them.
That was worse than the woopin' and what I remember most (I was like 6 years old).
Needless to say, I didn't become a thief or shoplifter after that.
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How would you like to have been me when I was caught stealing a pack of wrigleys gum...not only did I have to return them to the manager....but I also had to make a trip to the police station before I went back to the store....My mom ....she just always went to the extreme on things like that....I felt going back to the store was going to be enough...but no.....no siree bob....we had to go visit the police.......man I hated that. Might as well just stuck a flashing sign out in front of our house stating that there is a bubble gum theif that lives here....its what I felt like.
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In elementary school, my parents took away my beer when I misbehaved. In high school, Ketel One.
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LOL.....then they gave you a cigarette to calm ya nerves right?
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LOL.....then they gave you a cigarette to calm ya nerves right?
Nah, smoking is bad for you.
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honestly, i just knew that when dad said something, that was how it is gonna be. now kids think they can do what they want cause discipline is abuse. but i will disciplinr my kids any way i see fit.
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is that why he is missing his front teeth in the pic...Just kidding bro....I would never take anything to that extreme. The other night i did some ass whippin with the belt and I guess it did leave a slight mark on his butt cheeks...and he commented about it...I said well GOOD! Maybe now you will have a small reminder of what happens when you act up. There is a difference between abuse and discipline.....i just wish most people would realize that...
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actually, I joke about it, but this is no laughing matter. My parents were old school and firmly believed in using the belt. It deifnitely got our attention and you knew when the parents meant business.
I have spanked the kids before, but the Lovely Mrs. Schro is not too fond of it. However, she has a voice and a way of speaking when she's pissed off that makes a spanking the easy way out.
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I grew up in a military family, so discipline was very strict. There was a line that was not crossed. If we ever got too close to the line my dad would say, "Go get 'The Belt'". And while my sister and I might act up at home we knew at school and public was a different story. I got two swats in 7th grade and that was it. My dad still doesn't know about them, and I don't plan on telling him.
I never heard of "time out" until I became a teacher. Swats some how disappeared while I was in college. All I know was kids were getting the paddle left and right when I was a senior, but by the time I became a teacher the paddle was outlawed.
I do believe a good mix of the belt, time-out and restrictions makes good discipline. The key ingredient is consistency. I have a 10 year old and an 11 year old and with two teachers as parents, they don't get by with much.
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The punishment fit the crime...
I had everything from time out, to loss of toys/ video games, to groundings, to Spankings.
When i was younger, I got the time outs. as I got older, that got replaced with groundings... The groundings never lasted though because I just whinnied as much as I could till my mom couldn't take it may more.
The loss of toys and junk also gave way to the whinnying.
The spankings... um... yeah... My mother was old school and believed in the paddle... however, she did not have a paddle, nor did she want to get one from an "adult store," so I got the trusty wooden spoon. :x! There were a few times she'd break one on my ares in the first few hits, then send me to the store to buy more ???
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WELL PEOPLE... just REMEMBER as your swingin the belt on that ass , the one your swattin is NOT responsible for ALL thats gone wrong during the day, AND somewhere down the line the ass your swattin MAY be the one pickin your nursing home ! O:O
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Well when I was a kid I never got whipped or spanked or hit. I just got liberties taken away. Like friends, and Nintendo ect.
But once I hit my teenage years and I misbehaved my father treated me like a man and would want to fight me. We got into alot of shoving matches and exchanged some mild blows but nothin real serious. After a couple of those it actually made me want to not get in trouble. It really made me think twice about alot of stupid choices. I think there should be more of that. When kids realize that there are consequences and parents will follow through it makes them think twice about thier actions.
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We actually called them whippings. Later in life did I find out (from my mom) that my dad would step out onto the back deck and privately cry. Hard as nails on the outside, tender on the inside.
