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I asked this question in the Women's Corner but...

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zzaapp:
Welcome.

With all that is going on in his life right now, and so much of it negative, he probably views the loss of hair as just another thing that has "gone wrong". 

At this point, he is probably not likely to look for "the bright side" of it just as he is not likely to look for the bright side of divorce because he is lumping it all together, and probably feels like his whole life is all falling apart.

When you say he was "forced" to shave his head, it sounds like you are conveying the feelings and his mood.  For him, it was not a positive thing. 

Your best course of action at this point is to be there for him.  I hope that you can help him through his trying time.  At this point in time, the knowledge that a lot of women like bald guys is probably going to ring hollow in his ears.  He has bigger problems to worry about.

Some of us have gone sly in response to physical conditions, so we can relate to a degree, so feel free to suggest he talk to us.  That is the reason Tyler started this board, so we can all talk it over.  This is a very supportive group.

 

Jdogs Better Half:
I guess the best thing you can do for him is just to be there for him in the moment, he has a lot going on and has his on processes he needs to work through, these guys here are super supportive but it is probably something he needs to feel his way through, in his own time.

It's hard watching someone you love hurting isn't it, you seem like a very caring sister!

no1birdman:
Hi, I bet a lot of the guys on here have experienced the same thing.I have, and the best advice i can offer is try not to leave him on his own, tell him to let it go, if someone does not want to be with u, it does not necessary make them a bad person but there journey on the road of life has tacken a different road.I know it is hard to accept but u have to let it go.Tell him if it has tits or wheels  u will certanly have trouble with it sooner or laterLOL. Try to get him to go to the gym, lose a bit of weight get a tan, a earing or 2 his confidence will in time come back, dont rush into a ouick relationship there are thousands out there for him to experience, Hope he goes on ok

Marz:
I really wish there was something that could be said or done to help those that are dealing with balding. Calling attention to it or blatant sympathy seems to only make things worse.

The bottom line is, until they come to the realization that it is just as much a part of who you are as having brown eyes or flat feet... you cant change it. You can hide it, you can lie about it, you can fool others into thinking that you have a mane of hair with surgery and rugs, but all in all, you are who you are and you are, the one person you cant hide from or lie to.

Other than the love and support you would give normally, the only thing that can help in a situation like this is to allow them to come to terms with it. For some it is easy, some it takes half a lifetime but showing them unconditional love and support is the key and it seems like you are doing a great job at that.

Everyone has low points... some allow these low points to define who we are... others use them as a low tide marker to reference where we have been.

The sin is not to fall, the sin is to not get back up.

dagenhamjim:
Hi so sorry to hear about your Brother, good thing about it is he is not the first and defo wont be the last. A lot of us on this sight shave because we went through the same thing as your Brother and some just shave cos they love the look.
One thing about this sight, is we are all Brothers, hope you will keep us posted about your Brother and hope the divorce etc is not to painful for him (i,ve been through two, owwc lol)

Jim

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