Sly Bald Guys Forum
Confidence and Success => Relationships/Dating => Topic started by: skitch on August 26, 2006, 04:55:32 PM
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i guess im the only one that cant find a date with my bald head. :-\
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It will happen man! Just stay confident. That's the key! People are attracted to other people that have confidence.
I always went after the hottest girls (before I was married ;)) because I found out that it was actually easier to get a date with the hottest girls than someone that I considered average or just cute. It was funny because a lot of times the girls would say that I was the first guy that had asked them out in Months, yes MONTHS. They said guys were afraid to approach them. I call it the "Beauty and the Beast" theory after reading the book "To be or not be intimidated?" by Robert Ringer (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?link_code=ur2&tag=bestmyspacepr-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&location=%2Fgp%2Fproduct%2F1590770358%2Fsr%3D8-1%2Fqid%3D1156725830%2Fref%3Dpd_bbs_1%3Fie%3DUTF8). That's why you always see amazingly beautiful person with a not so beautiful person. The not so beautiful person
You also have to remember that it's a numbers game and not to get discouraged, because you know what you have to offer and it's their loss if they don't give you a shot.
To be or not be intimidated? By Robert Ringer (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?link_code=ur2&tag=bestmyspacepr-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&location=%2Fgp%2Fproduct%2F1590770358%2Fsr%3D8-1%2Fqid%3D1156725830%2Fref%3Dpd_bbs_1%3Fie%3DUTF8)
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What's cool about being bald is you know that your boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, wife, etc., is not so superficial as to not date you because you are bald. If a person won't date you because you have lost your hair, then they truly aren't worth one minute of your time. My Dad was bald and one of my Mom's friends once said to her, "oh, I could never marry a bald man." First off, #itch! ;D And secondly, my Mom's reply was "what would you do if he went bald AFTER you married him?, divorce him?" Way to go Mom!
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gearhedguy,
I like your opinion and sharing.. hehe Thx This reminded me of one time in the past when my wife once told me (after too many days between shaving), "Dear, you really should shave your head again". I found this funny at first, since she at first disliked the shaving, but came to realize that it actually was much better... hehe ;D
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i have been dateing for the past three months now, i could not be more happy, infact i have to pench myself now and then just to see if its real.
anyway i just turnd 42 and he is only 27 , he loves my smooth head ;D
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good for you whovean! :)
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very happy in my relationship, not sure if being bald contributed to finding my other half but I know my bald head is loved.
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coolio, and welcome Michael! :)
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You know, I always found that when I was trying to get a date I couldn't. Maybe I was trying too hard? I don't know. Every date I've had and every relationship was due to the girl making the move on me. Including the relationship I'm in now! And I definitely started getting more attention when I started shaving my head.
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I agree with Lostnfound... whenever you go looking, all the single women seem to disappear. All of the women that I've dated for any length of time have come along when I've sworn off dating for awhile...
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It's quite strange, but I've found that projecting "I don't give a sh*t what you think of me" seems to attract more women than does playing Joe Sensitive. Since going insane I've made no bones about the fact that I like to hang out with naughty women or that I aspire to be a womanizer, and yet, oddly, I've never had so much attention (from non-naughty women).
[shrug]
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aht I don't understand is that when a girl agrees to go out with you and gives you her number I would percieve that she wants you to call her right. Apparently not cause I have gotten several yes responses and numbers in the last little bit but when I call them they don't answer and now none of them will even look at me let alone give me the time of day. It is most confusing
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aht I don't understand is that when a girl agrees to go out with you and gives you her number I would percieve that she wants you to call her right. Apparently not cause I have gotten several yes responses and numbers in the last little bit but when I call them they don't answer and now none of them will even look at me let alone give me the time of day. It is most confusing
Yeah, that's one of the most frustrating things a guy can go through. I used to get women's numbers by having them enter it into my phone or enter it directly into it myself. Then I would tell them that I like to exchange numbers so they knew I was serious about calling them. Instead of giving them my number I would then call their phone, with them standing there, so my number would appear on their phone (if it really was their number). This would at least let me know if they were true about giving me their number. Getting them to answer is another thing. Just don't call them a bunch of times right after getting their number.
One of the things that worked was to text them a day or two later and ask them for a good time to call them, or to just say hello. Or you could always get their email address on its own or along with the number and make the first contact that way. Some ladies respond to this better.