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I received all three as a kid, my dad only spanked me maybe 3 times when i was growing up, i received far more beatings and spankings from my mother,my mother grew up in germany during the second world war and she was very strict, my mother mostly beat me if i did anything wrong, iam single and no kids but when i have my kids i will use all three methods
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Ya know there is a difference between spanking and beating. Even though there are times I just wanted to spank the sh*t out of my kids......1...2.....3..... works everytime. I spank em.....when they deserve it. 90% of the time it is my hand on their rear end ( occasionally a pop across the mouth when they start getting that smart mouth) then i resort to the "BELT" oh they hate thy belt.....lol...
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oh the belt, i would have fear if my mother got the belt out, it would hurt really bad, i hated my mothers belt.
Ya know there is a difference between spanking and beating. Even though there are times I just wanted to spank the sh*t out of my kids......1...2.....3..... works everytime. I spank em.....when they deserve it. 90% of the time it is my hand on their rear end ( occasionally a pop across the mouth when they start getting that smart mouth) then i resort to the "BELT" oh they hate thy belt.....lol...
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maybe i wasnt beaten enough as a kid....maybe thats what i need right now...
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Well... beaten pretty often and restricted to my room. I showed them though, I joined the USMC at 17! ???
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It's really pretty simple in my house. I was raised by a fairly strict father who gave it to me as often as I needed it. And boy, did I need it. I'm surprised the poor man was able to hold down a day job with all the effort he had to put into me. The situations were usually all the same. I'd get into trouble, sometimes on purpose to be rebellious, he'd get his hands on me and the result for me would be . . . :x!
I later used a similar approach with my own sons who are now 13 and 15. They're wonderful boys. Well, on a good day. When there isn't a full moon.
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I read an article on Fox.com recently that said if you were beaten :x! as a child, you were a sexual deviant as an adult >:D(or something like that). My guess is, if that is true, there are a lot of S &M pervs in the world! I think I may have a copy of the article at work.
I think I used it trying to convince my bosses that they were all a little...different :/O :D ;D
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I come from a large family, there were 5 of us kids. I was the youngest. My Mom and Dad had the discipline thing down to a science. They never spanked, hit or whopped on us, however both my Mom and Dad had "the look". I swear it was worse than being spanked. I have no idea where they got it from, but it worked like magic.
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I read an article on Fox.com recently that said if you were beaten :x! as a child, you were a sexual deviant as an adult >:D(or something like that). My guess is, if that is true, there are a lot of S &M pervs in the world! I think I may have a copy of the article at work.
I think I used it trying to convince my bosses that they were all a little...different :/O :D ;D
Well, I hate to shoot holes in that theory but I'm about as normal as can be in that area... I am however developing the "dirty old man" syndrome! :*))
...and, welcome aboard Jake, good to have you join us! O:O
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If I remember correctly, Dad used to spank us on the hind end with ceiling fan blades. The things were made out of flimsy particle board and were about 1foot wide so they had so much resitance, you barely would feel it. But we always put on the best Oscar performance we could so he thought he got us good.LOL
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We usually got the belt in my house. There were a few bare bottom whoopins, and a few with a pancake flipper or woden spoon. Usually only when we popped off. I usually always got out of trouble in the neighborhood, because they all knew it was my brothers who were the "real troublemakers". ;D
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Mean looks were all they needed to do...I was very sensitive as a child.. :'(
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I got whooped once in a while as a young kid but as I grew my mom figured out that wasn't going to cut it alone. So I would get restrictions which worked a little better because I hated things I really liked being taken away from me. But as some others put it, that only lasted for so long. Because I would end up breaking restriction after restriction until it just wasn't worth it for my mom to make me stick to the original one. Damn! Come to think of it now...I was a pretty bad kid. Shame on me. >:D
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I think we all pushed our parents to see how far we could get. My parents only tell me now that Im getting my punishments from when I was younger..NOW, from my own kids. LOL Damn, you love your kids to death but there are times you just want to beat the hell out of em. I hurt my kids all the time....when needed. Not physically...but just enough to hurt their feelings...make em think. Timmayyy!
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Most of the time mine was taking liberties away. My Dad was a stickler for me keeping my hair cut in and induction. Once I hit the almost teen years I was allowed to grow it out just a bit. He did get mad with me one time and forced me to go to the barber and get it sheared off to the skin. My mom got so upset with him he never did that again. Wonder if that was the start of the need to shave?
