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Looking into cranio for bad headshape

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chgobuzzbald:
Here in the US it is possible to use cosmetic  fillers in one's face to even out areas that are sagging etc. So perhaps a cosmetic surgeon or dermatologist in your country may use these fillers also on your head. They are just injected under the skin to fill it out. One here is called Spectra, another Juvederm. They last up to 3 years before needing replacement. No need for surgery and more scarring. 

Blagadan:

--- Quote from: vinnievandall on December 23, 2018, 02:13:36 PM ---I know we all have different kind of shapes but an asymetrical bald shape is somewhat different then a small or big head. 😔 I feel like a monster

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Bro, seriously it looks fine. No ones head is perfectly symmetrical. My eyes are on different levels and my nose was broken so is at an angle. I could let it affect how I feel about myself but why worry about something I can't change? And why should I?
You are who you are bro, accept it and you'll feel better. Good luck.

Razor X:

--- Quote from: vinnievandall on December 23, 2018, 06:43:33 AM ---Hi,
I'm now a meber for somwhat a month and took the 30 days challenge.
Sadly i'm still sad about my headshape and it really sucks all the fun away out of my life.
I have a oval shaped face with a slight ridge on top the ridge is more on the left side and ly head is rounder at the right side then the left wich makes it look bad. I already got some comments on it so its really noticeable. Is there anyone who knows some good craniospecialists arround belgium? Because being only 1m70 26 years old and being bald with a bad headshape is really the most fuckd up thing ever :/
Kind regards

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Doesn’t look bad to me.

Rusty Shackleford:
I think you're being too hard on yourself.  First off, you mentioned being small, skinny, and young.  At 1.7 meters (5' 7") you are on the shorter side, but it's not that short.  I suggest you hit the gym and build some muscular bulk.  Not only will this solve the skinny problem but the extra built will appear in the face.  I lost a lot of weight in 2004 and it really showed up in my face: it made it skinnier, my jawline became very apparent, and my cheeks hollowed out.  Just the simple process of adding weight (i.e. fat lol) improves the look of my face because my bony jaw and cheek bone disappear.  I'm at my heaviest now and I almost have cheeks for the first time in my life.  Also, avoid clothing that exacerbates the problem like skinny jeans.  Skinny jeans just make a guy look skinny and dainty which is the opposite of what you want.


I also think a short beard would do wonders.  From the stubble length you show in the pic it looks like you have a dense and flawless beard.  Just allowing it to grow a modest 2"-3" in length will change up the proportions of your face drastically.

Next, your face was not built with a 3D printer.  You will have differences between the sides of your face and to be honest I have a hard time seeing what you see.  You have seen your face every day for 26 years so it's normal that you would see imperfections we cannot.   The only thing I can see in the pic is that your nose might lean towards the right side of your face a bit.  Aside from that you have symmetrical eyes and ears that rest flat against the head and both of those are ideal.  You are either seeing things we cannot see because you know your face better than anyone, or the photo/shading is hiding the imperfections.

I do see a scar near the center of your hairline.  Guess what?  A bald head is like a brand new vehicle: it's destined for a ding.  Hair not only protects the skin from injury but it also warns you of impending injury.  If if the warning is just a few milliseconds, that helps.  Bald guys are destined to injure their heads and get a scar, but you've already done that.

There are other things I don't see that I should bring up: glasses, warts, skin tags, moles, freckles, liver spots, cysts or acne.  What kind of self-respecting monster would go out in public with skin as flawless as yours?



That being said, I know you see flaws and no matter what people here say you will always see them.  In theory it wouldn't hurt to see a doctor about them because it might not be a difficult process to fill in the problem areas that you see, but the fact that you look perfectly normal but see a monster is the most disturbing part of what you have written.  That comment reminds me of something a cosmetic surgeon once told me.  He said that sometimes people will pick an attribute about their body and blame that for their problems in life. For example, someone may hate their nose and grow to blame it for their personal and career problems.  They get the issue fixed, but the core problems remain because the problem wasn't actually the nose.  I don't know if this applies to you but it is something I wanted to mention.

This is an old post but I bet you check it from time to time.

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