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[ar3inc]

Hang in there Spaceape.  Sometimes it's tough fight to find your match.

[BaldRob]

Lol, great line. I feel ya on the lady problems though. I ruined myself back when I was younger. I had no shame and would just go up and ask out any gal- even the ones that the poular guys dated. I got rejected and laughed at a lot, thus crushing my self esteem. It sucks, but I'm working on it. Thirty pounds dropped and with it I'm gaining back my self-esteem.

I'll have to check out that book though. I think my other problem is that I don't recognize when a gal is interested. Who knows-

My advice to you is that don't worry about "the one" yet... you're still young!  You still have a long time to figure out who and what you want in a relationship.  Hell, I'm 39 and I still don't know yet...

Funny how things work... most times when I've gotten into relationships (and married for awhile) is that 99% of them happen when I swore off dating! 

[PBurke]

Lol, great line. I feel ya on the lady problems though. I ruined myself back when I was younger. I had no shame and would just go up and ask out any gal- even the ones that the poular guys dated. I got rejected and laughed at a lot, thus crushing my self esteem. It sucks, but I'm working on it. Thirty pounds dropped and with it I'm gaining back my self-esteem.

I'll have to check out that book though. I think my other problem is that I don't recognize when a gal is interested. Who knows-

My advice to you is that don't worry about "the one" yet... you're still young!  You still have a long time to figure out who and what you want in a relationship.  Hell, I'm 39 and I still don't know yet...

Funny how things work... most times when I've gotten into relationships (and married for awhile) is that 99% of them happen when I swore off dating! 

i have to agree with rob on this one. quit looking, act like you don't care. they will come.

[wpruitt]

The guys are right - don't act desperate.  According to some ex-girlfriends, women too enjoy a bit of a challenge.  They want to make you want them.

[Robmeister]

Yep...I Quadruple that!

The best girl that ever happened to me--now my wife--came along at a point when I ABSOLUTELY wanted to be unfettered in any way shape or form.

We worked together and guys at work were falling and fawning all over her--she was HOT.   But I was pursuing other things at that point.

Even "hard to get" games are detectible by lay-days.  But it was so REAL in my case that it was absolutely irresistable to Nancy.

[spaceape48]

Yeah, I'm def not looking for the one or anyone really. I can't remember the last time I actually asked a girl out. The girls that act attracted to me-I'm not attracted to. It's like prison in that way,lol. It's cool though because at least I'm finally getting myself together. These past few months I've been changing and others can see it too. I'm not stressin over it anymore.

[PBurke]

confidence is the key brother. if you don't have it, fake it. eventually it will become real confidence. just one more step on the road to enlightenment from my vast knowledge of nothing. but confidence does work.

[Robmeister]

the road to enlightenment from my vast knowledge of nothing.

Don't sell yourself short, buddy

[wpruitt]

the road to enlightenment from my vast knowledge of nothing.

Don't sell yourself short, buddy

Be confident and she will have her hands all over that chrome dome

[Tyler]

Yeah, I'm def not looking for the one or anyone really. I can't remember the last time I actually asked a girl out. The girls that act attracted to me-I'm not attracted to. It's like prison in that way,lol. It's cool though because at least I'm finally getting myself together. These past few months I've been changing and others can see it too. I'm not stressin over it anymore.

Just remember that you always look at yourself with a bigger microscope than others use.  Actually, they tend to look at you with a telescope turned backwards.

Next time you're in a situation where there's available women, stand up straight, hold your head high, put the shoulders back and wear some confidence.  It doesn't hurt to watch Swingers before you go.

"There's nothing wrong with letting the girls know that you're money and that you want to party."

[Argyle]

Not sure if this is relevant, but I have been in my current relationship for two years, very happy and definitely the one.  As a consequence I am definitely not looking.  I am also the kind fo guy who would prefer a few beers with his mates in a country pub than a loud friday night on the town (i live in the english countryside what can you do?). 

A few months back a went on two stag do's in very quick succession, I wasnt looking but somehow on both occasions ended up being chatted up by very hot women.  My point is that I have never been that confident with the ladies, and am in the same situation of all my success having been from being asked rather than the other way around yet, when you are putting out the image of just having a good time and having no interest in finding someone then that seems to be the most attractive. 

As I say, not really sure what the point of that was, but it is late here so i thought i would come on here and say a few random things!!

[Tyler]

A few months back a went on two stag do's in very quick succession, I wasnt looking but somehow on both occasions ended up being chatted up by very hot women.  My point is that I have never been that confident with the ladies, and am in the same situation of all my success having been from being asked rather than the other way around yet, when you are putting out the image of just having a good time and having no interest in finding someone then that seems to be the most attractive. 

This is very true.  A couple of my fraternity bros and I have an annual guys trip.  For the most part all of us are married or in a serious relationship, so we're just there to have a good time and not really looking for ladies.  Though, every year there will be a crew of women that approach us.  One year we were in Palm Springs hanging out at the pool and the next thing we know we were surrounded by women.

[Noner]

Yeah, I'm def not looking for the one or anyone really. I can't remember the last time I actually asked a girl out. The girls that act attracted to me-I'm not attracted to. It's like prison in that way,lol. It's cool though because at least I'm finally getting myself together. These past few months I've been changing and others can see it too. I'm not stressin over it anymore.

That's the way it should be. Lay-days smell a dude who is stressin about them and it smells like funky corn chips and rotten eggs to them.

Act like you got your shnizittle in check and that your a confident sly bald guy,  and you smell like steak and lobster when you pass buy.

Then, if you can dance............you smell like diamonds!

I bet you didn't think diamonds smell, but they do!

Noner

[PigPen]

Yeah they smell like $ $ $ $ $ $ $

 

[Robmeister]

Lay-days smell a dude who is stressin

about them and it smells like funky corn chips and rotten eggs to them.

No doubt about it.

Same principle in sales, right?.......If a customer "smells" that you really need the sale it turns them off.  If they get the impression you would just as soon show them the door, you're the one they want to work with.