I do have to say, my folks were very loving and most supportive and only gave punishment when it was called for.
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It was definitely spankings for me. African parents don't play around! My mother used a wooden cooking paddle, and my father used a hanger or long ruler. Both parents hit me on the hands or the back of a leg. The funny thing is I never cried when I got hit, as I had a high tolerance for pain. My siblings sometimes still make fun of me for it in an admirable/envious way though, hahah. I may be in the minority, but I think corporal punishment should be brought back to public schools. The stuff kids pull nowadays is appalling! I've been out of grammar school for just over a decade, and there's still a huge difference. There was no cyberbullying and killings over petty things like a boy or girl.
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My father was a very strict, firm but just man. He would always spanked me and my brothers when ever we did wrong, and we deserved it. However now that we are older, all have turned out to be find men, responsible, hardworking and very disciplined. I thank my father for that, because spanking your kid for bad behaving will drive out the demons in us and correct our behavior. Believe it or not, he would also take us to the barber shop and shaved us bald.
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I grew up in Ireland in the 80s/90s. I still wouldn't cross my father to this day lol. Like most children at the time I got a wooden spoon across the backside when I misbehaved. It certainly didn't do me any harm but that was the parenting style at the time.
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I grew up in the 50's-60's, and dad was strict. You just didn't mess with him or you got smacked. When I was about 12, dad ordered mom to take us for haircuts after school. On the way to the barbershop, she informed us we were to get crewcut. This was mid sixties and the Beatles were popular so our hair was somewhat long, so a crewcut was NOT cool. My brother went first, when it was my turn, I looked at my brother and with red hair be looked nearly bald. I bolted for the door and refused a haircut. I wasn't thinking of the consequences when dad found out. Of course the next day my dad took me back, and I got an extra short crewcut. I lived.
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My mom/grandma would smack the hell out of me if I did something stupid, and then they'd ground me.
Personally I don't believe hitting your kids is the best solution, but it's definitely effective.
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Harshly, I wouldn't do that to my own child if I had one
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I have to note, as funny and interesting as this thread is - i would advice people not to answer other than the poll... mainly because discipline for children has become a very edgy topic in politics in the last 15 years, to the point where if you are seen spanking your child's hand in public you may get the authorities called on you. I have heard several instances so far even in my small town where parents have been harassed by CPS for being seen in public spanking a child's hand. Even verbally scolding a child has gotten parents in legal trouble for "emotional abuse and harm".
As a para-law enforcement officer myself, i would highly advise that folks not post how they discipline thier kids. Its not a rule, just my advice. Hope thats accepted well, as i intend it to be a help.
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I remember in sixth grade a couple of boys who were bullies were shaved bald by their fathers...Needless to say, they stopped bullying after having to walk around school with bald heads!
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I have to note, as funny and interesting as this thread is - i would advice people not to answer other than the poll... mainly because discipline for children has become a very edgy topic in politics in the last 15 years, to the point where if you are seen spanking your child's hand in public you may get the authorities called on you. I have heard several instances so far even in my small town where parents have been harassed by CPS for being seen in public spanking a child's hand. Even verbally scolding a child has gotten parents in legal trouble for "emotional abuse and harm".
As a para-law enforcement officer myself, i would highly advise that folks not post how they discipline thier kids. Its not a rule, just my advice. Hope thats accepted well, as i intend it to be a help.
I'm pretty sure most of the members here are aware of how times have changed when it comes to disciplining children. It's pathetic and ridiculous in my honest opinion, and that's why many kids are out of control these days. I will also point out this thread is about how we members were disciplined as kids and not how members' kids are disciplined.
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Very true. I believe firmly in how I was raised and disciplined, and it's a shame that parents are in legal danger now to be seen or caught doing what a parent's job is in order to prevent their kids from growing up to be selfish and unruly leeches of society which is what we have these days...
And true it is meant to be about how we were raised but I saw quite a few responses where some mentioned how they discipline their kids.
Like I said, I have no authority here it was just a suggestion that maybe it's not the best thing to be sharing online where anyone can see.