Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => 30 Day Rule / Beginners Section => Topic started by: enoughalready on September 25, 2013, 04:03:40 PM
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I have been a Hair club for men user for 20 years, I am 49, somewhat good-looking guy, but I have also gained 30lbs. I have an athletic build but now have the beer belly (YUCK) - at least for me its yuck and not healthy.
OK, I am sick and tired of my toupee, maybe my friends know maybe they don't..I wear a hat most of the time unless going out or to work and put sunglasses on my head. lol it actually works as a way to help disguise the toupee effect.
OK, I want to get rid of my toupee and buzz my head, I am thinking my head will look a bit like John Stathem.
But I try to think of John Stathem with a beer belly and it does not work - lol
so I thought about making a decision, I will lose the 30lbs and then buzz my head. But I still have not lost the 30lbs, should I re-group with my decision and try it again (have a talk with God and re-committ to the process), or take it off and be so upset about that it will make me work and diet?
Damn, I need advise - lol
I am also recently single, already posted pic of me on a dating site (with hair) - I actually look really good with hair, but I am sick of the maintenance and cost, so I guess what I need to to do is take down my profile on the dating site, get in shape with a new look and then try to date again after I succeed right?
I think I know what you are all going to say, BUT HOW DO I MAKE MYSELF DO IT?
plus all my friends (those who don't know and facebook friends from back east (who I know don't know) will be shocked....
Thanks
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Ditch the rug, and post the pic here.
Oh, it's probably a safe assumption that your co-workers know you wear a rug.
On the weight loss thing, only you can make that commitment. Maybe do p90x? Check with BaldRob. He had am amazing transformation.
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Welcome to SBG!
"I'm too fat", "I'm too skinny", "I'm too tall", "I'm too short", "I'm too pale", "I'm too dark" ...
They're all excuses.
Stop thinking. Start doing.
Just walk into the bathroom. Now. And just do what you obviously want to do.
Right now.
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I think SlyBear has a point. There will always be some reason you can come up with to not shave just yet so if you're certain that's what you want to do, then do it. If you want to lose weight first, then lose the weight first. If you want to find a new partner first, then do that first. Do these in the order you think have the highest priority. Weight loss would positively affect your health. A romantic partner would help you emotionally. What would would be positive about cutting your hair the way you want it? Think on that and we'll help you process. :)
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Think of it this way: They already KNOW you wear a rug, I guarantee you that you are fooling nobody. When you go sly, they'll be shocked, for 15 minutes, and then they'll be over it.
PLUS, you're single? PERFECT! Even more of an excuse to do it...right NOW. You can then go and start dating with your newly sly look, and they will have NOTHING to compare it to, and they will REALLY be liking YOU for YOU, not your "Hair".
Go get em' tiger. You can do it, and you will do it!!! And...you will love it.
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You said that you actually look really good with hair right now, so you should look good with a Jason Statham hair style too. You may be surprised at how your confidence will get a big boost when you feel better about letting the real you show.
I wouldn't wait for anything... I would lose the hairpiece, post a new pic on the dating site, and go forth as a new man. The weight is an issue for many people (whatever kind of hairstyle they may have)... and has to be worked on gradually for best results. Don't put your life on hold waiting to reach a certain weight goal.
Besides, sly looks good on all types of guys...regardless of weight.
We are in your corner whatever you decide.
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Halloween is coming up. What better time to become the Bald Pumpkin Head ! :@` >:D
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How do you make yourself do it? Simple. You grab the trimmer/clipper, turn it on, take a deep breath and start.
The anticipation is the worst part. Once you take the first swipe, that anxiety drops to nothing. I speak from personal experience. I thought/worried about it for two months before I took the plunge just before turning 51. I never have regretted it.
I posted the picture of my Slyself on Facebook with a notation that I was due for my midlife crisis and it was too late for a perm, so...
The reaction was incredible.
Ditch the rug and the stress, sir. And welcome!
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I agree with Slybear as well, when making major life changes, it's easy to find excuses to negate the choice. Moving your cheese is a good thing, change is good! Apprehension is normal. Trust me, shaving your head and owning your glorious baldness is liberating and cool! It is so popular now that your friends will just think your hip (is that still a word?). And if they don't... F#%€k them!! Honestly, being sly is great! Just wait till your first rain hits the ol' dome, or the first time a strange woman walks up and rubs your head! After you break in your skin to the shaving process (maybe about a month) and you get your routine down... Shaving can be a zen like relaxing experience! And as for weight? Big Daddy here is 305! My wife loves me! She says that my being a big bald man is very "Ger baby" Go for it! Get some good gear and technical tips from here...and do it! You won't regret it!
