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When "bald by choice" turns into "bald by nature"

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skeeball:
I shaved my head a few years ago and did the 30 day rule, but grew it back... for three years, not cutting it at all. I liked the longer hair, but I also like variety and decided to shave it again in late March. I stuck with the shaving routine for about a week before letting it grow back again for about a month and a half.

What shocked me, though, is that as my hair was growing back for that month and a half, I found that my hair had thinned ridiculously in the three years since I'd last shaved my head. When I shaved my head and did the 30 day rule in 2014, everything grew back nicely and I had a full head of hair, but it seems that in the three years of having longer hair, my hair thinned out ridiculously. I knew that I had been losing a lot of hair when it was longer, but I assumed that it wasn't out of the ordinary, but that I was just noticing it because I had much longer hair. Here's a picture that I took of myself in mid-May (after a month of letting my hair grow back):



To be honest, if I hadn't done the 30 day rule several years ago, this would have devastated me. I spent about a month and a half looking at myself with this lack of density in my hair and was sort of in shock. Family and friends were even pointing out (fortunately, not making fun of) the fact that I was losing my hair. I even asked them if they noticed before and the answer was no. Having the longer hair did a decent job of concealing the hair loss, but without it, it's pretty obvious that I'm losing hair. So I've gone back to shaving my head since the end of May, and I've been doing it at least every other day. I've gotten to a point where it's just part of my daily routine. It's kind of a good feeling to be more stressed about losing my hair than it is about shaving my head, because when I shave my head, it makes the hair loss problem go away.

I don't know what I'll do with my hair next, but I'm definitely keeping it shaved through the summer. I feel like I've hit the point where it's got to be all or nothing with me. It probably isn't particularly popular around here but I like the look of longer hair on me, so that's a positive, but I don't think I can pull off shorter hairstyles without my balding being obvious... and that's fine too, because I know that I look fine bald. I don't fear losing hair, and it's also sort of nice to get to a point where I'm starting to feel more confident being bald. Even when I did the 30 day rule, I would often wear hats and when I woke up every morning, I would always second guess whether or not I should shave my head or just give up and let it start growing back, which I ultimately did on the 30th day. Now, it's more like "well, I'm going bald, embrace it," and I don't wear hats as often (but I definitely use sunscreen) and when I get up in the morning, shaving my head is just like brushing my teeth in the morning, something I do without thinking much about it. It's a good feeling, and even if I'm not "bald for life" yet, I'm definitely prepared for a day where that may be my only good option and to be honest, it'll sort of be a relief to not have to worry about deciding what to do.

Here's a photo from about a week ago... I definitely need more beard though.

reddog:
Yes, my friend, you're going bald, so your options are limited.

I've been BBC for 4 years now, and last winter I grew my hair out for about 6 weeks. I noticed a little receding in the front. I also dislike how I look with a buzzcut and seeing the white hair makes me feel like I look older.

So, I shave my head every morning, and I still like sporting a bald head. Most of the people I hang out with at car shows now, have never seen me with hair. Sometimes someone with ask about my shaved head, and ask how bald I was before shaving. I usually just say mother nature started it, so I finished it. I get alot of "it must be cooler in the summer" comments.

skeeball:
It really doesn't bother me that much, although I'll admit, having options is nice. I think the only sort of frustrating part is that while I can still get away with longer hair (as in, six inches or more), I know that the process of getting to long hair will involve several months of showing off my balding head. Bald is pretty awesome, but balding, not so much. I'll probably still make a go at growing long hair at least once more before it's totally impossible, because I like it but honestly it's also kind of fun to just show up out of nowhere having gone from long hair to none, but for now, I'm sticking with bald until at least September or October.

J_Scott:
As another balding dude with a shaved head, I think you look good shaved. From your pic it looks like diffuse thinning, you could probably still pull off a all over zero buzz or an zero on the sides one on top. Still looks good though.

skeeball:

--- Quote from: J_Scott on June 16, 2017, 07:27:05 PM ---As another balding dude with a shaved head, I think you look good shaved. From your pic it looks like diffuse thinning, you could probably still pull off a all over zero buzz or an zero on the sides one on top. Still looks good though.

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I don't know, I've never really liked the zero buzz, or any buzzcuts for that matter. Not sure why, but I've never liked short hair. It probably sounds crazy, but I like having either really long hair or nothing at all. I might give it a try though. I mean, it would take a week to grow it to about a 1 and if I don't like it, it'll take seconds to shave it all off. I think more than anything, I want a hairstyle that screams individuality. I dress sort of plainly because honestly dressing plain is most comfortable, I don't have (or really want, although I haven't completely ruled it out) tattoos or piercings to make me stand out. Shaved heads are different, as is long hair. The beard helps too, and barring any further accidents or such, I'm letting my beard grow for as long as it can.

Obviously I'm probably not going to get any "grow it back to manbun" cheerleaders here, in fact I bet a lot of people would mock it around here, but hey, I liked it! That's mostly what matters, because if you feel comfortable with how you look, then what other people think is irrelevant. I think people around here probably understand that pretty well, because like most people, the first reaction that I got after I shaved my head from some (not many) was "grow it back." But I liked it, so I just ignored those people. Maybe the manbun was weird, maybe it was too trendy, but it made me stand out and feel like I was doing something with my hair. But to be perfectly honest, I love shaving my head too, because it too can be trendy, it too makes me stand out, and it makes me feel like I'm doing something with my hair. I think more than anything, I'm just happy that I'm satisfied with how I look with a shaved head, because no matter what, it's a look that I can always go with.

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