Quit looking for love and look for a quick fix if you know what I mean. It can be very therapeutic!
Babb, you sound just like me about 2 years ago. I was in the exact same boat. (S.S. Despair, anyone?) Trust me on this, you will realize later that this ending will be a major turning point in your life for the better. LDR's work like this: If they work, they really work, like a fairy tale. If they dont, they are a huge soul-sucking ordeal that wastes a lot of time and resources.If you want to truly get over this ordeal and get on with your life (as she obviously has) then you need to completely sever all ties. Dont call her. Dont talk to her. If she comes back, (IMHO) dont take her back. There will always be that spectre lurking in the recesses of your mind that this will happen again. (as in my case. my ex came back to me, then did the exact same thing again after she swore up and down that it wouldnt.) She made her bed, now she has to lie in it.After my breakup, I had a life-changing moment. I shaved my head, and got out there. I wasnt looking for anything but a good time (and maybe a little trouble along the way... ) and i ended up meeting my now-wife. (who ended up having to go back to Brazil for a year, but that was an awesome journey in its own. Like i said, LDR's will either be a fairy tale, or a night terror.)Bottom line, for right now, just chill. get to know yourself. find a place in yourself that your comfortable. Then when youre ready, go out. Let the night(s) take you where they may. Confidence and good times will come back. Promise.
I tend to be a little more analytical when it comes to girls and it has helped me guage personalities of a person and it has helped me in the dating world.