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Tagus:
Hey there.

It´s my first post over here, although i´ve been lurking this forum for a few months now and only know i´ve decided to post.

This forum seems pretty different and positive compared to some hair forums.

Ok, onto the main issue.

I´ve been trying to go out with a girl that works in the same place as me, although for different companies but i feel a bit insecure of going bald. I´m thining with 24 years old but i feel she´s really interested in me but she´s out of my league and sometimes i can´t believe how the hell a lady like her gives me signals.

I spoke with her sometimes in the past but nothing major but it started the seduction game...yeasterday she finally said hi to me.

Anyways i did shaved my head about 3 months ago to a 2# which indicated i was going bald and i believe she did noticed that because i went past her a few times (we still didn´t talked with each other).

She is known for dating a well known portuguese footballer that´s why i think i might look dumb for aproaching her and my sucess with women at this moment is nill. Losing hair sucks.

Maybe she thinks i have something special no?

I want to invite her for a coffee so that we get to know each other but i don´t want to rush things like i did in past relationships.

The only thing i know is that i´m going to try and see if this works or not, balding or not.

I´m still young with 24 years old, i work-out and have an athletic body and work and study in the university at the same time. I´m not a guy to cry about baldness as i´m considering going sly but i feel it might harm my chances.

Like i said i´m a bit insecure about all this so can you give me some advice considering your sly experiences?

PigPen:
Can't help you much, I was married before I was SLY.

I would like to welcome you to the forum though!!!

PBurke:
welcome bro. usually with sly comes confidence. and any lay-day will tell you that confidence is attractive. go for it bro. there is no such thing as out of your league. worst thing she do is say no. find another lay-day. have fun and good luck.

Tyler:
FabioM, welcome to Sly Bald Guys!  Glad you decided to post after lurking for a while. 

On to the topic.  I think if you read many of the guys' posts here, you'll find that going Sly actually helped in the women department, not hurt it.  It's for the same reason that PBurke mentioned - confidence!  Give shaving a try, but do it on a day that you have a couple days to grow it back if it doesn't give you the confidence you're looking for.  Who knows, it could be that one thing that gets her to strike up a conversation with you.

Until then, do this if you're not already doing it...

Smile at her and then say something to the effect of "Hey, how you doing?"  or "Hello"

Do this the next couple of times you see her.  Most likely the response will be a smile and "hello" back.

After you do that a couple of times, just stop and say, "hey, I've never formally introduced myself. My name is (insert name here)".

This will simply open up the lines of communication to allow you to move the relationship further.

Anyone else have any suggestions?

Robmeister:
Welcome...Fabio,

Yeah....what will be attractive to her...if there's an initial attraction...is YOU DOING YER OWN THANG!!!

Ya know, shave it, mohawk it, spike it, color it.....whatever the hell YOU wanna do and strut it like you could give a sh** about what she thinks.    But at the same time be cordial and open up communication like Tyler said.

If she was somehow to pick up on any sheepishness about you changing your look because of HER, that's a strike against ya.

Hey, you may think of her a bunch....and you might have butterflies in yer stomach when ya pass her on the premises....but she can't know that.....the odds are WAY IN YER FAVOR if she perceives you as yer own man, man.

Hope that helps.

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