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I think with a toupee my advice would be do it. I'm sure if you do look like Jason Stratham having a beer belly ain't gonna matter. we'll be interested to see pics, perhaps a before and after
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I think with a toupee my advice would be do it. I'm sure if you do look like Jason Stratham having a beer belly ain't gonna matter. we'll be interested to see pics, perhaps a before and after
I agree 100% with Slyest.
We haven't heard back from you. I hope you check back in!!!
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I agree with the rest of the guys. Best thing to do is lose the toupee, buzz it down close and start living and enjoying your life.
The freedom you will feel is amazing! O0
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hey man,
you grab the clippers, put a #2 on (mentally, seems less intense then a 1 or no guard, at least it helped me take the plunge) and without even hesitating just take a big swipe out of the main part of your hair. No going back now. I promise you will feel good about it, you may still be nervous afterward but that feeling of confidence that comes from taking control of the situation will power you through it.
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Sir,
You are absolutely correct in your assumption of what all us "been-there" baldies will say...... Like NIKE say's: "Just Do It!", mate & be done with it. You will be a lot happier as you will lose the "rug" & the low self-worth all at the same time & will own the cool, bald-guy look.
So advice is going to be: (a) get the clippers & run them at their lowest setting - #0 guard or lower over your entire head & get rid of the hair.
(b) get a nice fresh razor, lather up & shave that head nice & smooth.
All the best,
Bilko
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Concerning the rug. People know. No offense, but you aren't fooling anyone.
Also concerning the rug. Isn't it just a daily reminder? Isn't it a part of the insecurity? Everyday you are placing this thing on your head essentially to hide the real you.
Let it shine brother. Literally!
I too have the ole beer gut going but I don't let that bother me. It's part of who I am right now and I'm working on that. Because I want to. Because I want to feel better about myself and better maintain my health. Not because I'm concerned how other people feel about it. It's none of their concern.
I am also recently single, at 41. I understand how that can affect you and how you feel about yourself. I get it. At this time the most important thing for you to do is get feeling better about yourself.
In the end you have to do what you feel is right for you. Sly or rug. Belly or slim. If you are comfortable in your own skin that is the most important thing.
But one last note...... the rug isn't you man. Your hair or lack thereof doesn't make you who you are. But at least sly will be all you.
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Welcome! I don't have anything to add, but I will tell you that it's worth a shot and if it doesn't work out, you can always grow it back to where you were/are.
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From my own personal standpoint, I *loved* buzzing my hair. Especially in the warmer months, it was so easy to maintain and was really an enjoyable "me" time thing...
Now the clippers are getting dusty and the razor shave has taken over, that is also very enjoyable "me" time.
If you do a little soul-searching you'll probably come to realize that it's just hair. If you don't like it, you can grow it back. I think once you realize the joys of a buzzed/shaved head, you'll be really glad you ditched the toupee.
Welcome to SBG!!
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I don't think that there is anything wrong with having a "plan" and working towards it. That is what I did.
You do whatever gets you through and makes you feel better and good about yourself.
Perhaps the reason that we havnt heard from him since he first posted is because of the attitude that, if you wear a "rug" or hair system, then is looks horrendous and everyone is laughing at you..not really self confidence boosting or helpful at all is it?
Yes, granted, some look crap, but a vast majority dont, so ease up on the "Dead Rat" quibs guys huh?
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I just read through all the responses and if there were any "dead rat" quibs, I missed them. On the contrary, I think everyone was positive and respectful and genuinely tried to help. Why we haven't heard back from the OP is anybody&is guess. Maybe he just isn't ready yet to take the plunge.
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Hey guys, thanks for all the feedback, sorry I didn't get chance to respond, I went to the DaliLama for advice and guess what he what? he was bald as well!
Well I am still in the same hairy position I was several months ago..with one big difference. I'm going to do it! Not because I'm brave or anything, but because my system has ripped and I'm not going to get another one.
I'll be honest, I'm freaked out about doing it, I thought I would get in shape first, well that's a load of crap, I think I gained 2 pounds. So .....Monday is the big day!
Going to call some friends over the weekend and tell them, then going to tan (moderation) my head, maybe look for a cool hat, and I'm going John Stathem style. I'm prepared to hate it for 30 days, (maybe weep) I think maybe it will motivate me enough to get my fat butt in shape. I don't know why but I have this mindset that if you're going to be buzzed (shaved) you should be tan and somewhat in shape. It's my warped way of thinking, but it may in the long run get me healthier (does that make sense?)
