Ugh. I hate suits and tuxes. I didn't even wear a tux at my own wedding. I wore a white shirt, khaki pants, brown worn-in coat (all from J.Crew), and flip-flops.This weekend I'll be snazzed up for a reunion, so I'll try to take a pic. But it won't be "formal!"
I wear a suit and tie everyday for work.I went to a ball last month and it was a full-on penguin suit affair:
A lot of the formality issues come down to culture and personal preference. In some situations (work, weddings, etc.) there is a line between what's acceptable and not, but that line is rather blurry. I don't see a tux or a suit as a reflection of one's respect or attitude. I often regard the expectation to dress a certain way as superficial. Who says you must wear a tux at your wedding? Just because? I see no clear logical reason.In our wedding my wife had a traditional white dress (even though she was barefoot). Our dog was the ringbearer. We had pizza and quesadillas at the reception (those are two of our favorite foods). Many, many people (including those who are very traditional and conservative) told us it was the best wedding they've ever attended. We figured if our wedding was done by the book of tradition no one would remember it and it would not be a reflection of who we are. I laugh and said people will remember the canine ringbearer for the rest of their lives!Like GASlick, I don't wear a tie to church. Most of the time it's jeans. And I play in the worship band on stage.I'm just one who doesn't go along with tradition for tradition's sake.Now I'm not knocking anyone who believes in formal attire and prefers to dress that way. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I don't judge them.
Hmmm, quite a debate from a suit!But where I stand is this,,,yes, who says you should wear something particular to a wedding or event..hey if the bride and groom want casual...that is their day...their way...flipflops and shorts.... great!But for me it's respect when you dress nicely for an occasion that is supposed to be formal or dressy...period...it is not the time to be a rebel...and wear what YOU want...it disrespects THEM..they are throwing the event they want to throw..and shelling out a lot of money to do it..to me it's just respect..now I say this as a guy that wears shorts about all year long, and has made casual apparel for most of his living. I also do the shorts wearing through the northwest winters when i can deal with it..I'm casual 99% of the time !Like you said, cool to do what you want...it's a reflection on you in the end anyways..BTW....Our wedding was formal and like you, people said it was the most fun and memorable they've ever had..I guess the patron tequila shot toast and 5 hour open bar saw to that!Formal was the attire...not the function
Quote from: BALDANDRE on October 16, 2008, 11:49:28 AMHmmm, quite a debate from a suit!But where I stand is this,,,yes, who says you should wear something particular to a wedding or event..hey if the bride and groom want casual...that is their day...their way...flipflops and shorts.... great!But for me it's respect when you dress nicely for an occasion that is supposed to be formal or dressy...period...it is not the time to be a rebel...and wear what YOU want...it disrespects THEM..they are throwing the event they want to throw..and shelling out a lot of money to do it..to me it's just respect..now I say this as a guy that wears shorts about all year long, and has made casual apparel for most of his living. I also do the shorts wearing through the northwest winters when i can deal with it..I'm casual 99% of the time !Like you said, cool to do what you want...it's a reflection on you in the end anyways..BTW....Our wedding was formal and like you, people said it was the most fun and memorable they've ever had..I guess the patron tequila shot toast and 5 hour open bar saw to that!Formal was the attire...not the function BA, I definitely agree with you when someone hosts a function and there is a determined dress code, to dress appropriately.
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