So, being as how I guess that old age is a time for reflection I've been wondering about some of the choices I've made in life starting when I was fairly young and right up to the present date. A certain percentage of my life experience is derived from my history of relationships and I wonder sometimes what the ramifications would have been had I had a closer relationship with my dad and, following that, what kind of advice he would have given me based on his experiences in relationships.
That relationship, mine with my dad, laid a lot of the groundwork for my future because I had to learn from my mistakes. That's not entirely a bad thing but an argument can be made for the theory that it isn't necessarily a good thing, either. So finding my way through the dating/relationship/marriage/divorce/widower minefield has not been efficient or painless but it has left me with a few pieces of advice that, were there a way to do it outside The Twilight Zone, I would certainly impart upon a younger me in the hopes of limiting the number of glaring errors and the resulting pain that goes along with them.
But, since that hasn't been figured out yet I'm thinking that us bald guys can probably come up with a few pieces of useful advice that was either handed down from an elder or learned via the pain of experience. I have one that I've done a whole lot of thinking about and it strikes me that it might have some validity for younger guys who are starting to gain experience in the realm of relationships.
Here's my first one:
MAKE SURE THAT YOU HAVE LIVED YOUR DREAMS BEFORE YOU HELP SOMEONE ELSE LIVE THEIRS.
There are other ways to say this like "don't set yourself on fire to warm somebody else", I think it's a way of saying that a certain amount of selfishness is essential for individual survival.
The caps are not intended as "yelling", just to differentiate the advice from the rest of it.
