My wife is ok with the sly look - but she absolutely hates the beard - not sure what else I can do to make myself look even less attractive to her. This is by no means a sexist remark - but I find there are FAR more women than men who are hung up on appearances - I get negative comments about my head/beard several times a week from women I know.
My wife liked the way it looked immediately, but it was almost two weeks before she would touch it. Now she likes to rub it after my shower (and I like her to rub it)
If the wife is hot looking go with her wishes, if ordinary shave it, nothing to loose