LOL...I'm wigged out by this! Sorry, I start to get corny when I get nervous, I am like Chandler Bing on crack. (friends)
I have read your replies, I appreciate it very much :) This is what I think I have learned..
-I'm going to hate it for at least 30 days
-If I hate it that much I can always go back to the bare skin (well you know what I mean - rug)
-I expect to get some razzing and strange looks from friends or acquaintances . I'll deal with it
-After awhile it won't even be a topic or an issue with them.
-I need to own it! and be cool with it.
-I need to find a woman that likes to rub bald/buzzed heads :@`
-I can use it as motivation to change my style to "bald/buzzed" style - I need a makeover anyway
-I will love the freedom, and will SAVE money.
The truth is I also expect to look older, for me that's a biggie. I'm to immature to look 5 yeas older! BUT, I am going to own it, and I thank everyone here for your words.
I will post a before and after pic once the deed is done (and when I calm down or get sober)
I really am freaking out...sorry to ramble, this is almost like therapy for me to vent.
Thanks guys...
Mike
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Thanks for checking back in, Mike! Good luck with the deed, and if you have any questions or just need a place to vent, we're always here!
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You are 10 years younger than me, Mike, but when I shaved my head, most friends thought I looked younger. Good luck with your venture.
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Hi Mike: 1st of all welcome to the sly fraternity. Good luck with "doing the deed". Kindly keep us posted to your road to slyness. I can guarantee you one thing that you are going to love it. Take care.
WARHAWK O0
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Hi Mike,
Thanks for checking back in.
One thing you said puzzles me. You said the #1 thing you learned from reading the replies to your original post was that you would hate the shaved head for 30 days. I think that is something you are adding to the equation. Most of us would say the complete opposite of that. There is so much to be gained for you in the first 30 days, I just don't see how you will be able to hate the look. Yes, it will be different, and it is a bold step... but what will that say about you? -You are BOLD, that's what. Just roll with it! If you will allow yourself to roll with it, the confidence brought about by this bold move will be evident to others. Don't question yourself, or look back.. just move forward. A whole new life awaits you!
be SLY, bro!
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Picking up on what Slymyke said, I also wondered why you are expecting to hate it.
My first thought when I read your statement was that you are setting youself up for a bad experience. If you are going to shave, do so because you WANT to do it. Don't do it because you feel forced into it.
Going Sly is a big step. Enjoy the experience.
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Just give the rug rat to the cats to play with it looks so naff on guys
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pics or it didn't happen...
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I think with the toupee you're not really fooling anyone. And even if they don't "know" for sure....those things usually look JUST unreal enough that people will be more prone to paying attention to your head because they're WONDERING "Wow, I wonder if that's a piece?"
Plus...and this is somewhat off topic....I will occasionally watch videos of people shaving their head on youtube (weird, I know...but...sometimes I do it)..and one of the "sidebar" videos had a guy demonstrating his "system"....I've never really seen anyone putting one on or taking one off, so I took a look....and Wow!
What a PITA that appeared to be...the glue/tape....having to adjust it just so...the whole thing looked horrifying to me.
Me? I have to take about 5 minutes 2-3 times a week and either clipper mine down or "bic" it, depending on my mood.
Boom....done.
I think you'll be happier just doing it.
Best of luck.
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You're gonna love it. Let us know how well it suits you. Sly is where it's at! O0
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I'm were you are. I have the rug and I'm 50... I have waisted many years thinking about taking it off and go for the clippers and freedom. I'm not sure people know that I'm faking? I have a pretty good system and I learned how to take care of it. But I HATE it!
I got stuck on a great video post about shaving it off.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOxzZVDfgeI
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I'm were you are. I have the rug and I'm 50... I have waisted many years thinking about taking it off and go for the clippers and freedom. I'm not sure people know that I'm faking? I have a pretty good system and I learned how to take care of it. But I HATE it!
I got stuck on a great video post about shaving it off.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOxzZVDfgeI
Why should you care about thoughts going on on someones else head? f**k it!
Do what you want, thoughts are temporary images going on on someone else's head, you should not allow this very ephemeral thing rule your life and your actions. Be free from those social conventions, in fact, historically, a shaved head have this meaning, a break up with those stupid social conventions and castes (i'am referring to the Buddhist monks who started doing it)