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Confidence and how to get/have it

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David:
That story is really cool, Tyler.

My turning point confidence wise was junior year of high school.   I had spent two years as the varsity student assistant and when I walked into school first day junior year, I had the swagger I still have today.   It was as if I knew it my time and I was ready to be a leader(definitely a vocal/emotional one).    A large part of it was since I was the student assistant on the baseball team, I had connections to athletes which made it easy to have confidence.

Senior year, everything exploded.     We had our welcome back dance, and this was around the time the "dirty bird" dance(falcons end zone celebration) had taken off, and Nelly's "Country Grammar" was a popular song.    Anyways I went to the dance and danced like I never had before, and my fellow students loved the dirty bird especially.    Suddenly at practice, or at lunch, my friends asked me to do the dance.    Sometimes I was thinking it was odd and wouldn't do it, but usually after a little prodding I did.   So a few weeks pass, and I continue to oblige requests.   Well it's time to pick homecoming king/queen nominees.    The announcement is made at the homecoming pep rally.  At the pep rally, they alphabetically announce the nominees.    They go down the alphabet to V, and I hear my name called.   Oh my what a rush!    I did the "dance" of course, and I got the loudest reaction of any nominee.

Then at the homecoming dance, they announce the winner.    And despite feeling good about my chances, my stomach was all butterflies.   It was ME! of all people, me.     To this day, all my friends call me V-train, or train, not David.   I got stopped in the hall even after graduating with someone saying Hey V-Train remember me?

It was one of the best memories of my life.   The only thing that is like 1b is my sophomore year we met up with the number 1 team in the area, state and nation, the Bellaire cardinals.   We got to play in the astrodome for our 3 game series.   Bellaire had been beat ONCE all season.     Game 1 was on a friday, they smoked us.   Game two was lunchtime saturday.     On the bus ride up there, I randomly started singing a pump up song I was listening to, and guys asked me to keep doing it.    We won game two and mobbed our pitcher on the mound.    I even was on the news(we all were).   Game 3 was after a short break and Bellaire won, but what made that win so sweet was there was a kid on the bus days up until the series who kept trashing the team saying we had no chance to win.    I had a newspaper with bellaire's national ranking in it, and after he started running his mouth, I threw it out the window.   Vindication is sweet, I tell you.

Shaving my head also gave me confidence i'll admit.     I had never had such a physical reaction to a haircut in my life.    I will never forget that 1st time when I had my hair salon shave off the odd remains of my hair.    As hair was coming off and falling to the floor, I was getting a real chemical(and physical) positive reaction in my body.   It was a sensation I had never experienced and that made me think this was meant to be.   Then I saw how good it looked at home, and I knew it was.    Since then, I don't worry about others thoughts, and I love telling the story.

Another plus.   This past week while at a japanese restaurant(I like sushi) I ordered sake for the first time.    I was not asked for ID.    That was the first time that has ever happened, and I know why.

Tyler:
Yeah, it's amazing how what can seem like little events in one's life can be so life altering.

Robmeister:

--- Quote from: David on December 07, 2006, 02:28:47 PM ---The lesson in all of this is to be self motivated, and to believe in yourself.   If you do those things, nobody but you and the Lord can stop you.    Confidence comes from knowing who you are and not letting anything get you down.   If you don't believe in yourself, others won't either, and you won't be successful.   If you do however, the sky is the limit.
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This is a great synopsis, David.  Your whole story is great...and well-written.  That Journalism major served you well.  But that synopsis paragraph ROCKS for anyone to benefit.

Tyler, nice...I like where you said you faked confidence.  That is actually a principle touted by the top positive thinking gurus.  When you're facing an amazing challenge...maybe in a new endeavor or area with a great learning curve to be surmounted, they say even though you're scared and intimidated...maybe even shrinking from the daunting task ahead....be confident by choice, not feeling.....be enthusiastic by choice, not feeling.  "Fake it 'till you MAKE IT"

Let me share a great website.  It's a top success coaching company.  They have all kinds of success and motivation products ranging from individual CD's to full on success seminar workshops.  But what I've utilized consistently for over a year now is...you can sign up for a free daily motivator by email that is way more that your typical little quote of the day.   Anyway, to find out more go to   www.ThinkTQ.com   and brouse around.  It really is a top notch company.  And I've plugged into a lot of success/motivation programs.

Lex Luethor:
One word: hookers

After a few dozen women tell you you're insanely hot and ask you to stay beyond your hour, you start to feel like maybe you are.

chadoweasel:

--- Quote from: Lex Luethor on December 13, 2006, 08:00:44 PM ---One word: hookers

After a few dozen women tell you you're insanely hot and ask you to stay beyond your hour, you start to feel like maybe you are.

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I have a migraine and I still laughed at that.

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