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Dman:
The Four Agreements is a terrific map for living one's life:

1) Be impeccable with your word
2) Don't take anything personally
3) Don't make assumptions
4) Always do your best

I am always surprised by the fundamental truths that lend us the greatest opportunities for freedom - so simple to read, and yet so complex to put into daily practice.

Well wishes on the path,

Dman

slickiedoo:
Thanks, that is some very useful information.

baldmancometh:
I'll tell you a great tool for confidence. Affirmations. It may sound ridiculous but they work. When I was starting out as the vocalist in my band I wasn't really shy in social situations but being on a stage in front of people can really make your confidence bottom out. I felt great in the practice room but anytime we played somewhere I'd get nervous as hell. So after reading some stuff on how people overcome alcoholism due to a friend who was spiraling out of control I found that daily/nightly affirmations can affect your mind in serious ways.

I find that recording them into my mp3 player helps a lot. Also to make them as if some one else is telling you instead of you telling yourself, just think of how it feels to get a compliment from someone. Use "You" instead of "I" ,and always make them positive(of course). As in "You have an incredible scream that allows people feel the energy and emotion of your lyrics." or "When you're on stage people can't keep they're eyes off of you because you are so entertaining."

Like I said may sound crazy but it works and you don't even really have to pay attention to it just put it on repeat put on your head phones and go about your day. Try it for a couple of weeks and you'll see results without even trying... what can you loose.


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Also if you're one of those guys that are always internalizing that you can't do something or that you aren't good enough, then stop. Those are negative affirmations and if you say them enough you'll believe that crap. Catch yourself and correct them put them in a positive light. Like " I may be shy now, but I'm improving my confidence all the time."

Pshrynk:
Here is a great pamphlet on the same topic based on some solid principles.   


http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publications/allpubs/SMA-3715/introduction.asp

Tyler:

--- Quote from: Pshrynk on July 30, 2009, 08:19:48 AM ---Here is a great pamphlet on the same topic based on some solid principles.   


http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publications/allpubs/SMA-3715/introduction.asp

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Thanks for sharing!

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