LDR's... everyone has an opinion,

[Timmay]

Ever heard the phrase "Kissin Cousins"  well around here with the Amish and all...kissing cousins and brother/sister is the norm.

[KeeperOfTheBeard]

My wife and I met on the internet back in 1996 - the days of AOL dial up!  I posted to an AOL Scotland message board about finding a penpal in Scotland - male, female...didn't matter - just wanted a penpal.

My AOL name was CeltsRising and I got a reply to my post about three days later from someone named, "CelticRay".  We exchanged e-mails almost daily for about a month - and one day I signed off with my real name - Matthew.  I got a response with CelticRay's real name - Anne.

Turns out that she thought I lived in Scotland - I thought she lived in Scotland - and both of us were here in the States!  (her name by the way is the name of a Van Morrison song).

We sent each other little packages, actual letters - this went on for about 2 months before we spoke on the phone.  We wound up talking on the phone for about 7 months before we decided to meet - so I flew out to meet her - stayed for 10 days - then three months later I moved across country to be with her - and that was 11 years ago.

LDR can work if you want to make it work.

[BlackJamesRackham]

That's a cool story, Matthew.

I was in an on and off relationship that mostly likely failed because of the distance. Distance definitely made it on and off, and that just messed it up. They can definitely work, but it takes a lot of effort and they hurt.

[FR8TRAIN]

My wife and I met on the internet back in 1996 - the days of AOL dial up!  I posted to an AOL Scotland message board about finding a penpal in Scotland - male, female...didn't matter - just wanted a penpal.

My AOL name was CeltsRising and I got a reply to my post about three days later from someone named, "CelticRay".  We exchanged e-mails almost daily for about a month - and one day I signed off with my real name - Matthew.  I got a response with CelticRay's real name - Anne.

Turns out that she thought I lived in Scotland - I thought she lived in Scotland - and both of us were here in the States!  (her name by the way is the name of a Van Morrison song).

We sent each other little packages, actual letters - this went on for about 2 months before we spoke on the phone.  We wound up talking on the phone for about 7 months before we decided to meet - so I flew out to meet her - stayed for 10 days - then three months later I moved across country to be with her - and that was 11 years ago.

LDR can work if you want to make it work.

Matthew my Brother, that is a Lifetime original movie plot if I ever heard of one. And believe me I've heard several. That is wonderful!!! They say that everyone has at least one good book in them just from life experience. I love it when couples, who appear to be genuinely in love, are asked "How did you two meet?" that there is truely a touching story behind it.

Thank you for sharing and showing us sceptics that an LDR can work.

[KeeperOfTheBeard]

Thanks, Fr8    I guess I should mention that I did live in Edinburgh for two years - so "technically" I did live in Scotland just before we met!  I was involved with a lass when I lived there - but that was on LDR that was never going to work.

We got married after living together for two years - and we honeymooned in Scotland for three weeks   

By the way - I had to burst my wife's bubble - she wanted to run through fields of heather - I never had the heart to tell her that heather wasn't what she imagined it to be - try running through of field of short, pokey, evergreen shrubs....not exactly a field of flowers!


I will have to agree with what many have said - the LDR can work as long as it is only a phase in the relationship - ultimately you can love someone from afar - but you can never maintain it over distance and too much time because of unmet needs - both physical and emotional.

[Mikekoz13]

LDRs work great if the person you're in the relationship is someone you don't really like............

[herronm]

I had trouble with my live in girlfriend..we didn't have enough space between us.  It really depends on the people involved.  The distance should not be an issue, but some use it as an excue.

Max

[Pshrynk]

LDR's can work without a doubt -- it takes commitment, understanding, maturity and positive attitudes on BOTH parts to do so however.   

In the last 2 years of my wife's residency in med school -- she did some stints for a few mths at a time all over Canada while I stayed in Calgary.   

That was 8 yrs ago and we've been happily married for 5yrs last month.     

[xnewyawka]

too pooped to poop 

That's where a good laxative come in handy!  Take one and all you do is sit there and it just flows out effortlessly...   

This sorta sounds like we're talking about Timmay! lol.      

[PeripheralxMvmnt]

My wife is fram Brazil, and I met her here in virginia in dec 2006, and her visa ran out in mar 2007. We talked about and debated carrying on the relationship or just ending it and remember the fun we had. we decided to carry on with a 5,000 mile/other side of the equator/+2:00hr EST relationship. The hardest part of it all wasnt the immigration, the money, or the $2000 dollar long distance bill in one month (long story...). The hardest part was not sharing. We couldnt share good moments, bad moments, ourselves, anything. The only solace we had was the telephone and computer, and it gets really aggravating to try and "love" pixels and text.

Longer story short, we made it through, and got married in may 2008. So you get what you put into it.

[slyinglide]

Man for a bunch of big ugly bald headed hard asses, you guy's  are nothin but deep down, die hard "ROMANTICS"