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;)Ahoy, Skitch. Hang in there. Get out as much as you can and sport your new look with pride. I'm with Michael21228: I know my bald head is loved. I adopted the bald look in early November; since then my wife of 35 years makes it a point to stroke and kiss the dome before she leaves for work. On the rare occasions when I need to shave, she remarks on it. When I was still "covering" and hair-spraying, she wasn't allowed touch my head. It's much better and more natural the bald way. Professor Melon
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Tried all that Tyler and so far they just run away screaming in terror ;D. I reckon they are just intimidated by the mass I have can't think of much else I am doing wrong but hey I just keep on coming back and tryin. Never say die.
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Tried all that Tyler and so far they just run away screaming in terror ;D. I reckon they are just intimidated by the mass I have can't think of much else I am doing wrong but hey I just keep on coming back and tryin. Never say die.
That's the attitude man! It's all a numbers game.
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Never say die I will find one dumb enough eventually. Gotta be one gullible female out there ;D
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I never had any'game' with the ladies or maybe i didnt notice if they were interested?!?!?!? my eyes always went straight to the guys,,,anyway these days I have some very attractive ladys around me but the funny thing is I'm not interested hehehe my friends get mad cause I get all the attention when we go to hooters or bars.
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I never had any'game' with the ladies or maybe i didnt notice if they were interested?!?!?!? my eyes always went straight to the guys,,,anyway these days I have some very attractive ladys around me but the funny thing is I'm not interested hehehe my friends get mad cause I get all the attention when we go to hooters or bars.
Yeah, the ladies love you gay guys! Some of my gay friends have the hottest girls that hang out with them. It was always good hanging out with them because you knew there would be hot women all over the place. The bad part was that it was always hard to get the ladies to even notice you.
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yup thats a given I love hanging out with the guys just as much as I love hanging out with the ladies I can still appreciate a woman for the beauty that she is and even though I'm gay I love the smell of a womans hair and their boobies ;D lol theyre always fun
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and even though I'm gay I love the smell of a womans hair and their boobies
Quite possibly the best line I have ever heard. You should go into comedy!
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lol
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thugbear would be cool to party with. gay guys can usually hook us up with the lay-days easier than we can. am i right thug?
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Should we have thugbear show up to the meeting of the sly? whether he wants to or not? lol that's cool
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thugbear, you're now officially drafted to attend the meeting.
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even if we have to kidnap him. mmuaahahahahaha
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Yeah...and stuff
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Have you seen Old School? When you see the black van screeching around the corner your best bet is just to lay down, but if you run it is more fun, too. ;) ;D :D
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Have you seen Old School? When you see the black van screeching around the corner your best bet is just to lay down, but if you run it is more fun, too. ;) ;D :D
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't tell anybody or we'll f***** kil you! Don't cry, I'm just kidding he'll be home for dinner.
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Lol, great line. I feel ya on the lady problems though. I ruined myself back when I was younger. I had no shame and would just go up and ask out any gal- even the ones that the poular guys dated. I got rejected and laughed at a lot, thus crushing my self esteem. It sucks, but I'm working on it. Thirty pounds dropped and with it I'm gaining back my self-esteem.
I'll have to check out that book though. I think my other problem is that I don't recognize when a gal is interested. Who knows-
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Hang in there Spaceape. Sometimes it's tough fight to find your match.
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Lol, great line. I feel ya on the lady problems though. I ruined myself back when I was younger. I had no shame and would just go up and ask out any gal- even the ones that the poular guys dated. I got rejected and laughed at a lot, thus crushing my self esteem. It sucks, but I'm working on it. Thirty pounds dropped and with it I'm gaining back my self-esteem.
I'll have to check out that book though. I think my other problem is that I don't recognize when a gal is interested. Who knows-
My advice to you is that don't worry about "the one" yet... you're still young! You still have a long time to figure out who and what you want in a relationship. Hell, I'm 39 and I still don't know yet...
Funny how things work... most times when I've gotten into relationships (and married for awhile) is that 99% of them happen when I swore off dating!
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Lol, great line. I feel ya on the lady problems though. I ruined myself back when I was younger. I had no shame and would just go up and ask out any gal- even the ones that the poular guys dated. I got rejected and laughed at a lot, thus crushing my self esteem. It sucks, but I'm working on it. Thirty pounds dropped and with it I'm gaining back my self-esteem.
I'll have to check out that book though. I think my other problem is that I don't recognize when a gal is interested. Who knows-
My advice to you is that don't worry about "the one" yet... you're still young! You still have a long time to figure out who and what you want in a relationship. Hell, I'm 39 and I still don't know yet...
Funny how things work... most times when I've gotten into relationships (and married for awhile) is that 99% of them happen when I swore off dating!
i have to agree with rob on this one. quit looking, act like you don't care. they will come.
