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"If I knew then what I know now ..."
GASlick:
No regret; however, I would not have gotten married at 21 if I had to do it again. I absolutely without a doubt would have married my wife....I would have just put it off until 25 or so. She is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. :@` I just wonder if I missed some things by not being a bachelor for a few years.
RodgerDodger:
--- Quote from: GASlick on January 07, 2008, 10:00:21 AM ---No regret; however, I would not have gotten married at 21 I just wonder if I missed some things by not being a bachelor for a few years.
--- End quote ---
Getting married that young kept you out of trouble and making many regrettable choices.
I'd say you're a lucky man, GASlick. O0
Rodger, over and out!
Robmeister:
I stumbled across a regret that I do have.
Life's ups, downs, mistakes, failures and victories ALL...repeat, ALL come together--as Paulie says--to make us who we are. So changing anything would alter the course of where we've come.
HOWEVER, there is one regret I have that I believe I could have done without.
Ok, I've been free of all illegal substance use/abuse since, like, '89 - '90....
Go to a Rush concert in 2004 at Red Rocks Amphitheatre...
Havin' a great time....some beers with my buddys, etc...
Next thing I know, here comes a joint being passed down the row...took a big ol' hit off the damn thing.
On top of many beers it sent me into a tail spin and ruined my buzz.....seemed like it doubled or TRIPLED the liquor I consumed.
That I can get over....but I had to tell the Polygraph examiner during my Sheriff testing. Put a HUGE strike against me in the eligibility ranking.
If I could do that over again....I would _NOT_ have toked on that bad boy.
schro:
Regrets? One is probably taken my initial career steps out of college a bit more seriously (thought I was bullet proof). However, I am quite happy with the road my life has taken. Married to an incredible lady (The Lovely Mrs. Schro), have two great kids, and my personal life (home, friends, family, future) are all pretty positive. To make changes in my past would have definitely made these quite different.
Still, I am curious about the "what if's". One thing that I always wondered was military service. In college, I was the top student in our accounting department. The Dean of Accounting (one of the sharpest men I've ever met) suggested I consider the military after college (probably for discipline & focus). I quickly dismissed it.
As I've matured and gotten to know many ex-servicemen, I have the utmost respect for their demeanor & the way they approach life. One of them is my oldest brother-in-law. He is a great guy in all aspects. Then again, I likely would not have met him had I taken the Dean's advice.
clipped:
I am going to revive this thread, because of the good comments here and because it's something I've been thinking about a lot lately. Like others who posted here, it's the "what ifs", the roads not taken that get me thinking sometimes. For me, mostly, it's the career courses not chosen and the reasons I didn't pursue them that bother me. Mostly, I didn't choose these other paths because I was either afraid of failure, or was actively discouraged by guidance counselors and my family that I was reaching too far. The latter of these (school & family discouragement) actually fed the former (fear of failure), which negatively influenced some aspects my life. However, as others have said, I lucked out with a great career that I do love, a great wife and 4 great children. Even though one of our children died as a preteen from a congenital illness (probably the greatest challenge of my life), I wouldn't trade any of it. It's all made me who I am.
Having said that, the "learned" fear of failure from early discouragement did affect me and show up in somewhat inconsequential aspects of my life like being fearful of buzzing or shaving for too long (until I finally embraced shaving - what was I afraid of?); fear of people's reaction if I let my beard grow; and more important aspects of life like truly expressing my feelings. So, that's what I need to work on now. The key is to pursue what you really want and make good choices. I have realized that while I may have regrets for roads not take, I need to remember that had I taken other roads, there is no guarantee that my life would be "better" than what I have now (which is great) and may very well have been "worse"; more challenging or even more disappointing than what my life's experience has been.
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