Sometimes I wish I'd rather lost a limb or an eye. I'd just get a cool peg-leg, gauntlet-hand, or fake eye because I think that those things are sexier than looking like a plague-ridden old man.
Quote from: Jodah777 on July 07, 2008, 03:56:53 AM Sometimes I wish I'd rather lost a limb or an eye. I'd just get a cool peg-leg, gauntlet-hand, or fake eye because I think that those things are sexier than looking like a plague-ridden old man.You really need to get things into perspective. To prefer the loss of an eye or a limb over hair loss is insane. You may not love being bald and you may never get to the point where you do, but you do have to learn to deal with it. There's no other alternative. There's no point in making yourself miserable over something you have no control over. Focus on more positive things and move on.
Your hair is not who YOU are. Being bald is not who YOU are. The outside person that you see in the mirror is just the "carrying case" of the person inside and it sounds to me like that is the individual you need to work on. Things happen to us physically my friend. We lose hair, get older, etc. I am having to make a career change in part due to some physically issues at the age of 44. However one thing I have learned is if you are seeking happiness from external sources..you will never find it. It comes from within. Every morning find one thing, just one thing, to praise yourself about and focus on that. Not on negative self perceptions.
From one gay guy to another: you need to sit back for a minute and take stock of what's important and what's not. Trading a limb for hair? Without a limb, you are physically disabled. Without hair, you are.... what? It's all just appearance. So what.If you're having no problem finding guys who find you attractive, what's the problem?If it's just the hassle of having to shave your head, that's small potatoes. Diabetics have to inject themselves daily with insulin. I'll take head-shaving any day.Today's society places too much emphasis on appearance (mostly to try and sell you crap -- think of how much of the advertising that you are exposed to daily fits the pattern of: "buy our product, get laid!"). Don't fall into the trap.If your appearance isn't holding you back from making a living or finding a mate, it's no big deal. Heck, I've gone through 50 years with this big-assed red birthmark covering the entire right side of my face. So freaking what! I've had good jobs and have a loving partner. Everything else is small sh*t.You said that you prefer guys with hair -- no problem. That's what you should look for in a partner. What does it matter that you don't look like what you want your partner to look like? You're not trying to date yourself!You are a good looking guy. Drag yourself out of the well of self-pity you've dug for yourself and look at yourself objectively in the mirror. You don't need to cringe at what you see.
Quote from: RazorX on July 07, 2008, 04:54:42 AMQuote from: Jodah777 on July 07, 2008, 03:56:53 AM Sometimes I wish I'd rather lost a limb or an eye. I'd just get a cool peg-leg, gauntlet-hand, or fake eye because I think that those things are sexier than looking like a plague-ridden old man.You really need to get things into perspective. To prefer the loss of an eye or a limb over hair loss is insane. You may not love being bald and you may never get to the point where you do, but you do have to learn to deal with it. There's no other alternative. There's no point in making yourself miserable over something you have no control over. Focus on more positive things and move on.Man Razor gets it exactly right!!! Dude... it's just hair......and these days SLy is definetly not only acceptable but fashoinable.
One other thing.... People I meet in person don't know I'm gay until I let them know because that's not the first thing people need to know about me. I don't wanna be grouped or defined by one thing. I know who I am, confidence is not an issue, I know that everyone I've met thinks that I look awesome bald. I can't explain why I feel the way I do at times. I do know that I hate having to explain why I shave my head to people. I can do it, but I hate jumping the hurdle. Sometimes I get stupid comments thrown at me (in pseudo-cruel jest) to where I have to either ignore it or make a defensive come-back. If only I could kill that festering little gremlin in my soul that brings me down and bars my way. Hair is a small part, but it's still a part. It is innate. Some men are women on the inside. Some white people are black on the inside. Most paraplegics are walkers on the inside. My inner self has hair. Damn that little gremlin!