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The guys are right - don't act desperate. According to some ex-girlfriends, women too enjoy a bit of a challenge. They want to make you want them.
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Yep...I Quadruple that!
The best girl that ever happened to me--now my wife--came along at a point when I ABSOLUTELY wanted to be unfettered in any way shape or form.
We worked together and guys at work were falling and fawning all over her--she was HOT. But I was pursuing other things at that point.
Even "hard to get" games are detectible by lay-days. But it was so REAL in my case that it was absolutely irresistable to Nancy.
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Yeah, I'm def not looking for the one or anyone really. I can't remember the last time I actually asked a girl out. The girls that act attracted to me-I'm not attracted to. It's like prison in that way,lol. It's cool though because at least I'm finally getting myself together. These past few months I've been changing and others can see it too. I'm not stressin over it anymore.
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confidence is the key brother. if you don't have it, fake it. eventually it will become real confidence. just one more step on the road to enlightenment from my vast knowledge of nothing. but confidence does work.
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the road to enlightenment from my vast knowledge of nothing.
Don't sell yourself short, buddy
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the road to enlightenment from my vast knowledge of nothing.
Don't sell yourself short, buddy
Be confident and she will have her hands all over that chrome dome
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Yeah, I'm def not looking for the one or anyone really. I can't remember the last time I actually asked a girl out. The girls that act attracted to me-I'm not attracted to. It's like prison in that way,lol. It's cool though because at least I'm finally getting myself together. These past few months I've been changing and others can see it too. I'm not stressin over it anymore.
Just remember that you always look at yourself with a bigger microscope than others use. Actually, they tend to look at you with a telescope turned backwards.
Next time you're in a situation where there's available women, stand up straight, hold your head high, put the shoulders back and wear some confidence. It doesn't hurt to watch Swingers before you go.
"There's nothing wrong with letting the girls know that you're money and that you want to party."
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Not sure if this is relevant, but I have been in my current relationship for two years, very happy and definitely the one. As a consequence I am definitely not looking. I am also the kind fo guy who would prefer a few beers with his mates in a country pub than a loud friday night on the town (i live in the english countryside what can you do?).
A few months back a went on two stag do's in very quick succession, I wasnt looking but somehow on both occasions ended up being chatted up by very hot women. My point is that I have never been that confident with the ladies, and am in the same situation of all my success having been from being asked rather than the other way around yet, when you are putting out the image of just having a good time and having no interest in finding someone then that seems to be the most attractive.
As I say, not really sure what the point of that was, but it is late here so i thought i would come on here and say a few random things!!
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A few months back a went on two stag do's in very quick succession, I wasnt looking but somehow on both occasions ended up being chatted up by very hot women. My point is that I have never been that confident with the ladies, and am in the same situation of all my success having been from being asked rather than the other way around yet, when you are putting out the image of just having a good time and having no interest in finding someone then that seems to be the most attractive.
This is very true. A couple of my fraternity bros and I have an annual guys trip. For the most part all of us are married or in a serious relationship, so we're just there to have a good time and not really looking for ladies. Though, every year there will be a crew of women that approach us. One year we were in Palm Springs hanging out at the pool and the next thing we know we were surrounded by women.
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Yeah, I'm def not looking for the one or anyone really. I can't remember the last time I actually asked a girl out. The girls that act attracted to me-I'm not attracted to. It's like prison in that way,lol. It's cool though because at least I'm finally getting myself together. These past few months I've been changing and others can see it too. I'm not stressin over it anymore.
That's the way it should be. Lay-days smell a dude who is stressin about them and it smells like funky corn chips and rotten eggs to them.
Act like you got your shnizittle in check and that your a confident sly bald guy, and you smell like steak and lobster when you pass buy.
Then, if you can dance............you smell like diamonds!
I bet you didn't think diamonds smell, but they do!
Noner
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Yeah they smell like $ $ $ $ $ $ $
8)
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Lay-days smell a dude who is stressin
about them and it smells like funky corn chips and rotten eggs to them.
No doubt about it.
Same principle in sales, right?.......If a customer "smells" that you really need the sale it turns them off. If they get the impression you would just as soon show them the door, you're the one they want to work with. 8)
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Lay-days smell a dude who is stressin
about them and it smells like funky corn chips and rotten eggs to them.
No doubt about it.
Same principle in sales, right?.......If a customer "smells" that you really need the sale it turns them off. If they get the impression you would just as soon show them the door, you're the one they want to work with. 8)
Yeah, you're right on with that one Rob